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  1. francine6413 profile image60
    francine6413posted 7 years ago

    When I was only 14yrs old, my brother came into the room I was in and had sex with me. I just laid there did not move. I just wanted it to end.I am suppose to be enjoying my teenager years, not dealing with things that adults go through. Why is this keep going on? My brother! My mother's son! I wanted to tell my mother could not tell her. Would she believe me? Can I get pregnant by my brother? I am still wondering to this day after my mother has since passed on..did she know?

    1. Jewels profile image79
      Jewelsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Francine, how old was your brother?  It may not be a comfort to hear, but it is not uncommon for brothers to pressure their sisters into having sex.  For many reasons, the boys are experimenting, exploring, practicing. If he was a teenager when this happened, his hormones were likely to be running rampant.  At the same time young girls are usually naive and unsure of what to do in such situations.  Likely if you'd told your mum, she would have hit him over the ears and told him to go for a run, play sport and do something with his overactive libido..

      I am in no way making light of your situation. You haven't given much information.  How old are you now?  How long has this been going on?  Is he an adult?

      You certainly need to address this situation especially if it's continuing.  If this is in the past you could get counseling to discuss any issues you have as a result of the experience.

    2. alexandriaruthk profile image56
      alexandriaruthkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I think you cant forget it, find some way to forget it,(counselling maybe) bad experience for you, you could have gotten pregnant,(and the baby usualy have abnormalities, I hope you try to forget, and just think that your mom didnt know it, so that you may have peace of mind...

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      fun2hubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      How old are you now?

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      Writer Riderposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Ouch! It's bad enough to go through molestation, I feel for you...that must be horrible to live with.

    5. Bredavies profile image72
      Bredaviesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      ...How would she have known? that is terrible but a mother will always protect her child so she couldn't have known..

      1. tantrum profile image61
        tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I'm sorry to say that I know cases where mothers don't say anything, trying to protect the family more than the individual.

    6. sannyasinman profile image61
      sannyasinmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Please do not discuss this on a public forum. It is not helpful to you. Go and see a professional therapist with experience in these matters and start therapy. Otherwise, it is quite likely that this trauma will affect you for the rest of your life.

      1. dingdong profile image60
        dingdongposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Let's see what the OP has got to say more; Let's not overreact!

    7. progressiveWiccan profile image59
      progressiveWiccanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      how old are you? if this occurred sometime ago why are you still concerned with the pregnancy issue? Something tells me you need therapy  and soon, I fear with your concerns you may be a possible victim to another person. ALSO, HOW OLD WAS YOUR BROTHER? HAS IT OCCURRED THAT HE MAY HAVE DONE THAT BECAUSE HE HIMSELF WAS SOMEONES VICTIM. You and your brother need counseling to mend yourselves and your relationship. I  do family therapy but not this type..so I am sincere when I TELL YOU TO get help through your insurance or even your job, most have employee assistance programs and dont cost anything. SHOULD YOU, LIKE MANY NOT HAVE MENTAL HEALTH COVERAGE.
      BLESSED BE~

  2. SandyMcCollum profile image80
    SandyMcCollumposted 7 years ago

    Francine, of course she didn't know. You just have to believe that. Sounds like you could write some valuable hubs on this and it might help you work some of it out. You need a lot more that we can't provide (in the way of counseling and such) but writing about it can be very cathartic.

    And you can find friends here, too.

    *Sandy

    1. Google Gal profile image60
      Google Galposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I totally agree with Sandy, writing it out is good a good thing to do, child sexual abuse so prevelant its disgusting, you can become strong and a help for others and that will help you also , good luck and I wish you love and hapiness always smile

  3. mintinfo profile image83
    mintinfoposted 7 years ago

    It must of been very traumatic for you on many levels. It's good to see that you can open up about it now. Hope you heal in all aspects. Stay strong.

  4. Cagsil profile image60
    Cagsilposted 7 years ago

    I can relate to your issue and I'm pretty sure that your mother didn't know. Your mother isn't to be blamed, for her lack of sight. Your brother on the other hand is a deviant, to do such a thing. It's even understandable, because I know the nature of man and woman, that his sexual drive has over-ridden his own conscience, and he his going to be a menace to society, if unreported.

    You must not let this consume you, otherwise, your life won't be your own, because you'll have succumb to having no value or respect for yourself. You'll feel dirty, you'll feel violated and you would be correct, to an extent. But, you can't let it eat at you.

    If it is possible, bring it out into the open- by making it public knowledge, if the law applies, then let him serve his time. So, you can get justice and be able to move on. If the law doesn't apply anymore(depending on states laws), then I would suggest you identify with a solid purpose for which you can whole-heartedly endorse and push forward.

    Please do not dwell, because it will only damage you.

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      wow, i couldn't have said it better myself.

      1. h.a.borcich profile image60
        h.a.borcichposted 7 years ago in reply to this

           I am sorry you are in pain and distressed and my heart goes out to you. Find a professional you can trust and get this difficult experience dealt with. Heal.
           I know of many who have had bad experiences in life, healed and went on to be powerful forces helping others going through the same thing. Take care of yourself, Holly

  5. habee profile image90
    habeeposted 7 years ago

    How long ago did this happen? Have you confronted your brother about it since?

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    Mnbhndcrtnposted 7 years ago

    When I  was in first grade my sister started having sex with me. It wasn't a force thing. In her mind she was helping me. It was more of a seduction ritual. She was only 3 years older than me so I'm nott sure where she became so experienced. Years later, as adults, in my 40s, we tried to discuss it. It did not go over well. She feels so guilty she can not talk about it. Several years would pass before we could talk about anything. We are just now starting a friendship, long distance, and mostly texting. It feels good to see it has finally passed and we can get on with life. It really messed me up emotionally. And it took years for me to understand. It will take some time to heal yourself mentally but let yourself feel something, just not blame. It is a f'ed up world and it will destroy us or make us stronger. I applaud your bravery, as I've never written about my experience and how it trashed my life. Best of luck.

  7. kirstenblog profile image78
    kirstenblogposted 7 years ago

    This is a terrible and very confusing thing to have happen to anyone! My sympathies are with you hun! I agree with a lot that has been said already so will not repeat, I just wanted you to know that you are not alone, this has happened to other people too. A friend of mine had it happen with both her brother and her father! Its enough to make a person sick with sorrow. I hope you find this site a good one for writing and getting some of this out of your system.

  8. DogSiDaed profile image59
    DogSiDaedposted 7 years ago

    I feel the utmost sympathy towards you, really I do, it's a terrible predicament. But is Hubpages really the place to talk about it?

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    ralwusposted 7 years ago

    I think she has them up for sale too.

  10. tantrum profile image61
    tantrumposted 7 years ago

    Well I was a fan of this woman, until hubber Susana S, kindly sent me an e-mail telling me about it.
    I just unfanned this woman ,and send an e-mail to sonni2006, who's a fan as well.
    I want to apologize to marinealways for some rude words I said to him on that hub
    I was only defending this woman, because I'm fed up with people here, attacking indians with sexy women hubs.
    But of course, I'm not for this kind of thing.
    Anyway, maybe she's in need of money, so I'm not going to judge.

    some people have terrible lives ,and they can't do anything about it.
    So who are we to judge ?
    Of course she shouldn't have come here to HP ,to sell the girls.

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      fun2hubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Do you refer to the OP?

      1. kirstenblog profile image78
        kirstenblogposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I do not think so, reading this thread it has brought up an issue concerning another hubber and their hub. I would like to think that it is not what it appears on the surface sad

        1. tantrum profile image61
          tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          just so!
          It doesn't look good ! sad

          1. kirstenblog profile image78
            kirstenblogposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I do wonder if the Mods are going to pick up this thread and take a look, maybe contact the hubber and inquire about her reason for being here. I think taking the hub on its own I would not flag it or anything like that but taken with the content of this forum it is not a pretty picture being painted hmm

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              fun2hubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              That hub is not breaking any of HP rules, it seems. I think ignoring the hubber is the best option.

      2. tantrum profile image61
        tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Of course not !!
        I refer to radhabarwali
        Megs78 was talking about her and I replied.

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          fun2hubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Oh ok, I just figured it

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          fun2hubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          This is from her hubtivity:



          She wrote it in a comment to this hub: Penis Size Does Matter 101

    2. marinealways24 profile image60
      marinealways24posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      It's good. No grudges. Thanks.

      1. tantrum profile image61
        tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        cool

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    cosetteposted 7 years ago

    the hub itself is inappropriate for several reasons:

    these are children whose stats are out there for anyone to see and they are being sexualized.

    upon a second look, this woman could be an innocent victim in all of this. she could have an angry ex who hates her for having custody of the girls and so he is doing this to discredit her.

    1. weblog profile image58
      weblogposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I felt the same, and had posted my opinion few posts back.

    2. Sa Toya profile image86
      Sa Toyaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I agree I just posted a comment on the hub, just one track mindedly thinking, she's a sicko but I know that some people would go as far as posting something like that to make another person look bad! I am hoping it's more a revenge thing or a custody thing like you said and no a they're for sale thing or a really bad,piss poor joke

      It should be taken down nonetheless

  12. tantrum profile image61
    tantrumposted 7 years ago

    When I first read the hub, didn't find anything wrong with it.
    Maybe the measure stuff was tricky, but didn't look at it as I'm not used to feet & inches.
    Anyway, what cosette says can be true

    1. DogSiDaed profile image59
      DogSiDaedposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well even with that, only one hub in 3 months. I see you unfanned her as well (Y) There've been so many sad stories recently!

      1. dingdong profile image60
        dingdongposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        3 months, but that hub was posted just few hours ago.

  13. dingdong profile image60
    dingdongposted 7 years ago

    Topic redirected as usual...

  14. bojanglesk8 profile image59
    bojanglesk8posted 7 years ago

    this is disturbing

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    pgrundyposted 7 years ago

    OK I had to check it out. That should be taken down. All of it. I can't believe it's still up.

    1. kirstenblog profile image78
      kirstenblogposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I actually have emailed maddie, I said I hope I am over reacting but that all taken together I thought it should be looked into, so hopefully the staff are all over it now hmm

  16. weblog profile image58
    weblogposted 7 years ago

    I did a search in google...

    Radha Barwali

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      lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      great job weblog,thanks big_smile

      1. Sa Toya profile image86
        Sa Toyaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        That was quick thinking and tres smart... I agree well done and thanks!

  17. sannyasinman profile image61
    sannyasinmanposted 7 years ago

    This whole thread is completely misplaced.
    If it is true what this woman says, then she should seek help from a professional therapist, with experience in treating incest victims, and not discuss this on a public forum.
    This is not helpful to her, and despite the best of intentions from everyone here, saying "I feel for you", or voicing other words of comfort does not help her at all. Nobody who is commenting here is a therapist and therefore you are not in a position to help. Even if you are a therapist this medium is not appropriate.
    The best help we can offer is to suggest that she seeeks professional help. Period.

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      Writer Riderposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Did I say anything resembling advice? No.

    2. Sa Toya profile image86
      Sa Toyaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Dude none of us are trying to help her in an actual way, because most of us aren't equipped with psychology or psychiatry.

      I don't mean to speak for everyone here BUT just saying some things to maybe help make her feel not so shit or alone. Some people have said they went through something similar and wanted to let her know how they dealt with it.

      I even suggested she see a professional. Who are you to judge that a kind word from some strangers isn't helpful? Yes the best help is that of a professional but being empathetic does her no harm. Perhaps she chose to discuss it here, simply to feel some emotion from the world and to get pushed into seeing someone.

      Cut us some slack- no one here is trying to save the world, just letting her know we are aware of her post and took some time to reply with compassion.

      It's funny that, No offence BUT you come on here to tell us we are of no help despite our intentions but you don't even realise she hasn't been discussing it- we have! She's not replied at all and a number of people have said to her she needs to see a therapist.
      roll

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        cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        i love your avatar! (sorry to go off-topic; that just caught my eye)

        1. Sa Toya profile image86
          Sa Toyaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Cheers! I quite enjoy it myself, I don't mean to go off topic either, but I've got a thing for pin-ps

  18. tantrum profile image61
    tantrumposted 7 years ago

    Radha Barwhali


    Biography:
    36/F/Bombay beer bar LADY waiter. I have three beautiful daughters age 18,16 & 13.
    Location:
    Bombay
    Interests:
    Sex & Money
    Occupation:
    Escort Service


    So she knows what she's doing
    Sad ! sad

    source :

    http://www.exbii.com/member.php?u=126276

    1. Sa Toya profile image86
      Sa Toyaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I know I've been researching now as well, she is just not right, if it is her or whoever it's all wrong!

      http://www.globalcoordinate.com/items/1574284

      She also posted their stats here....creepy!

  19. mega1 profile image80
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    Oh hey, trying to think of something really sensational just so I can keep up with these threads, but, no.  Shall go stand in the rain until I can contribute something equally as wonderful!  What a grand new road we are on here at HP!

  20. weblog profile image58
    weblogposted 7 years ago

    Radha Barwali's hub is gone smile

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      lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Now that's something that was necessary and good to hear.  big_smile
      Thread back on topic now. Thanks weblog! big_smile

      1. weblog profile image58
        weblogposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Yeah, that's a good news! Also, the comments made by the hubber on others hubs are unapproved now (as seen in profile page hubtivity there)

  21. Lita C. Malicdem profile image66
    Lita C. Malicdemposted 7 years ago

    Incest issues bring to my mind- a broken family, abusive family members, irresponsible parents- an unhealthy family environment. Whichever you belong, I guess you need counseling by experts. The fact that you can courageously bring this up in public is one step ahead in your quest for justice. At 14 years of age, a great number of your peers had successfully parried off their attackers. God bless you.

 
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