Perhaps it is just me but I'm kind of burned out on the whole sex with a partner thing. I used to be quite active, married twice, and dated a lot before those commitments. But I honestly have no interest in sex with a partner. Too complicated. Trust is something I don't feel when it comes to most people. With sex you have to trust them not to be lying through their teeth and give you some god-awful disease. It really isn't worth it anymore. I am by far happier without all the drama of sex and wondering all the things you do when linked to a lover. If I'm horny I take care of it, and enjoy it. I'd rather talk to a lady and have some laughs than have sex. Can anyone relate to this? Trust me if I wanted sex I could get it. It was never difficult for me and I was skillful at pleasing a woman. I just don't want to do it anymore. It was fun, but too much drama for me. As long as I have my children, my camera and my keyboard I'm happy.
Well if you can't trust or have an emotional attachment to the one you are having sex with then I think you would be happier on your own. Getting burned twice in marriage would give anybody the heebeegeebees.
It's so not the same though. Sex isn't just for orgasm. It's a merging of the soul, a way to get closer (if you will), a relationship you can enjoy with only that person. When emotions are left out of sex, then it sucks. You need to find that person who gives you butterflies again. That's when sex with a partner is not only fun, it's completely gratifying.
Becca, I must say I've had my share of great sex without any emotion involved. Sure, it's more emotionally fulfilling with someone you love, but sometimes good ol' monkey lust is hard to beat! Or at least I felt that way when I was younger...
Sex by yourself isn't sex, it's relief. We've all been burned by those we have trusted, but that is always the chance you take when you allow someone to get close to you and after all, there had to be times when that closeness was well worth the chance! Nothing comes without a price, just as day follows night, there is a light in love to complement the dark side and we need to experience both. One has to know the coldness of darkness to appreciate the warmth of the sun, otherwise it's just another day not to be given another thought, it's to be expected like your next breath or another beat of your heart. which I'm sure we'd all appreciate more if we knew death was imminent. Sure take a break from love. Spend some time in self discovery. There will come a time when you will be ready to try again.
Ok, don't take this wrong, but, if you just want to do it alone, how come y'all askin US to agree that its ok? Cuz if you care what we think, then maybe you're worried you might be missin' somethin ! just curious
Thanks for the comments. I'm not scared really, just not interested in a relationship or sex. Yes, I was referring to masturbation. I thought that was obvious. Anyway, I was just curious if others felt like it isn't worth all the fuss anymore. Been there done that sort of thing.
For the record none of my ex's gave me any diseases. I was speaking of the dangers of sex in a non committal relationship. It just doesn't have enough appeal to make me chance getting anything, or the whole closeness thing. so overrated.
Sex is so much more than just intercourse. The definition of sex is two people sharing their love for each other. Is that just intercourse? When you make out, you're having sex. When you hug someone, it's considered as sex, because you're sharing care with another person. Sex isn't JUST intercourse. This is a very common confusion and misunderstanding.
I can relate to the original post. I have no desire to play trust right now. That is how it seems to me, trust is never real it is a guessing game that's all. Too many friends I know and family have been burnt. I am lucky, I got married young, definitely wrong woman but now I just think what is the point. I have probably been over-sexed as it is. Maybe one day but I think it is normal to question these things. Blah, anyway, I am so tired. Just thought I'd put my 2c in.
I've been by myself for about 2 years and,,uh,,, take care of myself every day. But that's just relief, and I'm always thinking of being with a girl.
Most people want to have sex with a partner because of the erotic thoughts of being with that other person. I want to see those curves, lick that smooth skin, feel that soft body sliding over mine,,, and much more!
So if you don't want to have sex with anyone else, it seems like you have lost your lust for a partner, that longing of touching and being touched. Just plain banging is so little of what the whole sexual experience is all about.
The only way solo sex is good for me is if you sit on your hand for 10min so when you come to do it, it doesnt feel like your own hand,it does not compare to the real deal by miles. Mind you, those sparks have to be flying when there are two of you or you may as well be sitting on your own hand.
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