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what will you do if your partner cant satisfy you in bed

  1. sweetjulie profile image77
    sweetjulieposted 7 years ago

    will your leave him

    1. DogSiDaed profile image60
      DogSiDaedposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Or her.

      Edit: And no I won't because that is shallow. If something isn't going the way you want, talk about it, and work on it. That's what you should do in a relationship.

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        sona_vivek123posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        hi

      2. curlytree2009 profile image48
        curlytree2009posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Yes. I agree on that. It is very important for the two of you to talk about the things that you didn't understand or you want to happen.

        1. toddwertz profile image61
          toddwertzposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Definitely true!

    2. tantrum profile image60
      tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      If after a lot of talking and explaining, he doesn't learn how to do it, I'd leave him.

      1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
        prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        hahahaha

        1. tantrum profile image60
          tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Of course! I hate to be bored ! big_smile

          Hi Pretty !

          1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
            prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Hi tantrum, can you give him a warning, what if before he goes out he wants to make love to you and you discovered that he improved already because that will be the last one HOORAH, will you give him another chance?? LOL

            1. tantrum profile image60
              tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              I doubt that would happen !
              Anyway all my partners have been excellent. I always try them before buying ! lol

              1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
                prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                LOL

              2. pisean282311 profile image58
                pisean282311posted 6 years ago in reply to this

                lol i am on sale wink

      2. caravalhophoto profile image60
        caravalhophotoposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        F**k me badly once, shame on you. F**k me badly twice, shame on me. wink

        I truely believe in testdriving before purchasing.

    3. double_frick profile image80
      double_frickposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      haven't yet *snickers*
      in all seriousness though, in a committed long-term relationship this is not an unusual obstacle. but it can be overcome as long as both partners are honest and willing to put in the care and effort to solve it.
      its nothing compared to something like infidelity and even that can be overcome.

    4. soni2006 profile image47
      soni2006posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      or her. Never, especially when I am in love. There are many ways to solve this problem. First of all, it depends on the mood of a person and there are many more things for which I will create a hub. Very good question sweetjulie.

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      cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      yikes

      define "satisfy".

    6. rainstreet profile image60
      rainstreetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      if your not satisfied in bed, try the couch.

      1. Craftsmith profile image59
        Craftsmithposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        i like tht rainstreet big_smile

      2. 6 String Veteran profile image88
        6 String Veteranposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        (In response to rainstreet)

        And if that's too noisy go to the BR.

    7. free4india profile image59
      free4indiaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I read "the most embarassing moment of my life was when my boyfriend introduce me to another lady as his mother because i was fat"......

      Your boyfriend is dumb

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      B.C. BOUTIQUEposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      teach them , show them, and tell them what you want and how you want it...

      expirimentation is the key ingredient!

    9. NewYorker profile image80
      NewYorkerposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Are you kidding me? Leave someone because they're not good in bed? We have sex therapists..

    10. speedbird profile image66
      speedbirdposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Discuss with him the issue and look for ways to improve your sex life. Also, don't point figures you might be the problem smile

    11. speedbird profile image66
      speedbirdposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      If you think that your partner is not satisfying you in bed then you might be the problem. Communication is key to any satisfying relationship, you need to be honest and talk it out.

  2. Stevennix2001 profile image82
    Stevennix2001posted 7 years ago

    well you could always teach him some moves if he's that inexperienced.  or if he's one of those macho type guys that's too proud, you could always suggest something in a fun way like buy a book about kama sutra and tell him that you've always wanted to try some of those moves.  if that doesn't work you can always do other erotic things to spice up your relationship like role playing your fantasies with him, swinging, voyeurism, or even eating food off each other might help.  or you could give each other erotic massages too.  there's plenty of things you can try before leaving him.  Whatever your hearts desire.  besides, it never hurts to try new things.

  3. AEvans profile image71
    AEvansposted 7 years ago

    Absolutely not especially when you love them! Talk about it , you don't walk away from it. smile

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      lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

      tell them

    2. Cagsil profile image59
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago

      Be loving, caring and understanding.

      Then, find a way to make the relationship improve, instead of complaining to others about how unsatisfying your partner is in bed.

      If you have a problem with your partner. Inform them sincerely and address the problem together.

      smile

      If you choose not to, then it's obvious that you don't love them and are extremely selfish.

      smile

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      sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago

      Rent better movies?

      1. tantrum profile image60
        tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        lol
        hi sneak ! big_smile

        1. TMMason profile image72
          TMMasonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          lolol

          That is too funny sneak.

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            sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Thanks partner!big_smile

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          sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Hey tantrum! You enjoy the holidays!smile

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      Citrus000posted 7 years ago

      If your partner can't satisfy you in bed and you choose to leave him.....Well, I think that he should consider himself better off.

    5. waynet profile image50
      waynetposted 7 years ago

      I would just have a five knuckle shuffle and go to bed...lifes too short to spend worrying about a good bed, you could just buy another one, one every couple of days if you wish. the skies the limit.

    6. Richieb799 profile image62
      Richieb799posted 7 years ago

      You should'nt leave them sex isnt everything. My ex was much better at sex, but you have to make do with what you've got.

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        Citrus000posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Learn to make better, not make do.  smile

      2. DogSiDaed profile image60
        DogSiDaedposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Better hope your current partner doesn't read this tongue

    7. Bill Manning profile image73
      Bill Manningposted 7 years ago

      Seems like if two people really love each other and are open with each other than they will figure out a way to please both. It takes time to learn what a person wants, how they want it and so on.

      But you have to not be shy and TELL him/her what you want. Not just figure your not compatible and leave, or suffer in silence. The more your intimate with someone the better it should get.

      I had a single one night stand (the afternoons don't count) and it was the worst sex I ever had, all because we did not know what the other one liked or wanted. tongue

    8. prettydarkhorse profile image63
      prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago

      guide them and tell them what satisfies you, and ask them also what will satisfy them...

      but LOVE is the greatest aphrodisiac

      1. Hmrjmr1 profile image80
        Hmrjmr1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Along with lots and lots of practice! Gotta keep going till you get it right!! Never say quit! big_smile big_smile cool

    9. tony0724 profile image60
      tony0724posted 7 years ago

      Good sex is the by product of a good relationship not vice versa. And if you are truly a team it should be talked about.

      1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
        prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Hi Tony,  Chargers won christmas day, congrats,,,

        1. tony0724 profile image60
          tony0724posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Hi there Maita ! Always nice to see ya

    10. Mighty Mom profile image91
      Mighty Momposted 7 years ago

      Hi everybody!
      So glad/relieved to find the conversation still ripping here on HP about the issues that matter to all.

      Uh-- has anyone mentioned FANTASIZING? If you put your mind into it your body will definitely follow...
      At least, that's what I've read. Ha ha. MM

    11. wsp2469 profile image60
      wsp2469posted 7 years ago

      The women I date have never had that problem!
      Then again, I encourage talk in the bedroom--ALL KINDS!

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      ralwusposted 7 years ago

      I'd only leave via the back gate to my friend Suzanne's for a bit, then return after, er a small conversation with her.

      1. habee profile image91
        habeeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Aha, Charlie! So you're cheating on me with Suzanne! Gimme back my pecan pie!

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          ralwusposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Habee, it, they are gone and were so very good too! I have not had to go to Suzanne's for more than two years now. Just sayin'. LOL I do talk to her and see her often. She too likes good Scotch.

      2. Mamelody profile image61
        Mamelodyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        what a brilliant idea.. I'm going to nip over to my friend Rob's place for er.. small conversation!

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      lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

      get another partner Ha
      lol lol lol

    14. Dale Mazurek profile image62
      Dale Mazurekposted 7 years ago

      In being with my wife for 22 or so years we have both gone through times where we just couldnt perform.

      The thing is we were patient and worked our way through it and presently are experiencing some of the best sex ever.

      Even if she couldnt perform I love her so much I would never leave her.

      She is my soul mate not my sex toy

      1. Hmrjmr1 profile image80
        Hmrjmr1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Dittos on that my Zena and I had 23 great years and we learned as we went! And some times we were each others sex toys big_smile like I said lots o Practice lol lol cool

      2. janiek13 profile image82
        janiek13posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        That is very sweet.

    15. habee profile image91
      habeeposted 7 years ago

      Yup! Practice makes perfect! And my poor hubby being married to a teacher...you know what they say about us teachers - we make ya do it till you get it right!

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      Dream a dreamposted 7 years ago

      you should really talk about it, i know its hard believe me i've been through it but when you say something it gets better.. and it makes the relationship stronger if you get through it. xx hope this comment helps xx

    17. efeguy profile image62
      efeguyposted 7 years ago

      though sex is not love,but it is a necessity in a relationship.

      teach her

    18. ahmadraza212 profile image59
      ahmadraza212posted 7 years ago

      i encourage that is first time in my life and say please come on i want second try and then prove...

    19. bluesky4real profile image60
      bluesky4realposted 7 years ago

      Its funny that both men and women can never be satisfied (to a certain percentage) in and out of bed due to issues ranging from lack of understanding, not wanting to be adventurous or try something new.

      Lets look at it from this perspective, if your man's genitalia is little and you are the type that love the big house, drive a big car and end p with a man with a small tool, then there will be problem. I think the best thing to do is to get help.

      I have an article on that but since we're not allowed to post link here, I'll find a way to put it in my Hub page.

    20. flread45 profile image81
      flread45posted 7 years ago

      Try another bed!!LOL

      1. bluesky4real profile image60
        bluesky4realposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        that's hilarious... what if you end up not satisfied on the bed, will you return to the first or try yet another one?

    21. mega1 profile image79
      mega1posted 7 years ago

      never had this problem - but if I had, I doubt if I would have left, I would have hired a sex therapist to teach us both new tricks.

    22. Pamela N Red profile image92
      Pamela N Redposted 7 years ago

      If you've been married for a long time and everything else is good you stick around.

      Having good fantasies and secret toys helps.

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      L.Marieposted 7 years ago

      I would talk to him about it or while your in bed doing WHATEVER...Just kinda say in a good way oh can you do this and show him how if he is unsure of what your talking about. I sure hope that if someone felt that way about me, i hope they'd talk to me about it and not just leave. They best way for someone to learn something is for some else to show them.

    24. yenajeon profile image81
      yenajeonposted 7 years ago

      After trying to learn or change, I would leave.

    25. Ron Montgomery profile image60
      Ron Montgomeryposted 7 years ago

      No, but I certainly wouldn't leave a gratuity.

    26. profile image0
      Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago

      Don't worry, the socialist democrats will see to it that everyone has equal satisfaction and are making love on a level playing field.

    27. profile image0
      Denno66posted 7 years ago

      Thank God! Someone genuinely looking out for me! big_smile

    28. Ron Montgomery profile image60
      Ron Montgomeryposted 7 years ago

      I've just decided to join a party.

    29. mega1 profile image79
      mega1posted 7 years ago

      I can't get nooooo satisfaction! ♫♪♫♪  I can't get no . . .

    30. skyfire profile image72
      skyfireposted 7 years ago

      First it was all about money and now it's all about bed ?

      Ok, next ?

    31. profile image0
      Denno66posted 7 years ago

      all about food?

    32. mega1 profile image79
      mega1posted 7 years ago

      singing?  ♫♪♫♪

    33. prettydarkhorse profile image63
      prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago

      tell him/her. you can guide him, try and try LOL

      1. Ron Montgomery profile image60
        Ron Montgomeryposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        That won't work.  She can't sing worth a damn and there's no amount of my guidance that will help.

        1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
          prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          lots of lollies (baskets of sweet foods) and mic on the sale now look at amazon sales, needs to be trained for six months, dial this number,,,,monicas number, lewinsky

    34. wsp2469 profile image60
      wsp2469posted 7 years ago

      Personally, if you have more than one partner it isn't an issue or if you ladies would all date ME--there would be no issue for YOU either.

      1. Anath profile image74
        Anathposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Tha's very true, if you have several partners each of them can fill in a gap according to your mood smile

    35. Anath profile image74
      Anathposted 7 years ago

      Usually I have no problem "training" my boys wink although a couple of them were reluctant to learn new tricks, needles to say that they were damped like hot potatoes never to be seen again!

    36. Mamelody profile image61
      Mamelodyposted 7 years ago

      I'd just get myself a toyboy who can sort it out smile

    37. theirishobserver. profile image61
      theirishobserver.posted 7 years ago

      open the front door and say goodbye...and take you rampant rabbit with you...the battery has been dead for years smile

    38. dyesebel10 profile image80
      dyesebel10posted 7 years ago

      use a toy.. LOL

    39. theirishobserver. profile image61
      theirishobserver.posted 7 years ago

      out I said out....

    40. profile image0
      lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

      shoot him and get a new one big_smile

    41. Greg Cremia profile image61
      Greg Cremiaposted 7 years ago

      With a good test drive this should not be a concern.

      1. caravalhophoto profile image60
        caravalhophotoposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        exactly...!  Look under the hood and kick the tires.

    42. theirishobserver. profile image61
      theirishobserver.posted 7 years ago

      out I said....out

      1. mega1 profile image79
        mega1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        what?  you mean my pussy would have to go out in the cold rain just because you're so hard to satisfy???  I never thought you could be so cruel!

    43. theirishobserver. profile image61
      theirishobserver.posted 7 years ago

      sometimes love can be cruel..you know I need much love...now your batteries are done...you must go out into the world and re-charge your batteries....yes Wet out into the Wet..very Wet.....

    44. mega1 profile image79
      mega1posted 7 years ago

      well, ok, but I did happen to bring along this battery charger, which charges the battery which runs the um, thing, which recharges me, HEY!  guess what! I wasn't the problem!  You were!  of course, I'll go out in the rain and get very wet - and glad to do it!  hehehe heh

    45. mega1 profile image79
      mega1posted 7 years ago

      one two, cha cha cha!

    46. theirishobserver. profile image61
      theirishobserver.posted 7 years ago

      And then suddenly the door swung open and Gertrude walked in - she was angry that there in his arms was Meg1....why she asked why?

    47. mega1 profile image79
      mega1posted 7 years ago

      one, two, cha cha cha   - because you're no damn good, Gertrude! go back to your farmboys and leave my Irish alone!

     
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