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Can't people meet in person anymore?

  1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
    Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago

    The percentage of people that met on the Internet and got married is about 80%.

    1. Maddie Ruud profile image82
      Maddie Ruudposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Source?

      1. Ron Montgomery profile image60
        Ron Montgomeryposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Some guy.

        1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
          Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Ron,

          Always something good to say.

      2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I saw it on TV today. Sorry I can't offer proof; don't you believe it? People have lost so many skills.

        1. mega1 profile image79
          mega1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          some of those TV people have been getting their statistics from HubPages!  no lie!  and so it comes full circle - we can start anything!  Power to the hubbers!

          1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
            Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            mega,

            I get my info from the voices I hear. Gotta go, they'r talking.

    2. aware profile image71
      awareposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      funny thing is divorce rate stayed the same.80% lol

      1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        aware,

        Not sure but I wouldn't doubt it.

    3. Haunty profile image86
      Hauntyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      In what country?

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        Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        HI HAUNTY!!!!!
        prolly US...we dont get out much.
        smile
        have a great new year!!

        1. Haunty profile image86
          Hauntyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          You too, Justine. Have a great new year!!! ♥ smile

          1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
            Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            hauty,

            It was the US.

        2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
          Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Justine,

          You have a beautiful arm, and Happy hic New Year!

    4. prettydarkhorse profile image66
      prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      just like the real world, nothing is certain, love is a gamble

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    cosetteposted 7 years ago

    yikes

    really?

    i have never met any person from the internet. why would you want to even do that? i like meeting people in real life. i'm with you on this one Harvey! wink

    1. Sa Toya profile image86
      Sa Toyaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I'm with the two of you on this one too.
      It's feels more genuine to meet in person.
      Is it really 80%
      Wow

      1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Sa,

        I'm glad to hear young people agree with this old guy.

    2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      cos,

      A real person. I have someone for you wwwyourwhatiwant.com, page 3 the third one down. Tell her Harvey sent you. Only a joke!

      1. mega1 profile image79
        mega1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        will you marry me?  I know how to spell!

        1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
          Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          mega,

          If I did we would have to move to Utah, or you would be a widow soon.

    3. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      cos,

      Great new pic! If you have a pretty face; why hide it?

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    wow, seems like more and more are hooking up, but just as many calling it quits yikes

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lyric,

      You never answered what kind of music you sing and where?

      People have lost the true skill of how to meet. Here's my best pick-up line. Hi! No B.S. involved.

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    Justine76posted 7 years ago

    I have 2 friends with online partners. One left a bad marriage of 11 years for an online-turned-real romance, The other just divorced her husband of 9 years, whom she met online.

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Justine,

      The younger the people, or those that get drawn in by writing are the most susceptible. People move because of someone on-line. It doesn't make sense to me.

      A weekend sounds about right.

    2. kmackey32 profile image81
      kmackey32posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Sounds like a great idea to me. lol Id love to do that.

      1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        k,

        What, marry a leopard? If I was younger and single I would............ I forgot.

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    kakinposted 7 years ago

    As long as they get to know each other in person, what the problem?, its like saying you won't marry someone just because you met them at the local laundromat.

    If the relationship goes online in its entirety (like marriage and dates only online), then that's something to worry about.

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Justine,

      No problem with that but some people jump.

    2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That last one was meant for kakin.

  6. Uninvited Writer profile image82
    Uninvited Writerposted 7 years ago

    I find that hard to believe.

    1. Mitch Rapp profile image60
      Mitch Rappposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Glad to see you're not drinking anymore! And I find that 80% number just a tad high.

      1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Mitch,

        I was shocked, but if it's on TV it must be true. That was a good one.

    2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      uninvited,

      A lot of things are hard to believe.

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    sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago

    My son has a pact with his English pen-pal that if neither is married by their 30th birthday they'll marry each other.

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      sneak,

      These kids today!

  8. habee profile image89
    habeeposted 7 years ago

    Does that reflect calls to 900 numbers??

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      hab,

      That's just to keep your wrist or new batteries active.

  9. habee profile image89
    habeeposted 7 years ago

    Some people just don't go out anywhere to meet people in person. Online dating provides that opportunity. I know several couples who met online and hit it off. I've also heard some horror stories.

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      hab,

      Do they usually look like their picture?

  10. mega1 profile image79
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    Harvey - I guess I should have a little more info about you first.  Do you, um, like canned cheese spread?

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      mega,

      On a ritz?

  11. mega1 profile image79
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    Harvey - if you don't wanta marry me, just say so, so I can ask somebody else.  I don't want to have too many proposals out there at the same time, I might get sued.

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      mega,

      I'm sorry, I can't marry a leopard.

  12. mega1 profile image79
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    Ok, I am herewith withdrawing my offer of marriage to you, Harvey, I don't want to be hitched to some guy who ignores me! jeez.  or geez.  whatever!

  13. wychic profile image81
    wychicposted 7 years ago

    I think that 80% does sound a bit high, but it's not as outlandish as some people seem to think. I met my current SO online just playing Myspace poker, neither of us were looking for anyone and just happened to hit it off. I feel like I got to know him a lot better from the first six months being online than I otherwise might have because the only way to spend time with each other is to talk, and physical distractions and the like don't factor in yet. This allowed us to spend hours a day just getting to know each other, and by time he moved here we already had a very close relationship. Now it's been over a year and we'll be getting married soon, so add me to those stats smile

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    logic,commonsenseposted 7 years ago

    Congratulations!
    Best wishes!

  15. wyanjen profile image89
    wyanjenposted 7 years ago

    I met somebody on-line. We turned out to be neighbors - only living 2 miles away from each other, in the same city.

    We've been friends for quite a long time now. We would never have met in person. smile

    Harvey, you seem to present yourself on-line as you would do in person. Of course there are folks who invent new personalities for themselves on-line, but there are plenty of folks (like me, and I assume you) who are just here as we are any place else.

    If you and I were to find that we have a lot in common, and we have a good time chatting on-line, why not meet up for a cup of coffee? The fact that we met on-line does not mean one of us will be a psycho. (Maybe we both will be psychos.) HA

    The internet IS people. smile
    If my city did an old fashioned hoe-down mixer for the townsfolk to mingle, I'd head over & see who is there. Maybe meet somebody. But, that old tradition has died away. 'Cuz we're all on-line now lol

    I have a happy on-line dating story and I've heard of many many others. I've heard of bad experiences too.

    It's kinda like... trying to find a date in a bar. Or at a party. Or at a grocery store.
    Two people meet. They get along well or they don't. How they met is not so much important, is it?

  16. wychic profile image81
    wychicposted 7 years ago

    Hehehe...I met someone in person from one of the sites I write on a couple of years ago, and her elderly mother came along because she was convinced that her poor 50-something daughter was meeting up with axe murderers. We offered to bring along a chainsaw to the meeting, but there was concern that the mother's heart might not hold out tongue.

    To date, I have met quite a many people in person that I met first online. These people are from all over the country, and I've met many more from all over the world that I may eventually get to meet in person. There's absolutely no way I would have met them otherwise, and trust me...living in the middle of Wyoming, I NEED the mix of ideas and culture from elsewhere. So far I've also met one person from my hometown -- even in a town of 5,000 people we'd never met before, talked online for a little bit, and then decided to meet up for a walk.

    The thing I've noticed about online interaction is that it's pretty easy to spot inconsistencies in people's stories or personalities. When you're actually forced to communicate in order to interact at all, such things can come out much faster than in person. I'm sure we've all met people in person who turned out to be lying to our faces the entire time...I know I have, I even married one of them, then spent five years together and still didn't know as much about him as I did my current SO after a short matter of months.

    Yes, my own mother freaked out when she heard about my SO -- I knew she would, but I thought it'd be more because he's older than her -- and it has taken this long for her to finally start settling down and realizing that he is here to stay, and that he's not an axe murderer. It is still an ongoing joke though...since we were both on the internet, it must mean that we are both axe murderers and just haven't found each other out yet tongue.

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      wy,

      I know there are rodeos to go to, their people too.

  17. brimancandy profile image81
    brimancandyposted 7 years ago

    Meeting people online is not just restricted to dating. Now, it is almost impossible to get a job interview these days, because a lot of companies are only accepting applications online.

    Even if you ask a person at a company to give you a paper application, they will give you their website address and tell you to go back home and fill out their online application, and they will get back to you if they are interested.

    I tell you, that was quite a shock for me after working full time for over 20 years. I think it is very impersonal, and the only reason they push it, is because it cuts back on having to hire people to go through the applications.

    What was once done by thousands of people, can now be done by just a few 100, maybe even less. I don't even think they hire on the individual anymore. It is all based on numbers and test scores. But, if you can't read, or cheat to get a good score, your chances of getting a job are better than the ones that can.

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      briman,

      Not al progressis good.

  18. donotfear profile image90
    donotfearposted 7 years ago

    The only person I ever met online & developed, (what I thought), was a real friendship disappeared without a trace. Almost like the individual died! This was right before we were supposed to meet in person. Also no activity in the person's on- line accounts. They deleted another. Guess they didn't wanna be met! Ha!!

    1. wychic profile image81
      wychicposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Or maybe they did die, that's always a possibility...I've had several online friends that have died, some that I knew for a few years...unfortunately, if they don't have friends to change their statuses or put out notices on the sites where they were active, us online people would never know. I suppose that is one definite drawback in online friendships, though one always hopes that doesn't have to be dealt with often.

    2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      DNF,

      It was probably a young girl.

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    Denno66posted 7 years ago

    We've managed to create a society of technologically-advanced hermits. Nah, just kidding; online is just another medium for communication. Hmmm, I think this was already said. Then, um, Happy New Year; dang that was already said, too, huh? Oh well, Happy Blue Moon! big_smile

  20. mega1 profile image79
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    you know what?  I don't want to meet anymore new people EXCEPT online!  I don't need anymore human contact.  Mind over matter! yooooo hoooooO!

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      mega,

      So you got out of this bad relationship recently. Please tell me more. Sorry, our time is up.

 
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