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People & Sex

  1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
    Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago

    Do you think most people marry the best sexual partner they have ever had?

    1. Mr Nice profile image68
      Mr Niceposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Experience makes a big difference but practice makes a man perfect.

      1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Nice,

        It's the same for a woman.

    2. Richieb799 profile image62
      Richieb799posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      how would you know? you may have had a good one and then lost them, anyway, that would'nt work because sex is only a small part of what makes a relationship last

      1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Richie,

        How would I know; I never said I did. I merely asked a question.

    3. IntimatEvolution profile image80
      IntimatEvolutionposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      My first husband yes, he still holds the score.

      1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        intimate,

        Is that why he's bye-bye?

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      lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      hell no, and I guess it's who's to still come after....  lol lol

      1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        lyric,

        Did you spell come correctly?

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          lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          ha lol lol lol lol

          1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
            Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            lyric,

            Ha, I told a joke. youtube achmed the dead terrorist to get the full understanding, hillarous.

    5. John Arumugam profile image55
      John Arumugamposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I believe the sex part will fizzle out after some time. So I don't think one should marry just because his/her partner are great lovers. Once the children come along, this would be the ultimate test of the marriage.

    6. shriketexas profile image59
      shriketexasposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I am a fifty-five year old man with a brain that thinks its eighteen and a member that thinks its thirteen and the bedroom is one big romper room and my wife isn't complaining, so what can I say, but it's fun and I don't think God made sex for us just to procreate, although we do have six grown children and five grandchildren, but my family is my wealth, but my fifty-five year old body sometimes has a hard time keeping up with my little grandchildren, they can make you tired just watching them.

      1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Tex,

        Go get 'em! Rope the wife when you can, please don't use it as a hitching post.

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      Life as I see Itposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I think I married the best lover I ever had. Sex is important
      in a marriage. It is the physical act of connecting beyond description.

    8. akirchner profile image94
      akirchnerposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Gosh I hope so because I sure did! What would be the point of 'settling' - but then again, I'm of the mind that you can always, always, always make things better - as long as you communicate and are both open-minded enough to listen to the other person's needs and what works for them.  Maybe it's a Polyanna type of mentality but it has worked for 35 years for me.

    9. curlytree2009 profile image39
      curlytree2009posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I don't think so. It is so shallow if they only pick one person because he or she is good in bed. You should be able to be more intelligent about that matter. Pick that someone who will love you and be your companion at all times and not only in bed. smile

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      C.J. Wrightposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I don't think so. Besides that's relative. A person could be great, but have an appetite that's incompatible to you.

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    Denno66posted 7 years ago

    You know that the moths are coming.... big_smile

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Denno,

      No-No, you remember.

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        Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I, good sir, am glad to be proven wrong. I truly expected your detractors to follow you here, and they did not. In response to your question, I believe that love does make your partner the very best, hands down. big_smile

        1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
          Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Denno,

          I never said anything about using your hands.

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            Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Ba dum Bum! lol

            1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
              Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Deanno, I'll bet you used your hand to type!

    2. Mitch Rapp profile image60
      Mitch Rappposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Moths to a flame?

      1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Mitch,

        Speaking for myself; I am no longer a flame.

  3. Ohma profile image75
    Ohmaposted 7 years ago

    I would like to think that we are deeper than that.

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Ohma,

      We are, but that isn't the question.

  4. blondepoet profile image75
    blondepoetposted 7 years ago

    It's fate!!!!

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      blonde,

      Please explain!

  5. PrettyPanther profile image84
    PrettyPantherposted 7 years ago

    Sometimes, but perhaps what happens more often is the one you love becomes the best sexual partner you've ever had.

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      sarah dawkinsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I don't think so, marriage should be for love, sex can evolve and be the best ever as you learn about each other's preferences.

      1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Sarah,

        An honest person.

        1. Pamela N Red profile image92
          Pamela N Redposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I agree with Sarah. Loving the person makes it better.

          I chose a man that would be a good husband and father and lover was further down on my list although he did turn out to be really good.

          1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
            Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Pam,

            You are well blessed.

    2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      pretty,

      Are you married?

      1. PrettyPanther profile image84
        PrettyPantherposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I am divorced and have been so for 15 years.  I am very much in love and am engaged to be married in the spring.

        Why do you ask?

        1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
          Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          pretty,

          I asked because I had a feeling you were younger and hadn't been married yet.

          Why do you ask why I asked? This could go on.

          1. PrettyPanther profile image84
            PrettyPantherposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Interesting.  I asked why you asked because I wanted to know. 

            Now, I want to know why you think I'm younger.  I'm actually a very experienced older woman.  smile

            1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
              Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              pretty,

              Don't say older to me, respect your elders. I can say that now.

              1. PrettyPanther profile image84
                PrettyPantherposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Oh, heavens, I didn't say I was older than you!

                1. SweetiePie profile image84
                  SweetiePieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  He likes attention, and that is what this is about smile.

                  1. PrettyPanther profile image84
                    PrettyPantherposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    Well, I suppose we're all on the forums to get attention in one way or another. 

                    But, I get your drift. :-)

                2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
                  Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  pretty,

                  Less and less are every day.

  6. Bill Manning profile image72
    Bill Manningposted 7 years ago

    Nope. One of my first girlfriends was a real medical nymphomaniac. She wanted it 4 times a day, every day, every way. It was the best sex I ever had!

    But I dumped her after 2 years as I had no respect for her. Not because she wanted sex all the time; other things.

    Now I want someone who I can take my time with and enjoy, teaching each other what we want. But I sure regret I was a damn jack rabbit at the age I had that girl. Rat-a-tat-tat,,,bang!! 

    lol

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Bill,

      I had one that was good for 10 times a day. I would beg her to leave the apt, but I didn't say she was the best. I didn't say she wasn't.

      1. SweetiePie profile image84
        SweetiePieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Not trying to be rude, but I really think you want attention Harvey.  No one really cares how many times a day you did it, or if it was the best.  I think there are other sites where you could share that info, like adultfriendfinder.com or something.

        1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
          Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          pretty,

          I not as an insult; then why are you here and commenting? I just do things like this for fun. Someone else mentioned numbers and I responde with truth.

          That was when I was 21-22. I honestly believed that every guy my age was like this. As I got older there wasn't time for this. When I got a little older I didn't desire to do it that often and when I got a little older I couldn't do it as often ad as long. That happens to every guy.

          If a guy in his 30's tells you; he can go so many times a night, don't believe him.

          1. PrettyPanther profile image84
            PrettyPantherposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I'm not sure what you mean by the first sentence.  In any case, I am not insulted, nor did I mean to insult you, if either of those is what you meant.  SweetiePie is the one who thought you were seeking attention.  If you want to say how often you did it, it's fine by me. Sex is fun, and it's fun to talk about it as far as I'm concerned. :-)

            1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
              Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              pretty,

              My mistake 100%. Sweetie and you were talking and I adressed the answer to you. You don't seem like you would get offended easily.

          2. Colebabie profile image61
            Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Why? Not every guy is the same. Of course being healthy is important to having good sexual health. I can understand circumstances changing when health changes. But not every guy is the same.

            1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
              Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              cole,

              You are correct, but we all slow down eventually.

              1. Colebabie profile image61
                Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Usually in response to health, not desire.

                1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
                  Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  cole,

                  I'm not disagreeing with you.

                  1. Colebabie profile image61
                    Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    I know you aren't Harvey, but apparently Sneako disagrees with me. It doesn't have anything to do with me teaching the subject (since I teach sexual health to mostly college freshmen) but rather someone saying that 100% of a population does anything. It is not the case that the sexual interest of ALL men diminishes over time Sneako. It just isn't. Case in point: Shigeo Tokuda or Dave Cummings (smile about the last name). For a couple of extreme examples.

                2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
                  Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Cole,

                  You haven't aged. I couldn't have the same energy and desire as I did at 20. All my friend's say the same thing. Age does take a toll. Why do ballplayers retire at an early age?

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              sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              I agree with you Harvey, with all due respect Cole.smile

            3. Harvey Stelman profile image60
              Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Cole,

              Every guy is the same! You must be a virgin.

          3. AdsenseStrategies profile image68
            AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            ahem

            1. tantrum profile image60
              tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              roll

              1. PrettyPanther profile image84
                PrettyPantherposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Okay, let's just set the record straight right here.  My man is 62 and he has gone 4 times in one night.  So, I'm guessing he could go more than that when he was in his 30s. 

                On this particular subject, Harvey, you are mistaken. If a guy in his 30s tells you he can go so many times a night, you could believe him, and you could wonder why he felt the need to tell you in the first place.  Most women would be thinking the latter.

                There, case closed.  tongue

                1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
                  Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  pretty,

                  As women age they say they had less lovers, men tell fish stories. I've had over 200 in one day.

              2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
                Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                tan,

                A woman not fooled.

            2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
              Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Adsense,

              Wasn't it a wonderful age?

        2. shriketexas profile image59
          shriketexasposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          to John Arumugam, I think Hervey's question is important, our sex drives, whether we admit it or not, is an important part of any relationship with our partners, it is an integral part that initially draws us together, it is even on a subconscious level that attracts us to a mate. Sex is a wonderful gift that God gave us, that is why for the majority of people it is so wonderful, it is a continual confirmation of love and commitment to each other, but like anything else you have to change it up to keep it interesting. If I worked out every day doing the same repetitions it would be very boring and one would eventually tire of it. God didn't make rules for the bedroom, so let loose, God gave us a wonderful gift between married people.

          1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
            Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Tex,

            If you want change, try Deeno. BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!

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              Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Yer killin' me, Harvey. big_smile

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    Denno66posted 7 years ago

    For the sake of keeping this thread clean, let's just say: Yes. big_smile

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Denno,

      Send my regards to Rosey Palm.

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    Denno66posted 7 years ago

    Hey, at least it's not Religion or Politics. big_smile

    1. tantrum profile image60
      tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      but it's SEX !! lol

      1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        tan,

        That's why it's on the Forums and not a Hub.

        1. tantrum profile image60
          tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          lol
          Well you can write a hub as well. I find sex topics very amusing !

          1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
            Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            tan,

            My Hubs are mostly very serious.

            1. tantrum profile image60
              tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              and you have 102 ! yikes
              I'm not going in there ! lol

              1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
                Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                tan,

                A woman never......you know.

                1. tantrum profile image60
                  tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  A woman never... what ? And I can't go with my own bed. I'm far away.Maybe you can lend me one !lol

                  1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
                    Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    tan,

                    My wife and I have always had bunk beds.

    2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Denno,

      Not this time. I'm thinking about a Hub that includes both.

  9. SweetiePie profile image84
    SweetiePieposted 7 years ago

    Yeah I am happy about that, but it just was getting a little too detailed.  Maybe I am uptight or something, but do you really want to know how many times a day and such smile

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      sweetie,

      I answered that comment; I guess you haven't seen it. I though younger people could handle that. At least I do not tell any untruths in any of my writings.

      1. SweetiePie profile image84
        SweetiePieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Seriously though, I think you have a bit of obsession about the age thing.  No one cares if you are older, and you seem to think we should care.  However, Hubpages is not exactly a site where I see long time hubbers posting these details, putting down other religions, or just plain looking for attention as you do.  I am not some little girl looking up to you for inspiration, and that is the truth.

        1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
          Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          sweetie,

          If you look to me for inspiration, I will reccommend you to a worthy source. I use my age as a frame of reference. As one ages their views change for a myriad of reasons. When I look back to what I believed in, in the late 60's.... The pics are now very funny.

          Wait and see for yourself, but enjoy in the meantime.

          1. SweetiePie profile image84
            SweetiePieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Well, I am one of those people that takes others aback in my self-confidence and self-certainty.  I know who I am and what I stand for, and I hardly see those core things changing.  As I have said there are several hubbers on here that are in their seventies and eighties, and who are much more liberal politically.  However, what you want to do with your personal life is your business.  Maybe you should start admiring some younger people for a change also, and maybe you might learn something.  Just a thought.

            1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
              Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              sweetie,

              Not likely. I was a liberal and have studied history. None of the ideas our President has are new, except the tele-prompter. All of the things he wants have been tried and failed. Don't believe me, read it on your own. Try reading Saul Alinsky, "Rules for Radicalss."

              1. SweetiePie profile image84
                SweetiePieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                I read all the time, which is what you fail to realize.  You simply want me to follow your lead, and I shall not.  As I said Ralph Deeds, who I admire very much, tends to be quite liberal.  Blue Dog is also a bit older than myself, and he is not exactly what you would call a conservative kind of guy. 

                My own grandpa voted for Obama, and he does not have the hang-ups with him that you have.  Many college professors I know that are in their seventies actually have a problem with Obama because he is too moderate for their tastes.  There are all kinds of people in the world, and they will not take your lead.  So if anything maybe you can realize not everyone is you, and your life story will not be everyone's path.

                1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
                  Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  sweetie,

                  I hate to say it, but teachers have become a terrible source. Revisionist history is what the teachers unions want taught. If you thinkI'm crazy about unions, find outhow many jobs they create andhow many plants they close. They were great in the 20's, 30's, 40's and 50's. They are the reason jobs go overseas.

                  If you have to pay your workers $80 a hour (with benefits)and it can be produced for $20 an hour someplace else; where would you do it as CEO?

                  Obama got in because he was an unknown. David Axelrod made a fool of the public. Obama never said how he would pay for anything and he read beautifully. Throw in the press and blame Bush for everything.

                  1. SweetiePie profile image84
                    SweetiePieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    Highly disagree with you there!  Actually in many cases Revisionist history sheds light on poor scholarship, especially since many historians now rely on a myriad of first source documents.  For instance, William Bligh of Bounty fame was portrayed as a tyrant by the Fletcher Christian and Peter Heywood's families because they did not want their names sullied.  Yes Bligh had a bit of a temper, but he was not the tyrant earlier books and Hollywood movies would lead you to believe. 

                    The evidence has come out later on that a big part of the issue was Bligh chose too many personal acquaintances and friends to work with him on the Bounty, and allowed his command to become lax.  When he finally wanted to clamp down he had lost control of his ship, but only later research has revealed some of this.  So you see to say Revisionist history is wrong is a fallacy because if that were so we would still go with historical accounts that promoted eugenics, and the subjugation of women.  Not everything is the way you want it to be just because you say it is so.  Many well researched and respected people are more left of center than you would like, and that is just how the cookie crumbles.

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    ralwusposted 7 years ago

    I did once, but sex ain't all one needs in marriage. that was my second mistake.

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      ral,

      And the third?

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    sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago

    It's relative.

    1. tantrum profile image60
      tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Hi sneako ! big_smile
      I'm sure you're relative ! lol

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        sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Hey Tantrum! Happy New Year!big_smile

        1. tantrum profile image60
          tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Happy New Year for you too. !
          I'm sure you're a great lover ! big_smile

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            sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Well I've tried to keep her happy. I think my secret is to give lots of hugs and back rubs!smile

            1. tantrum profile image60
              tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              it has to be more than that, I'm sure ! tongue

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                sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Oh Yeah! I forgot lots of neck kiss'in!big_smile

                1. tantrum profile image60
                  tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  I think you're forgetting a lot more ! don't want to share your love making secrets with the fellow hubbers ? lol

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                    sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    Well I used to me a machine! Now I'm more playful!smile

      2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        tan,

        I think it means brother and sister, sure!

      3. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        tan,

        I'm not your relative!

    2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      sneak,

      Never with a relative, we have laws.

  12. Will Apse profile image87
    Will Apseposted 7 years ago

    A woman who is willing to meet a man's sexual needs is always going to score high with a man. If the man is willing to do the same in return that can mean quite a bond.

    p.s. there is no need to fight. And it is a legit topic. Too many marriages fail for sexual reasons.

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Will,

      The biggest reason for divorce is money. When it comes to sex it should be 50/50, just like a relationship.

    2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Will,

      I'm married 31 years, it will only end when one of us dies. So everyone that thinks I'm here to brag;try to match me on that. I do have a past and I'm not affraid to talk about it. Some of you folks take me back to the 1950's.

  13. tantrum profile image60
    tantrumposted 7 years ago

    I think this thread is very entertaining ! big_smile

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      tan,

      I am truly glad you are having fun, that was my intention.

  14. tantrum profile image60
    tantrumposted 7 years ago

    lol lol lol

  15. Colebabie profile image61
    Colebabieposted 7 years ago

    The sex doesn't dwindle for all couples. Some yes, most maybe... but definitely not all. I shadow in a geriatric office, they don't call for refills of their cholesterol meds but definitely their Cialis.

    1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      cole,
      If healthy enough people will not stop.

    2. Colebabie profile image61
      Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      See. And you said that you disagreed with me. Even though all I said was that not ALL men experience a decrease in sexual desire or function.

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        sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        You know old men better than I do!big_smile

        1. Colebabie profile image61
          Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Or maybe just people in general? smile

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            sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            54 yrs and I missed it all, I knew I was stupid.

            1. Colebabie profile image61
              Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              I don't think you are stupid at all Sneako.

              1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
                Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Cole,

                Don't argue with the mans self analysis.

              2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
                Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Cole,

                I learned years ago not to compare myself to a book. Statistics in the book are based on a question; how is it worded, is it slanted and so much more.

                I have proven a few times that teachers had NO idea what was going on. That's one reason I didn't get good grades. They didn't like being shown up.

            2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
              Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              sneak,

              Don't be so hard (ha) on yourself. Ignorant may have been fine.

          2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
            Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Cole,

            I am the wisest mn to ever live in this body!

        2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
          Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          sneak,

          I consider you a kid.

      2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Cole,

        Is there a good ballgame on?

  16. SweetiePie profile image84
    SweetiePieposted 7 years ago

    Just a thought, but I think Cole actually knows what she is talking about because she teaches this subject.

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      sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I'm in my fifties and what Harvey said is a reality but it takes on a more appropriate frequency considering our age and responsibilities. I got married when I was nineteen to my current wife and that part of our relationship is much, much  tamer now! I don't even have the strength to think about what it was like!big_smile

      1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        sneak,

        I like an honest man.

    2. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      sweetie,

      I lived in a retirement center for 5 months. Sold my house and my condo wasn't built yet. I know what happens. As a "young" resident I received offers from women in their 80's, they knew I was married! I heard stories from many of them. I think I know.

      1. SweetiePie profile image84
        SweetiePieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Maybe in your eighties, but Cole was referring to people in their thirties.

        1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
          Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          sweetie,

          I wrote her.

          1. SweetiePie profile image84
            SweetiePieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            My friend is not on Hubpages, what do you mean?

            1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
              Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              sweetie,

              You said Cole.

              1. Colebabie profile image61
                Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                No she said she has a friend who is a PA.

                1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
                  Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Cole,

                  My mistake. I'm sooo old my eyes...I mean my eyes.

                  NITE-NITE!

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                    Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    No worries!
                    Good night smile

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      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      sweetie,

      We live it and talk with friend's.

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    ha

    http://www.mysmiley.net/imgs/smile/adult/work4sex.gif

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      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lyric,

      Always keep them laughing. As you know I was a inger I would stop in the middle of a song and tell a joke or a story.

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    habeeposted 7 years ago

    I definitely did not! And now that I'm older, I'm glad. I have definitely found that there are more important things in a relationship. If you had told me that 20 years ago, I would have called you a liar, however.

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      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      hab,

      Both sides now.

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    ralwusposted 7 years ago

    Harvey my man, you sure know how to get something rolling.

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      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      ral,

      You should have seen me on stage, years ago.

  20. Colebabie profile image61
    Colebabieposted 7 years ago

    Obviously I'm not trying to say how someone should feel about sex. Not at all. But rather your feelings are not shared by all.

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      sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      When you do your census do you base it on the majority or the exception?

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        Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        The exception. Which I stated.

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    shinujohn2008posted 7 years ago

    Good Sexual partners will be ahieved if both of them open their minds and talk and decide how they want it to spice.

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      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      shin,

      Isn't that how it's always done?

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    cindyvineposted 7 years ago

    Colebabie sometimes the brain is willing but their body lets them down

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      Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Definitely.

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      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      cindy,

      A giraffe can see it all.

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    Denno66posted 7 years ago

    So, then we're still talking about sex here?

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      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Deanno,

      Woof, and leave my leg alone!

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      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Denno,

      I didn't recognize you.

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    Denno66posted 7 years ago

    Dang! Sorry, thought I was following that damned Sheep! big_smile

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    Denno66posted 7 years ago

    Hi Harvey! I'll check in from day to day for the response. big_smile

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    John Wiggensposted 6 years ago

    Been there done that, been without sex for 25 years, married 43 years. Don't want to be bothered by intimacy and sex.

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    Greek Oneposted 6 years ago

    In my country, one can't wed oneself

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      CMHypnoposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      But you could have a great courtship with yourself?

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        SomewayOuttaHereposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        ...don't worry GO...soon you'll be able to marry yerself and live happily ever after....we'll eventually catch up to that woman in the Philippines (or where ever it was) that married herself....it's the divorcing yourself that will be kinda hard!

 
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