With all the options why that? We aren't equiped to procreate with the same sex and it's a violation of our natural order. It's a lifestyle that produces gross deviate behavior and really paints a bad picture. There's no gay gene so it has to be a learned behavior but why learn that! Look from my perspective women are tough to deal with sometimes but thats no reason to quit trying!
All of those whom one call 'Gay' and not 'Bi's never mature properly psychologically. During development as a child there is some adjustment problem or defect somewhere, apart from the possibility of the gay gene or hard-wiring of neural circuitry that makes them and keeps them oriented towards the same sex for relationships. People who are gay often come across a very strong or very weak feminine guardian as a child. The administrations of the child' female guardian is either too strict or absolutely fickle. So either the child is oppressed by his female guardian or spoiled totally by his female guardian..Either way ..due to too much censorship or none at all the feminine conception of woman does not form adequately or properly in the young psyche. The child grows up with a misinformed conception of Woman and thus never look forward to a productive relationship with women in intimate terms...Gay People often make good friends with women but lack the courage and responsibility to become lover .
We've evolved enough to be able to be accepting of so many things that are different from the old straight role models - why do you want us to regress? Is it perhaps that you identify with this provincial perspective you have and can't separate yourself from these dated and unreal opinions about others? and gay men do not stop relating to women just because they prefer men for sexual partners! Are you uninformed or have you just never been exposed to modern thought? Have you just found it so much easier not to see the real world as it is and so you don't know who gay people are and what they are like? just asking - -
"With all the options" Please, there are only two genders. That doesn't give a lot of options.
"We aren't equiped to procreate with the same sex" Do you really think we need to worry about that? The human race isn't going extinct any time soon.
"It's a lifestyle that produces gross deviate behavior and really paints a bad picture." I've found that most people who are judgmental and prejudice tend to lead lives that produce gross deviate behavior (such as physically attacking people because they don't conform to your ideals) that also paint a really bad picture.
"There's no gay gene so it has to be a learned behavior but why learn that!" I didn't know there was a straight gene either o-o Do you really mean to say that people just wake up one morning and say, "hey, I want to be gay. I don't mind people verbally and physically harassing me on a regular basis!" Totally happens like that (sarcasm). Is heterosexuality a learned behavior? Can you tell me when you decided to be heterosexual? No, you've always been that way and had no influence in it, because the idea of a relationship with someone of the same sex doesn't appeal to you. The same goes for homosexuals. They've always been that way and have no influence over their orientation. The idea of a relationship with someone of the opposite sex doesn't appeal to them.
"Look from my perspective women are tough to deal with sometimes but thats no reason to quit trying!" You seem to have forgotten that a homosexual can be attracted to women. The orientation isn't limited to males.
no gay gene....sorry but we have identified a gene in men. for those who dont understand the biological issues, think about this. Have you ever known a kid that was very feminine and you say..'wow, that kids gonna be gay' that shows the gay genetic connection. WHILE SOME CHOSE TO EXPERIMENT... thats not gay. In the womb all babies start off as female, then genetic issues occur and a y gene is introduced, another genetic example... now what is your REAL question?
I just wish you really knew what you were talking about. Gay people are born gay...Bi people make a choice. Its not a violation of anything. There has been a study done that concluded that Gayness could be attributed to stress in the first and second trimester during pregnancy. This is not a learned behaviour. You speak about "women are tough to deal with" does this work the same for Lesbians? Grow a brain!! OH!! sorry THAT is a learned behaviour.
Are you asking why are happy people happy? Perhaps you are asking why bad people are bad? perhaps you are asking why people who have sex with people of the same sex are like that? Gay has so many meanings after all. It used to mean happy then it meant queer now it means something negative . . . personally, i think the bisexual people are the smartest because they have twice as much of a chance of getting laid when they go out!
Why is the sky blue? I mean, it could have been so many other colors. Blue is just so boring. It could have been fuschia, or neon green.
And I wonder why kids are born with spina bifida...I mean, there's no spina bifida gene. They must learn it while they're in the womb, but it just paints such a crummy picture. Those kids need to straighten up.
Here is a link that may answer your question some are born gay while others are born straight, there are others who are born with both parts, If God would have made all of us heterosexual then nobody would have tried to seek understanding. He did not make junk and all of us were created under him, here is a link that may better explain it.
Well I don't know how to make it easier for you: I answered your silly--self-admittedly bigoted question--with cynicism. AE, on the other hand, answered seriously and with an educational link. If you click on that blue bit, you'll go to an article written by smart people, who study the very question you have asked, and you will find their answer.
Got me. I didn't read it or supply it; I am not particularly worried about why gay people are gay, because their gayness doesn't bother me. However, I believe AE has a very good reputation around here, probably for a reason, so I assume it is a very good article. Furthermore, I understand that Stanford is an institution full of people who understand the Scientific Method, and use it accordingly.
It is a very good article and people who are gay do not bother me, my sister is Lesbian and it certainly does not make her any less of a sister to me. When we were growing up 3 of us loved dolls, dresses, pretty shoes and purses. My younger sister loved playing with trucks, sand, and loved blue jeans and tennis shoes. When we were looking at boys, she was playing basketball, when we were picking out purses, she was looking at a man's wallet to carry. No matter what mom tried should could not change her so genetically she was made that way. I would not give up my sister for the WORLD. I hope not to offend anyone but it is genetic.
My sister is gay too AE and she has to have the most loving generous heart second to me of course And yes even when we were little kids still all innocent, she had the Tonka trucks while I had the barbie dolls.
Yeah, people from Stanford are usually intelligent. I asked a Stanford grad what he thought about my car overheating once, he said it was definitely the waterpump. Turned out to be a rusted up radiator, I guess even a Stanford grad can be wrong,Hmm
It doesn't matter what the science is; the bottom line is that once you start asking the state or the church to police what goes on in our bedrooms, you are asking for totalitarianism, so it is a basic point that adults should be able to whatever they want behind closed doors, excepting, of course, obvious crimes... if you don't like govt interference in people's lives, then this is the only way to view the issue.
I don't care what homosexuals do, this thread is asking the question why they are homosexual. The article supplied seems to have both sides argument as right, it is genetic as well as environment that causes homosexuality.
You are right about this thread. I didn't read the article I must admit. But perhaps another thread could be started with the title: "Why the hell does anyone care whether things are genetic or environmental?" I mean, maybe there's a good reason, I'd just like to hear it.
Actually, never mind genetics, the fact that women are so, well, *mouthwatering* (took me a while to pick the right adjective -- how'd I do...), is PROOF ENOUGH that being a gay male could not be a CHOICE. Thank you. Game, set and match
I have not read the article that AE supplied, which actually kept me reading this thread since before that it seemed awfully pointless. BUT...
I feel that people are gay because they have found another human who makes them happy. It is not a matter of pieces and parts fitting together "correctly", but a matter of love. Love is difficult to find and if the search were to lead me to another girl who I have that strong of a connection to than I would have no problem being a lesbian. Matters of the heart should not be explained through the brain.
I can't let this pass without commenting. Whether there is a gay gene or not, it doesn't matter. People are people are people. Regardless of whether or not it is a choice or whether or not it is inherent, people are whomever they are. Don't disregard respect for people because of their choice or their genetically inherited acts. We, at least within the United States of America, are free and are granted a right to be whomever we are or choose to be.
Love. Peace. Happiness. And all that other 1960's stuff.
I think its ether a life choice an or born that way it would be normal to be atracted to the oposite sex.... an some people get all religose about this but i think you love who you love an u shouldent be judged by it
After all, what's the difference WHY you do something... the point is that your country down there is supposed to be a FREE country. Isn't that why you renamed French fries? So, how come suddenly you're curtailing certain people's freedom? Can you say "contradiction"....
I like to think of it this way. there are so man different races of people on this planet, and so many cultures that we know little or nothing about. Would it be so horrible to consider that gay people might just be one of those races and cultures that we have yet to understand?
People are so bogged down on what they believe is right, that when something different comes about that they don't understand, they try to repress it and fight it. One of the reasons why so many countrys are still fighting each other today, is because they would rather lash out, then learn to care and accept people that are different than they are.
Somebody in this thread posted that being gay is a learned behavior. Well so is hate. Yet we do nothing to stop that. The problem with the world, is that certain groups of people think that they are the only ones who are right, and care little about what anyone else thinks. But, would like think that they can force them to think the way that they do.
I just get so tired of it. Every generation leaves up to the next to hope for change, and it never happenes. very sad.
Hey Big Daddy! Did you miss me? Is that why you started your 10th 20th 30th Gay thread? Sneak baby...Come on out of that closet. It must be so cold and dark in there with that fish. Come on out baby! We are all waiting for a Big Pretend Man like you!
when ever we think of something forbbiden, or ubnormal just remember that when satan fell from the heavens 1/3 of the angels who agreed with satan also fell and turned into demons, and so the devil is not alone in this journey, he does have certain authority on this earth, and thats because God in heaven wants to make sure that you are strong enough to with stand temptation and become stong in good before you can enter the pearl gates of heaven, he doesn't want another episode of the devil in his house, so instead of saying "Why are gay people gay "? or "why do robbers rob", Or Why do prostitutes sell thier bodies and souls ,Why do pill poppers give the excuse of I need my medication when it's obviously something that is clearly addictive as the same since with illigal drugs ,or any other form of vices that some of us share or have in common crutches and excuses for simply being lazy in all that we as peolpe are capable of doing. Whatever weakness and curiosity you have the devil will know and he will send his demons to tempt you and if you fail the temptation,he sits backs and laughs at our savior and you. because for some reason sin has a dominoe effect.Respect and Kow what god disagrees with, jesus said Try and be like me , which is perfect if you can do that , I garantee that would be the hardest challange in the world , more than any amount of money or wealth,past any and all the education humanly possible ,The question should be " what's your excuse or vice or addiction or cruch and why are we so lazy/ greedy (a whole nother story ) as people when we are blessed with so many gifts and abilities get my drift.
sneako - it occurs to me, also, that by cutting yourself off from the gays because you do not understand and refuse to be educated about them - that you are the one who is actually missing out - missing out on a lot of love, intelligence, knowledge, and innovation that the gay community has to offer! Open your mind and your heart will follow! Its possible you don't konw these people and it is natural to be a bit frightened of the unknown - remember when girls seemed like people from another planet in your third-grade boy world? fascinating, weren't they? and kinda scarey too!
Noted psychologist Dr. Robert Epstein states that sexual orientation actually exists on a continuum (not straight or gay only) and he designed a test (which can be taken online) for anyone to take and see where you stand on the gay/straight scale. Its at...
Is it just me or is that incoherent? Why do so many people have issues with gay people and why do so many Christians feel that gay hating is a part of their faith. Where again in the Bible is being gay spokend about? It just feels to me like a lot of people have a lot of growing up to do yet. Get off this witch hunt already... sheesh.
In general, the concept is hate the sin but love the sinner. Can you find people from some church who have that wrong? Maybe but that is the concept the religion in general follows. Christianity may consider certain actions wrong but you are supposed to love all people.
I dont know if there is a 'Gay' gene and I dont really care, the fact is that there is a sizable number of people who are Homosexual and they are entitled as adults to do as they please, for those who ask is there a hetrosexual gene, well yes, thats how the human race survives, homosexuals like any other minority group are entitled to equal rights and equal treatment, those who would deny equal rights and equal treatment to homosexuals are simply living out their own fears and most likely hiding in the closet
"those who would deny equal rights and equal treatment to homosexuals are simply living out their own fears and most likely hiding in the closet "
Ok, people can do want they want to do in private whatever with whatever consenting adults in a legal manner that they want. Don't want to know, don't care, but the whole 'phobe' and 'closet' thing has been taken too far. If you don't like racists or people who wear shoes in the house or own ferrets as pets or whatever does that mean you are afraid of them or afraid you are secretly the same as them? Is an irrational attempt to demonize those who may hold a different opinion.
Sab Oh - the thought of two men engaged in a sexual act does not make me feel well at all - its none of my business - thats why I let them get on with it - it really is non of my business - what concerns me is the fact that so called 'straight' people give over so much of their time discussing homosexuality - if I spent as much time discussing football - I would have to accept that I am in fact a football fan - I like women - I have sex with women - why would I concern myself about homosexuals - there really is a logic to my first post and not simply to demonise anyone with a different opinion - there are people who are curious and simply want to ask normal questions - but there are people who seem to spend all there time talking about homosexuality and that is why I ask the question? are they really closet homosexuals are they really exploring their own sexuality, I mean no offence by this to anyone simply expressing an opinion, but you have to admit that when people spend so much time on such a subject they are really questioning themsleves
There are many thousands of cases of people condemning criminals only to be later exposed as criminals - people talk about celebrities as they have a desire to be celebrities and live that life style - this applies to many areas of life - I talk about women as I love women - I talk about politcis as I love politics - I paint because I love art - I write because I love writing, again no offence intended - but I think there are many closets not yet opened
So talking about criminals is proof that someone is a criminal? Talking about celebrities is proof that people are afraid of celebrities? All I'm saying is that the popular PC-speak on this is irrational (not to mention unnecessary).
Why, why , why, would any sane, logical, educated human being, WILLFULLY stoop to the the revolting level of ignorance, bigotry and religious absurdity that this question requires for consideration? I certainly won't!
It seems to me that the media has become the most powerful government we have ever had. Over the last number of decades we have been educated/brainwashed by a media campaign into thinking that homosexuality is normal and that disliking homosexuality is not normal. Just for a moment think how each individual on this topic has been influenced by this campaign. Most of them are repeating word for word the tolerence that they have been spoon fed. And similarly I have been influenced by my background into not falling for media spin and popular opinion. Most people go with the crowd and think it makes for a better world even if they're wrong. It's like this new world of tolerence is the new 'pleasantville' and if people are not so tolerent they become the ones who are persecuted. I don't approve of homosexual behaviour because I just find it disturbing. I think homesexuality is probably an innate condition but that still doesn't mean I have to like it.
It isn't about "going with the crowd". You believe we are being brainwashed to be tolerant and that is a bad thing?
You aren't cool for going against "the crowd" just intolerant and closed minded. If you find homosexuality to be disturbing, then just don't be gay.
You love poetry right? Here's a poem for you
"O Captain! my Captain! our fearful trip is done, The ship has weather'd every rack, the prize we sought is won, The port is near, the bells I hear, the people all exulting, While follow eyes the steady keel, the vessel grim and daring;"
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