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Do You Care What Other People Think of You?

  1. AdsenseStrategies profile image73
    AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago

    To what degree are you influenced by what others think of you?

    Are there certain people who, just by being in the same room as you, cause you to act differently than you do when they are not there?

    What is the solution to this? Is it possible to not be affected by others?

    1. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      This only matters to a person who has low self-esteem or lacks self-confidence. smile

      If you act differently around others than you do when you're not around them, then again you yourself are pretending to be someone who you are not, just to please others. This stunts your own development of self. smile

      Yes, by your own self-interest and understanding of your own self-interest, which helps build self-esteem and self-confidence. You will develop the ability to differentiate, what is exactly important to you. Therefore the views or opinions of others, will have very little weight on your overall self. smile

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      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      im always me.....not many friends, but the ones I have are genuine. I guess I act different in front of children vs with adult friends.....but none of its fake.

    3. Arthur Fontes profile image91
      Arthur Fontesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I could care less what others think of me if they are not in my immediate family.

      I act the same wherever I am.

      Self confidence and the realization that you are an individual and your input and importance is equal to all others regardless of their stature or the amount of their bank accounts.

    4. prettydarkhorse profile image63
      prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      there has been study for example that when in a room the need for compliance and for you to agree with others so that you feel you belong? or for example if everybody is saying this color is red and you are seeing it orange you will agree because you need to belong too. bandwagon effect
      But if you have great sense of what is wrong and right, firm values grounded then you will stand up for your choice

      1. EmpressFelicity profile image82
        EmpressFelicityposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Stanley Milgram:

        http://www.cba.uri.edu/Faculty/dellabit … ilgram.htm


        Kind of depressing, actually.

        1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
          prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          sad Empress

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      Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Why do you view that as a problem? When you're drinking in the bar with the guys, don't you speak differently with them than you would with say, your mom? Certainly you wouldn't have locker room banter with your lovely young bank teller would you?

      I don't view this as "acting" differently. We all apply social filters when dealing with others, after all, isn't that why we wear clothes?

      1. AdsenseStrategies profile image73
        AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I guess I see it is an issue pertaining to freedom.

        It is okay to be influenced by people in many situations, of course. You are right.

        But sometimes I think a person's freedom to choose is curtailed by the influence of others. I guess this is what is meant by "unwanted influence" or "unwanted intrusion"

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        Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        ??? no way.....some guys talk differently to women, then guys at the bar??? maybe I do need to get out more...

    6. aguasilver profile image85
      aguasilverposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      To what degree are you influenced by what others think of you?

      I hold myself accountable to anybody who can show me scripturally where I am wrong.

      Outside of that criterion I have little concern about how people think of me, unless I can see that they are correct, in which case I change to correct my error, not to gain favour or advantage.

      Are there certain people who, just by being in the same room as you, cause you to act differently than you do when they are not there?

      Yes, people who need correction and shoot off their mouth cause me to either leave quickly or engage them in conversation to determine whether they are intelligent enough to be corrected, or ignorant in their error and unlikely to be changed.

      What is the solution to this? Is it possible to not be affected by others?

      Yes, it's possible, but is it beneficial....?

      In any situation we are to either be blessed by someone or be a blessing to them, once we have worked out which category we respectively fit within it's just a matter of complying.

    7. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      it depends on who it is, we're talking to about.  if it's someone that i consider very close and dear to me, then yes.  i do value everything they say.   however, everyone else that dislikes me can go f**k themselves to say the least.  sorry for the language, but im just being honest.

      i remember growing up as a kid, I used to care about what EVERYONE thought about me, and i was a nervous wreck.  however, as i got older, i learned that if someone isn't paying your bills or doesn't care about you, then why the hell would you care about them?  once, i started to follow that motto, my life became a lot less stressful and liberating too.  trust me, if your going to care about what every tom, dick and harry thinks about you, then your never going to be truly happy for long.  as you can't get everyone to like you, no matter how nice you are.  trust me, i know.  i've worked at places where i literally kissed everyone's a**es figuratively, and they still didn't like me.  Catch my drift?  That's why when i adopted my new philosophy a couple of years back, i felt so liberated.

      to answer your other question, i think everyone acts differently around different folks.  to be honest, there's only a few seldom people out there that i ever shared the real me with before.  plus, im sure you wouldn't act the same way around your parents the way you would your lover or friends now, would you?  i don't think so.  therefore, i don't think that's as uncommon as many might think. 

      to answer your final couple of questions, i really don't know how to answer that exactly as everyone has their own way of doing things.  however, i will say this from a great star trek movie line, "don't try to be a great man.  just be a man, and let history take care of the rest."  those are some good words to live by if you stop to think about it.

      1. EmpressFelicity profile image82
        EmpressFelicityposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I totally agree.  This pretty much sums up my view actually.

        It's one of the unsung benefits of getting older that you start to realise other people's opinions of you (apart from those closest to you) don't really matter.  As long as you're not deliberately hurting anyone, you really don't need to take responsibility for other people's feelings about you. 

        And if you realise that there are some people out there who go out of their way to be offended and that you can't very well spend your entire life walking on eggshells so as *not* to offend them, then you've taken one more step towards liberation.

    8. khawfash profile image60
      khawfashposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I think everyone cares what others think of them, to a degree, even when they say they don't.

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      cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      1. Do You Care What Other People Think of You?

      we are talking real life people, not online people:

      to some degree. i want people that i like to like me back. i like to feel that i make a good impression on people.

      2. To what degree are you influenced by what others think of you?

      that depends on who the person is. for example, i care deeply what my son thinks of me, so that has some influence on me. if it's just a stranger, not so much, but i am always polite to people. i mean, you wouldn't do something offensive like blowing your nose or something while waiting in line at a bank or some other public gathering full of strangers. still, i don't modify my personality in order to be "liked" by others. i want people to like me for me, not "someone i play on tv". there's a difference bewteen wanting to make a positive impression and wanting to please people just for the sake of pleasing people. it is very important for me to understand that someone likes me for who i am, not for who they think i am.

      3. Are there certain people who, just by being in the same room as you, cause you to act differently than you do when they are not there?

      i act differently around my boss, say, than my co-workers. i am a little more respectful and reserved towards my boss and more relaxed around my coworkers, and much more relaxed around family members, but my personality does not change to mirror others. if i am say, around a bunch of emos or NASCAR fans, i don't act like i'm an emo or NASCAR fan - i act like me.

      4. What is the solution to this? Is it possible to not be affected by others?

      i don't understand why this is something that needs a 'solution'. you can still be yourself even if you modify your behavior a bit based on the circumstances. say you're relaxing at home watching a movie...you are in your jammies and crunching popcorn and talking on your cell phone, but you wouldn't do those things in a theatre. that doesn't mean it is because you care what some strange people think of you - it is because you understand that society has certain protocols for politeness that should be observed.

      1. AdsenseStrategies profile image73
        AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Hi Cosette. What is an 'emo' smile

        As to Point 4, I meant really that if there was someone who tried to dominate you via some sort of (however subtle) intimidation, what sort of strategy or defence would you have for that.

        (Oh, and, do you make a distinction between online friends and real friends. Are you influenced by other hubbers' comments on your writing, for example (though I imagine it's always positive in your case, so bad example))

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          cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          oh emos are just people, mostly young people, who dye their hair black and go around lookiing morose all the time wink

          oh yes...intimidation...i encounter that on occasion, lol...usually by someone who i threaten in some way. that is the secret...people who try to intimidate you do it because you strike some hidden chord inside of them. i just give them a 'deer in the headlights' look, haha big_smile

          if they push, i push back, but that's part of my nature too. i won't become a raving maniac or anything because that is not my personality.

          anwyay i hope i am understanding you. i want to.

          1. AdsenseStrategies profile image73
            AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            And I hope I am understanding myself hmm

            I guess what I am getting at here is to do with that ever-elusive, controversial and exciting topic of 'freedom.' wink

            In other words, if, for example, you live with an in-law who is always making snide, but underhanded comments, that could seriously hamper your feeling of freedom to be or do what you think is right or appropriate.

            The question has wider implications: if I live in Nazi Germany, or Saddam's Iraq, I might well care what others think of me.. it might be important to my survival...

            Or, say I am a Dixie Chick... wink

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              cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              haha..."dixie chick".... big_smileyikes

              well, if you have to modify your behavior to fool someone in order to save your own life, that's not being fake for being fake's sake - it's to survive.

              one time i decided to go out with this guy who kept bugging me...he was very persistent. i didn't know him from Adam but i thought oh ok what the heck and that was a huge mistake. the first date was in his apartment, where he proceeded to lock me in. this wouldn't have been a cause for concern expcept he had a padlock on the door and knives hung on the walls along with nude posters of women. he said 'you could be on that wall' and was no longer nice and sunny so i knew he was a sicko. he started pawing me, even as i protested so i said 'you know...i'm kind of hungry' and he was annoyed and i acted not all not like myself, let's say, promising him anything if we could just go get something to eat and he goes 'ok we'll try it your way' and as we were walking out across this vacant lot, he kicked me in the back so hard i fell on my face and i asked him why he did that and he said 'to show you who's boss' then we got to a burger joint or something and he had already placed his order so i said 'i'm going to go across the street and get taco bell or whatever it was and ran like hell.

              so yeah, i was a fake but if i hadn't been i'd prolly be dead.

              as far as inlaws go, i have had experinece there and at first you ednure that bullsh*t but after a while you don't tolerate it because no one has a right to disrespect you in your own home so then the gloves come off and you give them some straight talk. yikes

    10. tantrum profile image61
      tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I can't be bothered with what people think of me.
      I act naturally, all the time.
      Of course, if in a room is someone who loves me or admires me, I 'll be more polite and sympathetic, than if I have to talk or be civil with someone that I know is despising or hating me.
      But I find that normal.

      Smiling to everybody and agreeing with everybody, is stupid, I think

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        lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        big_smile

    11. marcel285 profile image82
      marcel285posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      To what degree are you influenced by what others think of you?

      Are there certain people who, just by being in the same room as you, cause you to act differently than you do when they are not there?

      What is the solution to this? Is it possible to not be affected by others?


      No i don't care what others think if it's of an unkind nature. In which case, i would say nothing, or ask them if that's the mouth they kiss their mother with? But i know better, and i know that i'm right, and a fair and good person, and that's good enough for me. That's the only solution i think, you have to have a certain kind of attitude to not let others effect you.

      My favourite way of dealing with not very nice people, is to straight up ask them, 'why are you being nasty to me?' Or, 'Why do you feel the need to put others down? Is it because you have low self esteem?' Generally one will be too embarrassed to answer.

    12. DogSiDaed profile image60
      DogSiDaedposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      If I care about them then yes, I can be influenced.

      And yes some people make me act differently, also in different places to, my mindset may change. However I tend not to take it as a negative. If it happens naturally then it's still me really is it not?

    13. falcon64 profile image60
      falcon64posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I don't care of what they think. As long as they didn't harm me.smile

    14. Jane@CM profile image61
      Jane@CMposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I am me and I do not let others influence who I am or what I am.  I use to play the games years ago, it wasn't fulfilling and I found a lot of very "surface" type people. People don't always "like" me right away - I tend to be a bit sarcastic and I am blunt, to the point, so it takes time for people to get to know me.

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      Brenda Durhamposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Sometimes, yes.
      There are people whose personality or whatever just....takes over the scene, kinda.
      I dunno if it's possible to not be affected by others or not, in some way or another.....

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      Ghost32posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Sure.  When my Mom was still here on the planet, I always acted a bit differently in her presence than I did with, say, a hooker. lol

    17. vox vocis profile image92
      vox vocisposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I am affected only by the opinion of people who are dear to me or whom I appreciate and as for ''the others'' I don't think I really care. Actually, I don't know...Once I worked in a private school and I lost my job because my ''dear'' colleague figured out sooner than me that one of us would be leaving ''because of the world's economic crisis'' and she find her way working behind my back. More than ten people wanted me to teach them privately at home when I told them I was leaving the school and even today many other stop on the street to greet me and to say that they never had a better teacher. Still, today, I think I'm heartbroken because my boss accepted the dark picture presented to her by my colleague...well, that's the reality of life...not everybody can like me!!!

    18. advisor4qb profile image78
      advisor4qbposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Sometimes it is hard not to morph into what you think people want you to be, but I always have to allow myself the freedom to think differently. 

      I do get my feelings hurt sometimes when someone doesn't see things the same way I do, but I get over it.

      People who get angry at you for not being like they want you to be are just stealing your energy anyway and are most likely not worth the time (AND energy!) you are wasting on them to begin with.

      Sometimes, we have to let our emotions guide us along the magic path of intuition when it comes to other people!  If it make you feel bad, then hedge!

    19. curlytree2009 profile image44
      curlytree2009posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      It doesn't matter whatever they feel or think of me. I'm a type of person who thinks of rejections as an inspiration to look forward. It is a stepping stone for my success. They are not the one's who feed me anyway. smile

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    Yes. At Times, I think it's only normal, that is if I like or respect that person.  If not, I could care less. big_smile

    1. AdsenseStrategies profile image73
      AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      What about fear? Does that ever motivate you in terms of others' opinions of you?

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        lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        not so much at my age now in my 40's.  Earlier on, most definitely.  big_smile

      2. RainySunshine profile image59
        RainySunshineposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I would say fear plays a big part, at least for me. I tend to freeze or not say anything if someone intimidates me. It’s usually someone I respect, dearly.

      3. pinkboxer profile image59
        pinkboxerposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Fear can be a highly positive motivator. Just the action of entering a room under pressure can be the best thing that ever happens to you. Evaluate why you care. Nobody else is even thinking about you. They are thinking about their own agendas. Relax, be confident and  focus on the reason you showed up in the first place.

    2. Paradise7 profile image86
      Paradise7posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Good answer, friend.  Though it does seem hard ot follow, at times.  We all want to be liked.

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      mtsi1098posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      yeah - what she said...

      1. Paradise7 profile image86
        Paradise7posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        yeah, ditto lyric...you can't help it, you want to be liked and appreciated and not disliked and disrespected... it's hard to overlook, when you get the feeling someone's opinion of you is low, but then why dwell on the negative?  There's lots of people who appreciate and like you, I'm sure.

  3. skyfire profile image70
    skyfireposted 7 years ago

    No i don't care.

    But i have seen the social circle around me forces me to take about their vague and useless opinion(i'm pointing to negative criticism and the one which is done for the sake of it). Frankly puttin it, i'm frustrated with society pulling such gravitational force of "Do care for those negative criticism" view.

  4. TMMason profile image72
    TMMasonposted 7 years ago

    This might come as a surporise.

    But, no. I do not

  5. livewithrichard profile image85
    livewithrichardposted 7 years ago

    I think it really depends on where I am and the agenda I have for being there.  The place I work has some very influential people roaming the halls and offices, I work out of City Hall in Chicago on most days where its common to see the Mayor, many of the state legislators have offices there as well as some of the city alderman. Rahm Emanuel, the presidents Chief of Staff use to roam those halls too and from what I'm hearing, he may roam them again.

    I care what these people think of me because someday I may need them. In Chicago we call it "having people," sort of like the Verizon Network.

  6. Alessia Amnesia profile image61
    Alessia Amnesiaposted 7 years ago

    When I'm around my family, I definitely act very differently. I think that's more because I want to live up to their expectations and I try to pretend that I have.

    I think it's entirely possible not to be influenced by others. I just don't think anyone wants to go through the stress of being themselves completely.

    1. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      When you say "I just don't think anyone want to go through the stress of being themselves completely" is a misconception. Many people don't not want to be themselves, but give into pressure they place on themselves, because of lack of knowledge and understanding(wisdom) of life, and don't know any different. smile

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      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      i do not want the stress of being someone else. tried it, didnt work. I do care what people think, probably too much, but I do not change who I am, as a result of that. If someone doesnt like me, thats thier choice.

  7. prettydarkhorse profile image63
    prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago

    yes because i live in a society so I care for what is my stand in that society, so i act to fulfill what I think is right for me, and the expectation of me too,

    1. AdsenseStrategies profile image73
      AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      This is a good answer. But what about attempts to intimidate? Then what, for example

      1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
        prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        attempts to intimidate others?? maybe sometimes people use that as defense mechanism??

        1. AdsenseStrategies profile image73
          AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          But if someone tries to intimidate you, can you stand up to that pressure?

          1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
            prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I will answer him what I think is right, unless he will harm me< I will just try to run away, theres no sense arguing with a dog for example even killing the dog will not cure the wound itself,

            1. AdsenseStrategies profile image73
              AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              What about more subtle intimidation, like hints at emotional blackmail

              1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
                prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                I will try not to be affected by HIM, I have my own firm of belief, it might be hard but I need to stand for it

                1. AdsenseStrategies profile image73
                  AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Do you have a technique, or method, or strategy, or way of doing this? Is it successful?

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                    Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    whats up? you look all sad, and all these deep thoughts?....r u ok?

                  2. prettydarkhorse profile image63
                    prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    Just having a firm belief in a value is all, sticking with it and praying also, as a form of self realization,

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                Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                I don't take kindly to intimidation or threats. Such behaviour tends to make me difiant or hardens my position. Like when that 6 foot bull shark showed up in the Florida surf where I was swimming, I refused to curtail my pleasure. Now in hindsight maybe that wasn't wise, but common sense leaves me in proportion to the threat.

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          Kenrick Chatmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          No not really. There will always be your supporters, detractors, and every one in between.

        3. XtineTheWriter profile image62
          XtineTheWriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Although not a pompous individual, I would be lying if I claimed to not care what others think of me, at least a little bit.

  8. Sara Tonyn profile image61
    Sara Tonynposted 7 years ago

    Apparently other people don't influence me because I never seem to agree with anyone! big_smile

    Sure, I act a little differently around certain people. I don't change my values, beliefs, opinions, etc for anyone though.

    I sometimes act more subdued around people I don't know and more reserved around certain people simply out of respect.

    What can I say? Not everyone appreciates it when my alter-ego Boom-Boom LaRue starts doing her Magic Tassels routine.

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      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol lol lol PLEASE TEACH ME!!!! I want to know how to do the magic tasseles!!!

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    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago

    When I was a kid, it did matter because I was always the one picked on, called the weird one, and was left out of all the "reindeer" games. So I did care back then but as i grea and saw that what they said wasn't true...well except for the weird part because I proudly acknowledge myself being a weirdo...I started to care less of what ppl thought of me. Now I am trying my hardest to accept compliments  though it is hard because I still have low self esteem issues.

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      Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      my original post since Ad wanted me to put it again

      1. Arthur Fontes profile image91
        Arthur Fontesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I also am a wierdo you are not alone..

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          Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Yay big_smile I like not being alone

      2. AdsenseStrategies profile image73
        AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        That was nice of you. Many thanx.

      3. livewithrichard profile image85
        livewithrichardposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Crazd, if you have low self esteem then you hide it very well smile I always see you as open and honest and participating in the community.

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          Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          aaaa thanks richard...I have had years of practice to hide my low self esteem sometimes I let it show but other times I hide it to protect myself

          1. Cagsil profile image60
            Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            The only reason for you to see yourself with a low self-esteem would be the simple fact of a lack of knowledge, into how you are to be true to yourself. Self-esteem being low is the limitation you apply to yourself, because that is how you see yourself. smile

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              Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Lasting memories of how I was treated as a child will do that to a person

              1. AdsenseStrategies profile image73
                AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                I've got a hub on this that may be of some service... no promises, but I offer the thought. I won't promote myself too much(!) but it is called something like The Greatest Discovery I Ever Made. Just an idea, if you want to look it up

              2. Cagsil profile image60
                Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                My only advice to you, is to stop living in the past, learn to not regret the path that has brought you to where you are today, and take knowledge from it, and not look at again.

                Because, the truth be told, it is slowing you down from truly being who you want to be. smile

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                  Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  I try my hardest not to live in the past...but unknown reasons bring back those memories. It sucks but I do my best to overcome them.

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                    Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    sad  all you can do is recognize when the memories are not useful, and its up to you to stop dwelling on them. Youll never forget, your past is part of who you are, but its the hurtful learned behviour patterns, that you have to let go of. You grew into a compassionate, caring, loving, understanding woman. You cant be completly unhappy about that! smile

  10. Shadesbreath profile image88
    Shadesbreathposted 7 years ago

    We are social creatures, evolved to survive only in groups, and it even requires two to procreate.  Anyone who says they don't care what other people think is operating under a delusion or is posing, using the appearance of unconcern as a means to create public impression of themselves as cavalier, fiercely independent or aloof - the need for creating that impression giving evidence to the contrary of the claim they have no concern.

    1. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I'm going to have to agree to disagree. I don't change who I am or how I act around others. I live my life according to a specific code of conduct, a view of integrity and am honest at all times. Sometimes, brutually to the point that it offends others. Do I care that I have offended someone? It's not my problem, but the problem of the other person. smile

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        lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        hmm:

  11. livewithrichard profile image85
    livewithrichardposted 7 years ago

    Of all the people here saying they don't care what others think about them, Why are you hiding behind a fake avatar?

    1. EmpressFelicity profile image82
      EmpressFelicityposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Huh?  I don't get what the choice of avatar has to do with the price of fish. 

      ... and if the person you're talking to changes their avatar as a result of what you've said, then they'll have well and truly shot themselves in the foot lol

      1. livewithrichard profile image85
        livewithrichardposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Why would they have shot themselves in the foot? It's nice and easy to hide behind an avatar and disagree with everyone. But if you truly didn't care what people think about you then you would put up a real picture. You wouldn't be worried if I were your neighbor or co-worker or your employer.

        I see many hubbers here that switch between real pictures and avatars and those people I believe do not care what others think about them.

        I do have my real picture up and as I stated above, I do care what people think of me and I pointed out the reasons why.

        1. Arthur Fontes profile image91
          Arthur Fontesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Do you believe that every avater depicting a real person is the actual person behind the keyboard?

          1. livewithrichard profile image85
            livewithrichardposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Of course not but its a lot closer than a dog playing in the snow.

            1. Arthur Fontes profile image91
              Arthur Fontesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              That really is my dog and I use my real name.  I do not want to be judged by my looks but by what I have to say.  I actually think the avatar says more about a person than a picture of some person does. If I put up an 18 year old girl in a bikini would you prefer that?

              1. AdsenseStrategies profile image73
                AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Well, actually...

                1. Arthur Fontes profile image91
                  Arthur Fontesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  :} LOL

              2. livewithrichard profile image85
                livewithrichardposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                LOL why would you think I would prefer an 18 year old girl in a bikini named Arthur? smile Besides Arthur there are over 30,000 results on Google with that name, you still have plausible deniability. cool

                1. Arthur Fontes profile image91
                  Arthur Fontesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Have you googled my name?

                  1. livewithrichard profile image85
                    livewithrichardposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    In quotes to prove my point.
                    You see, for me I find it easier to accept information from people that are not hiding behind an avatar. I'm sure there are infinite reasons why people use avatars but I'm in the information business and appearances mean everything to me. It's a trust thing. People that are seeking information are more likely to trust the information presented if it is presumed to come from a real person.  Of course this isn't an absolute and I'm only speaking from my own experience.

        2. EmpressFelicity profile image82
          EmpressFelicityposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Because by changing their avatar, they'd have shown that they do after all care what other people (i.e. you) think of them.




          Sorry, but that just doesn't follow at all.  I use a non-human avatar because... well, just because I want to really.  And yet I never say anything on here that I wouldn't be prepared to say to someone's face.  Or to my neighbours, assuming they were on HP or were interested in the subjects that get discussed here.

    2. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      If you reference is about "hiding" behind an avatar, isn't really hiding. Some people don't have pictures to upload. Some people don't know how to upload pictures. Some people are not interested in showing themselves, not because they care about what people think, but choose not to show themselves, because that's the way they feel.

      In my case, I have a picture to upload and occassion I use it, otherwise, I like the pictures I used. smile

    3. Sara Tonyn profile image61
      Sara Tonynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Hiding? How about I simply like the avatar? How about I've had bad experiences with crackpots on the internet? How about I have business reasons for doing it? How about what's it to you? (no offense, just asking)

      How do I know you're using your "real" avatar?

      Why am I asking all these questions? Why doesn't somebody stop me? Does this mean I care about what people think? How do I get out of this mess? Why did I drink so much coffee this morning?

      Whew. Okay, my meds kicked in, I'm okay now. big_smile

      1. Cagsil profile image60
        Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        lol lol lol lol

      2. livewithrichard profile image85
        livewithrichardposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        LOL see those are all reasons why you care about what people think about you.  No offense taken smile

  12. kirstenblog profile image78
    kirstenblogposted 7 years ago

    I value the thoughts and opinions of people who hold moral values that are in line with what I aspire to in myself, their thoughts and opinions can help in my life quest toward self improvement. The more I respect a person the more valuable their thoughts and opinions are to me. I try to surround myself with as many people that I respect as much as I can, too smile

  13. AdsenseStrategies profile image73
    AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago

    Let me steer this in another direction.

    Is your self-worth, or self-esteem (or whatever you'd like to call 'it') a function of how you think others see you. Does it matter to you, for example, how other hubbers see your writing

    1. profile image0
      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      my self worth, is decided by me.

    2. prettydarkhorse profile image63
      prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      there are times you will be affected by it yes because you care for others and yourself too,  but then if you think you didnt do anything wrong, that you did your best, yet, there are some things which you cant hold on to, like the feelings of others

      apologize if you think you hurt their feelings but then if they cant accpet your apology, it is up to them, as long as you dont feel guilt already, YOUVE DONE YOUR BEST

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      Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I answered that in my original post on the other page

      1. AdsenseStrategies profile image73
        AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Link please wink

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          Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          lol it's on page one of this thread Ad

    4. Sara Tonyn profile image61
      Sara Tonynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I think my self-esteem is based on a combination of how I feel about myself, the way I perceive others' opinions of me (and my writing), and the way I want others to see me.

  14. Cagsil profile image60
    Cagsilposted 7 years ago

    Self-worth can only be seen in your eyes of viewing yourself. What others deem to be self-worth is subjective to their views on life, which in many cases is skewed, because of a lack of knowledge and understanding of life. smile

    Self-interest is more important than self-worth, because self-interest is the foundation for self-growth, which creates self-worth. smile

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      lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      big_smile

    2. aguasilver profile image85
      aguasilverposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Whew, there's a whole lot of 'self's' there Cagsil...

      Have you read Ayn Rand?  smile

      ...and no I'm not being nasty, I'm in a good mood, I'm just interested about how you came to view self as the most important thing, or have i got it wrong again?

      1. profile image0
        Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Atlas Shrugged

        1. Arthur Fontes profile image91
          Arthur Fontesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I enjoyed Atlas shrugged I read it because it was recommended by Terry Goodkind author of "The Sword of Truth" series.

          1. aguasilver profile image85
            aguasilverposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I read Shrugged and Fountainhead, and held them as my 'bibles' for a few years, professing that if ONLY all mankind could be totally selfish then all our problems would disappear, because a truly selfish man would ensure the contentment of others in order that be assured that they themselves were not caused distress.

            I became quite rich from worshipping 'myself' and in fact it was fun being a 'god' for a while.

        2. Cagsil profile image60
          Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          lol lol lol

        3. EmpressFelicity profile image82
          EmpressFelicityposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Ditto, and The Fountainhead and We the Living.  Atlas Shrugged is a scary, scary book (fanatical, albeit in a compelling sort of way).  Fountainhead and We the Living are excellent.  I would never have read either if it hadn't been for talking to Americans on the Internet.

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            Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

            good books. glad you found them.  smile

      2. Cagsil profile image60
        Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I have study some of Ayn Rand, in my research to life questions. It was just one person, amongst the people, history and knowledge I've gained.

        SELF is the only concern, because it drives Us forward. If you have self-interest, then self-growth begins. Self-worth is derived from actions during self-growth. But, to have self-worth, a generalized purpose of life must co-exist, within oneself, so as to not be harmful to society.

    3. prettydarkhorse profile image63
      prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      CAGS, do you rate your self worth individually according to your own judgement or it will be others who will rate you up, can you live alone and not let others impact on your choices?

      1. Cagsil profile image60
        Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Self worth is an individual perception to begin with, because others cannot determine another person's worth. They can only form subjective opinions to other people's worth and it will be based on the knowledge and understanding they themselves have on life.

        Can I live alone and not let other impact my choices? Yes, by using integrated thoughts and aggressive actions to propel oneself forward.

        How other people perceive my words or actions is determined to be based on their own ability to separate out their own emotional connection tied to their individual belief structure. Either way, what people think of me, as a person, doesn't have to be the same as I see myself, because in the end, what they think is irrelevant to how I live, for which, is honest to my conscience and brings me the spirituality I require. smile

        1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
          prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          but I know you still care about others how they feel for you, I know because you do care

          1. Cagsil profile image60
            Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            PDH, I am a very easy person to understand and can be very complex at times. I have a love for humanity, but that love isn't based on what people think of me. It is based on my own self-interest, which is my learning progression for self-growth. I abide by a moral value and integrity, for which, I live my life and I know, my moral values are not the same as others, because I am of the understanding that my knowledge and understanding of morals are for the bettering of society. Thus, my purpose in life is a higher cause than myself. smile

  15. Lita C. Malicdem profile image61
    Lita C. Malicdemposted 7 years ago

    I act naturally. I don't like to act just to please others. But I'm in constant care of how to project an honest me to avoid friction. If in doing so, others don't find me the way they want me to, I also possess a high-profile tolerance. Life can be easy this way for me. My mantra? Respect begets respect, love begets love.

  16. tobey100 profile image60
    tobey100posted 7 years ago

    If you're secure in yourself, no problem.  The only person who's opinion I value is my wife's.  The FORCE is with her!

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    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago

    Aurthur your puppy is so CUTE! okay gotta hijack for a sec..what is the puppies name? and even though he may be older, dogs are always puppies at heart and act like puppies so they are called puppies by me big_smile

    1. Arthur Fontes profile image91
      Arthur Fontesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      His name is Max he just turned five. He is a big pup still.

      If he did not come into my life three years ago I might not be here.

      You should see my Chihuahua  http://twitpic.com/t2bgq posted by my wife.

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        Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        no offesnse but that is one creepy pic, one eye black, one eye red.. yikes lol

        1. AdsenseStrategies profile image73
          AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Wasn`t it George Orwell who wrote:

          Big Dogs Good, Small Dogs Bad big_smile wink

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            Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            lol small dogs bad in what way? behavior or just not get 'em? lol

        2. Arthur Fontes profile image91
          Arthur Fontesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          She is an evil little one kind of a megalomaniac with plans of world domination.  LOL wink

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            Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            yikes uh oh I'm gonna go run and hide now lol

  18. creepy profile image60
    creepyposted 7 years ago

    oh god yes i care what others think wait my bad no i dont care what others think

  19. creepy profile image60
    creepyposted 7 years ago

    weird you just described my eyes

    1. profile image0
      Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      who me? lol that is weird creepy...

  20. profile image0
    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago

    thanks Ad...I'll have to check out your hub. maybe even write my own...though  did touch my low self esteem in one hub about my LD

  21. whiteorchids profile image71
    whiteorchidsposted 7 years ago

    Honestly I do care about what others think of me, we have always been taught to treat others as we wish to be treated.

  22. profile image0
    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago

    Woohoo you go cosette you tell them inlaws what is what big_smile I wouldn't want to cross you woman! yikes big_smile

  23. profile image0
    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago

    Nice cosette! hehehe glad that she does't mess with you anymore. but come on you couldn't have invited me so I could have set up a chair, got my popcorn and Dr. Pepper and watched? big_smile lol

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      cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      haha lol

      it was all very civil, actually. certainly not a cage match. but OOH was she PI$$ED!!!

      1. profile image0
        Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        not a cage match? well THAT ruins all the fun sad lol
        Okay gotta run going to go out with hubby. He has today off YAY!

    2. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      roll big_smile

      1. profile image0
        Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        tongue *THHHHHHHHHHHPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP* lol

  24. mega1 profile image81
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    I like to think I don't = but I do.  It's a human thing and probably necessary for our survival.  The people I've known who actually did not care were either psycho or challenged in some other way!  I think that caring is the foundation of society and we need to care so we can carry on - HOWEVER, to care too much is just as bad and creates enormous anxiety in people - I've been there and know about it.  It is not fun to care too much - probably we fluctuate daily in how we feel about what other people think.  I knew somebody who used to drive me nuts by saying "ITS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK! EVEN WHEN THEY'RE THINKING ABOUT YOU!"  which is a imbecile thing to say, I think - but there's a little truth there!

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      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol I told my mother in law....bad idea, i know....that she does not have a RIGHT to know what people think. Thats why thoughts are in your head...silent. It up to the owner of the thoughts to decide what should and shouldnt be spoken. Of course what is in someones head absolutely is no one elses bussiness. honestly, why would it be my business, your private thoughts?

      1. mega1 profile image81
        mega1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Oh so true -   thoughts are private - but the things people do in reaction to you - gestures, looks, words make their thoughts public - and so then you "have a feeling" or you are told actually how someone feels about you - then, it's no longer private and etc.   So if you care, what can you do?  You can talk to them about it, you can examine what they liked or didn't like about you in yourself and decide whether you want to change - but the essence of this whole conversation is DON"T WORRY about what they think - that's the thing, right?

  25. Arthur Fontes profile image91
    Arthur Fontesposted 7 years ago

    Grant me the serenity
    to accept the things I cannot change;
    courage to change the things I can;
    and wisdom to know the difference.

  26. mega1 profile image81
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    Mother - in laws - geez its a sticky subject but whatever it is that turns perfectly nice ladies into shrewish byotches around their daughter in law is a mystery to me.  I had a mother in law - really nice woman - who could not help it - she could not be nice to ME!  So my only defense was to be even nicer than pie to her and hope she would change - also, of course I tried using humor etc.  but that never worked.  I did WORRY about what she thought about me and what she would say or do around my husband, but it was silly.  She liked to make little jabs (nasty little jabs) and then sort of run, you know?  If you respond to those kind of jabs from someone then they really have you skewered and can act all innocent etc.  like "What's the matter with YOU! I just made a little comment!"  But oh well - water under the bridge - ex-husband and all!

    1. profile image0
      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol i do love her. im alwayas saying the wrong thingm is all. about thoughts...yeah..once made public, its public!! still, i REALLY shoulda kept those thoughts to myself!! smile

  27. profile image0
    cosetteposted 7 years ago

    Hush with Jessica Lange...

  28. aware profile image70
    awareposted 7 years ago

    im a man that cares . always have always will. tell me you dont ill call you a liar.

    1. tantrum profile image61
      tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      call me!

    2. Arthur Fontes profile image91
      Arthur Fontesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I wouldn't care if you called me a liar. smile Especially if it makes you feel better.

  29. aware profile image70
    awareposted 7 years ago

    you care i know it

    1. tantrum profile image61
      tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol
      but you don't.
      I don't care what people think of me, not even you thinking I'm a liar.
      lol

  30. aware profile image70
    awareposted 7 years ago

    responding is the first sign of careing. lie is to strong a word . fibber that better

    1. Arthur Fontes profile image91
      Arthur Fontesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I care about you, I do not know you but I would not want anything bad to happen to you.

      What you think of me has absolutely no relevance to my life.  It will not effect me emotionally unless I allow it to and I do not.

  31. inspireyourspirit profile image59
    inspireyourspiritposted 7 years ago

    I wish I didn't care but I know I do...

  32. Beth100 profile image84
    Beth100posted 7 years ago

    I've grown up being "different" and it's taught me that it's not worth worrying about what others think.  More importantly, it is what you think of yourself that really matters. How you think about yourself is expressed in the way you act which in turn causes a reaction and feedback from those around you.  If you don't like the feedback, look at yourself with honesty and change yourself.  Do so because of you, not because of what others say.

  33. yenajeon profile image83
    yenajeonposted 7 years ago

    Generally I do what makes me happy because no matter what you do someone is always not going to be happy!

  34. torimari profile image81
    torimariposted 7 years ago

    Yes, too much at times.

    And, at other times no. It depends on what aspect of me they are judging. Like, I care what my good friends think of me, but not some of those...not so good friends and acquaintances.

    That sounds typical...but I also care about opinions of people I hardly know at times while other times I could give a flying shat.

    It has to do with insecurity mainly for me...not to say judgments aren't important...but a lot of them that we care about aren't as big as we make it. Haha, this is like me (the pot) calling the kettle black but ya know...

  35. Mama Sez profile image80
    Mama Sezposted 7 years ago

    Yes I used to care about what other people think of me but now I always tell myself that only the opinion of my loved ones should matter. I should be bothered only by how people closest to my heart think of me.

  36. Niteriter profile image80
    Niteriterposted 7 years ago

    I lie awake and cry about the abuse I get on HubPages forums.

    1. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Interesting that you say that. How? Please do tell. big_smile

      I am curious. smile

  37. Niteriter profile image80
    Niteriterposted 7 years ago

    I am abused by the curious who try to gain insight into my private thoughts. I have an emotional aversion to inights.

    1. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Oh, okay. Good to know. Thank you. smile

  38. Niteriter profile image80
    Niteriterposted 7 years ago

    And then I worry that my good friend Cagsil will think ill of me which just makes me cry harder.

    1. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Then I guess you can stop fretting over a frivilous idea. I just asked a simple question to get an answer. What you think of your own answer is pressure you put on yourself and not related to anything in which I might actual think.

      So, dear friend, do try not to waste so much energy on negative things. It's only harmful to you. smile

    2. wyanjen profile image89
      wyanjenposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      OK now...

      less Romeo, more Thor...

      1. Niteriter profile image80
        Niteriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Hey, that was a secret between us!

        1. wyanjen profile image89
          wyanjenposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          lol

          Well, now I've gone and added intrigue to the forums...

          take it easy

  39. Niteriter profile image80
    Niteriterposted 7 years ago

    It is not a frivolous idea that our good spirited Cagsil might think ill of a fellow Hubber. The tears I cry are for the damage that might be done to his eternal soul.

    1. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Hmmm......? lol  I see. smile

      1. Niteriter profile image80
        Niteriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I'd love to jump in on your Holy Grail thread but I have to go soon and other folks are already too far ahead of me. Always know that I spar just for fun and that I admire all the work you do here to make HubPages a better place.

        1. Cagsil profile image60
          Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Thank you. smile I like talking to you. smile

  40. Niteriter profile image80
    Niteriterposted 7 years ago

    You, Jen, and Cagsil are my pals. I'm sorry I have to leave so soon. Best wishes.

    1. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Have a good night. smile Be safe and sleep well. smile

    2. wyanjen profile image89
      wyanjenposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      smile yup, sleep good, see you later

  41. writing4rmysoul profile image60
    writing4rmysoulposted 7 years ago

    Of course I don't care what people think of me. God thinks I'm wonderful because He took the time to create such a beautiful woman. And that I am. Why would I waste my time worrying about other people's perception of me...when they're not even a fraction of the reason I'm breathing? Sounds crazy to wake up each day and dress myself according to what people will say or think about me when they see me. I love being different, looking different, and talking different. I'm not worried about what people think of me...they should worry about what I think of them.

  42. Whitney05 profile image63
    Whitney05posted 7 years ago

    my self esteem is so low and i am so self-conscious that i don't even care any more. i'm sure that doesn't make sense, but i've come to grasp that there's always going to be someone that's prettier than me, makes more money, whatever. why stress over it. i still do when it comes to certain people, but i've nearly given up.

    1. profile image0
      Kenrick Chatmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Hang in there Whitney. People experience success at different times during their life. Some late and some early. Life is full of ebs and flows.

  43. blondepoet profile image79
    blondepoetposted 7 years ago

    I've wasted so much time in my life, so much energies, so much ado about nothing over worrying what people think. I think when you get your self esteem to a level where, you finally accept the valuable person you really are, nothing else matters. I'm happy to say I'm there but.......there is an exception...if it is a guy I like, I darn well care what he thinks especially when my fake pony tail down to my buttocks falls off in his hands. ROFL.

  44. waynet profile image49
    waynetposted 7 years ago

    No, I am what I am!

    http://hubpages.com/u/2441855_f520.jpg

    1. profile image0
      cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      haha!! big_smile you look like you're intoxicated by chocolate wink

      1. waynet profile image49
        waynetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Yep, gotta eat those easter eggs, even though it's not easter yet!

      2. blondepoet profile image79
        blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Gee that is the best ad I've seen asking to be body painted in chocolate. Anyone got a brush?

  45. Paradise7 profile image86
    Paradise7posted 7 years ago

    YO!

  46. waynet profile image49
    waynetposted 7 years ago

    I could just imagine myself in a zombie chocolate eating movie, where the zombies say cccchocccooolate, instead of brains!!

  47. theirishobserver. profile image60
    theirishobserver.posted 7 years ago

    I could not careless what anyone thinks of me, I have been an independent person since I was 16 years old...moved out and moved on.....owe no one nothing...made my own way in life...

  48. profile image0
    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    why, what do you think about me? yikes

  49. theirishobserver. profile image60
    theirishobserver.posted 7 years ago

    I think your cute...is it ok to say that...is that politically correct.....

  50. NewYorker profile image81
    NewYorkerposted 7 years ago

    All you people who said you don't care what other people think;

    Thank you for lying. EVERYONE cares what other people think. I'm not talking about people like some random dude at a mall or something, I'm talking about people like your friends or something like that. If you were wearing a t-shirt you thought was really cool, but none of your friends would; YOU WOULD NOT WEAR THAT T-SHIRT.

    We all care what other people think. That's why we talk about people behind their backs, and yes, you all do that.
    That's why we change sweaters three times before we go out.
    THat's why we obsess over what shoes to wear.

    WE ALL CARE.

    So no lying.

    1. Arthur Fontes profile image91
      Arthur Fontesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      No, We don't!

    2. tantrum profile image61
      tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I don't .
      so call me a liar if you want.
      What's that foolishness about not using some t-shirt because your friends don't like it ???
      I'm not obsessed about shoes either.
      And I can't care less what you think of me.
      you want to call me a liar?
      go ahead !
      lol

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      cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      hello NewYorker. you're wrong, actually. i have a CATS t-shirt that my friends hate..they like trendy clothes and they think my CATS shirt is a shameless promotion of a bad broadway play no one cares about anymore. but guess what? i wear it anyway. i love CATS and got the shirt at a live performnace of it so i wear it because i like it. what's the worst they're going to do to you? club you to death or something?

      http://i45.tinypic.com/m9y6c5.jpg

      people are going to talk about you behind your back regardless of what you wear if that is the sort of friends they are. seriously, do you really change your sweaters three times before you go anywhere? for what, to please your friends? you can't please everyone, so why don't you just please yourself? i feel sorry for you if you live your life based on what you think others think of you.

      1. AdsenseStrategies profile image73
        AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        So does that mean that that is your chest

 
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