What do u do when ur spouse cheated with an ex co-worker? Since we weren't communcating, or spending anytime together. We were like roomates in the same house. Him and I are on good terms since I found out. I know he hasn't told me detailed and everything I want to know. He has told me the major parts of his infidelty. Do I approach her with what i know or do I leave her alone. We have moved on toward the better by communcation, time spent, and I won't leave out the sex it's better than before. Please advise men and women.
If things are good between you and your spouse, the experience has served to enrich your relationship. Why bother to dig into the rotten debris of the past?
If I understand correctly, you're saying the thought of approaching her is causing you to lose sleep. In that case, forget it. If you feel your relationship with your spouse has improved as a result of honest dialogue, you are the winner and she is the loser.
I would feel much better if i shared with her what exactly what i knew. Right now she probably has an ideal but is unclear. I was planing on writing a letter. Goning to her church one sunday sitting next to her. Pass the letter letting her know that I forgive her. Then leaving with no words exchange. She won't expect me to approach her since it has been Oct and not in a public place her church. I have a plan inwhich i think it would work.
If things are good, then maybe it's not neccesary to approach her, if it happens again then I wouldn't be with her.
Every deserves a 2nd chance, until they fuck that one up as well.
I'm every but of a GEMINI, very mischievous n don't care. I like to gather information, wait then out and plan to attack in a nice way. I would get so much pleasure out of doing this its unreal. Yes, things are back to normal at home as far as i can see. I did tell him that there wouldn't be a second chance. He did notice his mistake, has apologize and said it would never happen again. I have seen change in him, he's also willing to go to counseling.
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