Why does it seem that so many men I have known will admit to maturbating and so many women deny it? Are they lying about it? Why is it still a taboo subject for so many? I think I do it at least two or three times a week...more if you count while having sex with my husband.
I should NOT be getting so personal here, but truth is, whenever I ask my wife about it she's very shy and hush hush about it. I, of course, do not believe the answers she gives me. It is a very good question. I always make it a point when I ask her about it to share with her what I'm doing.
I think that most women were raised to keep sexual things like this hush hush! Truth is that it's healthy not only physically but when you know what makes you happy and what turns you on, it will improve your sex life with your partner! I think more women should do it and fess up! lol
NycoleCarter, I couldn't agree more! It really is good for you...or so the Doc's say. And your point about knowing what turns you on and making your sex life better with your partner is soooo correct. YOU ROCK!
It could be partially due to the double standard. You know the same logic which dictates that ideally women should be virgins until their wedding day while "boys will be boys". Gives the guys more permission to be sexy.
Also, it seems to me that sex has always been a bigger deal to the men and boys I've known. It's not so much that the women had a problem talking about masturbation - it just wasn't that much a part of their thinking.
When you don't think about something very often, making a comment on it is like getting a rusty wheel to turn. Kind of awkward.
I believe that a mental "connection" is necessary for orgasmic arousal. Some are more "connected" than others. Men tend to "connect" through visual stimuli, while women only "connect" when several senses are involved. After all, orgasm is intended as motivation for procreation. I believe that many women simply don't get excited, unless the possibility of conception is afoot. Many women can, however "fool" the primitive nervous components in the brain, into full-on arousal through fantasy, or erotica. Once fully aroused, masturbatory orgasm is inevitable, in most women. Getting aroused, is what isn't happening for you. Saving your most pleasurable moments for the loves in your life is admirable, but lets face it, WOMEN WANK!
Not trying to be taken seriously...just asked a question to a group of what I had hoped to open minded people. I'm not here to gain scores or compete in some popularity contest only to have open dialog, not to boost my ego by trying to show people that I am superior to them or to degrade anyone...just here for fun.
well, can you blame me? all this talk about ruffled cocks and food and dancing and wild music and whether people like their icecream hard or soft!!!! what is a poor girl to do - I can't afford to go to a movie tonight!
The women in my life are all fun but proper. If you tell an off-color joke they usually just stare at you until you apologize and leave. I asked my wife once if she would like to try some bondage games she said sure I'll tie you up and beat the crap out of you. It'll be the last time we play that stupid game! I think she had the wrong attitude but I was out voted.
I'll admit it...I'm single at the moment and have a good stock of batteries on hand for my trusty vibe...Yes I'm lazy...and hey, sometimes you just want to get it over with..great for reducing stress and they say it's good for you physically and emotionally!
I think it's a serious misconception that women don't masturbate as frequently as men. If you've ever been in a porn shop, you'd see that most gadgets are geared for women. Take a tour of the internet and you'll find all kinds of women masturbating!
Hokey: Cut a hole in the bottom of yer pants pocket and ya can do it on the bus unoticed.... When ya get off the bus tho, it's hard to explain why ya "wet" yer pants when ya know all eyes are focused on yer crotch....just look at the floor while yer getting up and off...:-)
My friend and I saw a guy doing it on the subway, while going to high school. The biggest problem was that there was a girl sitting across from him Her back was plastered against the seat backing.
My friend and I started walking toward him, to bet the hell out of him. The train was pulling into a station, and he got off (physically). The doors opened and he ran out while trying to zip up. I hope he got it caught.
No other people were in the car. We told the girl we would sit near her till her stop (didn't want to say; until see got off), and make sure she was safe. She wasn't able to say a word.
Masturbation - Male vs Female? How in the world can ya compare 'em? All I can say is that it feels good so I do it. I think that's all a female can say too. I kinda envy fems tho 'cause they can have multiple ones. What about guys and girls: I masturbate you, you do it to me at the same time? My g/f says wouldn't you like to trade places with me while I'm cumming so that you know what I'm feeling? That would be "cool." I had my first one when I was 12...scared me, but not enuf to keep me from tryin' it again...and again..and again, and again, and again.....:-) I think my right hand is a sex addict!....:-)
I've always wondered what it's like for a woman. Just to let you know, guys can have three or four a night. I do my own research, have always needed a good partner though. Maybe that's why I'm married so long.
I think men are so much more open with it because we're simply more open and relaxed. I have not met a woman, over the age of 25, who's not worked up with stress.
Men are more open about it and women were told never to tell anyone these things, because otherwise they weren't ladies. It's very similar to farting in public. No one gives a crap if a dude does it, but if a woman let's out the tiniest toot.. she's a freak.
Well, if y'all don't TELL us then you have to let us WATCH. Mind you, some guys get so turned on watching they forget to make a mental note of HOW you did it in the first place so it's just best to tell us how you like it.
Personally, when I pleasure myself, it is a time of pleasuring MYSELF and no one else, which means that no one is going to watch me do it or hear about it later. Masturbation, to some women, is a time to completely self indulge, a time that they do not feel is necessary to share with men, or anyone else, for that matter.
Yes, women masturbate. No, women do not need to share it with men. To share it with a man is no longer a private self indulgence. It becomes something the man twists around in his head to become his perverted fantasy, or something the man feels he needs to learn more about.
I made the mistake of telling a man I masturbated once. He began asking question after question. How do I masturbate? Do I use any toys? What do I think about? I felt like my personal fantasy, my self indulgence had been tainted, made into something perverted for a man who could not understand what I was truly feeling, thus taking away the one thing that was completely mine to keep from the world.
feeling much better about going to my lonely bed tonight! for some reason! oh, yes, now I can think of something to do while I am waiting to fall asleep! It won't keep me up all night will it? hope not - I have to work in the morning!
I say this , If you dont want to have sex with yourself ... WHO WILL ? SO MASTURBATE ..male female ..gays . lesbian ..Irrespective of your sexual orientation .. Head is the biggest stimulus ( unless you are planning to dig it deep into ...wherever ) ..
My first orgasm was at 7 too. We had our first try at chin ups on the monkey bars, I was flexing and working EVERY muscle in my little body, started to feel kinda good. Funnily enough I tried every play time to do a chin up and have never managed one! It was years before I found out what I was doing was giving myself tantric orgasms (from muscle contractions instead of touch). When older I have seen other kids around the same age as I was and knew what they were up to with the controlled hip movements slightly shaky, thought I know what they are up to and I shall leave em alone! When my folks saw me doing it (I didn't really get that its not socially acceptable in the living room with the family) they told me to stop or I might put my hip out of the socket!
As per my understanding human beings are the only species capable of masturbating. Lust is the prime factor which prompts for masturbating and this is common in all species. If all other on the universe can control the lust with out masturbating why not the human being too. I have nothing against masturbation. Just out of curiocity I wanted to know more if possible.