What's your view? Do you really think that SEX as in "love making," is very important and should be done in a relationship?
I know I will be set out on the pole for this one, but I do believe it is. It's been my opinion for a long time that we are hardwired to breed and that's what all of the mating courtships are about, finding someone we want to breed with.
And yes, that sounds sick, but I have learned that we are (in some regards) more drawn to primitive instincts than we are willing to admit. If this were not so, then those who took a vow of celibacy (nuns and priests) would be allowed to have boyfriends and girlfriends, as they would have the strength to be in such a relationship without being tempted to falter.
Now, do I think it's 'the' most important thing? Absolutely not! There's much more to a relationship than sex. One need not actually have a relationship to have sex, but sex inevitably plays a role in any serious relationship.
Not talking about just having . Making love is different.
And that's the fine distinction ... A relationship involves emotions (love), whereas one could also participate on a non-emotional level without a relationship.
I think love plays a role in the mix to guide us toward monogamy, which aids in preventing the spread of sexually transmitted diseases. Granted, we don't say to ourselves 'I want to just make love to her so I don't spread diseases', but I think this is another hardwired aspect that is designed for 'safe breeding'.
By partnering up and remaining faithful to one another we give our species a better chance at survival. As such, I think love and monogamy has done much to make the human species successful, which would be why we favor relationships over adhoc mating.
Depends on what level of relationship you have. When I was a lot younger, it was. However, as I grow old (and wiser), I think I'd rather have someone who can I sleep with and be with and talk with rather than make love with. It would be a plus though if I have that all in a guy.
Actually, BOTH are required in a relationship.
There is a difference between "making love" and simple "sex".
However, each has to be incorporated into a relationship, to keep the spice alive and well.
I think everyone should decide what is right for their own relationship. My husband is disabled and sex has not been a part of our relationship for years. I do not miss it. His companionship is what I would miss.
Hell yes it is very important, it brings the closest connection between two people in love, yep very much needed.
by sarahsherlock6 years ago
This is a long debate that I have been having with somebody I work with - I would be interested to hear your views!
by TheFrenchTraveler6 years ago
the age ole question answered can men and women be friends, non sexual bff's? Is it possible or will some emotional attachment and love grow?
by Coricet6 years ago
My wife told me I need to stay away from her during the week and we can only have intercourse on the weekends. During the week we rub, tug, and kiss on each other in the middle of the night, but no fireworks @ the end....
by quietnessandtrust7 years ago
Worship:>Extravagant respect or admiration for or devotion to an object, person of esteem.>A feeling of profound love and admiration.
by Steven Escareno6 years ago
Lol. NO, this forum has nothing to do with me, nor anyone i know in particular. lol. I just felt like opening up another fun sex related forum as i do get a kick out of your reactions. lol. ...
by laswi3 years ago
Suppose your partner wants to have sex. But due to some reason you are not ready. What do you do?
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