Oh, yeah...in fact I was thinking just tonight how lonely it is loving my own 21 year old son. He's going through the know-it-all stage and battles with me constantly. Yet I love him. It's a strange sort of loneliness.
I use to feel that way a while ago, but it has stopped. I think i use to worry too much about things i shouldn't have before, and now that i have more of a care free attitude about things like drama and such, i feel perfectly fine.
I think anyone, can cure themselves of loneliness if they take the right methods for themselves. That is something they will have to figure out on there own.
I don't get lonely, never have. Am pretty sure I could live for years on some remote mountain, return to society in a century or two, and function fairly well as long as the language hadn't changed beyond my ability to communicate.
Which does of course fit the residence location Pam and I have chosen as our "retirement haven"--an acreage 15 miles from the nearest small town and 25 miles from the nearest small city. Even here, we mutter to each other that there are far too many people in the area, keep "overlapping" schedules so that while we do have time to talk to each other each day, there are also times when one is asleep and the other enjoying wide-awake privacy...AND we still require separate bedrooms so strongly that she sleeps in the camp trailer while I head off to an unheated steel storage shed to catch my zz's.
oh i'm so familiar with that word lonliness. i guess we all do but some allow it to stay longer than others and some are so used to banishing it that they don't event know what it feels like any more. it's that feeling that makes a baby cry out when left alone. i'm used to being lonely and i allow loneliness to take over at times. i also think the shy people know more about loneliness and being alone but also they are usually more experienced in enjoying their own company that they only allow themself to be lonely when they want to enjoy the lost feeling of loneliness
I am an introvert and welcome time alone to think.(In my case introvert doesn't mean shy just concerned with my own thoughts and feelings rather than with external things) However some people are extroverts and like being with others. When no one is around they feel lonely.
I'm not even sure someone can change this about their personalities. I do think they can alleviate loneliness by busying themselves.
You need to come out of yourself and get out and keep yourself busy. Your feeling lonely due to the fact that your probably not in a stable relationship or any at that. You need your needs met, feeling alone or lonely is horrible we all have felt it at some stage in our lifes, but to let your guard down a little and get out and start meeting new and exciting people you will soon notice that feeling of alone and being lonely will soon disappear. Feel good in yourself
Hi Figment, I use to have this feeling a long time ago. But one day my husband told me. "Try to appreciate your on compagnie, and you will feel the benefit". At first i didn't understand, but I finaly got it. And now when ever I am alone, I really apreciate my on compagnie and its a wonderful feeling. Sometimes we all need it. It does help you to think properly and rest your brain. . And you feel good. Try and see. You need to really apreciate those moment. When you will, you will never feel alone anymore. Good luck. I really hope that help you.
I do enjoy people and would like to be married again and have that one on one but after all these years I'm also content by myself for I have quite a few intrests such as photography, painting and reading along with hunting in fleamarkets etc that keep me busy. so do I get lonely or feel alone, sometimes yes, sometimes no but....
Yes,sometimes I feel alone when I'm not actually by myself. I feel alone in my sadness or hurt or despair, but I know I'm not really alone. I like solitude, but I despise solitude in the midst of people. Know what I mean?
I wrote a hub about loneliness being contagious after I read a newspaper article that said it is. I know it is - but I also know that you need other people's input so you can get over your loneliness. I'm thinking now what I didn't realize before is that loneliness being such an emotional thing, is like jealousy - it isn't a bad thing to feel it, but you don't have to ACT on it - that is you don't have to make others feel bad just because you feel bad. Saying you are lonely and need a friendly voice is a healthy way to heal from it.
Since I have HubPages I have people to talk to which is really very nice and I love it. However, I miss being out there in the world, talking to strangers in coffee bars, making friends at work, meeting new people in classes - and I don't get to do those things. ahh well - then there is chocolate!
Me too, but only because I am here among all of these great supportive (And occasionally not supportive) writers. Mega is right, this is sort of my life right now. But I have you guys, and need no others right now.
I seem to only feel /lonely/, in missing specific people. If I begin to dwell on my friend Akila, and the fact I haven't talked to her in quite some time now, I start to feel lonely again, because I miss her.
Sometimes I feel alone, but this is usually only when I've become very upset or sad because of something that just happened, or when I tried to reach someone I miss, by phone or internet or otherwise, and couldn't get in touch with them (for similar reasons as to why the other makes me feel alone).
It is when the two are happening at the same time, that I begin to run into problems. But it is because of those moments, actually, that most of my friends have been made. When I am feeling both lonely and alone, I usually end up seeking out the company of someone other than the specific person I've missed. If it's way late at night, or some other circumstance is in effect, to keep me from talking to one of my friends, I tend to reach out to people I don't know, or people I don't usually associate with so closely. That's how I met my friend Akila in the first place.
Still, it makes life feel too transitory, to accept things as being like that, so, for now... I check on Hubpages and peek around, I do a quick update to my Facebook apps, and then sleep. Perhaps tomorrow, I'll call Akila, and see why it is she hasn't been talking to me lately...
Good luck to you, and I hope you feel better. <3 Remember your own wonderful mind, that other people love you for, can be adored and enjoyed just as much by yourself, as for them. And stay strong.
figment - I am wondering whether what you call "loneliness" isn't a kind of low-grade depression which is often caused by some basic nutritional lack. I know a lot about this because I've suffered from it all my life, even when I have been happiest in events of my life there is often this gnawing lonely feeling. So a therapist and a Dr. both instructed me to take mega-doses (FORGIVE PUN) of multi-vitamins whenever I start to feel this. and now I take multi-vitamins religiously every day and it really helps prevent this - so maybe?
And some really positive people around you really helps too. I know what it is like Figment, don't know if you know much about where I came from, but truly there is a way past it. I am living proof. My mother and sister also suffer from depression, so I really can empathize with you. Big hugs all the way from Australia to you!!!
One place where almost every religion agrees with philosophy is that - "we have to love ourself before we can love someone else" I would guess this question comes from the same place, the line of reasoning above goes along with how "we see ourself in how others see us." That is we understand ourself by how others react, respond and treat us. If this line of thinking is right - then being lonely means that not enough people are looking at us in the way that we see ourselves.
yep - I'm always trying to read other people's minds and reacting like an idiot when I don't hear exactly what I want - misunderstanding because I can't really just accept how they are sometimes = then I get lonely because they just give up on me. but here, somebody is almost always on the forums no matter when I tune in - and I can re-read what they wrote if I don't get it the first time. so not lonely for awhile.
A line from one of my favorite songs says "when you are lonely you're the only one to blame." I had to take many years to understand it. Here goes. I watched yes man and all of these people make a covenant to say yes. What would happen in stead of saying no, I said yes. Like here. I said no, no one wants to hear what I have to say... Then I said wait, if I say no what huge opportunity am I missing.
I knew about this place three months before I joined. I was so busy trying to find another place to fit in as layoffs approached and I would be leaving people I had worked with for five years. We had become like a family. I knew I would miss them.
I would never have found you guys and girls if I hadn't decided to take a risk, that same thing might happen here, and you won't lay me off.
Wow, missed this. I should... I don't leave the computer anymore. I have waited my whole life for time to write, and I am afraid something will come up to interupt it. I will get some sand and seashells and bring them back with me as proof.
There are several forums going on right now on the topic of religion, belief in god, etc.With all the intense and often heated discussions going on in this Hub, I'm wondering about the importance of the forum as a...