What do you mean.?"
Describe what exactly you mean when you tell some one you love them.
For example, do you have warm fuzzy feelings for them.
Do you intend to build them up to be a better person?
Are you just trying to get something from him/her?
I never say it.
Reason - never feel it.
Most what I had in my life was some kind of crush, sometimes stronger, sometimes just for a day or two. But you won't just tell someone - you know what, I think I'm having a crush on you.
Never really let myself get into something deeper, though I think the Academy owes me a few Oscars...
The way you talk about love here makes me envious - seems everybody can feel it..
When saying I love you, its a feeling, a deep emotion. When you feel the emotion of love thats when you can express it. some people feel warm and fussy on the inside, some people feel safe in the arms of that person, but to say i love you and not mean it, that is wrong, by saying those 3 words just to get something more from someone is horrible to even hear, only say it when you really mean it because for the people out there who do mean it find it hard enough to say it.
No-one else cares to comment here???
Maybe you don't say the words much?
Or maybe you aren't sure what you mean.
If not, I'll let this thread die.
To me, a sincere I love you is a form of surrender. This does not necessarily imply insecurity and not being independent, it is an admission that you are bonded. In turns emotionally, spiritually and physically.
I remember a quote that said that true love is seeing an imperfect person perfectly. I've always thought it was an apt, if witty, quote.
I also believe that love begins when infatuation ends.
brilliant thanks for your help also this morning on the forums, that is a real good way to describe, loving someone, You are kind of surrendering or letting guard down, lovely thought
That's a pretty mature way to look at it. Thanks.
I have always found this a hard thing to tell anyone, and do not got go round saying it to everyone.
I have found myself lately saying it to a few people, even here on hub pages.
It is when i feel someone truly understands where i am coming from and unconditionally gives me a helping hand,
I have always said it to my children, and grandchildren, i really feel it for them. It was not said much to me, and i think i needed it to be said more.
I used to write "I love my mum"... every now and again, in my childrens school books, they got so angry. Now i realise, i just needed to hear it.....
Did you say "grandchildren"
I never thought you were old enough!
Not that I know you that well,..but..
I agree, that it's not appropriate to say it to just anyone.
i have seven grandchildren the oldest is 12...... there are some pictures of me and my family, and some of the grandchildren on some of my hubs, take a look........
When I say it...to a child, it means I just adore him/her....and will always be there for them, no matter what.
to a friend, it's more like: hey, It's great to have you to share things with ...and thanks for being you..!
to my partner, it means: I want him...in every way a woman can want someone...that I'd rather be with him than anyone else in the world...and that I hope to make him truly and completely happy...
that's what I was gonna say!
also when I love a dog or cat, well, I adore them and will take care of their every need.
also when I love chili dogs - well, that's not a very long relationship, but it is very meaningful!
When I say "I love you" what does it mean?
hhmmm...it means I have given them my heart to have and to hold and please dont crush it.
Love is more than a word
A feeling transmitted between parted lips
More than a connection
Warm hands on curvaceous hips
More than beauty
Held in one's eye
More than a thought
Of cherished friend mine
Warmth that grows
From deep within
An itch not scratched
Below your skin
Beyond the craving
Passion and lust
Beside each other
Together in trust
Trials and tribulations
Together we've faced
Beaten and battered
Yet still in the race
Our lives together
We give each other
A gift not easily found
Love is all of the above
And much more
Eyes to the future
For all that's in store
A present we share
Love isn't love
Until you give it away
So my love on this day
Of Saint Valentine
I count my blessings
That you are mine
Giving thanks to
The Lord above
For teaching me
To know this love
Love is the master key that opens life's gates. Love's the life in this world. Love is the start of every good, the only warmth, the only peace. Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. The first duty of love is to listen. Love is a small world of two people where everything is shared. Love lifts the heart to paradise. Love does not insist on its way. Love is knowing true happiness. Love gives a reason to life.
sounds simple enough....? it also sounds like you (must) have a very loving relationship with your gf or wife. You are a lucky guy.
34 years. I've only loved two times in my life (other then my children but that's different) My first wife; we were married at 18 and she was killed by a drunk driver a few months later and my lovely wife Marilyn. I've never needed or wanted anyone else and yes, I realize in today's society that makes me a weirdo!
sorry to hear about your first wife.
but, still - nope, cant say weirdo. I'm stickin with Lucky!
Oh obsolutely I was lucky. She picked me before I ever knew what was happening. hey, there's an idea. Why don't you sneak up on one of your own. Overwhelm them with your feminine ways.
just intend a better life for the one I say - I love you
I've always liked Robert Heinlein's definition of love in his book "Stranger in a strange land" When Jubal says;
"Love is that condition where the happiness of another is essential to your own."
When I was a young man I said I Love You and didn't mean it. I was told I Love You by those who did not mean it. I was too young to know when I didn't mean it and too naive to realize that the girls didn't mean it either.
These days I only say it when I truly mean it. Women can still fool me though.
Love is a big word. We say it to our children. We say it(should) to our parents. Sometimes it's too late to say it. Sometimes we forget to say it when we should. We say it to our friends and lovers (if any). To our pets. It always has a slightly different meaning, but if we have it in our soul, that means that we are human beings. Love makes us do miracles..."it looks on tempests and is never shaken"... Sometimes it makes us look very stupid and do stupid things...
Love is a huge word for me! I use it generously with my children...maybe because I didn't hear it spoken often as a child myself.
I don't believe in throwing it around when it comes to telling another man that I love him. It holds the deepest meaning and admiration to me and I want the one that hears it to know that it comes from deep within when I say it...throwing it around seems to take away it's luster.
Love for me it means that I wish for your happiness and well being.
I don't think I really truly understood love until I had children. I knew I loved people, ie my parents, sisters, family friends, etc, but I didn't properly grasp the meaning until I had children. Now, to me it means being unselfish and wanting only the best for the person you love. It means doing everything you can to make that person happy. It means sacrifice for their well-being and pain in their sufferance.
Being that there are many levels to love, saying and feeling 'I love you' can mean several things. This is strictly my own interpretation, not taken from any book sources.
For one, saying 'I love you' to your spouse is speaking out of devoted love.
Saying 'I love you' to someone you care deeply for is speaking from a caring love.
Saying 'I love you' to your child is coming from bonding, parental, protective love.
Saying 'I love you' to your parent/sibling/relative is coming from connective, familiar, close love of family.
Saying 'I love you' to a good friend is coming from mutual caring and fondness for each other.
That's what comes to mind for me. And there are different degrees and intensity of love, too. And yes, when these bonds of devotion, caring, bonding, protection, connection, respect, familiarity, family, and fondness are broken or damaged, the love can or may diminish.
When I say 'I love you', I look into his eyes to see a smile and a sparkle in his eyes. When I say 'I love you', I can't help but smile myself and feel exceitment bubbling up through me. And whenever I think about being with my husband I still get butterflies in my stomach.
It's a simple positive, kind statement - not necessarily meant in a romantic sense.
A friend could give me a good idea and I'd kiss them on the cheek and say "love yah". To me that was appreciation.
I say "I love you" to my friends little kids who are close to me. Thats my affection towards them.
Saying it to a "Significant other". Mmmmmh, do you have space for a Hub?
I had someone say to me once at the end of an emotionally pleading conversation: "......it doesn't mean I don't adore you!" It still pulls at my heartstrings and brings tears to my eyes.
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