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When you say, "I love you...

  1. aka-dj profile image80
    aka-djposted 6 years ago

    What do you mean.?"

    Describe what exactly you mean when you tell some one you love them.
    For example, do you have warm fuzzy feelings for them.
    Do you intend to build them up to be a better person?
    Are you just trying to get something from him/her?

    1. Black Lilly profile image77
      Black Lillyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I never say it.
      Reason - never feel it.

      Most what I had in my life was some kind of crush, sometimes stronger, sometimes just for a day or two. But you won't just tell someone - you know what, I think I'm having a crush on you.
      Never really let myself get into something deeper, though I think the Academy owes me a few Oscars...

      The way you talk about love here makes me envious - seems everybody can feel it..

  2. Ask Leanne? profile image59
    Ask Leanne?posted 6 years ago

    When saying I love you, its a feeling, a deep emotion. When you feel the emotion of love thats when you can express it. some people feel warm and fussy on the inside, some people feel safe in the arms of that person, but to say i love you and not mean it, that is wrong, by saying those 3 words just to get something more from someone is horrible to even hear, only say it when you really mean it because for the people out there who do mean it find it hard enough to say it.

    1. aka-dj profile image80
      aka-djposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      So, you are basically expressing an emotion? Ye?
      What happens when that (those) emotion(s) change, or fade. Or, God forbid, dissapear? What then?

  3. aka-dj profile image80
    aka-djposted 6 years ago

    No-one else cares to comment here???
    Maybe you don't say the words much?
    Or maybe you aren't sure what you mean.
    If not, I'll let this thread die. sad

  4. thooghun profile image86
    thooghunposted 6 years ago

    To me, a sincere I love you is a form of surrender. This does not necessarily imply insecurity and not being independent, it is an admission that you are bonded. In turns emotionally, spiritually and physically.

    I remember a quote that said that true love is seeing an imperfect person perfectly. I've always thought it was an apt, if witty, quote.

    I also believe that love begins when infatuation ends.

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      poetlorraineposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      brilliant thanks for your help also this morning on the forums,  that is a real good way to describe, loving someone,  You are kind of surrendering or letting guard down, lovely thought

    2. aka-dj profile image80
      aka-djposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      That's a pretty mature way to look at it. big_smile Thanks.

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    poetlorraineposted 6 years ago

    I have always found this a hard thing to tell anyone, and do not got go round saying it to everyone.

    I have found myself lately saying it to a few people, even here on hub pages.

    It is when i feel someone truly understands where i am coming from and unconditionally gives me a helping hand,

    I have always said it to my children, and grandchildren, i really feel it for them.  It was  not said much to me, and i think i needed it to  be said more.

    I used to write "I love my mum"... every now and again, in my childrens school books, they got so angry.  Now i realise, i just needed to hear it.....

    1. aka-dj profile image80
      aka-djposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Did you say "grandchildren" hmm
      I never thought you were old enough!
      Not that I know you that well,..but.. big_smile

      I agree, that it's not appropriate to say it to just anyone. smile

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        poetlorraineposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        i have seven grandchildren the oldest is 12...... there are some pictures of me and my family, and some of the grandchildren on some of my hubs, take a look........

        1. aka-dj profile image80
          aka-djposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Ahha! I was right!!

          I saw that hub, and though you have them, you look way younger, just as I thought. big_smile

  6. myownworld profile image79
    myownworldposted 6 years ago

    When I say it...to a child, it means I just adore him/her....and will always be there for them, no matter what.

    to a friend, it's more like: hey, It's great to have you to share things with ...and thanks for being you..!

    to my partner, it means: I want him...in every way a woman can want someone...that I'd rather be with him than anyone else in the world...and that I hope to make him truly and completely happy... smile

    1. aka-dj profile image80
      aka-djposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Cool. On all three counts.
      Good on you. big_smile

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      sophsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I agree with MOW! smile

    3. mega1 profile image78
      mega1posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      that's what I was gonna say!

      also when I love a dog or cat, well, I adore them and will take care of their every need.

      also when I love chili dogs - well, that's not a very long relationship, but it is very meaningful!

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    china manposted 6 years ago

    This is Christian door knocking online - big_smile big_smile

    1. aka-dj profile image80
      aka-djposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Are you answering the door??

  8. Rafini profile image81
    Rafiniposted 6 years ago

    When I say "I love you" what does it mean?

    hhmmm...it means I have given them my heart to have and to hold and please dont crush it.

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    Poppa Bluesposted 6 years ago

    Love Is...
    Love is more than a word

    A feeling transmitted between parted lips

    More than a connection

    Warm hands on curvaceous hips

    More than beauty

    Held in one's eye

    More than a thought

    Of cherished friend mine

    Warmth that grows

    From deep within

    An itch not scratched

    Below your skin

    Beyond the craving

    Passion and lust

    Beside each other

    Together in trust

    Trials and tribulations

    Together we've faced

    Beaten and battered

    Yet still in the race

    Our lives together

    Forever bound

    We give each other

    A gift not easily found

    Love is all of the above

    And much more

    Eyes to the future

    For all that's in store

    A present we share

    Every day

    Love isn't love

    Until you give it away

    So my love on this day

    Of Saint Valentine

    I count my blessings

    That you are mine

    Giving thanks to

    The Lord above

    For teaching me

    To know this love

  10. tobey100 profile image60
    tobey100posted 6 years ago

    Love is the master key that opens life's gates. Love's the life in this world. Love is the start of every good, the only warmth, the only peace. Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. The first duty of love is to listen. Love is a small world of two people where everything is shared. Love lifts the heart to paradise. Love does not insist on its way. Love is knowing true happiness. Love gives a reason to life.

    1. Rafini profile image81
      Rafiniposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      sounds simple enough....?  it also sounds like you (must) have a very loving relationship with your gf or wife.  You are a lucky guy.

      1. tobey100 profile image60
        tobey100posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        34 years.  I've only loved two times in my life (other then my children but that's different)  My first wife; we were married at 18 and she was killed by a drunk driver a few months later and my lovely wife Marilyn.  I've never needed or wanted anyone else and yes, I realize in today's society that makes me a weirdo! smile

        1. Rafini profile image81
          Rafiniposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          sorry to hear about your first wife.

          but, still - nope, cant say weirdo.  I'm stickin with Lucky!   smile

          1. tobey100 profile image60
            tobey100posted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Oh obsolutely I was lucky.  She picked me before I ever knew what was happening.  hey, there's an idea.  Why don't you sneak up on one of your own.  Overwhelm them with your feminine ways.  smile

            1. Rafini profile image81
              Rafiniposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              what a lovely idea!   smile

              um, ooops.  i may be a woman, but i'm not feminine!   lol

  11. Preethi Anusha profile image90
    Preethi Anushaposted 6 years ago

    just intend a better life for the one I say - I love you

  12. iantoPF profile image88
    iantoPFposted 6 years ago

    I've always liked Robert Heinlein's definition of love in his book "Stranger in a strange land" When Jubal says;
    "Love is that condition where the happiness of another is essential to your own."
    When I was a young man I said I Love You and didn't mean it. I was told I Love You by those who did not mean it. I was too young to know when I didn't mean it and too naive to realize that the girls didn't mean it either.
    These days I only say it when I truly mean it. Women can still fool me though.

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    Home Girlposted 6 years ago

    Love is a big word. We say it to our children. We say it(should) to our parents. Sometimes it's too late to say it. Sometimes we forget to say it when we should. We say it to our friends and lovers (if any). To our pets. It always has a slightly different meaning, but if we have it in our soul, that means that we are human beings. Love makes us do miracles..."it looks on tempests and is never shaken"... Sometimes it makes us look very stupid and do stupid things...

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    moonphlowerposted 6 years ago

    Love is a huge word for me!  I use it generously with my children...maybe because I didn't hear it spoken often as a child myself. 

    I don't believe in throwing it around when it comes to telling another man that I love him.  It holds the deepest meaning and admiration to me and I want the one that hears it to know that it comes from deep within when I say it...throwing it around seems to take away it's luster.

  15. Hokey profile image59
    Hokeyposted 6 years ago

    Love for me it means that I wish for your happiness and well being.

    Hi moonphlower.

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      moonphlowerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Hi Hokey!  smile

  16. megs78 profile image59
    megs78posted 6 years ago

    I don't think I really truly understood love until I had children. I knew I loved people, ie my parents, sisters, family friends, etc, but I didn't properly grasp the meaning until I had children.  Now, to me it means being unselfish and wanting only the best for the person you love.  It means doing everything you can to make that person happy.  It means sacrifice for their well-being and pain in their sufferance.

  17. donotfear profile image91
    donotfearposted 6 years ago

    Being that there are many levels to love, saying and feeling 'I love you' can mean several things. This is strictly my own interpretation, not taken from any book sources.

    (And feeling)

    For one, saying 'I love you' to your spouse is speaking out of devoted love.

    Saying 'I love you' to someone you care deeply for is speaking from a caring love.

    Saying 'I love you' to your child is coming from bonding, parental, protective love.

    Saying 'I love you' to your parent/sibling/relative is coming from connective, familiar, close love of family.

    Saying 'I love you' to a good friend is coming from mutual caring and fondness for each other.

    That's what comes to mind for me. And there are different degrees and intensity of love, too. And yes, when these bonds of devotion, caring, bonding, protection, connection, respect, familiarity, family, and fondness are broken or damaged, the love can or may diminish.

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    Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago

    When I say 'I love you', I look into his eyes to see a smile and a sparkle in his eyes. When I say 'I love you', I can't help but smile myself and feel exceitment bubbling up through me. And whenever I think about being with my husband I still get butterflies in my stomach.

    1. aka-dj profile image80
      aka-djposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      He smiles because you make him smile by loving him.

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        Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        thanks aka-dj and yea you are right. smile

  19. Lady_E profile image83
    Lady_Eposted 6 years ago

    It's a simple positive, kind statement - not necessarily meant in a romantic sense.

    A friend could give me a good idea and I'd kiss them on the cheek and say "love yah".  To me that was appreciation.

    I say "I love you" to my friends little kids who are close to me. Thats my affection towards them.

    Saying it to a "Significant other".  Mmmmmh, do you have space for a Hub?

  20. donotfear profile image91
    donotfearposted 6 years ago

    I had someone say to me once at the end of an emotionally pleading conversation: "......it doesn't mean I don't adore you!"  It still pulls at my heartstrings and brings tears to my eyes.