When you say, "I love you...

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   aka-djposted 14 years ago

   What do you mean.?"
   
   Describe what exactly you mean when you tell some one you love them.
   For example, do you have warm fuzzy feelings for them.
   Do you intend to build them up to be a better person?
   Are you just trying to get something from him/her?
   

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      Black Lillyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I never say it.
      Reason - never feel it.
      
      Most what I had in my life was some kind of crush, sometimes stronger, sometimes just for a day or two. But you won't just tell someone - you know what, I think I'm having a crush on you.
      Never really let myself get into something deeper, though I think the Academy owes me a few Oscars...
      
      The way you talk about love here makes me envious - seems everybody can feel it..

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   Ask Leanne?posted 14 years ago

   When saying I love you, its a feeling, a deep emotion. When you feel the emotion of love thats when you can express it. some people feel warm and fussy on the inside, some people feel safe in the arms of that person, but to say i love you and not mean it, that is wrong, by saying those 3 words just to get something more from someone is horrible to even hear, only say it when you really mean it because for the people out there who do mean it find it hard enough to say it.

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      aka-djposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      So, you are basically expressing an emotion? Ye?
      What happens when that (those) emotion(s) change, or fade. Or, God forbid, dissapear? What then?

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   aka-djposted 14 years ago

   No-one else cares to comment here???
   Maybe you don't say the words much?
   Or maybe you aren't sure what you mean.
   Anyone??
   If not, I'll let this thread die.

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   thooghunposted 14 years ago

   To me, a sincere I love you is a form of surrender. This does not necessarily imply insecurity and not being independent, it is an admission that you are bonded. In turns emotionally, spiritually and physically.
   
   I remember a quote that said that true love is seeing an imperfect person perfectly. I've always thought it was an apt, if witty, quote.
   
   I also believe that love begins when infatuation ends.

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      poetlorraineposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      brilliant thanks for your help also this morning on the forums,  that is a real good way to describe, loving someone,  You are kind of surrendering or letting guard down, lovely thought

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      aka-djposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      That's a pretty mature way to look at it. Thanks.

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   poetlorraineposted 14 years ago

   I have always found this a hard thing to tell anyone, and do not got go round saying it to everyone.
   
   I have found myself lately saying it to a few people, even here on hub pages.
   
   It is when i feel someone truly understands where i am coming from and unconditionally gives me a helping hand,
   
   I have always said it to my children, and grandchildren, i really feel it for them.  It was  not said much to me, and i think i needed it to  be said more.
   
   I used to write "I love my mum"... every now and again, in my childrens school books, they got so angry.  Now i realise, i just needed to hear it.....

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      aka-djposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Did you say "grandchildren"
      I never thought you were old enough!
      Not that I know you that well,..but..
      
      I agree, that it's not appropriate to say it to just anyone.

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         poetlorraineposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         i have seven grandchildren the oldest is 12...... there are some pictures of me and my family, and some of the grandchildren on some of my hubs, take a look........

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            aka-djposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Ahha! I was right!!
            
            I saw that hub, and though you have them, you look way younger, just as I thought.

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   myownworldposted 14 years ago

   When I say it...to a child, it means I just adore him/her....and will always be there for them, no matter what.
   
   to a friend, it's more like: hey, It's great to have you to share things with ...and thanks for being you..!
   
   to my partner, it means: I want him...in every way a woman can want someone...that I'd rather be with him than anyone else in the world...and that I hope to make him truly and completely happy...

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      aka-djposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Cool. On all three counts.
      Good on you.

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      sophsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with MOW!

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      mega1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      that's what I was gonna say!
      
      also when I love a dog or cat, well, I adore them and will take care of their every need.
      
      also when I love chili dogs - well, that's not a very long relationship, but it is very meaningful!

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   china manposted 14 years ago

   This is Christian door knocking online -

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      aka-djposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Are you answering the door??

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   Rafiniposted 14 years ago

   When I say "I love you" what does it mean?
   
   hhmmm...it means I have given them my heart to have and to hold and please dont crush it.

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   Poppa Bluesposted 14 years ago

   Love Is...
   Love is more than a word
   
   A feeling transmitted between parted lips
   
   More than a connection
   
   Warm hands on curvaceous hips
   
   
   More than beauty
   
   Held in one's eye
   
   More than a thought
   
   Of cherished friend mine
   
   
   Warmth that grows
   
   From deep within
   
   An itch not scratched
   
   Below your skin
   
   
   Beyond the craving
   
   Passion and lust
   
   Beside each other
   
   Together in trust
   
   
   Trials and tribulations
   
   Together we've faced
   
   Beaten and battered
   
   Yet still in the race
   
   
   Our lives together
   
   Forever bound
   
   We give each other
   
   A gift not easily found
   
   
   Love is all of the above
   
   And much more
   
   Eyes to the future
   
   For all that's in store
   
   
   A present we share
   
   Every day
   
   Love isn't love
   
   Until you give it away
   
   
   So my love on this day
   
   Of Saint Valentine
   
   I count my blessings
   
   That you are mine
   
   
   Giving thanks to
   
   The Lord above
   
   For teaching me
   
   To know this love

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    tobey100posted 14 years ago

    Love is the master key that opens life's gates. Love's the life in this world. Love is the start of every good, the only warmth, the only peace. Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. The first duty of love is to listen. Love is a small world of two people where everything is shared. Love lifts the heart to paradise. Love does not insist on its way. Love is knowing true happiness. Love gives a reason to life.

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       Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       sounds simple enough....?  it also sounds like you (must) have a very loving relationship with your gf or wife.  You are a lucky guy.

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          tobey100posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          34 years.  I've only loved two times in my life (other then my children but that's different)  My first wife; we were married at 18 and she was killed by a drunk driver a few months later and my lovely wife Marilyn.  I've never needed or wanted anyone else and yes, I realize in today's society that makes me a weirdo!

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             Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             sorry to hear about your first wife.
             
             but, still - nope, cant say weirdo.  I'm stickin with Lucky!   

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                tobey100posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                Oh obsolutely I was lucky.  She picked me before I ever knew what was happening.  hey, there's an idea.  Why don't you sneak up on one of your own.  Overwhelm them with your feminine ways. 

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                   Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   what a lovely idea!   
                   
                   
                   um, ooops.  i may be a woman, but i'm not feminine!   lol

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    Preethi Anushaposted 14 years ago

    just intend a better life for the one I say - I love you

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    iantoPFposted 14 years ago

    I've always liked Robert Heinlein's definition of love in his book "Stranger in a strange land" When Jubal says;
    "Love is that condition where the happiness of another is essential to your own."
    When I was a young man I said I Love You and didn't mean it. I was told I Love You by those who did not mean it. I was too young to know when I didn't mean it and too naive to realize that the girls didn't mean it either.
    These days I only say it when I truly mean it. Women can still fool me though.

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    Home Girlposted 14 years ago

    Love is a big word. We say it to our children. We say it(should) to our parents. Sometimes it's too late to say it. Sometimes we forget to say it when we should. We say it to our friends and lovers (if any). To our pets. It always has a slightly different meaning, but if we have it in our soul, that means that we are human beings. Love makes us do miracles..."it looks on tempests and is never shaken"... Sometimes it makes us look very stupid and do stupid things...

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    moonphlowerposted 14 years ago

    Love is a huge word for me!  I use it generously with my children...maybe because I didn't hear it spoken often as a child myself. 
    
    I don't believe in throwing it around when it comes to telling another man that I love him.  It holds the deepest meaning and admiration to me and I want the one that hears it to know that it comes from deep within when I say it...throwing it around seems to take away it's luster.

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    Hokeyposted 14 years ago

    Love for me it means that I wish for your happiness and well being.
    
    
    Hi moonphlower.

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       moonphlowerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Hi Hokey! 

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    megs78posted 14 years ago

    I don't think I really truly understood love until I had children. I knew I loved people, ie my parents, sisters, family friends, etc, but I didn't properly grasp the meaning until I had children.  Now, to me it means being unselfish and wanting only the best for the person you love.  It means doing everything you can to make that person happy.  It means sacrifice for their well-being and pain in their sufferance.

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    donotfearposted 14 years ago

    Being that there are many levels to love, saying and feeling 'I love you' can mean several things. This is strictly my own interpretation, not taken from any book sources.
    
    (And feeling)
    
    For one, saying 'I love you' to your spouse is speaking out of devoted love.
    
    Saying 'I love you' to someone you care deeply for is speaking from a caring love.
    
    Saying 'I love you' to your child is coming from bonding, parental, protective love.
    
    Saying 'I love you' to your parent/sibling/relative is coming from connective, familiar, close love of family.
    
    Saying 'I love you' to a good friend is coming from mutual caring and fondness for each other.
    
    That's what comes to mind for me. And there are different degrees and intensity of love, too. And yes, when these bonds of devotion, caring, bonding, protection, connection, respect, familiarity, family, and fondness are broken or damaged, the love can or may diminish.

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    Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago

    When I say 'I love you', I look into his eyes to see a smile and a sparkle in his eyes. When I say 'I love you', I can't help but smile myself and feel exceitment bubbling up through me. And whenever I think about being with my husband I still get butterflies in my stomach.

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       aka-djposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       He smiles because you make him smile by loving him.

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          Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          thanks aka-dj and yea you are right.

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    Lady_Eposted 14 years ago

    It's a simple positive, kind statement - not necessarily meant in a romantic sense.
    
    A friend could give me a good idea and I'd kiss them on the cheek and say "love yah".  To me that was appreciation.
    
    
    I say "I love you" to my friends little kids who are close to me. Thats my affection towards them.
    
    Saying it to a "Significant other".  Mmmmmh, do you have space for a Hub?

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    donotfearposted 14 years ago

    I had someone say to me once at the end of an emotionally pleading conversation: "......it doesn't mean I don't adore you!"  It still pulls at my heartstrings and brings tears to my eyes.

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