Congratulations! Ten years is quite the accomplishment these days and I hope you will have many more happy wedding anniversaries to come
Pondering leaving? Although I disagree with the way you express yourself at times, I admire anyone who is so willing to stand up for their beliefs. Instead of leaving, why not change your approach a bit? People aren't getting angry because of WHAT you say, they are getting angry because of how you say it.
Sometimes it is better to keep silent when you feel you are being personally attacked. The more you respond, the more cruel their comments will become. The more cruel their comments become, the more frustrated you will become. The more frustrated you become, the less people will take you seriously.
You must also remember that people have the right to their own opinions, whether you agree with them or not. You're not going to change the world by sitting in front of your computer, making rather harsh judgments about people whom you've never met. You can't win people over by being negative. Instead, be kind and focus on the positive parts of your beliefs. Take a step back once in awhile and think, "Hm, how would I feel if someone were saying these things to me? ...How can I rephrase this so it sounds more positive?"
I do hope you'll stay, Brenda. Although I am not Christian, I have found your everlasting presence in the forums a comfort, in a way. When I open a controversial thread, I know without a doubt that you're going to be there.
Maybe take a few days off from HubPages before you make your decision?
yes it is. But one that can have far-reaching consequences, really. As any of them can! Remember how powerful the written word is, whether it's in an article online or a forum like this..... I never underestimate the written (nor spoken) word.....
take a break from the forums, i am going over to read some of your hubs. Why people make life hell on the forums i will never know...... You are strong enough to take it.... but walk away when you do not feel you are, peace and love always
Remember the forums are just a sideline to the main purpose of HubPages. You can choose to rise above any conflict in the forums and just concentrate on writing Hubs for the much larger audience out there in search engine land.
We may disagree on some things, Brenda, but if I may offer a bit of (perhaps unwanted) opinion on the matter: Don't let the people and posts around here bug you so! You've a right to your opinion, they've a right to theirs...and if they dissolve into childish name-calling so be it--Don't give folks the satisfaction of pushing you around with empty, silly words.
I'm all for free will and doing what you choose, so I would never tell you that you *should* stay or you *should* go...but I would suggest doing either one as a consciously chosen action rather than an emotional RE-action...I think I've seen you say something pretty similar to others before
It shouldn't. My most heated arguments are with friends and family. After we're done, (or just taking a break) we're still friends and family. While I disagree vehemently with many of your posted opinions, I wish nothing for you personally other than continued happiness and more decades with your spouse.
lol you better believe he is! Last time I looked anyway! ha
He's....quite an enigma in many ways. Totally opposite of me in many ways. Younger than me; ambitious and perplexing, smart as a whip; The product of a manipulative, confusing and confused life that only got redeemed by the blood of the Lamb of God (but then, that's the only redemption anyone has!) He has quite a testimony if and when he chooses to share it with lost souls.
We fought like crazy about the first 3 years, actually. A relationship made between a gradually-backsliding, rebellious divorcee (me) and a troubled, worldly, but seeking man (him). Our only hope ended up being, of course, intervention by---you guessed it--God. "A threefold cord is not quickly broken."
I'm handing out what seems like too much information here because it's...an occasion to witness to the mercy of the Lord. I know what it's like to be in a backslidden position. I know what it's like to rebel against the Word. I know what it's like to be in need of His Salvation and not even admit it at the time. I know what it's like to be lost. \
He must've given an angel charge over me, because I was certainly in a low low place for several years of my life, and I'm afraid I would've died in my sins if He hadn't been so merciful, and His Spirit so convicting.
I honestly don't recall you being rude to me, wordscribe! So I don't think you owe me an apology! But I certainly accept it, if you feel you wanted to do it. Thank you. And I hope I've never hurt you either. If I have, please tell me so I can make it right if possible.
Yes, time flies. So fast! Seems like only yesterday that I didn't have to worry about hairs on my chin! hahaha 12 and a half years; I hope they've been good years for you! I know what you mean by it seemin' like 50! ha
Don't even get me started on chin hairs... Sigh. Vaniqa (Vaniqua sp?) here I come.
I can't remember the context now, but I remember making a comment to you I regret. I've learned a lot in these forums, actually. Especially in the religious ones... Nothing gets accomplished by being rude, as I've been from time to time. I just end up feeling like a jerk in the end.
No, you've never said anything to hurt me. Thanks for your understanding.
Mark, it's strange that God hasn't told me that yet. Wonder why? Maybe I haven't asked Him yet...or maybe He thinks it really is okay. Did that ever occur to you?
At any rate, I put "preach" in quotations because I'm not a preacher in the usual sense; I feel no calling to be a Pastor or stand in a pulpit. I "preach" through my poetry and by engaging in discussion about God, etc. I probably do it more fervently than many women, yes....
P.S. GOD is always right. Your interpretation isn't always right.
haha yeah that about sums it up, darkside. But I am still pondering! When one door closes, another one opens. I dunno whether to close the door or not.
@ Mark, like I said, I think there's a Biblical difference between actually being a Preacher, and spreading the Gospel in whatever way a person (woman or man) finds access and ability to. AND wherever there's a NEED for it. The need is the main thing. The Word must go out, and will go out, to a lost people! The USA for sure has a need for some bold Preachers in the public eye! Where are they? Rick Warren? Yikes! That man compromised his Biblical stance publicly the day he spoke his watered-down, tolerant speech at Obama's Inauguration. It wouldn't surprise me if MORE women didn't start "preaching" boldly if a strong MAN doesn't step up to the plate! Telling people about Jesus isn't restricted to just males, anyway. Speaking Truth isn't limited to males.
Brenda I do not know you and am just catching up. Don't leave. Just write and find a happy place. If you are addressed in a forum in a way that you do not wish to respond, then don't. This is a wonderful opportunity for people the world over to meet and share our lives with each other. Even among our closest friends and relatives we, at times, agree to disagree. This does not make us any less friends or family. Whether we are lead by God or a need for connection with others, whether we are religious or political in our views, it is a place for all of us. You would be missed if you left, even if I do not know you yet.
In life we are baited. Remember Jesus admonishing us to turn the other cheek? Okay, what about the scriture on knocking the dust from your feet? Sometimes silence is golden, may I call you my friend. Sometimes a smile makes others think, "What is she up to?" which can be so much more rewarding than having the last word. (HUGS)
I know. There's even the Scripture about casting pearls too. Boy does that one get people's hackles up (at least when we don't keep it to ourselves! ha).
Honestly, it isn't about having the last word, with me! I'm so fearful for people's souls. Doesn't matter whether people believe that or not, it's true. Why I do that is because the Lord God Himself gave warning after warning after warning to a people He loved but who had backslidden, and to sinners whose souls He wanted saved. Time after time, like a father teaching his kids, like a broken record over and over in the hopes that someday they'd GET IT! He didnt' consider them stupid, He just considered them foolish and subject to temptation.
That's how I see it too....
I'm editing to say I consider myself foolish too, horribly foolish without the help of the Lord.... Didn't want anyone to take that wrong...
I think there's no such thing as an inconsequential Christian. The Word doesn't return void. God just works through each of us according to our abilities and personalities, and our level of willingness; every Christian has an impact somewhere.
I see hubpages and similar sites as boxes. Boxes with interesting things in it. I play with those interesting things. If I get a little bored with one I don't throw it away or destroy the contents, I put it aside and play with another box. Later I'll come back to the original box and I may have more insight, wisdom and understanding on how to properly play with those things inside (not to mention fun).
The bonus, and where the wheels of this analogy fall off completely, is that you can make money even while you 'neglect' a site that is set up for residual passive income.
Congratulations on the 10 years Brenda! Way to go, hun! As for the tormentors on this site, you get my vote for standing up to them and for what you believe in. I'm not a religionist, but I would never suggest someone else who is, is wrong. Some people here need to grow up and shut up.
I am a very picky eater...what can I say. My taste buds and I agree it's a texture thing. Coconut does not have a good texture nor a good taste to it so even covering it up with chocolate won't help any. *gag*
Mint chocolate chip is my favorite flavor of ice cream...particularly from a company called Green's(who unfortunately does not serve the area in which I currently live). They had the creamiest mint ice cream and filled it with thin flakes/slivers of pure, wonderful milk chocolate that melted on the tongue like snowflakes. Bliss.
They also made cherry chocolate chip that was to do die for (and I don't like cherry anything!); they're the only company I know of who makes that flavor.
I was living in Maryland at the time, and I have a sneaky suspicion that they're a small company serving a limited region
I haven't been able to find their ice cream in West Virginia...BUT we DID just start getting UTZ potato chips (which I believe are made in PA and only shipped to a limited area as well) so there may be hope.
Find their website, find their email and complain that you can't find their ice cream any where and you know that where you live a lot of ppl would buy their ice cream. I did that and now we have a CiCi's in San Diego as well as The Melting Pot I got all my friends to do it too. so if you bring it to their attention then maybe they'll do the research and possibly send out their ice cream to your area.
Yes, 10 years is long enough! leave the bastard! If he can't treat you right and gets away with only giving you some measly chocolates on the 10th anniv, that's reason enough! I say go now, before it gets really ugly - - - what? huh?
oh, you mean you are pondering leaving HUBPAGES? gaaaaah! NO! you can't do that - we would miss you, really, and besides, sometimes you are one of the only voices of reason, even tho I usually disagree with you. Everyone is getting so agreeable, I need someone to say the things you say - PLLLLEEEEEEEAAAAASE! don't go! I really don't know how you could even think it!
how was that? huh? well, shucks, gosh knows I try!
I forget which thread we were in the other day when I believe Cags said he thought your new picture wasn't as good as others and the smile was phoney (phony?) looking! remember that? or did I imagine it? anyhow it looks wonderful! I don't think it looks fake - never did!
yep - stirred things up, didn't I - not sorry not sorry . . . and that old pic scared me too! it made me think you are a writer of horror stories! hehehe gosh this is more fun than I've had on the forums for quite awhile!
not much, wrote 2 hubs in 2 weeks! looking for people to have fun with here, mainly. Most of my old buds have gotten serious about one thing and another. Going to take a 4 day vacation next week in SF! whoooooopeeee! I need it too
now, can I join the Depp club? I love him probably about as much as any of you's guys! so can I - when and where ever there is a meeting I will be there! will make some t-shirts with Depp in his glasses, which is how I like him.
k - hey, wouldn't it be cool if we could have different profile pics on different threads? like I was just giving big booby hugs over in the Tribe thread and thought, you know, how inappropriate this pic is over here - in fact, I forget what we are sposed to be talking about - oh - Brenda! well she left for awhile . . .
Jen, take a nap but come back later. I want to chat in "the OTHER" room. Need to get some stuff off my chest. Yes, Brenda, sorry we really did get carried away here... When the topic's chocolate, we get a little crazy.
I want my mugs back! and yes Johnny Depp is involved...I stated once about the new Alice in wonderland moving coming out with Depp in it and they all made me the president of the Depp Club even after I said no
You are not alone in pondering over that issue since I can publish anything I wish on my own website and can also publish on my boss' website in my own column. Still, there are some people here that almost want to make me try again. Nevertheless, I have published one more hub--for sure--that had to see the light of day before this month is over. (If you're the least bit interested in what all happened feel free to go to the wsp2469 profile OR check out the CLOSED forum on the closing of wsp2469.)
@ W. Scott Phoenix, I couldn't find an original profile for wsp, nor a "Closed" forum, but found some previous postings in the forums. I'm very vocal when I know about an issue, but I don't know you, so I won't comment on anything concerning banning......but I did read your current hub and commented on it.
Always nice to "meet" another hubber. Hope you do well and enjoy the site!
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