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Why do I have to be positive?

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    rhartlandsbergposted 7 years ago

    Why is it deemed unhealthy to feel or act negatively? If I don't feel positive about a situation I feel like it's more satisfying and true to myself to let my negative thoughts and emotions out rather than force a positive disposition.

    It seems shallow to me to only want to be around someone when they are happy. It seems arrogant to try to force someone to do the things that YOU think will make them happy.

    Any thoughts on this?

    1. calpol25 profile image75
      calpol25posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Positivity and Negativity go hand in hand, but when it comes this you should always be yourself and not what other people want you to be stay true to your own self and dont change by what other people say.
      Thats what makes us individuals and human.

    2. Pearldiver profile image86
      Pearldiverposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Hiiiiiiiiiiii............... Byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!

      I think this just about sums up how a positive thinking person feels about meeting someone who embraces a negative outlook. hmm

      Personally, I'm allergic to negative people... I find them deeply in need of an improved self esteem and sense of self worth. hmm

      1. Cagsil profile image59
        Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Hey Pearldiver, wouldn't be nice for them to know the "how to" about going and doing it? If they don't know, then it can apparently hurt them.

        On another note, as to the thread. It's not so much about having the right "outlook" or even remaining positive. It's the view of optimism. Sure, you can have a negative outlook on specific things that happen in life, but you cannot have a negative outlook on life in general.

        1. samboiam profile image60
          samboiamposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Cagsil, very well said.

          1. Pearldiver profile image86
            Pearldiverposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Interesting comments Cagsil..... What exactly did you say? hmm

            1. Cagsil profile image59
              Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              I said, wouldn't it be nice, if those who lacked "self-esteem" and "self-worth" knew "how to" going about getting it in the first place.

              Which lead me to say, If they don't know "how to", then obvious it is apparently going to hurt them.

              Is that better? smile wink

              1. Pearldiver profile image86
                Pearldiverposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Thanks for clarifying your post! Your accent was not doing justice to your words big_smile

                Yes, I guess it would be a perfect world if we all took responsibility for our outlooks and attitudes and of course the related actions of which negatively influence others hmm

                Clearly you see the 'how to' as being an educational issue? hmm
                Perhaps the most relevant first lesson to learn on that issue is: "Never listen to anyone more negative than yourself!" lol

                1. Cagsil profile image59
                  Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  lol lol lol lol lol

                  Not what I was thinking, but okay. tongue


                  Edit: Educational issue? Yes, passed down by generation after generation, simply because it was never known. hmm How sad? sad

          2. Cagsil profile image59
            Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Thank you. smile

      2. PrettyPanther profile image85
        PrettyPantherposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I'm with you.  I no longer  will voluntarily spend time with a negative person.  Life is too short and my time is too valuable.

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          rhartlandsbergposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Is there no value in using your own positivity to learn to embrace someone with a different outlook than yourself?

          Is there no value in acknowledging negative aspects of all of our lives so that we might change them for the better?

          1. PrettyPanther profile image85
            PrettyPantherposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Sure, there is value in both of those things.  However, it is possible to acknowledge negative aspects of our lives without "being" negative.

            1. Pearldiver profile image86
              Pearldiverposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              lol  en guarde............. lol

          2. rebekahELLE profile image90
            rebekahELLEposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I think there's a difference with being yourself and knowing yourself. we've all seen people who seem to enjoy being 'negative' and the only people who want to be around them are the same. I think like attracts like. personally, I prefer being around positive, real life people. everything is not always 'rosy', but an upbeat attitude towards life is certainly a healthier way to live.

            as another poster said here, life is too short to spend time embracing negativity. we can recognize it and learn from it, but I'm not going to stay in it.

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      Pani Midnyte Odinposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Staying true to yourself is always the most positive path to take. Pretending to be positive in a situation that gives you a negative vibe or makes you feel uncomfortable will just make you miserable. When you're miserable, it rubs off on the people around you. If expressing yourself, even when you feel negatively about something, helps you feel LESS miserable, then by all means, EXPRESS YOURSELF! Your attitude rubs off on everyone around you so the less miserable YOU are, the less miserable everyone else will be too.

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      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I agree

      I think its unhealthy to dwell on negativity, but  its also unhealthy to deny its existence.

    5. spease profile image81
      speaseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      One of the best reasons comes from a quote by Winston Churchill.
      Someone asked him if he was optimistic, he said " I am always an optimist, it just doesn't make any sense to be anything else".  I agree.

    6. Rafini profile image85
      Rafiniposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I think it is considered unhealthy to be negative on a regular basis because it isn't good for your mental health which in turn can affect your overall health.
      I also think it is important to release negative energy when it occurs otherwise it would be like shaking a bottle of soda and twisting off the cap -you never know where the fallout will hit the hardest.
      As for someone telling you to "Stay Positive" - I take it to mean, keep your hopes up but release any negativity as it comes along.

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      Madame Xposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You've got a 50-50 choice - feel good or feel like crap.

      There's always something good about every situation smile

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    mtsi1098posted 7 years ago

    You should just be yourself...negative or positive...

    1. skyfire profile image71
      skyfireposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well said.

      By the way, Confucius said that.......  ah never mind.

  3. myownworld profile image80
    myownworldposted 7 years ago

    I believe everyone has moments of negative and positive feelings. At least, all sensitive people do. Others can say or perceive you anyhow, all that really matters is how you yourself want to live your life:  feeling negative about things (not to be confused with serious reflective moments) or just being optimistic...and smiling from within. Whatever works for you...smile

    1. Paradise7 profile image84
      Paradise7posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Yes, that's very well said, myownworld.  We have both positive and negative EXPERIENCES, so it only makes sense we have both positive and negative feelings.  Me, personally, I don't like to impose my negative feelings on other people.  Usually time passes, the negative situation passes, everything gets better...  The best thing to do is to try and make things better.

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    rhartlandsbergposted 7 years ago

    Thanks for the feedback all!

    I feel like it's a common notion to not want to be around negativity or let someones negativity bring you down but I feel like that practice leads to fair-weather friendships or problems being ignored rather than addressed.

  5. Cagsil profile image59
    Cagsilposted 7 years ago

    Hello Everyone smile

    How is everybody doing today? Or Tomorrow? lol

  6. Cagsil profile image59
    Cagsilposted 7 years ago

    Hey PrettyPanther, what's up? smile

    1. PrettyPanther profile image85
      PrettyPantherposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Hi Cagsil.  Just hangin' out on the forums and watching Idol at the same time.  How are you?  smile

      1. Cagsil profile image59
        Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Doing well. Thank you for asking. Nice to see you roaming around. smile

        1. PrettyPanther profile image85
          PrettyPantherposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Don't you mean "prowling" around?  smile

          1. Cagsil profile image59
            Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Well, I've been told I lurk...

            So, I don't want to say "prowling", even though you are a panther. lol lol  I wouldn't want someone to get the wrong impression that you were on the "hunt" for food or anything. smile tongue

            1. Pearldiver profile image86
              Pearldiverposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Sheesh Cagsil.... You Lurk???

              Wasn't George Michaels arrested for that a few years ago?? hmm

              1. Cagsil profile image59
                Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                roll lol lol lol

            2. PrettyPanther profile image85
              PrettyPantherposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Well, right now I'm going to slink off the bed.  Gotta work tomorrow.

              You have a good night and enjoy your lurking!  wink

              1. Cagsil profile image59
                Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Good night. smile You sleep well and be safe. smile

  7. Phil_Raphie profile image60
    Phil_Raphieposted 7 years ago

    Positivity attracts positive energy and would equal to positive disposition in Life.  Yes we always have choices but then what will matter at the end of the day would be the results or outcome of those choices. The effect of those choices. It is always best and advisable to stay positive within a normal level for there are things that are meant to happen and so we should make sure that we are also wiling to accept the outcome of such. In every positive mind comes with a negative feeling but then you should not be persuaded by anything or anyone so learn how to weigh things.
    Example: A negative spiel or thoughts can be transformed into somewhat like positive thoughts just by using approriate words and language. So the impact of positive scripting will lighten up customers and people around you, around us :-)

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    Brenda Durhamposted 7 years ago

    Seriousness is often mis-labeled as negativity.
    Life is serious.
    Sometimes fun and non-serious, but often serious.
    I prefer a serious mindset to naivete.

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      rhartlandsbergposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      ...Yes naivete or flippant disregard for real real issues.

      1. Cagsil profile image59
        Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        There are differences between being naive and choice ignorance.

        Some people are naive, only because they lack knowledge and understanding. Then, there are some that choose to be ignorant, even if they don't see it themselves.

        Ignorance: The Overwhelming Destructive Trait, a hub I wrote about it.

        Integrity: The Lost Character Trait, is another hub I wrote.

        It has a lot to do with those who choose to be ignorant, so as to stop themselves from learning more about life, because they already think that they know everything there is to know about it.

        There are even some arrogant enough to think that there are certain areas of life, that they are not ignorant or naive, about...yet when you talk to them, you quickly learn how untrue that is really. smile


        Edit: corrected a title of hub. smile

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    Jared in Vegasposted 7 years ago

    You don't have to be positive, not about everything. Sometimes its best to say "this isn't going to work," and cut your losses.  Did Charlie Brown ever kick the football? No, he didn't. Someone should have told him that it wasn't going to happen.

    1. Cagsil profile image59
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Maybe the cartoonist, shouldn't have let Lucy be so selfish? hmm

    2. Fluffymetal profile image77
      Fluffymetalposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      you guys are funny smile

  10. Phil_Raphie profile image60
    Phil_Raphieposted 7 years ago

    I have some factors of Positive mind that might impact us. These values applies to me... and so I want to share with you guys :-)

    P - People: means if you are with positive people you will likely have a positive thoughts in Life.

    O - Outcome: what kind of outcome would you like to see?

    S - Sex: At times there are more Women who thinks positive than Men in some ways.

    I - Intelligence: Level of intelligence affects the way we think and so affects how we react unto things: positively or negatively.

    T - Time: It is one of the element that we should also consider. Others believe that most people are positive on the early part of their day than on the latter part of it.

    I - Intuition: Level of intuition will also impact us on being positive.

    V - Value: How we value or the value things or issue will impact the level of positiveness within us.

    E - Environment: Were you raised in a positive environment and with positive culture?

  11. Pearldiver profile image86
    Pearldiverposted 7 years ago

    Well done mate....... And no mention of the "L" word. smile

    1. Cagsil profile image59
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol lol lol

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      lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Hey you, too long mate, hope you are well and still living in Paradise. (jealous)
      SYT left a few messages for you
      i'll email you, gotta question
      all positive smile

      Be well big_smile

    3. Phil_Raphie profile image60
      Phil_Raphieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      What's the "L"? hehehe

      1. Pearldiver profile image86
        Pearldiverposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Why did I know that you were going to ask me that question? hmm

        The "L" stands for Lurking (as referred to earlier in the thread). big_smile

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    Ghost32posted 7 years ago

    If I care about someone a lot, such as my wife, I'll hang around when the conversation "goes negative".  With a spouse who has been clinically diagnosed as being severely mentally ill and tends toward homicidal thoughts when she feels betrayed (which is all too often), that's not nearly an uncommon enough occurrence to suit me.

    However, lacking that powerful motivation (lifetime commitment) to stick around, I subscribe to the philosophy of Edwin Land (creator of the Polaroid camera) who stated,

    "I insulate myself from negative thinking people since it only takes one negative comment to kill a good idea."

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      A Texanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Sound advice.

  13. Rod Marsden profile image79
    Rod Marsdenposted 7 years ago

    If you are falsely positive then you may not be owning a problem that has a solution and if you don't own it then the problem can only get bigger and bigger until it overwhelms you. Being negative sometimes can be as healthy as being positive just so long as things don't stagnate.

 
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