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She Talks All Through Sex

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    timothy_mccorkellposted 7 years ago

    My friend asked me what he should do about his live in girlfriend talking all through sex. I'll just call the couple Jack & Jill. I don't really want to give Jack advice, because I don't want to be blamed if something goes wrong. So, I told Jack he can read what you guy's say.

    Jack says that when he and Jill first got together, the only sounds she made were moans and screaming yes's. But lately, she's been talking about what's going on at the office when they make love. And to Jack's dismay, Jill even talked about making a grocery list the other day, while they were in the middle of having sex.

    Jack fears that he will lose her if he complains, because she is very headstrong. But he asked me if there may be a subtle way of droping Jill a hint. And I just don't want to go there.

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      Pani Midnyte Odinposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      A couple I know had the same problem. They ended up getting divorced. For her, the sex wasn't exciting anymore. For him, he was annoyed that she would talk throughout sex.

      If he really loves her, he'll try to spice things up in the bedroom. If she really loves him, she'll learn to talk about these things during times when they're not having sex.

      Communication is key here. They both need to let the other one know what's going on.

    2. Mikel G Roberts profile image87
      Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      If she is more interested in the grocery list than sex, 'during' sex...he already lost her.

      1. blondepoet profile image79
        blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I agree Mikel. My friend used to munch on an apple right in the middle of it that is how bored she was.

      2. Ohma profile image79
        Ohmaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        This says it all!

    3. thisisoli profile image55
      thisisoliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Two words.

      Ball. Gag.

      :p

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        cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        yikes

        big_smile haha....

      2. Pandoras Box profile image83
        Pandoras Boxposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Yeah that oughtta do it.

    4. IzzyM profile image88
      IzzyMposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You are taking the Michael, aren't you?

      1. blondepoet profile image79
        blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I would say so Izzy sad

    5. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Tim,

      There's always another. Not being married makes it easier to split.

    6. Ron Montgomery profile image59
      Ron Montgomeryposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      She should just tell Jack Off.

    7. drfurr profile image60
      drfurrposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Hey, maybe put something in her mouth. Sounds like a riot to me. Send her over to my house when you get bored, I think that would be interesting for awhile.

  2. Dale Mazurek profile image60
    Dale Mazurekposted 7 years ago

    Sounds like she is bored.  He needs to spice things up.

    1. rebekahELLE profile image91
      rebekahELLEposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      yes, he needs to kiss her mouth and make her forget about the grocery list. spice it up with some passion.

      she must be a gemini, they always talk! smile

      1. Richieb799 profile image62
        Richieb799posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Yeah, first thing I would do is keep kissing her until she shut up and got the hint

        1. blondepoet profile image79
          blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Kissing, now there is an idea.

  3. tantrum profile image62
    tantrumposted 7 years ago

    He's not being good at it. Maybe he needs a guide book ! big_smile

  4. Michael Willis profile image79
    Michael Willisposted 7 years ago

    Wow, if that happened to me...I would know she was not into me and its time to move on. If office work, grocery list are on her mind...kind of a very real clue.
    Sorry...just seems obvious to me.

    Best of luck.

    1. Lisa HW profile image83
      Lisa HWposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      My guess is it may be more complicated than just her not "being into" him.  I wonder if she's either become so accustomed to thinking that "sex isn't a big deal", and if she's so comfortable with him, she thinks she doesn't have to bother pretending it's "a bigger deal" to her at this point.  Or, the opposite of that, if she's someone who is so uncomfortable with sex in general she's doing the kind chatting that a lot of women do when they have to see a doctor over something "very personal".

      I think he ought to just "mention" that it's not something that makes him feel like she's interested, ask her why she thinks it's something she does, and take it from there.  Talking to his buddies about his intimate relationship with her won't help the problem and won't help her feel any more comfortable about sex with him (if that's the problem).  It's always just better for people talk about something, see who says what, and take it from there.

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    Lecieposted 7 years ago

    maybe he should sit down to talk with her first. that way after they've had a nice conversation he can start with some romantic tactics to get her in the mood for something else wink
    try doing something nice for her just out of the blue for no reason. just get her happy and excited. make her want to go to the bedroom. if she really wants it you'll here those moans again for sure.

    1. Ivorwen profile image83
      Ivorwenposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I would agree with this. 

      How much time are they spending together, outside of the bedroom?  Is it enough?  Does she just need some time to talk, to feel close to him? 

      If the only time they really spend together is in bed, then she may be really lonely and just want to talk to him.  After that, enjoying sex would be much easier.

  6. Pandoras Box profile image83
    Pandoras Boxposted 7 years ago

    He might want to try taking control of the sexual conversation and turning it in a direction more appropriate.

  7. Pr0metheus profile image59
    Pr0metheusposted 7 years ago

    He's scared of losing her because she's head strong.  Sounds like he's a pu$$y... women don't want another one.

    He should just tell her to shut up, then smack her ass and pull her hair (and not like a wuss).... Take control, man!

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      Pani Midnyte Odinposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Kinky lol

      1. blondepoet profile image79
        blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Haha Pani!!! smile smile

    2. Pandoras Box profile image83
      Pandoras Boxposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Honestly, I agree. I think she's challenging him. Maybe not the best tactic, but... women, you never can figure 'em.

      OP describes her as strong and him as pretty wussed. She may be challenging him.

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        china manposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I agree - challenging him - or taking the longest winded way possible to tell him **** off!

  8. Rochelle Frank profile image88
    Rochelle Frankposted 7 years ago

    Jack and Jill went up the hill..

    And why should any strangers give them advice?

  9. blondepoet profile image79
    blondepoetposted 7 years ago

    Has he tried taking her shopping first?

    1. Rochelle Frank profile image88
      Rochelle Frankposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Good idea.

      1. IzzyM profile image88
        IzzyMposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Ahhh...but then she might go on about what she forgot to get at the shops?

        1. blondepoet profile image79
          blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          LMAO so true but maybe he could buy ear-plugs while he was there. smile

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    poetlorraineposted 7 years ago

    the problem is Jill's she should fake it, like everyone else does...

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      Pani Midnyte Odinposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Nah, never fake it.

      Make Jack step it up instead.

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        poetlorraineposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        yeah that is a better option for sure

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      cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this



      i can say in all honesty, i have NEVER, ever ever faked it.

      i think a man would rather know he didn't send you into the stratosphere than find out later you pretended that he did. that, to me, would be a greater humiliation.

      of course, i wouldn't talk about shopping or anything during it. that is just plain rude. if you don't want to just say 'i don't want to'...

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        Pani Midnyte Odinposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        This may sound rude to other people, but there was once where I couldn't feel it, stopped him, and began masturbating after I said, "You know what? I'll just take care of it myself."

        You'd think he would have left, but no. Actually, the night afterward, he asked me what I'd like him to do. He stepped up and it was good.

        Communication is key. Got to let him know what you want smile

        1. blondepoet profile image79
          blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Oh Pani got to love your open-ness. Aren't you glad I taught you every-thing you need to know ROFL!!!

          http://i977.photobucket.com/albums/ae254/NightWacther31/Funny%20Stuff/Firecracker_wakeup.gif

          1. earnestshub profile image87
            earnestshubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            BP, I know it's heartless of me, but I enjoyed this WAAY too much! lol lol lol

            1. blondepoet profile image79
              blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Haha Earnest I am sitting here all alone in a nice peaceful house just laughing away, it is reverberating off all four walls.
              Half the time I don't know what I am laughing about, oh I just love it though. Love that you are happy too LMAO. smile

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            Pani Midnyte Odinposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            lol BP, you could make a lot of $$$ giving lessons, I bet. You could make even more if you let earnest watch big_smilebig_smilebig_smile

          3. blake4d profile image73
            blake4dposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            OMG!!!

      2. Mikel G Roberts profile image87
        Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Well said, and I completely agree with telling me if it isn't everything it could be...

        The thing about the female body is that there really aren't a lot of outward signs...like the male erection, for men to be able to gage how into it their partner is. So unless women communicate with us, for example by talking about the shopping list during sex, we won't really know what she is feeling.(I'm sure she didn't start out with the shopping list, to communicate the fact that sex was getting Boring...'he' should have caught on when she started...err stopped moaning 'Oh Yes!')

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          cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this



          somehow i don't think you have any problems in that area neutralwink

      3. Pandoras Box profile image83
        Pandoras Boxposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I've never faked it either. Get the F off of me, I changed my mind. And then he slaps me, jerks my hair, turns me over and shoves my face in the pillow. It usually makes me change my mind again.

        1. Pandoras Box profile image83
          Pandoras Boxposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          This guy's gonna get arrested if he listens to us and we're wrong! smile

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      china manposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Not everyone, the guy upstairs complains about me screaming during sex all the time !  big_smile

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        seasoningposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        really tell me more

  11. IzzyM profile image88
    IzzyMposted 7 years ago

    Well she's got to be better talking about the shopping list than asking "Are you in yet?" or "Are you finished yet?"

    1. blondepoet profile image79
      blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That's right she at least is making polite conversation. Worried she might miss the half price mark downs on the sirloin steak.

      1. blake4d profile image73
        blake4dposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Really, half price sirlon steak? Is that what women are thinking about in bed while making the dance of the two backed beast?

  12. OhMyNylecoj profile image60
    OhMyNylecojposted 7 years ago

    This has got to be the funniest thing ever. Jack: oh yes yes baby im cumming Jill: How about those lakers the other day? NO Jill needs to realize that she is literally bringing this mans ego down with self absorbency She probably might not know what she's doing. Because when I started out , I was a mute. And that's because I wasn't quite sure what I could or would say in fear of sounding dumb or sounding like a wounded seal. So she may have the same problem. But a closed mouth doesn't get fed. Only solution here is to talk it out. Not try to drop hints. He could be boring in bed and she's trying to drop hints by talking about the office. Whats wrong with just saying what it is? If she's not willing to work it out, then maybe that's jsut saying something about her. ? And , he has to give it some encouragement to her. If he's not yelling OH BABY YOUR THE LOVE OF MY LIFE by now. Maybe she's just reacting to how he might be acting. Like I said , only solution here is to talk it out. Or nothing will get solved. UNless your telepathic of course.

  13. Paradise7 profile image85
    Paradise7posted 7 years ago

    She WANTS to turn him OFF!!!!  She reallly, really doesn't want sex with him anymore if she talks about her grocerty list while in the act... maybe she has another lover????  Who knows, but it isn't HIM on her brain, that's for SURE!

    No blame attached to anyone...

  14. JOE BARNETT profile image60
    JOE BARNETTposted 7 years ago

    he is wasting his time. he needs to move on

    1. blondepoet profile image79
      blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      And find a nice girl who doesn't like shopping.

      1. blake4d profile image73
        blake4dposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Well personally I don't mind a girl who is a little mouthy, in fact it seems like keeping her mouth busy is the main problem here, so maybe he shoud get her a dictaphone for her birthday. Then again...

        What do you think BP - would you like it if a guy gave you a dictaphone?

        1. blondepoet profile image79
          blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I would check to see if it vibrates LMAO smile

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    Jared in Vegasposted 7 years ago

    I think it's great. She's multitasking. She'll go far in life, just not in bed.

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      pinkyleeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lmao

  16. defenestratethis profile image59
    defenestratethisposted 7 years ago

    He should venture the topic of bondage in their sex life, and then tie her up and gag her.

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      Pani Midnyte Odinposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Oh, how I do love the kinky direction this thread seems to be going in big_smile

  17. habee profile image88
    habeeposted 7 years ago

    At least talking during sex isn't as bad as what my good friend used to do! She always sang "Jesus Loves Me." I'm sure that was a real turn-on!

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      Pani Midnyte Odinposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Oh... Oh, dear, now THAT is bad. lol

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      china manposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Jeeez !  Hey Habee - I am still waiting for your email smile  animal stuff - remember ?

      1. blondepoet profile image79
        blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Woo hoo this sounds interesting do tell us more smile

  18. habee profile image88
    habeeposted 7 years ago

    I've faked it a few times with a couple of guys, just to make them feel better. That was a long time ago! I don't fake it anymore!

    China, I just sent the email!

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      china manposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Habee - I just answered it !!

    2. Ron Montgomery profile image59
      Ron Montgomeryposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I used to fake it too.  I'm with you Habee; Never again!

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    logic,commonsenseposted 7 years ago

    Perhaps if he stuck something in her mouth besides the ball gag it would be somewhat quieter, at least for awhile! smile

  20. Pearldiver profile image87
    Pearldiverposted 7 years ago

    Clearly 'Jill' is not so Headstrong if she feels the need to be in a different Head Space lol

    I've always been suspicious of those that tell stories like this in the third party context. hmm 
    Usually it means that they are not prepared to take ownership of their own problem and invent Jacks, Jills and Uncle Arthurs merely to gain information for their own problem. hmm

    Perhaps if Jack was more vocal AND interesting... Jill might enjoy the pleasure of listening hmm

    I suspect Jack is a boring fart and bottom line is that Jill is sick of being bored.  Jack Get a Life!! big_smile

  21. prettydarkhorse profile image64
    prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago

    I was just thinking, she talks though all sex, I thought talking while making love hehe, and I was thinking, just put the thing on so she cant talk, bad me,,,hehehe

    1. Ron Montgomery profile image59
      Ron Montgomeryposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You deserve a spanking.

      1. prettydarkhorse profile image64
        prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        litle only hehehe

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    ralwusposted 7 years ago

    My friend asked me? Yeah right, I got some beach property as well. Jill needs to go to the homophobia thread and hook up.

  23. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
    AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago

    I thought women were supposed to moan when they had sex

    1. thisisoli profile image55
      thisisoliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Haha!

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      china manposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Yes!  this guy is lucky she is just chatting - she could be moaning about something during sex big_smile big_smile

  24. KCC Big Country profile image85
    KCC Big Countryposted 7 years ago

    This reminded me of a saying I have about oral sex, specifically '69'.   I've always seen that as a flawed plan because if I'm doing MY job right, then you will be unable to do YOUR job right (and vice versa). 

    Plain and simple, she's multi-tasking like women do, but she wouldn't be if the guy was blowing her mind.  He may have to get a bit more creative to get her undivided attention.

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      china manposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Yes - that would definately stop the chit-chat big_smile big_smile

  25. Hokey profile image61
    Hokeyposted 7 years ago

    I don't know what to tell you! yikes

    Never had this problem! yikes

    1. blondepoet profile image79
      blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Now how did I know that Hokey??

      1. Hokey profile image61
        Hokeyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Psychic?  smile

  26. rebekahELLE profile image91
    rebekahELLEposted 7 years ago

    at least they're still having sex!!

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    cosetteposted 7 years ago

    oOo, good point! yikes

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    LeanneMayposted 7 years ago

    When a woman is talking like that during sex, she's trying to tell you something.  Sometimes us girls forget that you guys have a hard time reading between the lines.  But there is this maybe she has so much on her brain that she really isn't totally aware of what she's doing, one person already said communication is Key and that I agree totally with.
    Open the conversation with ease and no judgement, the only way a woman wants a penis is if it comes in peace, and I can tell you if I am really mad at my man and he's just pissing me off talking about the groceries or work during sex is an amazing way to get his attention and get his ego!!
    Chat over wine and open yourself to her, she'll talk to you after all she is a girl and chatting is what we do best.  woman want to fix things so take what I said and run with it, it will work,  good luck, hey post an update, LOL!!!!

 
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