That's the one I was going to say. and I don't mean "respect" as in "respect for being a nice person" or "respect for being a good mother" or any of those. I mean plain, old, respect so when we say something it isn't assumed we're pulling some fluffy idea out of the blue; and that we don't know what we're talking about.
RESPECT,,,,for each other!!! this means being faithful, listening, understanding, friendship and compassion....BOTH WAYS....it's a 2 way street and if ya both aren't traveling on it all the time and in the same direction....nothing will fit
ummmmm, if I could have the perfect man he would be honest, loyal, and funny. He would care about me, but not more then himself. He would listen and maybe wash the dishes and take out the trash once a month. ALSO I woud like it if he had friends and let me have friends too.
My wife's sleeping, so she can't answer right now, but it's okay for me to say this for her--actually for the both of us.
Namely, the thing she treasures most about me is that I've got her back. Anybody talks smack, it's all over. Get physical? Not a good plan. Steal? Betray? You name it, I'm on it.
Smack example: We hooked up in late 1996. In the spring of 1988, Pam was living sort of "away" from me for a while--in a high rise for the elderly and/or disabled--and my family apparently thought we were "split for good". Which we never were; I was at her place more days than not, but the relatives didn't read the signals right. An aunt made a smart crack about Pam. A brother in law laughed. So did a few others. I was present when it happened; Pam was not.
To make sure the word got spread to EVERYBODY, I let my Mom know (still alive then; she passed in 2002)...that any and all family members who thought that was funny...right down to one of my sisters if the shoe fit...were dead to me. Period. Cut 'em off, that was it. No prisoners.
They came around. Most of 'em made nice, and the aunt that made the original crack actually came to appreciate my gal. Even the few who still don't like her DO know enough to keep their lips zipped.
I notice many people are saying 'love' but lots of peoples perceptions of what love is changes on different occasions, I think that is quite a generalised term which gets tossed around easily.. I think the intention of the question may be seek an answer more distinctive
One of the number one reasons that there are so many problems in male female relationships is that women have forgotten what it is they want / need from men.
Then when women tell men what they think they want we are getting bad information so whatever we do to try to be / provide that "thing" is not going to produce the result we all want.
If you choose to hear these words they will change your life.
The one thing that ALL women want more than anything else from their man is "security", emotional, physical and relationship security.
Every single item listed in this thread from the ability to make a woman laugh to listening even to the somewhat snide comments about money are all about meeting a womens subconscious need for security.
Making a women laugh is providing her with security - its telling her subconscious that it is safe - men don't sit around telling jokes to women when there was a threat outside the door ( unless it was to ease tension )
Women's minds just like mens have evolved over 1000's of generations in a dangerous world from real world threats usually caused bu other men : ) to disease to the threat of abandonment - including having their partner fall victim to these threats
A women's mind is wired to seek security above all else.
Understand this and you will understand all women provide her with security and she will be happy and fulfilled.
Feeling safe and secure is why women love to
Dance, shop, laugh, socialise, chat with friends
You dont do these things in times of danger or threat and so doing them initiates feelings that all is well in their world.
PS a word of advise in my experience most women will struggle to agree with this, dont try to tell her that the reason she likes a man who makes her laugh because it triggers feelings of security in here subconscious, just use this thread pull on it a see where it takes you. good luck : )
Even though so many people say love and respect, those are the things that we can all give every day. However, the one thing I know that sets our love apart is when things get tough. In my experience, what a woman wants more than any thing else is for her man to stand up for her under any circumstances, no matter what the consequences are or to whom he must stand up for her. Women want a protector, no matter how tough and strong the women are.
As a gay man I have loads of women friends that I love so much and they are never happy with their partners over something or nothing but when you actually sit down and listen between the lines you realize exactly what they want.
You to love them for being themselves and not a pin up on a calendar
You to understand that they need their own space, as crowding them is not the best option all the time.
You to be patient and understanding and a shoulder to cry on when they are having a hard time, and tell them its going to be ok.
And most of all you to be trustworthy and faithful to them.
This may look difficult but it is really only the beginning, from here on in, you are on your own, but following these rules is a good start lol
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