ladies how often...
- Lecieposted 14 years ago
0Do you dress to conceal them or to flaunt them? That may be part of it. I'm sure if I walked around with half of my penis showing, women would look...
That may be true...but my point is, women dress to draw male attention to the breast, why are some surprised when it works?
If 98% of women walk around with half of their breasts exposed why is it surprising that men look at the area of the breast? (and even as we talk about this your avatar is a profile that highlights your breasts... )
I assume Mikel is refering to low cut shirts and such, not to actual naked jiggling jubblies.
You cannot control men looking at your breasts, but you can control your reaction to it. Why does it bother you so much? Just relax and enjoy it. Someday when you're older and it doesn't happen so often, you might miss it!
I'm sorry to hear about your social anxiety issues, Lecie. I also have some social anxiety problems, though not nearly as acute as yours. I've found that no matter what I wear, I get some sort of unwanted staring from men. I even had a sweater I bought specifically because it was 1) kind of baggy, 2) not transparent in any way, and 3) of a thick, curve hiding material. Didn't matter. Still had some doorknob barista stare while I stood in line next to my boyfriend.
Some men are just pigs, and the best a woman with severe social anxiety problems can do is breath, ignore, and walk away. A reduction may help, but one woman I know with similar problems didn't feel any better afterwards. One girl I knew used to wear false eyelashes in neon colors, making people stare there instead of her chest. I don't know if it helped, but she certainly thought so
Im sorry youguys have such beign inpublic sadness.
neon eylashes sounds pretty cool.I don't believe it is nearly as bad as Lecie's troubles, but being uncomfortable in social settings is bad enough. Having some dude drool over you while you are already uncomfortable makes it even worse.
I have four brothers, and every girl they have dated has commented to either my mother or myself about how they *don't* stare. So I know it is possible! It is just the jerks who lack self control that do it. A glance is okay, I can deal with that. But prolonged eye contact... very aggravating! Okay, my ranting is over. Back to de-spamming!
wow, im sorry to hear that lecie. well i think it's sad that most men do that. trust me, even if you did get a breast reduction, most guys would probably stare at something else like your butt or something. however, rest assured not all men are like that. in fact, when i used to work at dillards, i was the only straight male employee there that didn't hit on every female customer. where as the other guys did. of course, i got ridiculed and got my sexuality called into question over it, but i never cared about that as i was a bit of a nerd in high school. therefore, im used to people talking bad about me. lol. however, i'm still sorry to hear you went through that though.
@justine76
well i don't know why your husband doesn't look at you, but if that's how you still look now in your avatar, then i think your husband is a very lucky guy to have a wife that's both beautiful and smart.oh no, i completely understand. i didn't think much of it to be honest. however, i appreciate you clearing that up though. im sure mikel has his reasons for saying that. i can see what he's saying to some degree about what women wear can attract a man's attention. however, i do think that all men can use self control when addressing a lady. i mean, just because your little head tells you something, doesn't mean you have to listen to it if you catch my drift? lol.
oh sorry. i guess i misread then. sorry mikel if your reading this. lol. anyway, im sorry your husband feels that way. although im sure he's a great guy, but i can't say i agree though. i think it depends on the guy. if he has a great deal of self control then he can still show attraction for a girl without being disrespectful to her. however, some men tend to listen to their little head more so than their big ones if you catch my drift.
Those things must be whoppers! I got it! Before you get a reduction, contact an erotic supply store; have them big boobs of yours cast molded into a synthetic, realistic torso and/or sex doll...and they can sell it for loads of cash. That way, you can retire and also have plenty of extra money for the medical bills - due to your reduction. LOL!
I'm inclined to believe this is not entirely disrespect. It's part instinct. We're men. And yes, sometimes we are animals no matter how hard we try to not be.
I guess I have a follow up interesting question for the ladies that really irks me. Why are the first couple of questions of a guy are how much money does he make or what he does for a living?
Can't you just accept me for me?
I know. It DOES sound silly, doesn't it. Keep that in mind.More like amazement and sometime a lil' jealousy.
- Justine76posted 14 years ago0
- Lecieposted 14 years ago0
- develop terrets?
- Lecieposted 14 years ago0
- Lecieposted 14 years ago0
I, myself have difficulty not checking out breasts. However that may sound, its true. But i think women have beautiful bodies and so I admire them. Not in a sexual way though. But I do understand why men are attracted to our breasts. and I don't feel weird or strange or uncomfortable by that kind of attention. I learned long ago how to use that to my advantage
Lecie - By the way, as this is your thread. I'm sorry for what you've had to go through. I won't get into "counseling, help, blah, blah" but, I do hope you have a better support group than us! Like Mega said, we can be great to talk to, or not so much. Be careful.
Its easy to get some sensitive places stepped on in the forums.- ralwusposted 14 years ago0
- ralwusposted 14 years ago0
I never seem to catch em looking at my chest. Maybe it's not an eye catcher! Ha....what I do catch em looking at is my butt!
Honestly, I don't mind if they look it is a natural instinct I just smile and go about my business. We as women look at derriere's , chests, arms, teeth whatever floats our boat so it in no way offends me when a man looks at me and my girls. When I am 90 you can bet your bippy they will not look then! so let them enjoy the scenery and just relax. If they don't look you should be a little concerned.
I was going to post a reply to this, but I forgot what it was. Some chick with a nice set of duffel bags just walked by..
...wait...
...ok, she's gone. Now what were we talking about?
Oh, sweater huggers, that's right.. Really, it's just instinct to look at a nice pair of blouse clowns, the same way it is when a chick checks out a guys body. I mean, really, everyone judges another based on something, whether it's a chicks silicone implanted bolt ons or a guys steroid hyped six-pack.
Seriously now, a lot of chicks think guys are lookin' when they really aren't. There are perverts out there, true, but a lot of times it's more innocent than one may think. Other times, chicks wear clothing that just invite those mischievous stares.
My thought, if you don't like it, just say somethin' and be done with it. Letting things like that worry ya won't add another single day to your life.
Now.. gotta run, I gotta go find that chick with the nice double lotus peaks .. 
"once you've seen one set of boobs, you want to see the rest of them"
something some comedian siad and hubby fully agrees.
- JeanMeriamposted 14 years ago0
- Stevennix2001posted 14 years ago0
what about all you women looking at my penis?!?!??!?
- Lecieposted 14 years ago0
Welll I'm very petite and I'm afraid the male species still cannot help but look, so I'm urging you not to get that boob reduction - it would be a waste of time methinks. Maybe the solution is just to change your attitude towards the whole situation and start loving all the attention rather than hating it!
I see the boob thread is still going strong.
SARCASM:
"I believe we women oughtta be able to express ourselves any way we want...if we wanna flaunt it, we can, & if they wanna look, good. But don't come on to me or I'll file a discrimination suit against ya!"
- Lecieposted 14 years ago0
- Lecieposted 14 years ago0
i really have to give thanks to all of the men here for their honesty on this subject. i also want to say that i'm not pointing the finger at any of you as i'm sure you're all nice guys. just the ones in my town seem to be the worst. i wanted to know if it was just me or if other women had the same problem. i think us ladies need to give you guys a big round of applause for your honesty.
- Lecieposted 14 years ago0
Personally I really don't care one way how and why any stranger looks at me... (I stopped caring since high school!)... I actually don't have the time or energy to give it a second thought!
Just take it in your stride Lecie, hold your head high and if anything, consider it a compliment....
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