The major part in everyone life is Love and the minor part which I consider is sex, the reason as I consider is Love can be seen every where but sex will be with our partner. If we love your partner surely she will what ever you liked...
interesting! grammar - many hubbers are from other countries, and use a translator program which may or may not work so great. I think it is rude to be condemning because some people post questions that have usage errors. Benefit of the doubt?
I notice that many "regulars" here post with all kinds of errors and don't ever comment on each other's little mistakes, so what is the big deal?
Some hubbers are being especially critical this morning, in a very passive/aggresive way - what's up with that?
Love and Sex - the real question is whether that question can even be answered - it is way too subjective!
I think the OP has gone - why is it that people attack this kind of newcomer ? Maybe they think they are keeping this site all-american or something, or demonstrating their inherent racism?
The really funny thing is that the attackers invariably have such a poor command of English that their own writing is convoluted and so full of double negatives that by the time they have finished spouting they disagree with themselves. Their writing displays the same total confusion that runs through their posts.
Hiya MOW, definitely. Sex without love is just what it is....SEX...it can be good can be bad... But sex with great love takes you to new heights, the heart-beat racing one hundred miles an hour, the passion, the desire between two people who are madly in love with each other bringing them to new heights. I stand tall with you on this one MOW. Us women know what it is all about lol. xo
Exactly! I think some of the most beautiful moments in one's life are in the arms of someone you truly and passionately love... I mean, just kissing alone can take you to another level altogether... It's like you two are the only people in this entire planet and everything else just noise - That nothing mattered before that moment of your touch...and nothing ever will after.
I think I have lived my whole life in moments such as these...
I don't disagree with the basic thinking at all - just the male female view is not the same. My experience of this is that you girls are much more about the mental high of being totally wanted and safe even if only for the time the 'high' lasts. Us guys are more about the thrill of the ride then the mental high of being wanted and the 'heroic' position of your 'safe'.
And if this does not make much sense it is because it is 5 in the morning and i am up because I can't sleep !
I see, what you mean, but as long as both people experience that 'high' together, it's all that matters in the moment. The paths (i.e the thought processes) that led to it are insignificant as long as love and pleasure is mutually reciprocated...
Ah but it IS the journey is everything - that is the eternal secret that everyone was looking for. Like everyone looking for Shangri-la - I have travelled all my life which has been fantastic - when I found the real Shangri-la it is a dirty little tourist trap with a handful of grubby ex-hippy look-alikes selling hash in the coffee bars
Love is a feeling. Sex is an activity. So you are comparing two different modalities - its a bit like saying is hunger the same as cooking? One is just the feeling that leads to the other. And to really beat the analogy to death, you don't have to be hungry to cook!
I love a man without sex being involved. I love a woman without sex being involved. Millions of people have sex everyday without love being involved. Then there is love of sex. Must be a sex of love around here someplace!
yes i love sex BUT love without sex is also fake. you may be in love with someone without falling into sex and you may have sex with some one due to attraction but not because you fallen into love with Her.
Nicholas Monserrat, famous British author of "The Cruel Sea," once wrote a book called, "Depends What You Mean by Love." In it, different types of love were depicted. But here's my opinion.
Sex is an inherent urge of body and mind: love is impelled by the spirit. When all three are involved then the sex is, as mentioned by several othes Hubbers, something indescribably wonderful. But if a lover (loved one) in the real sense is not available, sexual release is still desirable on a fairly regular basis, subject to one's natural libido. If unconditional love were essential before people could enjoy a good nookie, there'd be no call for prostitutes and brothels. Also, the fun would be taken out of the chase, which so many indulge in to find a sexual partner. Most men 'hit the town' to find a sexual partner, not to find a true-love life partner - leastways, that's the way it seems to be.
For men sex is the way they express love, it's more physical, the physical expression of their emotions, women on the other hand are much better at expressing their feelings without being physical, though for men sex can just be sex without love and women certainly enjoy expressing themselves physically as well as emotionally. So, they are not the same, but they are ingredients of a well made relationship, though sometimes a cookie is still good even if the sugar is artificial.
Wao Sex is not a game but it's God's Making that Sex is there. And One can't Go In for Sex unless He/ She has been Filled with that power or push which makes Him/Her Be fit for it though some kidish human beings make it a way to prove that they are now grown. Love and Attraction are the most push and pull force for Sex.
Wow if there was ever a topic to divide the sexes it would be the priority between the emotional connection of Love and the physical need for release that Sex provides. Most men are easily led into relationships just so long as they don't get fed sexually until after the matrimony. That may not be how they like it but it works the best. Guys are not taught by their fathers to be emotional because masculine males don't let that kind of thing show. Thus it usually surprises men when they find that their sexual urge for someone actually comes with an emotional commitment pending as they have a hard time telling the difference between demonstrations of need and the emotion needed in order to get what they need.
Women on the other hand need to feel loved before they are usually willing to give sex unless they have degraded their self worth enough to accept any token that might be close to love. The later is kind of sad but considering the general psychology of men it is kind of understandable.
Can they be mutually exclusive? heck yeah. There are as many types of love as there are cards in a standard poker deck, maybe more. There Are also more types of sexual encounters then people here willing to comment on the matter. Any S@M club, brothel or high school for that matter will convince you of that.
Should they be mutually inclusive. I think so. Anything short of love given and sealed by physical union doesn't last. There needs to be an emotional commitment on both sides that has to be worked on at both ends of the relationship so that there is something there after the sexual curiosity is satisfied. Complementarilly there needs to be good sex that goes with love in a relationship. There needs to be a willingness on both sides of the relationship to explore the various ways that physical love can be expressed that will keep the couple in a unity which makes communication easier and more consistent.
Personally , I feel love and sex is like yin and yang, they walk hand in hand, without each other , they will be imcomplete and lonely. One can't do without another. If you are just having one, it shows that you are having an imbalance life!
Sex and Love are completely different words. Anyone who has been in a relationship for an extended period of time understands the complexities that come from being around someone so much. Sex hopefully compliments love but so many times can happen without love.
Can same sex marriage be consummated, as in the sense of a traditional marriage?I just read an interesting Hub - by a New Hubber, with lots of questions and decided to post one of them here, as no one had answered...