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happy marriage

  1. dawnM profile image75
    dawnMposted 6 years ago

    what are five great tips to a happy marriage

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      woolman60posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Respect each other’s views, thoughts and feelings
      Honesty, always be honest and never be hurtful with your words
      Forgiveness, is very important because no one is perfect
      Unconditional Love, no matter what
      Communication, leads to a respectful, honest, forgiving and unconditional love for eternity.

      These are the top five but it takes more, it is the little things that count the most, after 22 years I love her more than the day we married.

    2. rebekahELLE profile image91
      rebekahELLEposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      remain who you are and respect each other as an individual

      share common interests and have your own separate interests

      go out and do things together, especially after children arrive

      keep realistic expectations

      listen to each other

  2. Cagsil profile image59
    Cagsilposted 6 years ago

    Five tips?

    (a) trust in one another
    (b) communication must remain open at all times about anything
    (c) honesty is the best policy
    (d) compassion
    (e) love

    That's about it. wink big_smile

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      Precious Williamsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Cagsill I'm curious. Are you married?

      1. Cagsil profile image59
        Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        No! And, it is not relevant. It asked for tips for a happy marriage.

        If you or anyone else cares to claim I am wrong, then I would honestly say that the word "relationship" is what is being missed in the conversation of marriage.

        The foundation of the relationship is what makes the marriage a happy one. What I listed were the KEYS to making the relationship strongest.

        And, as you can see, TAMCOR agrees and has been married for 22 years.

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          Precious Williamsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          I didn't claim that you were wrong.  I was just curious.  That is one of the problems of this sort of communication you cannot tell in which tone I was asking the question.

    2. TamCor profile image80
      TamCorposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      That's exactly what I would've said!

      And we've been married, very happily, for almost 22 years now... smile


      Tammy

      1. Cagsil profile image59
        Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I'm happy for you Tammy. wink big_smile

        1. TamCor profile image80
          TamCorposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Aw, thank you, Cagsil...big_smile


          Tammy

          1. Cagsil profile image59
            Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            You're quite welcome Tammy.

            My grandmother and her live-in boyfriend, never married, but where together for close to 30 years. When she came down with dementia and was hospitalized, he had no one, not even family.

            He died 11 months later, and she died 10 months after he did. hmm

            1. TamCor profile image80
              TamCorposted 6 years ago in reply to this



              That's so sad. sad

              Honestly, you hear of that happening so often, don't you?  And, having what I have had for all of these years with my husband, I can imagine the terrible feeling of loss they must go through. 

              Although we have three kids, and grandkids now, and I love them to death, it would still be unbearable to go on without my Tom...

              Sorry, didn't mean to be morbid here, but what you said hit home, Cagsil...smile


              Tammy

              1. Cagsil profile image59
                Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                It was sad to live through it and watch it happen before my eyes. However, it still simply proves "marriage" isn't a requirement for a long loving relationship.

                Thank you Tammy. smile

                1. TamCor profile image80
                  TamCorposted 6 years ago in reply to this



                  You're absolutely right, Cagsil...a piece of paper doesn't matter a bit, when you love someone...

                  It's funny--I didn't even think about them not being married when you were talking about them--I was all wrapped up in the emotional part of it... smile


                  Tammy

                  1. Cagsil profile image59
                    Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    lol Right, you recognized their love, through my words. Funny how that works, huh? lol lol

    3. europewalker profile image82
      europewalkerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Cagsil your are so right. My husband and I will be celebrating our 25th in December and it doesn't even seem like we have been together that long.

      1. Cagsil profile image59
        Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Thank you Europe. I am also glad to hear your marriage has lasted. That's really cool. cool smile

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    Precious Williamsposted 6 years ago

    (1)Separate bedrooms
    (2)Separate bank accounts
    (3)Different hobbies
    (4)Holidays alone
    (5)Christmas/Easter etc spent together - never with either family.

    1. dawnM profile image75
      dawnMposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I loved your reply

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        Precious Williamsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Thank you.  It might scare some people but I was being absolutely serious.

        1. wychic profile image79
          wychicposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Definitely true to a degree...you have to have at least SOME things that are just yours! My husband and I share a lot of interests, but he keeps golf for himself and I keep my crafts for me smile. We don't have separate bedrooms (need nightly snuggles!) but each have our own areas that are just ours...when we buy a place, these areas will be his garage and my greenhouse, we don't even have to hear each other if we don't want to! And I also agree with the above bits...the piece of paper doesn't really matter, the relationship and the commitment are what does. While I am very happy to be my husband's wife, if it weren't for matters like health insurance, etc., there really wouldn't be any compelling reason to be legally married.

  4. dawnM profile image75
    dawnMposted 6 years ago

    precious you are too funny, yours sounds more realistic in this day and age.

  5. Misha profile image75
    Mishaposted 6 years ago

    Just one: don't even think about trying to change him smile

    1. dawnM profile image75
      dawnMposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      yes change is not happening, if you want to change a man forget it think how hard it is to change yourself let alone someone else

      1. wychic profile image79
        wychicposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Personally, I think anyone that tries to change someone doesn't really love that person, just their idea of what the person could be. I always wonder what gives people this sense of entitlement to attempt to mold others to their own preferences.

  6. donotfear profile image90
    donotfearposted 6 years ago

    Know what your partner's love language is.  Communicate and be friends. Show courtesy to each other and be polite.

  7. PackSecure profile image61
    PackSecureposted 6 years ago

    Love
    Fidelity
    Honesty
    Trust
    Friendship

  8. h.a.borcich profile image61
    h.a.borcichposted 6 years ago

    Every marriage is unique. Ours works great and this is how we keep it that way...
    1. Know your partners top 3 needs and honor them.
    2. Know what is most hurtful to your partner and honor it always.
    3. Keep your individual identity alive and well.
    4. Communicate well. Listen and share often.
    5. Have fun together every chance you get smile

 
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