I was just visiting my favorite resort town over the past weekend, and, I brought my brother along for the ride. I told him that we might stop at a few of the places that I normally go in town that are gay or gay friendly.
First I took him to the local Gay club. (Straight friendly) The Town was having it's anual film festival, and one of the Venues was the Bar. It was all set up for the evening, and already sold out. I showed him the various levels of the bar, and he was pretty impressed. I showed him around the bar grounds, the pool, and the adjoining hotels. (All gay) But, since the event was going on, and we didn't have passes, we left.
Next, I took him to the local Gay campground. It was leather weekend, and, even though he is straight, he was surprised by how friendly everyone was. I told him, it's probably because they assume you are gay. And, he didn't like that too well. But, he thought it was pretty cool, and a lot bigger than he expected. He seemed to think I knew everyone, because everyone we passed was saying hello. No, It's just a friendly place.
So, it just goes to show, that you can't tell who is gay, and who isn't. Any comments?
Want a good laugh, go to Youtube and look up "I shit my pants"
It's a parody of Lady Gaga's "Bad Romance." They were showing it at the campground dinner, and everyone was laughing. It's very funny!
I wouldn't go into a club, or gay bar, or anywhere else that I wasn't 'interested' in fully. I have to like it to want to be apart of it. I'm not saying that I don't like gay people, but I am saying that there would be no reason to enter a place like that unless I am willing to be apart of it...like having the same sex flirt with me, or come on to me. Same goes for anyone else that enters a gay bar or goes to a bowling alley for that matter. 'You get what's there'. If you don't like to bowl than why go. If you don't like church why go, if you're not a satanist than why go...curious or interested is the answer to the question.
I wonder if perhaps you are curious and go for that reason alone or something else. If I was interested in bowling, or a bit curious about it, I would go to watch and learn before playing.
Yet if I had a gay friend I may go for them but even then 'why' unless I want other people to think I was gay and leave that prospect open. To each is own. I just think one must be interested a lot, and / or considering it... before trying it out???
I love going to the gay bar! My fiance even comes along! He was nervous the first time, he grew up in a small and it wasn't openly acceptable t be gay, very ignorrant country folk So he didn't know what toexpect, but now...we love it! If we wanna go do Kareoke or dance with out drunk frat boys, big manly fights and a bunch of dumb drama thats where we go! Besides that, we don't go to te bar to be bar sluts, we are just looking for fun!
Lots of straight people due to the fact that it makes the guy look more confident and in touch slightly with his feminine side. Also makes the guy look more open to peoples views.
I popped into a random pub in Melbourne years ago that turned out to be a gay bar. Went from being a weird/confusing start through some awkward moments to a great night once I'd realised the scene I'd stumbled into and had politely declined the proposals. The regulars were cool with my ignrance / mistake and very friendly! Quite an interesting experience actually; gave me a perspective on what it must be like for a woman in many straight venues fending of unwanted attention!
Thats exactly what i was trying to say. Women usually got to gay bars to get away from the men who like to pinch and grab.
Hoddle St Abbottsford or Collingwood by any chance??
I went into a gay bar there one night and had a great time!
When I go out with my friends I am going out with them so that I can be with them and I will pretty much follow them to where ever they go. I am totally not picky, but if it ends up in a entertaining venue, and there are lots of laughs and good music I could care less about the sexuality of anyone else. We have ended up in gay bars a couple of times and it was fun. But if I am with the friends I have the most fun with, then, like I said, who cares about the rest of it?
A friend of my husband (boyfriend at the time) and me took us out one afternoon for lunch. My boyfriend got upset because so many people kept staring at us, told his friend, "We're leaving. I don't need everyone staring at my girlfriend like this!" His friend casually responded, "Actually, they're probably looking at you." (You have to understand this was VERY long ago) It took a while for us to know what he meant but then I was LMAO! It was great! My boyfriend took a little longer to find it funny but he eventually got tickled by it too - once we left.
He never trusted that friend too much after that!
It's funny because alot of straight people come into gay clubs and are welcomed but as soon as we try to go into a straight club, only because there is nothing else to do, they make up reasons for them not being able to let us in!
Umm....I read your hub, as well as this comment of yours.
Ever stop to think that just maybe the security people were....oh God forbid!.....rightfully offended at the insinuations your group made during the search? Why would a normal Club want to let a group of people in who obviously had an agenda to disrupt the peaceful atmosphere of the heterosexuals there?
Half of my friends are gay, I go with them to a gay karaoke bars and all of them are good singers and I can see that the audience some are straight and some aren't, are very friendly, we all have a free drinks given to us after one of my friends sing. And when I sing, we were also give n free drinks by men applauding, gays and non gays, very friendly environment!
I'm glad to see so many positive replies.
I should mention that it also depends on what kind of bar it is.
Unlike straight clubs, gay bars have various niches. Most are happy to let anyone in, but there are some in bigger cities that prefer a certain kind of patron. You certainly wouldn't want to take your pretty wife into a leather bar.
My main reason for posting this, was because no matter which bar you go into people automatically assume you straight if you go into a straight club if you are gay, or gay if you go into a gay bar if you are straight.
Many homo fearing fearing people automatically think they can tell who is gay and who isn't. Some straight men are often picked on for being gay, when they aren't. I think having this kind of eye opener is needed for anyone who really wants to know. Anyone who says they can tell a person's sexual identity is full of themselves.
As a note, I went back to my favorite club over the 4th of july holiday, and there were 2,000 people there on saturday night.
It was great fun.
Thanks for the replies.
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