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Are you unhappily married?

  1. dawnM profile image74
    dawnMposted 6 years ago

    what part about your marriage would you change if you could?

    1. Dave Barnett profile image60
      Dave Barnettposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Why, whatcha got in mind, sweetheart?LOL

    2. Cagsil profile image59
      Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I'm not married. So, first I would need to get married. wink tongue

    3. leeberttea profile image60
      leebertteaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      The part where you only get to have sex with the same person. That just ain't right!

    4. wildorangeflower profile image55
      wildorangeflowerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      If I am married I will try to fit in to what my husband like me to be without compromising what I am.

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      cutelady60posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I would of not married again if I knew my husband is a liar. He looks online for women talks to his ex wife on face book. Want out now

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      cutelady60posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      not marry

  2. dawnM profile image74
    dawnMposted 6 years ago

    cute Dave....lol

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    Precious Williamsposted 6 years ago

    In my dreams - my husband!  But in reality - nothing.  I married in sickness and in health...

  4. mega1 profile image80
    mega1posted 6 years ago

    I was also very sick when I got married and I never got better. So the answer is __ NO, not now!

    1. Chaotic Chica profile image82
      Chaotic Chicaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      smile smile smile I'd use the laughing faces but I don't know how to make those! I love that answer!!

      1. schoolgirlforreal profile image78
        schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        you press :  then type lol  then press :
        lol

  5. the clean life profile image76
    the clean lifeposted 6 years ago

    Heck no I am very happily married for 30 years a my wife is not only my wife, but my soul mate, my friend, my companion, and my lover

    1. schoolgirlforreal profile image78
      schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      that's what I want-kudos

    2. feisty woman profile image61
      feisty womanposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Absolutely perfect.  So pleased for you both x

  6. WryLilt profile image85
    WryLiltposted 6 years ago

    If I could get a refund on any part of my marriage... it would be my mother in law big_smile

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      Baileybearposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lol

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      DoorMattnomoreposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      big_smile ha ha!!

    3. feisty woman profile image61
      feisty womanposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      big_smile lol

  7. habee profile image89
    habeeposted 6 years ago

    I have a wonderful husband! If I could change one thing, it would be his short temper. Other than that, he's almost perfect! He has a short fuse, but he gets over it quickly.

    1. IsadoraPandora profile image87
      IsadoraPandoraposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      That is the only thing I'd change in my marriage too!

    2. Rajab Nsubuga profile image61
      Rajab Nsubugaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      "He has a short fuse," Is it the only "short" thing about him?

  8. Chaotic Chica profile image82
    Chaotic Chicaposted 6 years ago

    My husband (number two) is my knight in shining armour! He is a wonderful, wonderful man and I wouldn't change him.  Sure, he has his faults, so do I. He tolerates mine as I do his.  Life would be boring if we were too much alike!  In short, yes, I am happily married.
    Now there's this woman in town that clearly isn't. We had a guy come to see our shop on his way out of state and he told us how he came to the area to surprise the 'woman of his dreams' whom he met online.  The surprise was a huge one as it was her husband that answered the door! Talk about an oops! He didn't know she was married and her hubby didn't know what she was doing behind his back! This goes to show you that if you cheat, even if only emotionally, you will get caught sooner or later.

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      freespirit2000posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      My husband and I are totally opposites and in my opinion, its keeps the marriage alive.  I would never want to be married so someone just like me.  Ive been married only 5 years and you learn so much.  He is also the love of my life.

  9. dawnM profile image74
    dawnMposted 6 years ago

    funny one chaotic chica, yes that internet stuff is going to get alot of marriages in trouble let alone dangerous.  some of the answers are so funny.  keep it going!

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      Home Girlposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I am happily unmarried!

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        cutelady60posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        why

  10. jimmy.liao profile image60
    jimmy.liaoposted 6 years ago

    I want marry .but it is very difficult for young in china ,the house is too dear to buy ,

    1. IsadoraPandora profile image87
      IsadoraPandoraposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I'm sorry for that. sad Maybe soon you will find a way to marry!

    2. alternate poet profile image77
      alternate poetposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Tell me about it !!!    and not just the young people, I am struggling with that on good Chinese wages !

  11. kmackey32 profile image81
    kmackey32posted 6 years ago

    yup, thats why i filed for a divorce... smile

  12. prettydarkhorse profile image66
    prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago

    on the marriage, If I will be married, I don't want it to be boring, I want my man to have free time and for him to achieve his full potential, support him all the way! I see this things with my friends and my sister. Maybe it is better said than done, but still it is an ideal.

  13. Sweetsusieg profile image83
    Sweetsusiegposted 6 years ago

    I thought I was happily married for almost 25 years.  I knew we had our differences, but with perseverance and determination on both our parts we could work through anything. 

    He decided to make a simplified confession earlier this year, I was not satisfied with this and did some digging.  Understand there had been questions over the years that had went unanswered or falsified.

    After I found out from what I had assumed to be a friend, he did a total confession which took 3 days to complete.  Now most of the memories that I had thought were happy are tainted by his confessions. 

    I think now, I would change the 'exchanging of the vows' part, and just forgo the relationship altogether.  I haven't decided to leave as of yet, and I am not even sure my mind is still in the marriage.

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    sandieganlizposted 6 years ago

    Some of these reasons are why I am scared to make the VOW!!! :-/

  15. TerryGl profile image61
    TerryGlposted 6 years ago

    I think support, I seem to be living by the addage of:

    Behind every successful man, there is a surprised woman.


    http://imgn.dt07.net/565/565441_b.jpg

    1. lyjo profile image61
      lyjoposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Absolutely, the things you find out after a few years?... quite surprising,all a learning curve, but oh so much fun! My husband & I drive each other crazy, on purpose, just to have some fun, we are each others very best friends, we are each others priority, and have been happily married for almost 8 years, and together a little over 10.....nothing amazing is ever easy!

  16. Greek One profile image79
    Greek Oneposted 6 years ago

    my wife and I are very happily married..

    she is a very lucky woman smile

    1. sofs profile image87
      sofsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I wouldn't think of changing anything. I would like to change myself if there is a problem. All changes need to to made first from within.
      Yes I agree with greek one for once.......... I am happily married

  17. wychic profile image79
    wychicposted 6 years ago

    If I could change anything, it would be those factors that have led him to the only unsavory element in our marriage. If I could change it, I'm sure he wouldn't mind, they're things that make him miserable...he tries not to let me see so that it won't bother me, but he knows I know they're there. As far as him as a person goes...nope, I wouldn't change a thing either! Heck, I'd love it if he made about five times his current wage just so he could work only when he wanted to and we could spend more time together, but other than that wink.

  18. SomewayOuttaHere profile image61
    SomewayOuttaHereposted 6 years ago

    ....love all my marriages....just the wedding(s) part....then the divorce parties start...they are lots of fun!!!!!!...married my divorce lawyer once...Bob...he was my dream guy, until he said "i do"....

  19. tpletch profile image59
    tpletchposted 6 years ago

    I am for working on the relationships you are already in.  Any new ones you get into will have problems as well.

    1. rosariosblog profile image60
      rosariosblogposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Sometimes, it's polite or respectful to just stay with a partner though you're bored to death

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    A.Choudhuryposted 6 years ago

    I think all mirrage have problems even if the person is perfect. One thing i would say is to those people who have arrange mirrage dont do it as you dont know what your getting. Its always nice at the begging but then they show who they really are.

  21. Bill Manning profile image73
    Bill Manningposted 6 years ago

    I've been single so long I think I actually prefer it. I got my freedom, peace and quiet, do whatever I want, go anywhere anytime, cheap too! smile

    Only thing that sucks is the lack of sex, of course. hmm

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      klarawieckposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Oh, NO, BIll!!! Being able to snuggle with the one you love every night as you fall asleep, and staying in bed on Sunday mornings when you can sleep late? Ah! There is nothing like it! You must try it sometime.
      I am happily married to the most amazing man! smile

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    ralwusposted 6 years ago

    her family

  23. efeguy profile image61
    efeguyposted 6 years ago

    am happily married so cant change anytin

  24. alternate poet profile image77
    alternate poetposted 6 years ago

    I was married over 30 years to a woman so perfect, so intelligent, so desireable - her opinion not mine.

  25. SomewayOuttaHere profile image61
    SomewayOuttaHereposted 6 years ago

    ...i see this thread is movin' again...

    ...i'll say it again...what would i change?...'i do'....

  26. WryLilt profile image85
    WryLiltposted 6 years ago

    ...the fact he's got too much in common with the stereotypical black man. smile

  27. sofs profile image87
    sofsposted 6 years ago

    Would like to shout it out again.... Very happily married... smile smile

  28. ftclick profile image60
    ftclickposted 6 years ago

    I like intelligent poets' reply. classic

  29. TiredWife profile image61
    TiredWifeposted 6 years ago

    I am I just feel like a robot. I keep thinking is this what marriage is about. It really makes me so sad. I hate being sad everyday where is the happiness. Only thing that keeps me going is my kids. All I can do is pray maybe things will change but I doubt it. Everything I do is just programmed. Like I am about to go cook dinner do what I have to do w/the kids wait for him to get home serve dinner make sure kids are bathed read to watch a bit of T.V. and then bed.. REPEAT again tomorrow.. (& YES I have shared my feeling to my husband but nothing happens... so my Robot life cont.)

  30. Diane Inside profile image87
    Diane Insideposted 6 years ago

    Marriage is hard, but worth it. I love my husband very much and he loves me. With the economy the way it is, money is an issue, but we are pretty frugal people anyway so we make it work.

    He works long hours, and is tired most of the time these days. But he is such a good sport about it all.

    That's why I make an extra effort to make it easier on him, by doing everything around the house, to alow him time to rest. I respect his need for down time since his hours are so long, sometimes 16 hour days.

    So am I happily married YES! Of course there are things that I wish I could make better. But that is just human nature to improve upon any situation we are in.

  31. katiem2 profile image61
    katiem2posted 6 years ago

    I'm not married and plan to keep it that way.

    But I am in a longterm committed relationship.

    I adore my bf and appreciate all that is him, but if I could change one thing...

    It would be...

    The thing he does when he suddenly doesn't get something very simple that I'm saying...when he normally get the most complex things... maybe that's the time for me to shut up and give him some peace and quiet.  Hummmm I think I may have solved my one thing.

    Great question Dawn, I'll watch to see what develops and what I can learn.  smile

  32. khmohsin profile image60
    khmohsinposted 6 years ago

    ... i am short listed to get married smile
    after that i will answer smile

  33. dawnM profile image74
    dawnMposted 6 years ago

    Yes I think that staying married now a days takes work and if there is still great sex in the marriage, than that helps to keep the relationship going, not to mention it feels good...lol

    1. Rajab Nsubuga profile image61
      Rajab Nsubugaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      what feels good? the sex or the marriage?

    2. katiem2 profile image61
      katiem2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      So true and what I find to be amazing is so many people truly aren't happy and just deal with it....

      I say no way BE HAPPY  big_smile

  34. SomewayOuttaHere profile image61
    SomewayOuttaHereposted 6 years ago

    'unhappily married'.....no!

  35. SomewayOuttaHere profile image61
    SomewayOuttaHereposted 6 years ago

    today...maybe....

  36. dawnM profile image74
    dawnMposted 6 years ago

    well I would have to say both...lol

  37. CYBERSUPE profile image60
    CYBERSUPEposted 6 years ago

    NO to the basic question.   Happily married to the very same girl for 52 years.

    1. SomewayOuttaHere profile image61
      SomewayOuttaHereposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      ...that's nice to hear Cybersupe...good for you!

  38. SomewayOuttaHere profile image61
    SomewayOuttaHereposted 6 years ago

    ...btw....i'm into 'yes' now....lol

    ...opened the fridge today and this happened to me....i'm not happy.....

    http://i803.photobucket.com/albums/yy317/mlmvicbc/brokhisheart_sg.gif

    1. dawnM profile image74
      dawnMposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lol   lol   lol

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      klarawieckposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lol Hahahaha... I love it!!!

      1. SomewayOuttaHere profile image61
        SomewayOuttaHereposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        sheesh...i see this thread has started up again....don't get me started....lol....

        ...jan. is divorce month in NA.....  big_smile....wish i was a lawyer.....time to make some real money......

  39. CYBERSUPE profile image60
    CYBERSUPEposted 6 years ago

    Thank You so much Somewayottahere. It has been an awesome ride, would do it all over asgain.

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    John Wiggensposted 6 years ago

    YEP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  41. lorlie6 profile image83
    lorlie6posted 6 years ago

    I'm very happily married, AND I love my mother-in-law!  How's that for bizarre? smile

    1. SomewayOuttaHere profile image61
      SomewayOuttaHereposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      ...glad to hear that Lorlie...and 'ma inlaw' too....wow...good for you....that's the way it's supposed to be, right?....but doesn't seem to work out that way for everyone....you go girl!

  42. Paul Wingert profile image80
    Paul Wingertposted 6 years ago

    "Are you unhappily married?"
    Answer: Yes I was.

    I fixed that by divorcing the psycho b***h"
    Now I'm happily single, but still looking for Mrs. Right.

  43. brimancandy profile image83
    brimancandyposted 5 years ago

    I'm not allowed to be married by law, but, I have had a partner for over 20 years. If I could change anything, I would certainly like to trade up for someone a little more studly and younger. I could also use a little less 3rd degree crap on everything I do.

    With that said, our relationship has various levels of happy. I do enjoy his company on occasion, and he tries not to be a total bitch all the time. But, I also have a level or respect for him, and I do care about him, but, it's no longer a sexual thing.

    But, if I thought I had a chance with Ryan Seacrest, I would trade up and marry him in a second. He's hot, and rich. Who could ask for more!

  44. zthao89 profile image59
    zthao89posted 5 years ago

    Yes, I am unhappily married. It's been this way for a while. Married since I was 15 so of course I was young & naive. Now I'm 21 and my husband hates me. He says I'm a burden on his life and he hates taking care of me, blah, blah, blah...Hates the way I look. "Why can't I just be skinny like other wives?" The list goes on and on. All my flaws -- he can't love me unconditionally. And I feel that I can't do the same for him either. I'm just so dicouraged that this marriage is ever gonna work. I want out, but it's easier said than done. He abuses me both physically and emotionally. This marriage is a mess. He just hasn't proposed divorce because he wants to save face. He doesn't wanna be known as the guy whose marriage failed.

 
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