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Ladies!!! How do u feel wen ur man doesnt want to do it...

  1. Rishy Rich profile image80
    Rishy Richposted 6 years ago

    How do u feel wen u want it so bad but ur man doesnt want to do it?? Have u ever thought of raping him?? neutral

    1. wildorangeflower profile image56
      wildorangeflowerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I will seduce him, until he can't take it anymore!

      1. Rishy Rich profile image80
        Rishy Richposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Lucky guy...Not trying to offend u but wat if that doesnt work? roll

        1. wildorangeflower profile image56
          wildorangeflowerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          it always work for me before

          if not then its ok, it will only take minutes then he will say yes..

          1. Rishy Rich profile image80
            Rishy Richposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Wow! You have got good skills smile

            1. wildorangeflower profile image56
              wildorangeflowerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              yes, I just don't give up!

              1. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
                schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                I used to do that and it worked like half the time--damn those over 45 men!

    2. leeberttea profile image60
      leebertteaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I never heard of a man that didn't want to do it with his woman. There is only one reason for that and that is he's getting it elsewhere.

      1. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
        schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        or he is too old--or needs viagra and won't take it, or can only do it not as often as woman would like

    3. the pink umbrella profile image78
      the pink umbrellaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      what? rapeing him?

      1. Rishy Rich profile image80
        Rishy Richposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        lolz...I was kiddin but hubpages wasnt!!! They banned me for 7 days for using THIS word...dat was cruel neutral

        1. Lifeallstar1 profile image60
          Lifeallstar1posted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Oh NO! It was a joke, though. You weren't like the creepy guy they have been shutting down his miss hub pages dream. The first post was shut down by Maddie and now I see two more so he didn't get the ax and you had to leave for 7 days but they left it up? I'm confused...did it say something worse?

          1. Rishy Rich profile image80
            Rishy Richposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Yeah they left it up...I couldnt post in the forums until this saturday sad

            ...Thanks for ur compassion though neutral

    4. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
      schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      who wants to take me on? at least once a day? big_smile big_smile big_smile.....ha ha

      1. profile image61
        alihusnain95posted 4 years ago in reply to this

        not one day...every day...lol

    5. pylos26 profile image76
      pylos26posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Uhhh...thats o.k. just graze on other side of the fence.

    6. profile image0
      sandra rinckposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Never had that problem. smile

  2. IntimatEvolution profile image83
    IntimatEvolutionposted 6 years ago

    I'm married now to a much older man than I.  It has taken a lot to get use to.  It sucks actually...., sucks, sucks, sucks.  You feel rejected when it isn't even about that.  My husband is a hard working man.  He cannot keep up sometimes.  So....., I vibrate my life away. 

    No just teasing, but, it is hard.  Sometimes even a tad embarrassing; not to be wanted.

    1. Rishy Rich profile image80
      Rishy Richposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Sorry to hear that IE. I hope theres something more than physical needs in relationships. neutral

    2. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
      schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Know what u mean.
      Makes you want to hit him over the head with a frying pan!! (Just kidding)

    3. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
      schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      totally. not much you can do really. do you feel the age diff is too much?

  3. sonabaji profile image60
    sonabajiposted 6 years ago

    Human age is not actually how many years you have spent from life but how young you feel and how long you feel younger is actual age..you are feeling hard so its hard for you think about so many women having the same problem even worst ....but the important thing is what you think and feel if just positive definitely it will be Positive 4 u....God bless

  4. IntimatEvolution profile image83
    IntimatEvolutionposted 6 years ago

    Oh yes, or I would not be here.  But when I married Papa, I married him for better or worse.  Well..., so our sex life got worse and not better.  So what.  I love him. 

    He takes such good care of me, in so many other ways.  I love him for that. Another thing, when men reach a certain age it is harder for some to get an erection.  I cannot force my husband to take pills or shots to take care of this.  That goes against his belief in healthy living. And that is terrifying for him to think about.  I love him.  I don't want to hurt him or cause him unnecessary concerns and pain.  That is not what marriage is all about.  Therefore, it is what it is. 

    You know I only commented to let others know that if it is happening to you, that you are not alone.  It happens to women all over.  I eat ice cream sandwiches in bed.  I get to hubpage all day if I want too.  Sex is not everything, even though for so many women, it seems like it is.  That's all.  Thanks.

    1. annaliza profile image61
      annalizaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      may be its because for women its more of an emotional attachment and for men its just pleasure.  so that woman needs it in regular period of times.  while men cant do it  when they are tired (from other works)  lazy (for eg., to wear condom,  to fore play), and when they are upset (even with his boss cud affect) financial issues really upsets men.    women would turn on and want it desparately even when they are upset.

      so when my husband turns me off  i dont feel rejected.  i call him loser smile

      1. IntimatEvolution profile image83
        IntimatEvolutionposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Yes, however I think maybe you missed my point.  But that is ok.  Papa and I are happily married.  If he is cheating, well she must be as quiet as a church mouse. We are together these days 24/7.  He works at home.  I am a stay at home mom currently.  We are literally together 24/7.

        Still I guess he could, but I'm not going to worry my pretty little head about.  I've got bigger fish to fry.  Like finding a job.

        1. annaliza profile image61
          annalizaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          start seducing  but try unusual.... wear styles that u havnt worn in the past 10years... how about a new hari cut?...change ur routine... grow garden...  like he will notice various things particular about u....

        2. the pink umbrella profile image78
          the pink umbrellaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Don't feel bad about not getting any just because he is older...mine is 2 years younger than me, and he doesnt have a crazy sex drive, either.

          1. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
            schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            that sux! From now on--when we women date: we need to make it a priority to find a highly sexed man and satisfy him (so he doesn't cheat!) welll.....i dunno!!

        3. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
          schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Luckily I'm not married so I can find someone else--though it's hard to do.
          These older men can have qualities you like. Hmmmmmm
          Maybe slip viagra into his drink? Lol

    2. donotfear profile image91
      donotfearposted 6 years ago in reply to this


      I must agree with you here, Intimate.  It's like, once you've been with the same person for so long, one must continue to spice it up to keep it exciting.  I respect my husband for who he is & his devotion to his Faith. To be real, marriage & commitment isn't about sex. But we already knew that, didn't we? Great post there!

  5. girl about town69 profile image61
    girl about town69posted 6 years ago

    On the occasions I get turned down if i'm going to be honest i do feel a pang of rejection but i recover quickly and move on to the next guy, if i'm in a relationship it does annoy me but i get the same so i can't say anything.

  6. CYBERSUPE profile image61
    CYBERSUPEposted 6 years ago

    As a male, intimatEvolution's post has said it all. Ladies take note to what she says.

  7. profile image0
    pinkyleeposted 6 years ago

    lmfao I don't have that problem .. he always wants it ... it's me that don't always want it

    1. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
      schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I never say no:D

  8. Michael Willis profile image78
    Michael Willisposted 6 years ago

    Hmmmmm, she feels like a...man? lol It is rare for a man to ever say no.

  9. blondepoet profile image79
    blondepoetposted 6 years ago

    Mmmm don't really know as it never has happened yet, you got to know the tricks of the trade LMAO.

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    nicyposted 6 years ago

    no, if he doesn't want to, it is ok. And next time, I will do the same to him.

  11. dawnM profile image75
    dawnMposted 6 years ago

    I would get to the bottom of this!!! 
    Yes there are times that a man will be tired and not want to have sex but if he is healthy and not gay, not sleeping with another woman, still attracted to you, he is going to want to have sex with you. 
    Men generally want to have sex.  But they will turn off if you have gotten them angy, nagging, not taking care of yourself appearence wise, bitchy or have turned him down way to many times.
    I say have a heart to heart and then go see a marriage or sex counselor!!!!

    I am one so believe it or not like I said if he is healthy and right in the head, something is up, especially if when you married him he wanted sex with you!

  12. luvpassion profile image60
    luvpassionposted 6 years ago

    I haven't had any problems. Perhaps because we're still new...I'll just have to wait and see.

  13. just mee profile image60
    just meeposted 6 years ago

    i definitely feel like he's cheating. all guy ever want is sex... but when there's a man who doesn't want to fuck, then either he's gay or he's cheating. cuz hes getting it from somewhere else. sorry:(

  14. minxibell profile image61
    minxibellposted 6 years ago

    so many things go through my mind
    has he gone off me?
    is there someone else?

    it makes me feel crap
    never nice to be rejected in anyway but turned down for sex is the worst as if its with the right person makes you feel closer & connected.

    I get really paranoid like its the beginning of the end

  15. yublanty profile image58
    yublantyposted 6 years ago

    is to top hush to be paranoid

  16. alternate poet profile image78
    alternate poetposted 6 years ago

    It is a shame that most posts in this thread seem to treat sex like a commodity.  To talk about retaliation if he does not give you what you want, to decide that he must be getting it elsewhere etc, all show a deep gulf between love and sex, and a deep gulf between partners.  It displays the lack of any real love in relationships and illustrates the overtly commercial nature of people living together.

    Good, satisfying sex is something two people share and it is a test and proof of their relationship.

 
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