Seriously you can find good women everywhere, depending on how restrictive your definition of a "good woman" is. As far as your mother is concerned, such a woman doesn't exist for her son! And, if your mother's approval is what you require, you'll never find her and even if you do she might not be thrilled with the arrangement.
Make yourself happy first, pursue what gives you joy and a woman of like mind will be found. If she makes you happy, she's good enough.
I would say it depends. First you need to figure out what you want in life. What makes you tick in other words. For example, let's say you love biking. Changes are you will find like minded individuals in your circle or friends and family or your extended circle. Have activities in common can be a good foundation for a relationship.
You could also go to the opposite end of the spectrum. Take my music for example. Let's say your into rap, you could look for a woman that's into rock or country.
The bottom line is that is depends on what you want. Once you figure that out, it's shouldn't be hard to find the one.
What you should do is make a list of all the qualities you want in a woman. You first pick the must haves-- The qualities you absolutely need in a woman. Then have a list of qualities you want her to have but if she doesn't have them, it's okay. Then make a list of qualities you DON'T want her to have. Or just make a single list of what you want in a woman. How you do it is up to you, but you need to figure out what you want.
I can tell you also from experience that the more women you meet, the more refined your list will get. You will know more what you want and don't want.
You can meet women anywhere, the only difference is the difficulty in actually "picking them up." Bars/clubs are one of the toughest places to pick up women because not only are they expecting it, but they're also just there to have fun with their friends usually. Yes, yes, some girls do want to be approached by guys so that they can get free drinks but honestly IMO that girl is not girlfriend material for me. Your opinion may differ. But it's tough.
Some good places to meet women: Shopping Malls (including department stores and the such), college campuses, yoga/dance/etc. class, gyms, the street, etc.
I find casual locations to be the best. Any locations where the woman is in a hurry is going to make it hard to stop her to talk to you long enough where she feels comfortable giving you her number.
Hey balabala, I can only suggest that when you meet someone, don't ask them if they are a 'good lady'. Similarly, don't mention taking them home to meet your mother, or making them your life partner until a significant time has passed or any sane 'lady' will run a mile. I think meeting people through mutual friends can often work, as your friends can kind of guess the kind of person that you might like. In terms of where to meet them? I don't think there's really any one place that attracts the particular sort of woman you are looking for. I'm sure the right girl for you will come along eventually. Maybe your mum will like her, maybe she won't, but that shouldn't really matter. All I can say is don't look like you're trying too hard to find 'the one'. That can come off as kind of creepy to a girl you've just met.
You want to meet a real lady? On Sunday, she'll be at church. From Monday to Friday 9 to 5, she'll be at work. Friday evening, she'll be out with friends doing something fun. On Saturday, she'll be catching up on chores and things to do around the house. On Sunday, she'll be relaxing and going to sleep early for Monday. That's where she'll be! Or if you want some of me, sweety pie... lol. Just kidding!
I don't know if I agree with that. I know someone who has been sitting back and taking the, "let it happen naturally" approach for years and is still 100% single. While there is no perfect place to meet someone, you do have to at least get yourself out there so you give yourself a chance...
I think so also. those sitting around waiting or stuck to their computer monitors aren't likely to 'find' it. if you really want something, you look for it in as many places as it may be.. and that really could be anywhere!!
my previous husband and I met on a college campus sidewalk.
I agree with you on putting thought onto the location. Putting too much thought into it period is a serious detriment. For most guys approaching women they don't know is a scary proposition anyway. The worst thing you can do is get all in your head and start trying to analyze things and think logically about where the best place is, etc.
However, I really strongly disagree with the letting it happen naturally and not going in search of it.
I agree that you shouldn't force anything. This could also be called "settling." A guy will try to force a girl he's dating into "the one".. Essentially settlng for her, and it either ends in divorce or a really unhealthy relationship. Trust me, I know people in this situation and it is NOT good.
You really need to meet as many women as possible, and just be casual. If they have a boyfriend, befriend them. They have girlfriends. Being friends with women will increase your chances of meeting women tenfold.
Also I'm really happy to see women posting advice like this girls. In most cases I would say never take relationship advice from a woman but in these cases it's pretty spot on
first, forget the 'pick up' .. and in answer to your question?
anywhere! good people are everywhere! many searching are just too picky. the girl in the starbucks line could be your dream girl.. or the one walking out of the theatre. say hello.. a comment about the movie.
leeb has good advice. be happy, it's very attractive. go places you feel comfortable.
Well we know where not to meet a girl you want to take home to meet your mother...and that is the bar. I knew someone who met a lady in a bar, he thought she was a classy lady, because she was wearing a dress. To his surprise, she was not the lady he thought he met. Just because she was dressed like a lady, didn't mean she acted like one.
Isn't that a tad bit shortsighted? The situ you describe sounds like bad luck or a bad choice. A lot of people go to bars . . . it isn't just lowlifes. You might catch my mother in the bar from time to time. I used to work in a bar and met many a lady there and only very few of them were total dirt.
My grandparents met in a hospital, one was an eventual patient of the other and the rest was natural. They always said that places like hospitals are curious as they are one of the few places where people who are genuinely trying to help others all congregate in large quantities. Nurses are nurses after all.
Why does no one ever mention places like charity shops, or the sexy waitress in the local cafe, or the hunky guy who serves you every day on the other side of that counter.
The best place to meet is when you least expect, but you "check people out" all the same. Like the mall! LOL!
When someone does a good deed for no apparent reason, and it is curiously instinctive, there's more reason behind it than we know. Just seize the moment.
my parents met at a skating rink.. he skated past her and said, "i'm going to marry you some day." she thought he was a complete show off.. and the rest is a love story.. they were married for 58 years until my father passed away.
I agree w/ church, or a library, but anywhere really. LIke a bowling league or supermarket. Hmmmmmmmmm where do I hang out? LOL Good luck good men/ or women are hard to find esp if you're talking monogomous
all I know for sure is that the chances of finding a real lady in this here forum are NIL! go ye unto the streets and places of worship and places of knowledge and find you something much better than forum booty! GO! I say, GO!
Here is my advice on finding a mate. First of all be what you want to attract. I find that men want a hot babe but are not even close to being hot themselves. To attract a woman you need a smile and confident attitude. Teeth are a big turn on or off if they are not kept well. Women look at eyes and smiles. Then they look to see if you can afford or care for them by how you dress or don't dress. So like men, we look at the physical too but in the way you present yourself. Get involved in things you love or hobbies you like. You want to meet someone who like or is interested in similar things as yourself. If you don't have an interest, now is the time to develop one. Women like men who are well rounded. At least good catches do. Go where women are! Church is good but you need to love God and don't be a hypocrite. If you have a dog, take it for walks in places where there are lots of dog walkers. Us women can't resist a cute dog to stop and pet. Be friendly, say Hi to women and learn to be their friend. When your a friend to a women she can introduce you to other women friends. Most of all love yourself, you can't give what you don't have. You will always attract what you feel inside. We are out there, we just need to know you exist. Women love it when men are confident enough to come up to them an talk. We know your nervous and are trying to get our attention, but it is a big turn on when a man does it. So go shopping and as women for help when your shopping. Women love to help men who ask for it. Join Facebook, you can't believe all the men I know who throw out questions like, "how do I get candle wax out of my carpet?" You will have floods of women trying to help you. Makes me sick but these guys know how to get the women on Facebook. Just make sure your picture reflects a good side of yourself.
have to say I disagree with a few of the pieces of advice here. I'm not impressed by a guy who can't figure out how to buy whatever it is he needs to buy (or at least ask whomever needs to be asked before he goes out to the store). To me, that's a non-thinking type, or else it's the type who isn't above pretending to be dumb in order to meet women.
To me, if a guy wants to meet someone nice (a "lady") he has to be nice himself. He doesn't have to be a male model, but he ought to dress in a way that a thoughtful, self-respecting, woman would be attracted to and just make the most of his own appearance. Nice women tend to value signs that a guy is a nice guy. Women who have a lot of self respect tend to want the same in a guy (because people who have self-respect usually respect other people too). I don't really think "ladies" care about much other than that someone is reasonably attractive, nice, and has respect for himself, other people, and them.
Must there be a "pick up location" to meet ladies? Why not meet someone through mutual friends? What about social organizations, clubs, etc? There are many nice ladies out there asking the same question.
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I wouldn't really know as I have never been one to hang around where 'real' ladies are. And my momma has been gone for some time now. I would have to introduce her to my wife I suppose, if I found one.
Seriously, I think the best place to pick a girl to please your mother is anywhere, as long as she looks like or have a strong resemblance to your mother when she was her age. I have noticed this in most couples. One or the other looks like his/her mother/father or any close relative. It happens naturally.
Online is a good place to start. Lots of great online dating sites with plenty of people who are just too busy to meet others offline. Also, the public library is a good place to meet women who are intelligent, stable, and down to Earth.
LMAO actually I am not poet. I am sick with a runny nose, sore joints, swollen glands. I am a nurse who cannot cure herself. Oh I desperately need tender lovin' care. Someone to fan me, put a strawer in my mouth and feed me a few prawns every few hours when I get the urge. Massaging my pain away wouldn't go astray either.
Hmmm. Methinks we need a broader definition of the concept of Hunger, where lithe blonde nurses are concerned. Now seems to be a good time to point out the diploma on the wall that reads "Massage Therapist," which lists Swedish, Deep Tissue, Reflexology, and oddly enough, Pregnancy. I'm also passable with Hot Stone and if asked Very Nicely, Shiatsu.
Tigers are notoriously fine cooks, too. (If a bit on the Carnivorous end of the food pyramid.) And easily as skilled at healing as they are at hurting. Well... OK. Tigers are better at hurting. But only because it takes less conscious effort.
The best part will of course be the recompense. Which, if I know nurses (and I assure you, I do) will be far beyond merely "commensurate."
You'll be back on your feet and telling balabala where to chacha women in no time, blondie.
I'll tell him how to keep their interest long enough to meet mommy.
...watched a documentary about men who buy 'real dolls'...can't remember the name...but these guys would rather have the 'real doll' product rather than deal with a real woman....poor guys...cost to buy one was 4,000 pounds...one guy had 8 of 'em....poor him....he seemed like a normal guy...but...just didn't want a real woman.
OK - serious answer prompted by the post above SUPERMARKETS is definately the place. Go any time that is not peak time, take a small basket to 'signify' single status - then wander around as if you need help and a real lady will normally appear near you pretending to find things to put in her 'single' basket and also inviting someone to 'help' her. You have to strike up the conversation, I'm not going to do that for you as well !
morning SO it is around 11 in the morning and I am just back from my first class of the day. Proving once again that we are all busy working while you layabout westerners are laing back and taking it easy - no wonder this country is forging ahead