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Enlighten me please :)

  1. Srinivas.S profile image60
    Srinivas.Sposted 6 years ago

    Nicholas Sparks says in his book "the notebook"-

    Noah think to himself as he sits next to Allie-
    "We sit together and watch the world around us. This has taken us a lifetime to learn. Its seems only the old are able to sit next to one another and not say anything and still fell content. The young, brash and impatient, must always break the silence. It is a waste, as silence is pure. Silence is holy. It draws people together because only those who are comfortable with each other can sit without speaking. This is the great paradox"

    can anyone sit like as what he says..

    Has anyone felt what he says in holy..!!

    if yes, please let me know how it feels.. smile

    if no, then join me to find out how it is.. smile

  2. Cagsil profile image84
    Cagsilposted 6 years ago

    Welcome to HubPages!

    I would have to say that I don't find it a paradox. And, I don't find it a problem sitting next to someone without speaking.

    There have been only 3 women in my life that I have truly been in love with and whenever we were together sitting next to one another, it was a feeling that nothing needed to be said. We did not find it necessary to speak to each other, but rather cherish the time we have with each other.

    It's a bond that helps each keep in tune with one another. It isn't contentment, but a mutual feeling of love. We could do a lot of things together and have no problems.

    We could go out to dinner, to a nice restaurant, enjoy a fabulous meal, listening to the surrounding sounds of the place and sit side by side or across from each other, and cherish the moment for what it was.

    It can be difficult to understand if you've never been in love with someone else. And, I wouldn't call it "holy".

    1. Srinivas.S profile image60
      Srinivas.Sposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      first, thank you for "Welcome to HubPages!" smile smile
      new here and its kinda tough figuring our stuff..

      hmmm yeah.. i ve never been loved by anyone..so i does make it tough to understand..
      but  as u say it.. seems like something whch eveyone has to feel at least once in their lifetime.. but u luck i suppose smile smile


      1. Cagsil profile image84
        Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        You're welcome smile

  3. Shadesbreath profile image90
    Shadesbreathposted 6 years ago

    I've been married to my wife for coming up on 22 years. We've been through a lot.  As you accumulate experiences, you accumulate an understanding of that other person and how they see and relate to not just you, but to the universe. You slowly accrete this mutual empathy that becomes a communication that does not require words.  You can sit together beneath a starry sky, for example, and while in one way you both are having your separate thoughts, you are sharing the experience in such familiar harmony that a shooting star or a bat flitting by will remind you both of the same idea. You might speak it, you might not, but the harmony is there like two unseen hands pressing finger tips together across an invisible expanse.  It goes far beyond just common memories, but hopefully you get the point.  The two people are in the same place in time, the same moment in the universe. Instead of being linked together by a rope of conversation braided by words, you just are together.  You just, are.

    I think the reason words like "holy" are used is because there is a dreamy, ephemeral loveliness to such intimacy that regular words just don't work to describe.  Holiness, divinity... those are the kinds of things that are hard to get at, like, so hard you have to live a whole perfect life in accordance with mandates from gods and all that sort of thing. Then, at the end of such devotion, discipline and loving loyalty, those rare few able to pull it off are rewarded with sublime joy (or so the stories go).  Well, a love that endures enough decades grows towards that sort of thing for real (meaning, perhaps as close as humans will ever get if those god stories aren't true) and, at some point, the ability of mundane diction to describe the complexity and fullness of the relationship fails, leaving only terms normally reserved for things of magic or divinity. Words like "holy."

    Just my two cents.  Cagsil did a good job with it too.

  4. motricio profile image74
    motricioposted 6 years ago

    If love is only a word, it should be said to eachother,
    But love is a feeling, so we don't need to speak near to our lovemate; both can feel it through our eyes.
    Is a great feeling.