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Why do guys say "Tap" that when it comes to girls?

  1. Stevennix2001 profile image82
    Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago

    Since I've been on hubpages and doing various research on movies that are fixing to come out and such, I noticed something highly strange that I never thought of before until now.  Online, I notice all these users on imdb, yahoo, superherohype and all these other sites that I get resources from for news on upcoming films, some preteen or teen will say "I'd tap her" or "I'd definitely tap that" when it comes to a attractive girl.  Personally, I never thought too much about it.  mainly because I never use that phrasing myself, as I find it highly disrespectful to women in general. 

    However, the more research I do online, the more these phrases are starting to become more popular. I don't see why, but it is.  Therefore, I would like to ask all of you.  What do you think about this?  Are phrases like, "I'd tap her" or "I'd tap that" really acceptable in society?  Should it even be considered decent?  would any of you guys use those terms to talk about a girl?  do you girls like it when guys say that about you?  seriously, what's with these kids today?

    1. schoolgirlforreal profile image76
      schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      no, I don't like it.
      I never heard of it, but it means the same thing as I'd f*** her.......
      no, it's cheap

      1. Stevennix2001 profile image82
        Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        i agree it is cheap.

        1. schoolgirlforreal profile image76
          schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          smile

        2. schoolgirlforreal profile image76
          schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          sex is a great thing, but saying that is not big_smile

    2. speedbird profile image65
      speedbirdposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      I have never heard of that...but will do some research and report back

    3. zduckman profile image60
      zduckmanposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      It is basically the current vernacular for misogynistic pig speak. It is degrading and shallow....Referring to a woman like you would a keg of beer..."I'd tap that ass". The women that do find this appealing or even remotely acceptable need therapy to work on their self esteem. This has taken the whole bitches and ho's thing to a new level.
      The funniest thing is that the guys who speak like that "I'd tap that ass" ...would never have a hope in hell of getting with the person whom they are referring to. Maybe this is the origin ...misplaced angst  being dis appointed at their short comings and the fact that they cannot attract women that they are attracted to ...and instead of doing something pro-active about it...they choose not to change ...and just to vent their frustration as hatred toward women.
      Women are goddesses and should be treated as such ....

      1. dingdondingdon profile image60
        dingdondingdonposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        I think your insight about men who vent at women is a very good one. My sister sometimes tells me about the men who catcall her when she's on the street, and she's always found it funny that when she ignores or rejects them they suddenly shout that she's ugly. And yet just a few seconds ago they wanted to "tap that"!

        Men like that make me ashamed to share a sex with them.

  2. Stevennix2001 profile image82
    Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago

    i guess nobody has anything to add...

    1. darkside profile image80
      darksideposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Ten minutes?

      1. Stevennix2001 profile image82
        Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        lollol really?  was it only ten minutes?  i thought it was longer than that.  lollol  man, that should've been a line in the classic tv show, "married with children", as i can so see how that line could be used. lol

  3. Ohma profile image80
    Ohmaposted 6 years ago

    I think that the way people refer to this absolutely natural act is a 100% spot on indicator of a persons level of maturity. I would not waste my time with any man who believes that is an acceptable way to describe the particular action that it refers to.

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image82
      Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      i agree with you completely on that.  i think it's sad that today's youth uses this kind of language.

  4. Ohma profile image80
    Ohmaposted 6 years ago

    Many young people suffer from the need to fit in and feel like they belong to their own generation. I remember using catch phrases and doing things when I was younger that make me cringe today when I think about them.

  5. Richieb799 profile image63
    Richieb799posted 6 years ago

    Well we know a lot women flaunt what they've got(obviously not all), and obviously shallow men are going to respond and acknowledge it. I notice Clothing for women becoming more and more suggestive from an early age hmm

    1. Ohma profile image80
      Ohmaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Wait what did you just imply?
      That a women cannot dress in a manner that she is comfortable without expecting to be showered with rude and inappropriate behavior because of it?
      Is that seriously what you just said Richie?

      1. Richieb799 profile image63
        Richieb799posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I didn't say you couldn't and I didn't say it was right for guys to make comments, if you stopped to interpret what I wrote you would of noticed I said 'shallow guys'.

        And personally I prefer clothing that leaves something to the imagination.

        1. Ohma profile image80
          Ohmaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Sorry if I reacted to harshly. The whole "She was asking for it, because of the way she was dressed" issue is a very touchy subject to me.

          1. Richieb799 profile image63
            Richieb799posted 6 years ago in reply to this

            That's not what I meant, nobody deserves to be harassed.

            1. Ohma profile image80
              Ohmaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              I do have to admit that I always thought you to be much more sensible than the image I was getting from your first post. I believe that may have been in part a cause for my over reaction.
              I am glad that we agree no one deserves to be harassed.

        2. schoolgirlforreal profile image76
          schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          I agree w/ the part about temptation.
          skimpy clothes are tempting for men and often those who dress like hookers...............................................um maybe they shouldn't!

  6. Stevennix2001 profile image82
    Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago

    yeah, that's true.  you both bring up a lot of valid points there.

  7. habee profile image91
    habeeposted 6 years ago

    I think that sometimes men with limited vocabularies use words like "tap." To me, it implies a quick "booty call," with no possibilities of forming a relationship.

  8. Stevennix2001 profile image82
    Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago

    i agree with richie. nobody deserves to be harassed or disrespected no matter what they're dressed like.  Anyone that does harass others or make rude comments based on stuff like that, should be ashamed of themselves, as it shows an obvious lack of self respect, intelligence and maturity.

  9. alternate poet profile image79
    alternate poetposted 6 years ago

    "Tap that"  has been the subject of a number one pop song, in Australia anyway, but I thought also the US and the UK - about 3 years ago.  The female singer deals with it and the issues pretty well as far as I can make out, though I can never understadn half the words in songs.

  10. blondepoet profile image79
    blondepoetposted 6 years ago

    I never heard of "tap that" before. If you had not told me I would have thought you were referring to someone getting wet under the sprinkler.

    1. alternate poet profile image79
      alternate poetposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      It kind of is big_smile

      1. blondepoet profile image79
        blondepoetposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Hahahaha yes I guess it is when you look at it that way. smile

    2. darkside profile image80
      darksideposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      It would be a college frat house type expression. As in "tapping" a keg (of beer).

  11. Richieb799 profile image63
    Richieb799posted 6 years ago

    There was also the Akon song 'Smack that' lol

    I though that was crude

    Although I liked the song 'Sexy  Chick'

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    Tilecleaninghubposted 6 years ago

    Believe it has something to do with a keg.

  13. Gr8legs profile image60
    Gr8legsposted 6 years ago

    "Tap that" is an expression that has been in use in the part of the world from which I originate (North-East England).  can recall this being used for at least twenty, if not thirty or more years.

    Going out "Tapping" means going out on the lookout to pick up girls. The term may simply come from the act of tapping a girl on the shoulder to gain her attention.

    The other possibility is that, with traditional ales, the beer is served from barrels with a tap on the end of the barrel. When a fresh barrel is opened, the cellar master places a tap against the cork and strikes it firmly with a mallet, pushing the cork inwards and allowing the beer to be served.

    Thus "Tapping" may be a euphemism for making an approach to a woman with a view to sleeping with her and forming a relationship with her so that he would then have sex "on tap".

    1. Bizziebee profile image74
      Bizziebeeposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      yeah i tapped that.

  14. mega1 profile image80
    mega1posted 6 years ago

    don't want to get too psychological over this, but what the heck  . . .  When people, especially teens, use less than respectful and even derogatory phrases to refer to sexual encounters, sexiness, and other relationships they are just showing bravado - a way of saying to each other "I don't take too seriously what the adults do and say and tell me to do - I've got my own life, my own style and I'm brave enough to act it out"  If we take too seriously what they are doing to impress each other, then we're just being too judgmental and serious about things that we'll eventually come to accept just because of the common usage.  For example the "B" word was NEVER ever used when I was a teen - but now its even used on tv and women do not get all upset when they hear it, usually.  But it all depends on the INTENTION behind the words.  We can tell when someone is being abusive with language and that is never acceptable, but we can also tell when people are just being slangy and there is no intention to hurt the person its directed at.  So these seemingly derogatory terms end up becoming complimentary!  I know it's weird, but that is the way social interaction and social language evolves.  It's our own problem if we get too touchy with it and try to impose our control over kids who say stuff like that.  I used to get upset when my kids said "freekin'"  and now I say it myself!  So look for the intention behind the words - and don't get upset unless things are said with bullying or harm intended, is my advice!

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image82
      Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      hmm..you bring up a very good point there mega. i never thought of it that way before.

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    John Gullibleposted 5 years ago

    I believe that phrase is used predominantly by guys under twenty-five. It is really just another form of expression, rather than saying, "I just had sexual intercourse with that young lady"

  16. Greek One profile image81
    Greek Oneposted 5 years ago

    You 'tap' a nail into a hole

    http://0.tqn.com/d/poolandpatio/1/0/r/s/-/-/wreathammer.jpg

    1. Bronson_Hub profile image59
      Bronson_Hubposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      This all makes sense now.  Picture = 1000 words.  Merci!

  17. johnnymission profile image60
    johnnymissionposted 5 years ago

    Because we are awkward and hate emotions and when you say to a pal, "oh, I tapped that girl", you remove any sentiment from the statement and thereby the action.

  18. MAGICFIVE profile image81
    MAGICFIVEposted 5 years ago

    Yea, I first heard this one about 6 years ago or so from some jerk I used to talk to.   It's just one of those phrases that's "caught on" and become sort of popular, that's all.  You can't take it that seriously.  And it's not just kids using it.  That jerk I'm referring to was in his thirties.  Popular movies have even picked it up, too - the term was used on The Forty Year Old Virgin!Do girls like it?  I doubt it.  It seems like something guys say to other guys when they're having "guy talk"!  Don't worry - in a few years it'll be gone, replaced with something else...probably equally as crude or weird, but everyone will be saying it simply because IT'S IN STYLE!  Like the dumb word gynormous.

  19. lostdogrwd profile image61
    lostdogrwdposted 5 years ago

    tap that means sex her. and this kind of talk about a woman is mostly to lose give it up easy type of woman and when guy talk about the lady that's around then. they will talk about tappping these woman tails

  20. Stevennix2001 profile image82
    Stevennix2001posted 5 years ago

    Wow, I forgot all about this forum.  I'm surprised to see it's still doing well, but I really do appreciate you guys providing your thoughts on this topic. smile

  21. Gregoryy profile image59
    Gregoryyposted 5 years ago

    Im a 19 year old male, and I live in the generation of people saying things like this. It bassicly means that they would have sex with that person. Its not classy, or appropriate in my opinion, but thats what it means. If you have any questions regarding slang terms people use from now on you can go to Urban Dictionary.com. Its bassicly the slang dictionary.

 
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