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what if someone told the world you were gay?

  1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
    Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago

    I just saw a movie recently where a big time hollywood actor got up on stage and accepted an academy award.  However, the real shocker was when he thanked his teacher and admitted, for him, that he was secretly a homosexual.  Now, i won't tell you whether he was lying or not about his former teacher.  however, what i would like to ask you all is this. if a big time actor YOU knew as a kid growing up and you saw him accepting a academy award on tv, then tells the entire world your gay.  what would you do? please discuss. big_smile

    1. mega1 profile image79
      mega1posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I think it should be illegal to out someone else - this is an announcement you can only make for yourself - if other people don't want to announce they are gay, nobody else should do it for them, either!  It's more than rude, its harmful in some instances!  Good thing it was just in a movie - not real.  What movie?  and what happened?

      1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
        Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        it was "in & out" starring Matt dillon and kevin kline. kline was a college professor and matt was the hollywood actor that let out his secret because he felt bad that his former teacher was hiding his sexuality.  however, around the end, Kevin Kline finally admits he's gay and then there's this huge uproar about it because the school isn't sure if they want their kids to be around a guy that's openly gay.  therefore, there's this huge trial, and such.  Of course, it's a hollywood film, so i think we all know what happens at the end. wink

        1. xixi12 profile image85
          xixi12posted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Yes, seen the movie. It was hilarious. I would crawl into a hole and hide if it were me

        2. Crazywriterchik profile image73
          Crazywriterchikposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          First I must say that "In & Out" Is a great freaking movie!

          Secondly Steven as a correction Kline was a High School English teacher and not a college professor. Which is one of the reasons why the school tried to fire him. Something about impressionable young students or some nonesense like that.

          Third if some famous person outted me to the world I honestly wouldn't care and probably laugh because I outted myself in high school so the world already knows. Lol smile

    2. pylos26 profile image76
      pylos26posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Gosh darn steven...i would have never guessed you were gay!!!

      oh well...i suppose the closet is full of surprises.

      1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
        Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        actually, im NOT gay.  this was a hypothetical question based on a movie i saw recently.  it has nothing to do with me at all.  please read the entire post before commenting on something like that.  please.

        As it's so freaking obvious you didn't read the OP for you to insinuate a false accusation.

        1. pylos26 profile image76
          pylos26posted 6 years ago in reply to this

          how long have you been "out" steven...hey...there is nothing wrong with being gay.

          1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
            Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

            im not gay, you didn't read my damn post.  don't insinuate false accusations. if you READ the op, you'd understand that this has NOTHING to do with me and it's based on a damn movie called IN & OUT.  get your facts straight.

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              klarawieckposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              Steven, I tried to trade you for Ralwus' bottle last night, but that didn't go well. Mega1 backed out on me and took all chances of that happening with her! lol
              Anyways, if someone announced to the world I was gay, I wouldn't do a thing. Nobody would really care! hmm And I don't think I would care what anyone would think of me either way.

              1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
                Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

                trading me in for rawlus' bottle?  really?  which forum was this on? i must've missed that post.  no offense to rawlus, but im too wild to be owned by anyone.  lol.

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                  klarawieckposted 6 years ago in reply to this


                  You might have better luck finding girls if you were pretending to be gay. We love the "impossible" ones!!! tongue

                  1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
                    Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    lollollol  i would consider that, but im a horrible liar. tongue  lol

        2. Maddie Ruud profile image83
          Maddie Ruudposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          I always find it funny when people take offense to someone asking or assuming that they're gay... I mean, feel free to correct the record if that sort of thing is important to you, but I'd never use the word "accused" as it implies that being gay is a crime of some sort.

          But hey, pylos26, stop insisting, when OP has been so clear, or I'm afraid you'll get suspended from the forums for trolling.

          1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
            Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

            really?  i wasn't trying to say being gay is a crime, as i think anyone has the right to have whatever sexuality they want.  i just don't want someone insinuating or calling me gay because I have a hard enough time getting girls to go out with me as it is.  if a false rumor about my sexuality were to get out like that, it would completely destroy the little chance i had.  that's why i felt compelled to set the record straight, as i don't it to scare off any potential ladies out there. wink  lol. if that makes any sense.  lol.

          2. pylos26 profile image76
            pylos26posted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Message received!...don't have a license for trolling anyway.

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      kimberlyslyricsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I think in their selfish act whatever is driving themselves to that degree of desperate something, could be life changing and hurt someone very badly, but at the same time reveals how shallow and righteous that person is not just trying to be but is to the core.

      I've sadly seen it here also, on different issues, just glad the latest act of hatred will never be known.

      Please why would anyone want or what motive brings all this hate.  Is everyone right and righteous, no, so when can we be ok with that?


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    DoorMattnomoreposted 6 years ago

    I would be totally shocked a big time actor was that concerned with my sexuality.

    I am pretty sure that if I was gay, I wouldn't be ashamed of it, so I would be like.  "dude, he just got an academy award and mentioned ME!!!!!" that would be cool...

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lol. that's true.  plus, even if you weren't gay, you can always say gay as in happy they mentioned ya.  wink

  3. WryLilt profile image88
    WryLiltposted 6 years ago

    If someone finally lets Natalie Portman know I'm gay, that's fine with me!

  4. Shadesbreath profile image89
    Shadesbreathposted 6 years ago

    I'm sure I would suddenly no longer find women attractive and be obligated by the statement to start corrupting elementary school children into giving up their parent's religions whilst I cavorted about slapping men on the bottom and giggling for all my limp-wristed worth.

    1. livelonger profile image90
      livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Maybe that LDS newsletter columnist was telling the truth!

  5. Pcunix profile image89
    Pcunixposted 6 years ago

    We watched that movie just the other night.

    If that were announced about me, most of the women I have known in my life would be quite surprised, but nearly all the men would say that they always thought that was so.  Many men seem to think that detesting team sports is enough right there. Add that I'd rather go talk to the women at a party (because I do not want to listen to sports talk all night) and there it is: I must be gay.

    It wouldn't bother me a bit.  Anyone who wouldn't like me because of that is almost certainly someone who already dislikes me for other reasons - being liberal, atheist, ACLU and all that.

  6. psycheskinner profile image80
    psycheskinnerposted 6 years ago

    That did happen to me as an undergrad, and I didn't care.  If somebody asked i might discuss my sexuality with them but I didn't feel the need to run around issuing a 'correction'.

  7. mega1 profile image79
    mega1posted 6 years ago

    I'm always shocked to find people who really object to others who are openly gay - whether they're teachers or garbage men or anything else.  Gayness is not threatening!  Recently one of my friends refused to go in another of my friends house, because the guy with the house is gay.  Now, I thought that was ridiculous and shameful for him to be so homophobic and I asked "Are you afraid his gayness is going to rub off on you, from your being in his house? It is just plain insulting!"  but there was no response - I guess he couldn't think of anything to say.

    1. alternate poet profile image76
      alternate poetposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      "Are you afraid his gayness is going to rub off on you"

      Mostly it is exactly this  -  it is just fear of anything different, or fear that they may be gay themselves and just don't realise it, or they just fear and it is something to shout at.

      1. mega1 profile image79
        mega1posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Yes. Most of the guys I've known to be homophobic, were really worried about their own attraction to other guys - these are guys who hang out almost exclusively with other men and they all make a big exhibit of how macho they are - drinking, watching sports, being gritty and rather grimey, never being interested in anything even vaguely feminine, never being able to discuss women without a sneer (unless its their mother) and they are so worried about gays - they are obviously hiding their own attraction to their "buddies".

  8. brimancandy profile image82
    brimancandyposted 6 years ago

    I was once watching this TV show, and I will never forget this guy on there talking about George Clooney, and how he found this bath-house that he thought George would like because it was a total meat market. And, my friends and I all looked at eachother, and went WOW! George Clooney is gay?

    Of course the reporter who had this "Guest." on, was saying that the man who mentioned the bath-house was only kidding, and that George Clooney was not gay. Of course we all went Darn!!!
    I think George Clooney is hot, and wouldn't be surprised at all if he was "Family" He just has that "Cruiser." look in his eyes.

    Anyways, If I was a big Hollywood actor, I would assume that I already had my foot in the door, so I would probably out myself and beat the gossip queens to the punch. There have been rumors about Ricky Martin for years, and guess who always claimed to be straight...comes out of the closet? Ricky Martin.

    Hollywood has always been full of gay actors and actresses, and there are ten times more gay and lesbians behind the scenes. So, why is it still such a big deal for someone to be outed?
    If it were me. I would probably be like Liberace and laugh all the way to the bank.

  9. lxxy profile image60
    lxxyposted 6 years ago

    That depends. Is it tabloid level? I'd refute; that stuff is piffle. And I'd never care about anything written about me on a bathroom stall.

    On an "In and Out" level..well, I'd probably just gtfo for awhile. Too much drama for me to handle.


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    mtsi1098posted 6 years ago

    When there is an act of action vs. words - words do not bother me.  I think that the people who know you would know the difference between a lie and the truth and hopefully could differentiate between the two.  I do, however, think the record should be set straight.