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  1. lamonda30 profile image60
    lamonda30posted 6 years ago

    if you are in a relationship without promise of marriage. should u really feel obligated to be true?

    1. SomewayOuttaHere profile image61
      SomewayOuttaHereposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      ..monogamy is basically the same without the marriage certificate...2 people in a relationship - you could call each other a spouse if you are living together;  in some places, it would already be considered a legal relationship - if living together for 1 year or more....the act or commitment of marriage might be more comfortable to some however....

      ...as for being true to each other....guess it depends on the commitment between both parties whether there is a marriage certificate or not.

      lol - luckily it's not called 'manogamy'.....otherwise it would sound kinda one sided....

    2. prettydarkhorse profile image63
      prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Yes. One at a time is good in romantic relationship. I don't go for collect and select. End your current relationship first before looking for another one. If your partner don't want to commit to marry you, it is up to you if you can live by that, if your goals are different, it is difficult. Sometimes people don't want to get married because of so many reasons (not that they don't love you).
      If at the very beginning you know that he will not commit, it is really up to you if you will live by it.

      1. pisean282311 profile image58
        pisean282311posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        collect and select...nice rhyme

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          DoorMattnomoreposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          I thought so to!! 

          also..man-ogamy, made me giggle some. I know what she meant, but its a pretty good typo.

          1. habee profile image92
            habeeposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Doesn't that mean having only one "man" at the time?? lol

  2. b. Malin profile image60
    b. Malinposted 6 years ago

    YES...that's why it's called a RELATIONSHIP!   Otherwise call it "FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS!   And keep looking!!

    1. kmackey32 profile image81
      kmackey32posted 6 years ago in reply to this


    2. lamonda30 profile image60
      lamonda30posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      i can dig it . the reason i ask is because u have situations where one person after years says they r not ready for the m word. that usually means you think you r gonna miss something. the question is what. or u ask them why and they say im just not or i don't know. to me i don't know means i know i just don't wanna tell YOU. i feel like if u think u missin somethin u should go find out. i agree with open relationships. because it is only by variety that you will know what u really want. if u date ten you will find little by little you want b with nine of them less and less. if you r with only one person your whole life. you dont know what u want cus u only have one perspective. that's just all u know and therefor what u are used to.

      1. lamonda30 profile image60
        lamonda30posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        it's usually the man that has a problem with sharing

        1. Rajab Nsubuga profile image60
          Rajab Nsubugaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          It is not true that it is always a man's problem sharing. It depends on the position in the relationship. Relationships are based on so many things and one of them is sacrifice; that's why at times it is referred to as a commitment. But the ultimate ingredient in any relationship is love. If love is the key to your relationship even at the end of it you will not feel as if you were used. Because what you were feeling at that moment was true love.

          You do not have to wait until marriage to know that you are loved. If before marriage you felt like being used even after marriage you gonna have the same feeling. So what is it that you really want? That is the question.

  3. Greek One profile image80
    Greek Oneposted 6 years ago

    if you are in an exclusive relationship in which there is an agreement that you will be faithful to one another, married or not, then you should live by your agreement.

    If you no longer feel comfortable with this exclusive nature of a relationship, then inform your partner that you no longer want to be exclusive.

    Until that time, close you legs or tie up your pee pee in a knot, less you become a @#%@%