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How do men really feel about having friends with benefits?

  1. katiem2 profile image58
    katiem2posted 6 years ago

    Much is said about relationships and really GUYS how do you feel about being friends with benefits?

    More and more we women are happy with our lives not being married and like to enjoy the physical benefits and pleasure of a man without getting serious.

    Does having a "F" buddy work for men?

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
      prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      F buddy like a friend buddy, he helps you with finances? I am not a man, I answered, LOL..

      1. katiem2 profile image58
        katiem2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Hey pretty dark horse, I'm talking about a relationship based on purely sex between friends who are not married yet single.  Great to see you!

        1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
          prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          It will be some kind of special bond then, does this mean you are exclusive?

          Nice to see you katiem2..you take care

          1. Cagsil profile image61
            Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Actually, it only takes attraction and the partners(sexual pair) are not exclusive to each other. wink

            1. katiem2 profile image58
              katiem2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

              Thats what I tend to think as well, other wise it tends to get into the relationship area...

            2. prettydarkhorse profile image63
              prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              Ok I understand now, Thanks to you both Cags and katiem!

          2. katiem2 profile image58
            katiem2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

            It depends, you take the responsibility of safe practices and some are exclusive while some may not be.  It's a matter of choice.  It's becoming more and more common.  Happy to see you to dear big_smile take good care of yourself as well.

    2. John Holden profile image61
      John Holdenposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Had a friend for about 15-20 years, when we were both without partners (and occasionally when with) we used to sleep together.
      It worked perfectly well for both of us.

      1. katiem2 profile image58
        katiem2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Thanks for the feedback smile

    3. dutchman1951 profile image60
      dutchman1951posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      it depends on your attitudes. if you both are mature enough and confident appart as well as togeather, it works. But if it gets all emotional (Mind games) and the view gets clouded, it can be problematic.

      Takes sincer honesty, character and strength of both parties I personaly think. As well as an attraction of course!

      1. katiem2 profile image58
        katiem2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I agree honestly and a good sense of self and reality.  smile

  2. Cagsil profile image61
    Cagsilposted 6 years ago

    Hey Katie,

    I've had 3 relationships in that manner. It was appropriate for them and myself. wink

    Is it immoral? Maybe to some religious zealot, but sex is sex. And, there is nothing immoral about sex. lol lol

    1. katiem2 profile image58
      katiem2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I agree with you Cagsil!  big_smile  Hey look at your cool new avatar, I like smile

      1. Cagsil profile image61
        Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        And, how close to me do you live? lol lol lol

        1. katiem2 profile image58
          katiem2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

          lol., I'm in Ohio, central ohio so how far is that?

          1. Cagsil profile image61
            Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Well, it's not within walking distance if that's what you wanted to know. lol lol

            You're central U.S. and I'm on the East coast. lol I guess that leaves what- 1800 miles. HA! lol

            Always a pleasure Katie. Nice to see you. smile

            1. katiem2 profile image58
              katiem2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

              That's a long walk...

              Always good to see you as well... smile

  3. profile image0
    kimberlyslyricsposted 6 years ago

    I say friends with benefits have been some of the coolest in my life.  Now I'm just old katiem *sigh*
    http://s2.hubimg.com/u/4034809_f248.jpg

    1. katiem2 profile image58
      katiem2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lol your never too old! big_smile

    2. Stimp profile image75
      Stimpposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      This pic just screams "Hey, I have an STD...pick me, please".  lollol

  4. Greek One profile image76
    Greek Oneposted 6 years ago

    it gets too complicated and awkward...

    especially if the details come out in court

  5. brimancandy profile image80
    brimancandyposted 6 years ago

    In my situation, I find that a lot of men don't want the whole friends with benefits thing. To them it is all or nothing. I would suspect in the hetro world, there is probably a thin line when it comes to someone being a f-buddy.

    Most men are ok with sleeping with you once or twice to see how it goes, and, that person would more than likely end up being considered just a fling. And, more than likely, they weill either avoid you all together, or give you the lets just be friends speach  and never have sex with you again, but, will say hello or hang out with you at your request, but, will not be the one to ask.

    I have tried the benefits thing, but, then I started truly falling for him, and I wanted to see him more and more. But, He made it clear to me that I was just a f-buddy, and it would never be any more than that, and once it wasn't a mutual thing, our buddy status ended, and I got the lets be friends speach.

    I really don't think the minds of straight men and gay men are that different. We all enjoy sex about the same, and our views about who we are going to love, how, and why, are only different by whom we are having sex with.

    But, I do think that gay men would admit to having f-buddies more than a straight man would. As, I think a straight man would do more damage to his reputation with Women, if he admitted to having friends that are also sex partners.

    I think the question you should ask yourself, is how would you feel about dating a man, if you knew he had several female f-buddies? As some gay men have a lot of F-buddies! It's true.

    1. katiem2 profile image58
      katiem2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Very good point and as I straight chic I relate as well smile

  6. tritrain profile image73
    tritrainposted 6 years ago

    Nah, I'm not interested.

    I think for some men and women it would work for them.

    1. katiem2 profile image58
      katiem2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Good to hear from you!  smile

  7. Stacie L profile image87
    Stacie Lposted 6 years ago

    I have always thought that "friends with benefits" thing was a  farce.
    I see no benefit for either "friend."
    a real friend would not use another for sex..they are fooling themselves thinking it's just physical.. JMHO hmm

    1. katiem2 profile image58
      katiem2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Stacie, Thank You for your humble opinion.  I don't think it's ever a good idea to use someone for any reason, good point! smile

      1. Diane Inside profile image82
        Diane Insideposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Hi, I think it's possible as I have know some who do that, but then what happens in the future, when you do want to stay with just one man, that you fall for.

        If he knows that a women has been doing this, will he be more inclined to stay with her knowing that she has so easily been able to participate in this kinda of promiscuity. I would think he would wonder if she would begin to think of him in the same manner.

        I don't know it's just a thought.

        1. katiem2 profile image58
          katiem2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Interesting thought!  smile

  8. wyanjen profile image87
    wyanjenposted 6 years ago

    Yep, me and my buddy are totally using each other for sex.


    Ugly divorces
    Conflicts with child custody
    Hours spent in courts
    Thousands spent on lawyers...
    We're both burned out and used up from our former marriages.

    It's too late to start over again. But, why should we have to be lonely? smile


    We are 100% honest and monogamous. And we have a great time together.

    1. katiem2 profile image58
      katiem2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Now that's WHAT I'm talking about!  big_smile

  9. Jewels profile image80
    Jewelsposted 6 years ago

    As the question is geared toward the man answering, I guess I can only assume what my F Buddy thinks.  He's not complained, gets lots of benefits, has no responsibilities around the house and keeps coming back! smile

    1. katiem2 profile image58
      katiem2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      You go Jewels, Great example! smile

  10. Stevennix2001 profile image82
    Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago

    its okay if all your looking for is sex, and your not into any kind of serious relationship.  for me though, i wouldn't want any part of it.  sure, it would be a lot of fun at first but if your looking for something serious, then no it's not a good idea at all.  Im not into that sort of thing, as friends with benefits sounds too complicated and not worth the risk if you ask me.  besides, i don't like sharing girls that i like with anybody; especially other men, as that would just straight up piss me off.  lol.  just saying.  lol.

 
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