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In Your Opinion, one important ingredient in a Happy Marriage?

  1. TammyHammett profile image61
    TammyHammettposted 5 years ago

    Although I feel there are a multitude of ingredients that need to blend together to create a happy marriage, cherishing your partner, would be high on my list of important ingredients.

    1. andycool profile image69
      andycoolposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      The three essential ingredients in a happy marriage are:

      1. Understanding
      2. More Understanding
      3. Much More Understanding


    2. speedbird profile image64
      speedbirdposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Honesty and Trust

    3. cpvr profile image61
      cpvrposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      The most important thing? Honest and trust

  2. Cagsil profile image82
    Cagsilposted 5 years ago

    Welcome to HubPages! smile

    One important ingredient? Trust, Honesty and Communication working together brings about love.

  3. richtwf profile image60
    richtwfposted 5 years ago

    Good communication - being a good listener, willing to compromise and be understanding, show that you love your other half by spending enough quality time with them.

    1. 6 String Veteran profile image88
      6 String Veteranposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      @ richwf --yes, QT is a must, especially when you have children. They will forcibly take it from you if allowed.

  4. Trsmd profile image59
    Trsmdposted 5 years ago

    Trust and Respect is the most important ingredient in the Married Life..

  5. edithsaffairs profile image60
    edithsaffairsposted 5 years ago

    Honesty. Being able to express yourself to each other and say what you really feel and really want.

  6. fucsia profile image60
    fucsiaposted 5 years ago

    As everyone has said: honesty and respect. But I do not just mean the honesty to tell the facts, I especially talk about the honesty to tell the emotions, feelings, desires ... Everything.

  7. shazwellyn profile image83
    shazwellynposted 5 years ago

    You need to be best friends wink

  8. maven101 profile image76
    maven101posted 5 years ago


  9. TammyHammett profile image61
    TammyHammettposted 5 years ago

    One thing is apparent, it is hard to just name one thing that makes up a happy marriage. I agree completely with all of your responses. Working on a happy marriage is a 24/7 job that can lead to a life time of rewards. Where some people fall short in their relationship, is that they start putting more effort towards othe aspects of their lives, instead of their marriage.

  10. arb profile image78
    arbposted 5 years ago

    Actually, more complex than it appears. I would agree that honesty, trust, respect and a host of other virtues would help our mariages. What do we do, however, when we fail to be virtuous.With over half of marriages failing it is evident that we have a propensity to violate those things necessary to relationship. Despite our best effort we will not be all that we want to be. We will not always be respectful and we will not always be honest. We will not always be at our best. It is easy to love someone who never fails you. Marriage is the opportunity to love someone despite the inevitable defficiencies that will surface. That kind of love is born in daily forgiveness. Can't think of a failed marriage that forgiveness would not have mended.

  11. megs78 profile image61
    megs78posted 5 years ago

    in my opinion, there is one thing that is really important to a happy marriage; being able to let things go.  Sometimes we put too many expectations on our partner and stay stuck on stupid, unimportant things when we should really just forget about it.  I wrote a hub about it if you're interested.  its called 'Letting It Go'.  Coming to this realization greatly improved my married life and it has been an incredible eyeopener.

  12. jimmy yang profile image59
    jimmy yangposted 5 years ago

    love is the most important ! Loving your wife,loving your child and loving your family ,I think loving is all !
    if there is no love exist,the family will be broken up and your marriage too !

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    John Wiggensposted 5 years ago

    It should of never happened. There is nothing good anymore.
    After 43 years just tired of it all.

  14. BobbiRant profile image80
    BobbiRantposted 5 years ago

    My husband, who treats me with respect, love and dignity every day of our lives.

  15. Victoria Stephens profile image81
    Victoria Stephensposted 5 years ago


  16. feisty woman profile image60
    feisty womanposted 5 years ago

    Communication - if you're married I assume the love is already there.  Remember to talk about problems and they will resolve.  Give each other a cuddle and kiss.  Hold hands.  A smile.  However you want to communicate make sure you don't stop.  It'seasy to let life get in the way.

  17. MR MARTINS. profile image59
    MR MARTINS.posted 5 years ago


  18. theseus profile image71
    theseusposted 5 years ago

    I'm not yet married but I am sure that one important ingredient to have a happy marriage is if both wife and the husband knows how to APPRECIATE each other.

  19. ThunderKeys profile image84
    ThunderKeysposted 5 years ago

    Learning how to listen for and comunicate, and meet core relationship needs in order to defuse and extinguish the critisism-defense cycle.

  20. ddsurfsca profile image73
    ddsurfscaposted 5 years ago

    there are two-----   

    honesty and tolerance (accepting without trying to change)

  21. Rafini profile image82
    Rafiniposted 5 years ago

    Communication, hands down. smile

  22. Karanda profile image84
    Karandaposted 5 years ago

    Acceptance is the big one for me. Two people meet and enjoy each other so much they want to make it permanent. Some spend the rest of their lives together finding ways of changing the other. Love your partner just the way the are, after all that is what attracted you in the first place.

  23. Richieb799 profile image66
    Richieb799posted 5 years ago

    Ive never been married but I would suggest a 'deep relations and emotional compatibility'

  24. medor profile image71
    medorposted 5 years ago

    One Inmortant Ingredient in a Happy Marriage is to BE HAPPY... happiness is the result of a job well done.  So put your marriage relationship first... and work on it... you will have a happy marriage

  25. Froggy213 profile image38
    Froggy213posted 5 years ago

    first trust and second communication.
    But MOST IMPORTANT IS LOVE-LOVE like the first day you met. Sometimes it takes work to attain it, but if both are reaching for that Love, it will be there.
    I have written a marriage hub or 2-have been so for 30 years, but my wife passed on in Nov. I miss her dearly.

    1. Mark Knowles profile image59
      Mark Knowlesposted 5 years ago in reply to this


      That sucks - I am sorry to hear that. sad

      My first wife died years ago and I still miss her. I can only tell you it does get better as more time passes - it never feels like it is going to until you look backwards though and realize it does not hurt as bad as it did.

      They say time heals, but I don't think that is quite true. It just stops being quite so intense and other things slowly take up your thoughts so you simply stop thinking about how much you miss her - the pain is still there and the feelings - just less intense and less immediate -  I don't think they ever go away - you just think about other things. Too fresh for you right now - it is probably all you are thinking about. Get through the first year and you will see - I promise.

      There is a good reason we used to have a "year of mourning," in most cultures. A year and a day actually - you do not start thinking straight until that year is over. I know - I made the biggest mistakes of my life that first year. I hope you don't. sad

      1. Froggy213 profile image38
        Froggy213posted 5 years ago in reply to this

        Thanks Mark.
        I hear and will heed your advice.

        1. Mark Knowles profile image59
          Mark Knowlesposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          No thanks needed. I feel your pain, Or rather - I have been through what you are going through and understand how difficult it is. If you need to talk - feel free to contact me through my profile here.

  26. DIYweddingplanner profile image90
    DIYweddingplannerposted 5 years ago

    Trust.  And once it's destroyed, it's close to impossible to get it back.

  27. jmpruitt1975 profile image61
    jmpruitt1975posted 5 years ago

    My personal 3 most important ingreiedients to a good relationsip:

    common values



    without those, nothing else matters. If you don't have them, your relationship WILL fail

  28. evvy_09 profile image87
    evvy_09posted 5 years ago

    Trust in your spouse.  They are the one you promised to love and cherish for life.
    Beyond trust is honesty, passion and laughter. Comunication is very important too but that goes under honesty.  Not saying how you feel or think is exactly the same as being dishonest.

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    klarawieckposted 5 years ago

    Don't let the little things bother you... and learn to cook.

  30. ladytfromtheqc profile image58
    ladytfromtheqcposted 5 years ago

    Trust, empathy, respect, excellent listening skills, and tactful, truthful communication. compromise and reasonable expectations of one another.

  31. SomewayOuttaHere profile image58
    SomewayOuttaHereposted 5 years ago

    ...$$$'s....gotta pay the bills...

  32. prettydarkhorse profile image63
    prettydarkhorseposted 5 years ago

    appreciation, loyalty, support and understanding - 4 important not one, sorry

  33. Midnight Oil profile image92
    Midnight Oilposted 5 years ago

    Simple - marry a French woman.  They don't marry for money they marry for love, and boy do they know how to love... wink

  34. Taleb80 profile image81
    Taleb80posted 5 years ago

    When you have it, you understand, forgive, support & respect.

  35. tmarie423 profile image60
    tmarie423posted 5 years ago

    Honesty and trust are a must! As well as love, compassion, and understanding.

  36. dianne143 profile image60
    dianne143posted 5 years ago

    1. Fidelity
    2. Understanding
    3. Trust
    4. Give and take
    5. Good listener
    6. Respect
    7. Love
    8. Having a quality time with your partner no matter how busy you are.
    9. Be passionate and affectionate.
    10. You should know how to satisfy your partner in all ways


    1. SomewayOuttaHere profile image58
      SomewayOuttaHereposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      ...and don't forget really, really good sexxxxx!  big_smile

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    Martisposted 5 years ago

    I don't believe there is one answer because marriages are made up of a man and woman who bring different personalities which means that the marriage will also have its own personality. My husband and I will celebrate 36 years in April - our biggest strength is allowing each other to be an individual - to have interests separate from each other. (By the way I agree with most of the other posts!

  38. LauraGraig profile image60
    LauraGraigposted 5 years ago

    Communication is the key ingredient. Without communication you cannot understand your partner's needs. Most of us think this is easy but it's not. Learning how to communicate well is vital.

  39. mdlawyer profile image60
    mdlawyerposted 5 years ago

    Readiness to forgive and sacrifice is very important for success in marriage

  40. HattieMattieMae profile image70
    HattieMattieMaeposted 5 years ago

    Unconditiona love and forgiveness. Understanding that your partner will always imperfect no matter what. Love him/her anyway. Even in the mountains and disasters hold on for the ride. No matter how tired you get, or weak you feel, hold on and be strong, because there is always a positive solution, it is just what you choose to do with it. Every day is a new day and we create it like a masterpiece of artwork. We color it what ever we choose to in the moment. If God is the center of your hearts he will pull you through anything. As long as you never be a quitter, and never give up, the storms will calm in the end.