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Letting go of your ex

  1. soneblom profile image61
    soneblomposted 5 years ago

    Why do men divorce the wife for another woman and then hang around close enough to make sure ex wife does'nt find happiness with someone ells? Weird! but........True!

    1. Pearldiver profile image86
      Pearldiverposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Why Are Yellow Flowers Always So Toxic? hmm

  2. Stevennix2001 profile image82
    Stevennix2001posted 5 years ago

    I can't speak for all men, but it sounds like the person your describing is a selfish jerk.  If he leaves you for another woman, then it's obviously a sign he's thinking that he can do better than you (not saying that's the case, but trying to look at things from his perspective based on what you just said), but he still has feelings for you enough that seeing you with another man makes him jealous. Hence, he's selfish.  On the one hand, he wants to be with this other woman, but he doesn't want to see you happy with another man because then he'll become jealous that you'll eventually forget about him.  Anyways, I hope that makes sense.  Don't worry.  Not all men are like this, as there's always a lot of jerks and a**holes out there, but there are a few nice ones out there too if you look hard enough.  smile

  3. Matthew Rogerson profile image61
    Matthew Rogersonposted 5 years ago

    It is inevitable that after being married to you, your ex husband will still have some subconscious feelings for you somewhere. Despite the divorce and the causes of it, feelings of respect and love do not die very quickly. Anger and frustration can often mask them but this doesn't prevent their presence. It is likley your ex husband would be slightly jealous if you found someone else because he still wants your focus to be on him, even though can't have him. Equally he has feelings for his new partner and thus the reason he will remain with her. Give it some time though, in the future he should start to back off and let you get on with your life, as he will realise he wants to get on with his. For now, just be the bigger person and ignore him.

  4. Dynicky profile image61
    Dynickyposted 5 years ago

    Unfortanately this guy wants to have his cake and eat it to.  I agree very selfish!