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Am i being too obsessed being hairy

  1. masculine profile image60
    masculineposted 5 years ago

    Am i being too obsessed and hopeless about myself, due to my excess body hair, which i see as a disability in matters related to relationships and hampering of self image?
    I feel "abnormal" and try to shun the girls, they are too good for me , eve for formal talks....and many times i even feel like removing my balls to remove any sexual thoughts as they are just a pain for me.

    1. paradigmsearch profile image91
      paradigmsearchposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      You are what you are. And don’t go removing anything…

      Women are like men. Each individual has different preferences. I consider it a statistical certainty that a certain percentage of women actually might like the physical attributes you are concerned about. If it is a small percentage, so what? A percentage is a percentage. Be sociable and get out in the world. Let the law of averages take its course.

      1. masculine profile image60
        masculineposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        even we excess hairy guys are very small percentage...i still believe any girl CAN actually like it, she might adapt it for love/money etc. etc., but surely not like it.

        1. paradigmsearch profile image91
          paradigmsearchposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          Come to think of it, I wonder where the hairy women hang out…

          Maybe do a google search, but might take precautions to stay out of trouble.

          And there is no “we”, sorry. smile

    2. EmpressFelicity profile image83
      EmpressFelicityposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      That last paragraph sounds as though you're worried about more than just excess hair - like you've got other, deeper issues and are blaming them on the hair thing.

    3. prettydarkhorse profile image63
      prettydarkhorseposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Nothing about the hair. You can shave it, what is more important is to have confidence in yourself. Asian women like men who have chest hair, most of them, it is a cultural thing, but of course it is different in your culture perhaps. Most women however in most culture prefer men who are confident about themselves, not about those hairs.

      Look at Tom Jones (chest hair insured for millions of dollars)

      (http: -- fooyoh.com/menknowpause_lifestyle_living/5631389)

      1. masculine profile image60
        masculineposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        lol its so much less chest hairs as compared to Me.

  2. wychic profile image80
    wychicposted 5 years ago

    You are who you are, and obviously if you're having to shun people then they certainly don't mind what you perceive as drawbacks as much as you do. There are some women who don't like body hair...personally, I don't get that...and there are many, like myself, who think the hairier the better wink. My husband is one of the hairiest individuals I've ever met in my life (we often joke about him being a Wookiee or lump him in with the fur-faced critters of the household), and I wouldn't have it any other way. Personally, a non-hairy man smacks of pre-pubescence to me and honestly can't see what women find attractive about "pretty boys" with shaved chests. Everyone has different preferences, so just don't worry about it and focus on sharing your true personality with others instead of focusing purely on bodily appearance.

  3. earnestshub profile image88
    earnestshubposted 5 years ago

    I am not a hairy person, but one of my best friends is.
    He had issues with it, but met a girl now who loves hairy men, and his attitude has changed dramatically in just a few days!
    I would be getting some help with the way you see yourself, as I feel your hair is not the issue, but how you feel about it.
    A few years ago I got what was said to be "terminal" cancer.
    A new operation saved my life, but took my lateral dorsal muscle and used it to fill a dinner plate sized whole in my back. As a male who at fifty had the body of a fit 30 year old I was devastated at the loss of what I saw as a big lump of my masculinity.
    The V shape of one side of my body disappeared, and left me flat down one side. I got past it with some therapy. Good luck, I wish you well. smile

  4. Daddy's Princess profile image85
    Daddy's Princessposted 5 years ago

    OMG don't worry about being too hairy! My guy is a woolly mammoth and I would not have it any other way! I love LOVE LOVE him that way. Like wychic said, hairless guys seem like little boys to me! YUCK! Give me a man who can tickle more than my fancy! I would bet that with a little confidence you will find a girl who loves your hairiness! Believe me, there are plenty of us out here! smile

    1. womble.0115 profile image59
      womble.0115posted 5 years ago in reply to this

      personally i wouldnt worry about it to much,some woman love hairy guys some dont just as in men they have certain issues they dont like about if they wear to much make up same thing realy, i know a guy who had a hairy back and he didnt like his either, i used to do beauty therapy and if you are that concerned there are products out there that can help so i f you want any advice just let me know ok as it can be embarrasing talking about that kind of thing on here for you guys eh !!!!! but happy to help lol but thats only if its really bothering you, and a girl should love you for whats on the inside anyway

  5. Sarah Masson profile image78
    Sarah Massonposted 5 years ago

    It's easy to say "don't worry about it" but honestly, everyone has things that they don't like about themselves. No one is perfect and that's the way it should be. We are all different for a reason (how boring if we were all the same) If hair is you're biggest concern then you should feel lucky. Be yourself and if people don't like it then that's their problem. Don't feel down on yourself just because of hair. Hair is supposed to be there so chin up big_smile