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Do you have platonic friends?

  1. CyclingFitness profile image92
    CyclingFitnessposted 5 years ago

    My best friends is female and to be honest I've never thought about her in another way. However I have many friends who assume we're an item when we're out and cannot understand the principle of having a close friend of the opposite sex

    What do hubbers think of this concept? Do you have platonic relationships and are you comfortable having close friends of the opposite sex?

    1. ErinElise profile image83
      ErinEliseposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      I think that friendships of the opposite sex are perfectly normal and I am completely comfortable with them.  I have several friendships that span over 20 or more years and will continue the same way.  I love my guy friends, and my female friends too of course.  But, it is completely possible to be best friends with the opposite sex without anything going on or being an item.  You're right CyclingFitness, there are many people out there who just cannot understand it.

    2. Sasinib profile image80
      Sasinibposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      I think it is entirely possible. I also understand what you are talking about when it comes to people thinking of you two as an item. The annoying thing is that some people just will not believe you and will keep trying to make it into something more than what it really is.

    3. Stevennix2001 profile image82
      Stevennix2001posted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Well all my female friends on hubpages are platonic friends.  There's this one girl that i talk to at a restaurant that i usually eat at.  She gets hit on all the time because of how obviously attractive she is.  However, we're just platonic friends; which suits us both fine as neither of us are looking for a relationship anyways.  lollol  all joking aside though, i wouldn't worry about it.  besides, where's it written that a guy and girl can't just be friends? there's nothing wrong with it, as im sure it's a lot more common than you think.  In fact, i know it is.

    4. deblipp profile image61
      deblippposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      I think if you can't have platonic relationships, you're really not much of a grownup.

      1. Matt in Jax profile image80
        Matt in Jaxposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        Well put!

  2. knolyourself profile image60
    knolyourselfposted 5 years ago

    Most of my relationships have been platonic.
    They last forever.

  3. Stacie L profile image88
    Stacie Lposted 5 years ago

    yes and no. I usually have platonic friends until they have a few drinks and then they want to be more...lol

  4. Monisajda profile image84
    Monisajdaposted 5 years ago

    I have a good friend of opposite sex, we understand each other as we grew up together. I would never marry him but I like him a lot.

  5. ahostagesituation profile image78
    ahostagesituationposted 5 years ago

    I feel like I could not live without some of my guy friends--too much history.  I'm pretty sure that I'll always have a certain amount of platonic males in my life--with boundaries.  In a relationship--jealousy I can handle, maybe even respect.  Extreme possessiveness gets old quick though.

  6. psycheskinner profile image83
    psycheskinnerposted 5 years ago

    People who think you can't have opposite gender friendships that have nothing to do with sex have either very narrow or very dirty minds.

  7. Mcken profile image60
    Mckenposted 5 years ago

    i understand your situation man, and i think platonic friendships are extremely important, for there's always something that you'll feel more comfortable sharing with someone of the opposite sex. Leave the rumor mill and talking to the others, if there's nothing more between you two other than friends, then there's nothing concrete really. its their loss i guess!

  8. sofs profile image86
    sofsposted 5 years ago

    I believe friends are friends, the gender is secondary. Some of my best friends belong to the opposite gender and they are married and
    I still have excellent relationship with their spouses too.. and they with mine. Friends are like your soulmates they are so connected to you in spirit..the physical aspect does not come into play when you regard them as friends and friends alone.

  9. Matt in Jax profile image80
    Matt in Jaxposted 5 years ago

    Friends can definitely be of the opposite sex, though I also get unnatural reactions to my female friends from girlfriends at the time or wonderments from other guy friends.

  10. Jonathan Janco profile image81
    Jonathan Jancoposted 5 years ago

    I don't have platonic friends. Only socratic friends. Getit?!

    But seriously, having friends of the opposite gender is only a big deal to those who have their heads up their a$$es for various reasons. I have tons of female friends. Some of whom I was involved with otherwise at some point or another and some not. None of my previous gfs ever got too outwardly jealous and never needed to be. I've gotten into a few situations as a result, but nothing grown ups cant handle.