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Physical attractiveness iin a partner

  1. your cybersister profile image61
    your cybersisterposted 5 years ago

    Is physical attractiveness in a partner more important to men or to women?

    1. BRIAN SLATER profile image87
      BRIAN SLATERposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      to men of course.

      women look for different things in a partner. Like his bum, the size of his wallet, the house he lives in, will he make a good father.

  2. secularist10 profile image90
    secularist10posted 5 years ago

    It is more important to men, of course.

    Men are programmed to seek a physically and genetically healthy vessel for offspring, and physical appearance is the primary way of determining that. Women are programmed to seek a mate with social status, confidence and a number of other intangible qualities, thus they place less emphasis on physical attractiveness.

    Men watch porn, a visual medium. Women read romance novels, with no visual component.

    1. Lisa HW profile image82
      Lisa HWposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Oh, good lord!   Blanket-generalization alert!!   Social status and "confidence" don't mean a thing to some women.  Too much confidence can be obnoxious and a sign that a guy doesn't know how great he ISN'T.  Faked confidence isn't a whole lot more appealing.    Plain and simple.  There is biological hard-wiring, but some people are less at its mercy than others are.  As a woman, I don' t read porn OR romance novels for whatever reasons anyone ever reads either of those types of things. 

      In answer to the OP's question, yes.  It is known that men are "visual" and that appearance plays a big role for me.  At the same time, though, how important a guy's appearance/attractiveness is to women shouldn't be underestimated.  A guy doesn't have to be handsome, but he has to be attractive/appealing to the woman in question.  (I guess for women who aren't selective about "certain things" appearance may not matter much, but women who are selective are selective for reasons I'm not going into here - but appearance does matter.)

      1. secularist10 profile image90
        secularist10posted 5 years ago in reply to this

        There are exceptions to every rule. That doesn't change the rule, though. Romance novels are the most popular genre of books by far--there's a reason for that.

        Haha, you just agreed with me when you said "a guy doesn't have to be handsome." Exactly. A man's appearance entails a variety of things like his fashion, facial hair, hairstyle, healthy skin, breath, teeth, etc--all of which are controllable, and speak to exactly the intangible qualities I was referring to.

        A relatively physically unattractive man can increase his sexual attractiveness if he wears good-looking clothes, takes care of himself, has fresh breath, smells good, etc. Meanwhile, another man who may have the proportions of a model may not be as appealing if he dresses and smells like a bum. The way a man presents himself speaks to his confidence, social knowledge, awareness of his body, and such, which are what women generally look for.

        I believe the OP was asking about inherent physical qualities.

      2. DIYweddingplanner profile image90
        DIYweddingplannerposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        As a woman, I can tell you I detest romance novels and think they're a complete waste of time!  But also as a woman, I can tell you that there are so many different things that constitute attractiveness.  What I consider physically attractive, my friends would laugh at and vice versa.  I think the same goes for men.  The concept of attractiveness happens in the brain BEHIND, not just in the eyes themselves.
        I think physical attractiveness for men grows less important as they mature when they are looking for a LIFE partner..and not a one night stand.

        1. 4tune profile image60
          4tuneposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          I agree romance novels are retarded, when I was a kid I would look at my moms and knew to look somewhere in the middle for the sex parts, lol!  And I would do the same today, Just give me the kink and leave out the long drug out drama - thanks.

  3. pajamazzon profile image60
    pajamazzonposted 5 years ago

    I believe that when we grow a lot older, our taste in people changes too.

    Honestly romance novels gives you the wrong ideas what true love really is and whats it like.

    1. Disturbia profile image60
      Disturbiaposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      LOL, romance novels are just fantasy, and escape from our sometimes dull and boring everyday lives.  I much perfer a good video or computer game where I can blow-up something, over a romance novel where the hero is a good kind of bad boy that every woman wants and every man wants to be.

  4. Disturbia profile image60
    Disturbiaposted 5 years ago

    Well, I can't speak for anyone but myself and physical attractiveness is very important to me.  Now having said that, "physical attractiveness" is very subjective.  I don't like "pretty" boys.  I like real men, so I'd take a man who looks like Russell Crowe hands down any day of the week over one that looks like Brad Pitt.

    1. nycgrl profile image78
      nycgrlposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      I am with you Disturbia! I can't stand pretty boys.  Like Rob Pattinson? Ugh he looks dirty like he desperately needs a shower or Leo DiCaprio who looks like he needs a sandwich, I feel I could beat him up lol. Give me a beefy, hunky Russel Crowe or George Clooney anyday to those pretty boys!

      1. secularist10 profile image90
        secularist10posted 5 years ago in reply to this

        I think studies have indicated that women on the pill often prefer more feminine-looking men because of the chemical/ hormone changes in their bodies. Some suggest that's why the "prettier" male celebrities have increased in popularity in recent decades, whereas back in the 1950s and earlier (before the pill) you had more masculine-looking men.

  5. nycgrl profile image78
    nycgrlposted 5 years ago

    Men are known to be more visual but I have found that we women are much more judgmental. I think as long as a girl is moderately attractive or has some attractive qualities and takes care of herself then she will have a decent number of men to choose from and probably never lack in the dating department. But men have it much tougher because it is true that we women can be very picky and judgmental.  It's just the truth and girls you know I am right! I for one am tall and refuse to date any man who is under 5"11 in height. It might make me superficial but it's the truth.  I think men are much more forgiving in that sense than we women are.

  6. ubanichijioke profile image48
    ubanichijiokeposted 5 years ago

    I for one would love to marry or date somebody presentable and beautiful. However i aversion for excessively pretty women mainly because they always cause a stir and there is the tendency for every other man to want her. I think men are conscious of the type of woman they marry especially people of great status and fame.

  7. thaivalentine profile image60
    thaivalentineposted 5 years ago

    Definitely men - I manage a matchmaking agency and when I speak to men about what they are looking for in a partner, the first comments always involve physical appearance.  In comparison, women usually talk about what the man does for a living.  It's part of our Dating DNA - consider the caveman.  He would provide and the woman would provide children.