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Finding the right partner for marriage. How?

  1. ubanichijioke profile image53
    ubanichijiokeposted 5 years ago

    When the time comes for marriage, [apart from sexual chemistry] what other signs will show that you and your partner are meant to be?

    1. Freegoldman profile image60
      Freegoldmanposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Its one of the most digfficult quetions to answer well i might have an answer
      Not Being the Right Person



      Teens and young adults routinely make the mistake of looking for and praying for the right person to come along while giving little or no attention to being the right person. The young person who is not surrendered to God, who is not obeying the parts of God’s will that have been revealed.  Instead of praying and working to become a young man or woman who is ready to make lifetime commitment before God, many frantically look for mate in every date – and so set themselves up for disappointment.



      Looking for the Wrong Person



      Similarly, some young men and women look for “the right one” without realizing they’re actually for the wrong one. They paint pictures in their minds of what “the right one” will be like. The list often starts with stunning physical beauty, self-confident charm, and impeccable manners, and may also include spiritual and social characteristics.



      Having the Wrong Motives

      Mistakes in dating and marriages are often the result of unwise even ungodly motives. Even Christian teens and young adults often seek a mate for the wrong reasons.

      Nobody like to be forced into a relationship. Being “set up” for a date, or being continually hounded about one’s romantic life by since overbearing family members and friends can be unsettling, to say the least. And even though a person may want to be married someday, the often awkward process of finding the right person can seem to more bother than it’s worth. Add to that the risk of making a life-altering mistake, and the decision making process can be paralyzing.



      In many parts of the world, a single youth do not have a choice about who to marry. Marriages are arranged by the family (usually the father), and brides are treated much family property.

      Nothing should be more important to you or to the person you marry than your spiritual well-being. Abraham knew that. He had his servant travel a great distance (over 400 miles) to find a spiritual compatible bride for his son. It was simply that he was protective and controlling father – he knew the lasting significance of marriage. Genesis 24 helps us to understand why. Abraham gave strict orders to his servant “ You will not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell; but you shall go to my country and to my family, and take a wife for my son Isaac” Gen 24: 3-4.



      Who are today’s Canaanites? The person you are planning to marry doesn’t go to church that promotes human sacrifices or sexual rituals and doesn’t worship fertility goes. The issue, though, is who or what is that person worshipping. Does the person in whom you have a romantic interest know Jesus Christ as Savior? And that Person living for him? Modern-day Canaanites are not always so obviously pagan. They can appear religious in a positive sense, but being religious is not enough. 2 Cor 6:14-15 states “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers…” If  you are a believer the person you marry must be a believer too. Look for a person who knows Christ as Savior, and who gives evidence of spiritual growth.

    2. Freegoldman profile image60
      Freegoldmanposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Nothing should be more important to you or to the person you marry than your spiritual well-being. Abraham knew that. He had his servant travel a great distance (over 400 miles) to find a spiritual compatible bride for his son. It was simply that he was protective and controlling father – he knew the lasting significance of marriage. Genesis 24 helps us to understand why. Abraham gave strict orders to his servant “ You will not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell; but you shall go to my country and to my family, and take a wife for my son Isaac” Gen 24: 3-4.



      Who are today’s Canaanites? The person you are planning to marry doesn’t go to church that promotes human sacrifices or sexual rituals and doesn’t worship fertility goes. The issue, though, is who or what is that person worshipping. Does the person in whom you have a romantic interest know Jesus Christ as Savior? And that Person living for him? Modern-day Canaanites are not always so obviously pagan. They can appear religious in a positive sense, but being religious is not enough. 2 Cor 6:14-15 states “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers…” If  you are a believer the person you marry must be a believer too. Look for a person who knows Christ as Savior, and who gives evidence of spiritual growth.

    3. Freegoldman profile image60
      Freegoldmanposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      The two most important decisions of a man or woman’s life are usually faced and resolved for better and worse – in adolescence; whether or not to follow Christ and who to marry.



      The problem of choosing “the right person” to marry can occasion intense struggle and no little confusion in a young man or woman’s mind.



      The question of “the right one” comes particularly strongly to those who do not believe in divorce who want to marry once,



      Many young people look at the divorces and unhappy marriages that exist all around them and wonder whether they can expect any better. They observed seemingly mismatched couples and worry about making the wrong choice. They witness abusive relationships and fear becoming victims of a poor choice.

  2. ubanichijioke profile image53
    ubanichijiokeposted 5 years ago

    Your answer is apt, practical and very true. I agree to the fact that finding the right partner involves many more than sexual attractions. It involves finding one you love, not facial, sexual but one that has a good heart, the fear of God, faithfulness, truthfulness & good faith. All these facts must play a pivotal role for its success.

  3. thaivalentine profile image61
    thaivalentineposted 5 years ago

    I manage a matchmaking service in Thailand and lots of people are choosing to go this route for  the following reason:

    Time: Considering your partner is someone that affects your life in more ways than perhaps any other choice, people are starting to realize that they are not dedicating enough time to find a soulmate.  Obviously, that is because there are so many demands on our time.

    Choice: Many people live in communities or work in environments where they are not exposed to many dating situations. 

    Convenience: Approaching complete strangers about dating is too no matter who you are and because of this, so few of us actually make the effort of asking the pretty girl across the room out.

    Security: Unfortunately, can you believe everything people are telling you about their background.  Online dating sites are like a "Creative Writing" classroom.

 
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