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Repetition on relationships

  1. Patricia Rios profile image61
    Patricia Riosposted 5 years ago

    Do you know why you keep on repeating the same repetitive patterns in your life??

    Did you notice the same thing is happening over and over again and you can't stand it?

  2. Jonathan Janco profile image80
    Jonathan Jancoposted 5 years ago

    Yes, and I would have to agree with most of the advice I've gotten on this one: that you are yearning to learn a certain lesson. Once you learn the lesson, you stop repeating the cycle.

  3. Patricia Rios profile image61
    Patricia Riosposted 5 years ago

    the thing is when you think you have learned the lesson but then, when you less expect..ooops! here I go again.

    what is the lesson?  you see you have gone through this before..is funny...(or sad?) the same words, the same people and the same situation! and it can happen in relationships, jobs, money, every area of live. But yes. there is a solution you are not suppose to be having this forever. I have overcome this in my life...just would like help people if they want to talk about that! smile

  4. Patricia Rios profile image61
    Patricia Riosposted 5 years ago

    life*

  5. Jonathan Janco profile image80
    Jonathan Jancoposted 5 years ago

    Overcoming a certain fear often has something to do with it. In my case, it is fear of humiliating myself in order to attain what I want in life. Alot of the time, I am just way too stuffy and self-conscious to come out of my shell.

    1. Patricia Rios profile image61
      Patricia Riosposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      hi jonathan, not always we can recognize what are the causes. only after a complete and deep self analysis. and i was wondering..does that that help to know what make it happen? maybe yes because you can treat the issue from the root. The fact is. the more you fear, the more you will attract. Maybe because you were not ready to deal with yourself you were attracting people that wasn't ready either.

      1. Jonathan Janco profile image80
        Jonathan Jancoposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        This is why I havent dated or been in a relationship for so long. I was attracting women who are too in touch with the darker aspects of themselves and I couldnt help but conclude how much I needed to work on myself.

        1. Patricia Rios profile image61
          Patricia Riosposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          you need a time to be with yourself and to reflex but make sure you do not protect yourself too much. life is about taking risks and this is the only way we can learn. avoiding dating wont give you the lessons you need. You will get that after exposing yourself to life even if your fears are trying to hold you back!

  6. knolyourself profile image61
    knolyourselfposted 5 years ago

    It is conditioning and automatic response. Like when driving everything becomes automatic. So one likes a certain kind of person at a certain age and it becomes automatic.

    1. Patricia Rios profile image61
      Patricia Riosposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      yes it becomes automatic...this is very interesting

  7. Patricia Rios profile image61
    Patricia Riosposted 5 years ago

    it is when you are stuck in old habits from the past where you, somehow programmed your mind in a limited way. After growing, a part of you changes but another part of you remains the same with deep unconscious program. IN order to cancel this pattern, you need to erase old belief systems and start a new and more positive ones. but this is very tough!

 
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