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Do you think any girl would marry me?

  1. andur92 profile image61
    andur92posted 5 years ago

    I am 19 years old right now and nowhere near the age to get married and I am not intending to get married before I turn at least 22.

    Well I was just wondering today that will any girl would like to marry me. Everyone tells me I am a nice, innocent and a very shy guy. A girl refused to get in a relationship with me recently only because I am very shy. She said she would love to adopt me as her child because of my cuteness but wouldn't want to get in a relationship with me because I am not mature enough. I totally understood that and agree that I might not be mature enough at the moment.

    But what if I don't develop the level of maturity a girl would want to see in her companion? Will no girl marry me? sad

    What do girls look for in guy?

    If the answer is financial freedom, then I am earning about 500 dollars a month through affiliate marketing which I will scale to full time by the time I graduate. Plus I am studying software engineering from a very well institute in my country and along with that doing Bachelors in Physical Science after which I'll be doing Masters in Physics and a PhD in astrophysics after that.

    What else do girls look for in guy?

    Please guide me, I am very concerned about this.
    Thank you.

    1. cheerfulnuts profile image60
      cheerfulnutsposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      It's good to hear that at your young age, you're already earning $500 a month. However, it's not entirely about the money. Girls want more than that (some don't even care much about money, and those who only care about money aren't worth marrying).
      We ladies are looking for guys who can take care of us. Let me give you an example. Imagine that you have a girlfriend. You take her out for a date. As you were driving her to a restaurant, a man suddenly appeared out of nowhere and got "hit" by your car. His companion came and started to curse you. You panicked and offered to bring the man to a hospital. They refused and were asking for a huge amount of money. You realized that you'd been scammed. Your girlfriend came out of the car and started to worry. You saw some male passersby eyeing your pretty girlfriend. How will you handle the situation?
      As you grow older, you will become wiser and more mature. You will commit mistakes, but you will learn from them. I think you're still too young to get married. Your future girl deserves a wiser and more mature you rather than the present you. You haven't reached your maximum potential yet. For now, try to enjoy life. Learn as much as you can. And have fun! You're still young! smile

      1. andur92 profile image61
        andur92posted 5 years ago in reply to this

        I would ask her to stay in the car. And yes I see your point, I must learn and gain more experience and maturity in this regard.

        P.S. You know I do feel lonely sometimes, I mean I don't have much friends. So I do wish that how great life could have been if I had that special someone. But I guess I'll find my girl in the coming years. I should concentrate on semester exams at the moment. smile

        Thanks for your wonderful answer! smile

        1. cheerfulnuts profile image60
          cheerfulnutsposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          Good luck to you.smile

    2. LegendaryN8 profile image60
      LegendaryN8posted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Marriage is punishment for shoplifting in some countries!

      Aside from that quote, I wouldn't be too worried about marriage.  I'm 30 and I've never been married.  However, I've had the pleasure of having a wonderful relationship with the same person for almost seven years now.

      Go have fun - the girl(s) will come around.  They will want everything to do with you when you are really busy and want nothing to do with them.

    3. TJenkins602 profile image75
      TJenkins602posted 5 years ago in reply to this

      It depends on the woman. I could say that in general, women look for a man who could at least take care of himself, is honest, responsible (in case of children). You do not need to be celebrity-good looking, although that wouldn't hurt either.

      You do not have to worry about getting married. Just work on yourself and continue growing. You might find a woman who would love to be with you, or she might find you.

  2. knolyourself profile image60
    knolyourselfposted 5 years ago

    They love intellectually fascinating and honest, if I may speak for them. You got no problems. Try finding a woman when you almost 70.

    1. andur92 profile image61
      andur92posted 5 years ago in reply to this

      ok. thanx.

  3. paradigmsearch profile image90
    paradigmsearchposted 5 years ago

    Between now and when you graduate, the right woman will come along...smile

    1. andur92 profile image61
      andur92posted 5 years ago in reply to this

      thanx.. smile

  4. Urbane Chaos profile image90
    Urbane Chaosposted 5 years ago

    Your 19 - wait until you're around 40 to get concerned.. For now, be young, have fun, drink Pepsi...

    Of course, there's always this site you can try: Buy a Bride

    Then again, you may end up with this:


    Seriously, don't worry about it.. just go out and live life. It'll happen soon enough.

  5. habee profile image91
    habeeposted 5 years ago

    There's someone for everyone!

  6. justanie profile image61
    justanieposted 5 years ago

    Hey,don't let that bother you.It' just a stage and when the right time comes and you have the right girl you'll surely find your confidence.I see your big dreams,right now focus on that and all other things will come alright?

  7. Diane Inside profile image89
    Diane Insideposted 5 years ago

    yeah don't worry your shyness will become less and less with age. 

    Before long girls will see your confidence and be vying for your attention.

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      Arlene V. Pomaposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      I can't stop laughing at that photo posted by Urbane Chaos.  I'm so sorry.

      Anyway, don't worry.  You are young, so take advantage of your age.  Live your life.  Have fun.  Explore.  Travel.  Set some goals, and when you reach them, set some more goals.  Sometimes, when you aren't looking, that special someone will find you.  Keep an open mind.  When everything "clicks" between you and that special person, you will know.  Don't make marriage your life's goal.  And if you are going to school, don't quit to "graduate in diapers".  Live your life and live it well.  Be happy.

      1. Urbane Chaos profile image90
        Urbane Chaosposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        ...What?  I don't see anything wrong with that picture! big_smile

        Seriously, when I was 19, I was still figuring out my life; but, I was also very stupid.  I got married to a chick that I barely knew and ended up making a lot of mistakes along the way.  I don't regret it, but if I have any advice worth it to give to anyone it would be this: Wait until you really know yourself before getting married.

        Take your time and explore different things.  We were together for six years, and neither one of us had really grown up.  We couldn't, we never had that time to really figure out what the world was all about before we jumped into something that we didn't understand.

        Once we got divorced then that's when we really began to live, so to speak.  I had time to finish college and do some traveling.  She was able to go off to pursue her dream.  It took us longer to get to that point because we jumped into things too soon, but I think we both realize how important it is to be on your own for a bit.  We're still friends, and the experience helped both of us, but I believe we took the long way around.

        My point is this:  Before thinking about marriage, or a career, or about making loads of money - take time to figure out who you are and what you want out of life.  Once you really know yourself then you can walk through this life full of confidence and joy.  How can you ever know what you want out of life before you've had a chance to live it?  How can you live it without first knowing yourself and what you want out of it?

        For now, just live.  There's nothing more important than this.

      2. andur92 profile image61
        andur92posted 5 years ago in reply to this

        i appreciate the fact that you guys are sharing things from your own experiences to help me out. really that means a lot to me. thanks everyone.


  8. Greek One profile image79
    Greek Oneposted 5 years ago


    I didn't even know where my penis was located until 23! (it was hiding underneath my foot)

    Don't even think about getting married until your mid twenties...

    Step one:  Learn how to behave with woman.. through experience and talking with friend

    Step two:  go out with a lot of girls

    Step three:  find out the type of girls not to pursue

    Step four:  find Mrs right

    Step five:  invite me to your bachelor party

    1. andur92 profile image61
      andur92posted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Great tips! Made me laugh a bit. You will be surely invited to the bachelors party. Thanks. smile