i already talked to my partner and were now on the process of working out.. but the other woman, keeps on calling and sending PM's to my partner.. it didn't bother me at first but now.. it's annoying me. My partner and i are working out with our issues and there she was calling and still communicating. I want to get rid of her, asking her nicely that i won't be look like desperate, arrogant, or angry.
You can actually ask her a decent meeting maybe in a nearby place for you to talk about your issues. Tell her of what you want her to do and give her valid reasons why she should stop communicating your partner.
If she is selfish and closed minded and still didn't stop communicating, you may ask your partner to meet with her and he should be the one to tell the other girl while you are there. If your partner could do that then you are sure that he will be choosing you over her.
If your partner is serious about working it out then your partner should be the one to tell her to stop calling. I hate to tell you, but your partner may be the problem here. I hope it works out for you.
Well, if your partner is cheating on you then the real issue here is not but of him not being to really know what does he really want in a relationship. Partners who were victims of infidelity thought they're to blame, but the real story behind this is the erring partner really has not found the right person for him/her...he is still seeking and is not able to find the answer...but it's best to let the partner know for he/she is at fault here, not the other woman...
If they are communicating knowing it upsets you than she must not feel the same as you do. If my Gf was talking to someone that she knew upset me after discussing it I would put my foot down and ask her to chose.
Precisely. Talk to him. He apparently wants her to call and stuff. Or he'd change his number, swap phones with you for awhile to avoid her... Have you considered sharing him or inviting her in as just a sexual partner. He is needing something you are not providing him. This is something you have no control over and it is his doing not yours. If you can't share him or help him to fulfill his lustful needs, you may have to move on.
I didn't get rid of the girl. I got rid of the partner. Good thing, too, because they ended up using my identity fraudulently while I was overseas. Just imagine what would have happened to me if I had stayed with him! Ugh!
They stole your identity? Oh heck no! Call the cops, press charges against that person and if you cannot see the need to get rid of this person. Go look in the mirror. You deserve far better than that!
I agree with sholland10.....the partner will have to be the one to put a stop to it. Perhaps it's time to change phone numbers?
I would think it would be difficult to maintain a friendship with her while trying to rebuild trust with you. I'm not saying it can't be done, but it sure makes it hard on everyone. One would have to wonder if it would really be worth it.
That's the thing most people disrespect your relationship, and if they want something they can't have they go in for the kill. I've seen many men & women do this, and there is no easy way to deal with it. You just have to stand your ground and let both of them no you mean business. If they don't want to deal with the boundaries, and respect you than maybe that means there is someone better for you!
I guess, changing number is one way so that the girl can't communicate with your partner (that if, it is easy to do with you). Or let your partner talk to her together with you so that she will realize that she's not the woman that your partner love and wanted to be with the rest of his life.
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