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What is Hypersexuality?

  1. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
    schoolgirlforrealposted 5 years ago

    I've been told that hypersexuality is a state of being where you are more aware
    than normal of your sexuality.

    It could be that you are overly sensitive to the fact that licking your lips
    may "turn someone on" without your intention.

    Or it may be that you are thinking about sex with every person of the opposite
    sex you meet, and wondering why, and how come you can't control it? Or why
    are you always nervous around them?

    Perhaps it comes and goes.

    Is it shyness? Nervousness? Or because your parent made you feel uncomfortable inappropriately and so now it's learned behavior?

    Have you heard of it and what do you know or experience?

    I'd like to do a hub on this because I think it's an interesting topic and one
    that many people experience but never understand why or are unaware.  This could be of great help to ease anxiety.

  2. recommend1 profile image71
    recommend1posted 5 years ago

    I don't think it means any of the things you assume.  It is generally all about lack of inhibitions either due to some mental issues such as bipolar or straight forward lack of moral controls .  Basically hypersexuality means slut, male or female.

    1. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
      schoolgirlforrealposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      oh, wow.
      I think it can be unintentional thou, like you said due to bipolar, and maybe other things? Oh and I don't think everyone acts on these feelings, that it could make them extremely uncomfortable.

      1. wilderness profile image94
        wildernessposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        I saw a TV special about brain damage where some woman in Britain had suffered damage and it affected her sexual desire to the point she was afraid to go outside.  A walk to town inevitably ended with her in bed with a stranger.  Unless her husband was right with her at all times she would bed any man she saw. 

        You're right - extremely uncomfortable.  Both MD's and psychologists were working with her, trying to find out why and how to stop it, but no real results yet.

        Maybe that's hypersexuality.  A slut, yes, but not by choice.  She couldn't control it, kind of like bipolar.  Or like anyone with a compulsion to wash their hands, gamble, whatever.

        1. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
          schoolgirlforrealposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          I don't think it's always that serious, but yeah that sounds pretty bad.

        2. profile image0
          Motown2Chitownposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          That's exactly how I would describe it, wilderness, from what I understand about the meaning of the prefixes - hyper and hypo.

          hyper - too high, therefore I would state the simple definition of hypersexuality as a sex drive that is abnormally high - for whatever the individual reasons might be.

          hypo - too low.  Not important for this conversation, just throwing it out there for the sake of comparison.

          smile

        3. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
          schoolgirlforrealposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          if you look it up on wikipedia, it's not that serious.

      2. recommend1 profile image71
        recommend1posted 5 years ago in reply to this

        "extremely uncomfortable" after the first dozen or so in the day I guess big_smile

        I guess hypersexuality is nymphomania in a different name ?

        1. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
          schoolgirlforrealposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          whatever LOL lol

          1. Harlan Colt profile image86
            Harlan Coltposted 5 years ago in reply to this

            Every guy who hasn't commented is thinking... why can't I meet a woman like that. LOL!

            1. Cagsil profile image60
              Cagsilposted 5 years ago in reply to this

              Untrue.

              1. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
                schoolgirlforrealposted 5 years ago in reply to this

                explain.

              2. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
                schoolgirlforrealposted 5 years ago in reply to this

                ok, well of course not all men want a woman who wants every man she sees, unless maybe it's just him and she wants him all the time, unless he can't handle that. And again, being hypersexual doesn't mean the person wants everyone. It's just an uncomfortable feeling.

                1. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
                  schoolgirlforrealposted 5 years ago in reply to this

                  Oh, I didn't know we were talking about Me.   (!) Um I thought this was hypothetical...
                  I on the contrary do not act out these feelings-not physically-and I don't "want" every man. I just get shy and nervous.  Men make me nervous in all sorts of ways due to bad fatherhood.....

            2. Friendlyword profile image60
              Friendlywordposted 5 years ago in reply to this

              You don't know men if you think that. She must be able to completely cover up the fact that she is mentally ill.  No man would want to take advantage of someone that's not making a conscious choice to have sex with them. That's rape.

              1. recommend1 profile image71
                recommend1posted 5 years ago in reply to this

                Women who have sexually come onto me in this way over the years do not appear to be mentally ill usually, just over-liberal in their sexual appetites.  My rejection of them has been purely on health grounds normally big_smile   This not being mentally ill does not include a young woman who insisted on having sex with almost all the crew members on my submarine (126 men) but I think the OP means more men and women who actively seek out sex all the time ?

                1. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
                  schoolgirlforrealposted 5 years ago in reply to this

                  It's a choice.  I think this thread is being misunderstood, not that I care, why would I care what people really think when I write about mental health everyday? Like who really accepts it? (Obviously the smart educated ones do) But yeah, ....A choice. 

                  Um- "more men and women who actively seek out sex all the time?"
                  No.

                  I mean..a person who is overly anxious about things. Not seeking overly, no. Just too aware of things. Unable to ignore a man's gaze or presence making her blush or feel shy even though she's not shy. Something like that I guess.

                  1. Friendlyword profile image60
                    Friendlywordposted 5 years ago in reply to this

                    I understand now. Forgive my juvenile come on.
                    Some people may not have the education needed to control their sexual urges or handle sexual advances from others. So, there is no choice for some people.

              2. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
                schoolgirlforrealposted 5 years ago in reply to this

                who are we talking about?

                And mentally ill? Being mentally ill or "someone with depression- which is in fact almost everyone at least at some point" does not make one unable to decide things. roll

  3. Friendlyword profile image60
    Friendlywordposted 5 years ago

    This could be a very good forum or hub! Some people have a really strong sexual magnetism that they are not aware of.  Like you.  I can say every man that is reading this forum is attracted to you.  But, you may not even think you're sexy. Some people react badly to so much attention.  How do you handle it? (wink wink)

    1. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
      schoolgirlforrealposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Thank you.
      That is the nicest compliment I've heard in a long time smile wink

      [Are you a single good looking male?! big_smile lol]

      Hmmm a really strong sexual magnetism...cool! My mom does. I guess it's good.


      As I say, though.....every man? wow. thanks

      That feels great.

      No, I didn't think I was, not until I at least am physically satisfied with how I want to look exactly.

      How do I handle it? I blush. smile

      1. Friendlyword profile image60
        Friendlywordposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        "Are you a single good looking male"

        Thank you! Now you made me blush! I guess I have that "SEXUAL MAGNETISM" going on too.  It's going to be hard for you to keep this a serious discussion. It will be a great hub and a good time had by all! (lighting a cigarette)

        1. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
          schoolgirlforrealposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          Okay, don't mind if I do too [puff puff] lol

          hmm sexual magnetism is always good...I'm still single thou...lol

  4. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
    schoolgirlforrealposted 5 years ago

    This makes me very uncomfortable at times because I'm not sure if I'm making some people -men uncomfortable. I am nervous by nature ... and I feel uncomfortable when I 'feel' something between a therapist or social worker, and I have trouble dealing with it, like I want to run away from it sometimes. Any suggestions?

  5. psycheskinner profile image81
    psycheskinnerposted 5 years ago

    There are different kind of hypersexuality but basically it is a person that needs, wants or chooses to have a hell of a lot of sex. It is only a problem if it causes a problem in their life. I think it often is just a physical thing, lie some people are more hungry or like to exercise more of have a better sense of taste or smell.

  6. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
    schoolgirlforrealposted 5 years ago
  7. schoolgirlforreal profile image75
    schoolgirlforrealposted 5 years ago

    I am so f'n niave! I can't believe I posted all this b.s.!!! Thanks for the feedback thou.

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