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Is there an age limit to making new friends?

  1. GeorgiaSmith profile image58
    GeorgiaSmithposted 5 years ago

    I am 45 and have been away from the social scene for a while (online or off) with my divorce I have begun to wonder if there is an age limit to making new friends. My daughter suggested that I go online, but am I too old for this?

    1. Greek One profile image78
      Greek Oneposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Yes.. anyone over 200 should stay offline...

      under that, have fun!

      1. GeorgiaSmith profile image58
        GeorgiaSmithposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        hahaha thank you. I find that comforting.

    2. litsabd profile image80
      litsabdposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Among the things that help us go on, is friendship. As it is a blessing to us, it is ageless...There are many places where you can always meet new people but you have to be careful on who you make friends with. To have a human touch in your life is a must have. Especially at times when you turn over to a new page in your life. It is up to you how far you will let others reach out for you. Wish you the best.

    3. Hollie Thomas profile image60
      Hollie Thomasposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Absolutely not too old. I'm 44 and I love making new friends, on-line or off.

    4. RVDaniels profile image78
      RVDanielsposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Yes, there is. About six months after they bury you unless you meet someone interesting up there. Else, no, no age limit for you dear lady.

    5. profile image0
      GirgisAgeebposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Making new friends have nothing to do with your age actily to know new people in life it is some thing amazing and it is my honor to be your friend big_smile

    6. ngureco profile image86
      ngurecoposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Just make up your mind, become a Christian and join a church community. There you will find it’s very easy to make friends and not just friends but genuine friends – they will welcome you with open hands. At your age of 45 years old, that is the best age to join a church community because you are mature enough to do plenty of work for the church – in fact, you will ride the rest of your life with a peace of mind and happiness.

    7. chicagoguy profile image60
      chicagoguyposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      NjoY ur Life !! u r  good to go to make more friends !!

  2. skyfire profile image73
    skyfireposted 5 years ago

    lol

  3. relache profile image84
    relacheposted 5 years ago

    I'm 44.  Just what part of making new friends do you think you are too old for?  I have a newer friend that I met just two years ago via an online school I'm involved in and that person is 14 years younger than I am.  We crack each other up talking about things we like that the other person has never heard of. 

    My mother is about to turn 70 and has continued to make new friends her entire life.  Her favorite method for finding new friends is to take art classes or travel.

    1. GeorgiaSmith profile image58
      GeorgiaSmithposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      My life was deeply connected to my ex-husband (friends, connections most related to him) so I find it a little difficult to put myself out there. Traveling is out of the question for the time being but it sounds great. I feel a little too old for the whole social mediathing, but I have to admit I am enjoying it. 

      My daughter made me a facebook and twitter account and has suggested that I start adding friends from scratch as I meet new people.  I guess that's what I feel too old for...

      1. Greek One profile image78
        Greek Oneposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        unless you are typing from inside your grave, you are not too old...

        IF you are typing from the great beyond however, please let me know who your internet service provider is, because they have a GREAT reach!

      2. relache profile image84
        relacheposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        That just means you feel out of practice, not that you are too old.  Making friends is ageless.

  4. tobey100 profile image59
    tobey100posted 5 years ago

    Finally.  An easy question to answer.  NO!!

  5. Pcunix profile image89
    Pcunixposted 5 years ago

    Do I assume you mean dating friends?

    I live in a retirement community.  I just came from visiting someone who is 82 and started dating his current girlfriend just a few years ago.  She's mid 60's.

  6. GeorgiaSmith profile image58
    GeorgiaSmithposted 5 years ago

    Not interested in dating at all. Just the kind of friends you have regular conversations with. Kind of like this, but when you get to know each other a little bit more.

    1. Greek One profile image78
      Greek Oneposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      do you want the kind of friends who live in another country and to whom you can send money?

      1. skyfire profile image73
        skyfireposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        Save Greek Empire from Financial Crisis ? lol

        1. Greek One profile image78
          Greek Oneposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          yes..









          or buy myself a new laptop

    2. Pcunix profile image89
      Pcunixposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Well, then still yes.

      I have made many new friends since moving here - including that 82 year old I just mentioned.

      1. Pcunix profile image89
        Pcunixposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        But I might add:

        In your 40's and 50's is harder because everybody is busy with work, kids..  it gets easier again after you retire.

        It's not impossible when younger, it's just that people yawn more :-)

  7. EmpressFelicity profile image80
    EmpressFelicityposted 5 years ago

    Personally I think it does get harder to make friends as you grow older.

    In school and university or when starting a new job as a young person, you're in a situation where everyone is in the same boat and there's a ready-made context for friendship - be it break times, sporting activities, drinks in the students' union or going to the pub or for a meal after work. Older people have more commitments and therefore less time to "hang out". When you're older, you actually have to put the effort in to keep a friendship fed and watered. I have to admit I'm extremely bad at doing this and over the years, have let several friendships go brown and droopy like a neglected pot plant.

    In my own case, I've also grown more wary and cynical as I've grown older. I find that I tend to recognise patterns of behaviour in new people that I meet. And if the sense of deja vu is not wholly pleasant, then (rightly or wrongly) it will stop me from getting too close to the new person. A particular example of this is that I now steer clear of people whom I perceive to be "broadcast only" - the ones who want to talk about themselves all the time, and don't listen to anyone else.

    1. Disturbia profile image59
      Disturbiaposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      lol lol lol

    2. Pcunix profile image89
      Pcunixposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      It is true that you get fussier as you get older and smarter :-)

    3. GeorgiaSmith profile image58
      GeorgiaSmithposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      This is how I feel. However this thread has at least given me a laugh. I must admit I do use the phrase "the world is going to hell" quite  a few times, been staying clear off the news lately. I tend to lose hope in humanity

  8. Shadesbreath profile image86
    Shadesbreathposted 5 years ago

    Yes, there is an age limit to making new friends. That age directly correlates to what is clinically referred to as the Crusty-Old-Goat Factor.

    As we age, there is a tendency towards Crusty-Old-Goatness, which can be calculated very easily with a simple formula. Once you have your rating, you can determine if you will be able to make friends anymore or not.

    To determine your Crusty-Old-Goat Factor, answer the following 3 questions:

    1. How many times have you hollered, "Hey you kids, get off my lawn"?
    2. How many times have you referred to smartphones as "fancy gadgets"?
    3. How many times have you muttered, "That's why the world is all going to hell now"?

    Now, to get your score, add up the answers you gave to each of those questions. Then, take that number and subtract it from your age. That is your Crusty-Old-Goat Factor. This is known in scientific and medical circles as your COG Factor. If your COG Factor is a negative number, you can no longer make friends. If your COG Factor is positive, you are good to go.

    I hope this helps.

    1. Pcunix profile image89
      Pcunixposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      But you can still make friends with people who have similar scores..

      1. Shadesbreath profile image86
        Shadesbreathposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        Nope. Not possible. The COG Factor is beyond questioning, which has clearly been proven by science.

  9. Disturbia profile image59
    Disturbiaposted 5 years ago

    You are never too old to make new friends.

  10. freecampingaussie profile image34
    freecampingaussieposted 5 years ago

    I am 46, my husband is 64 & we are traveling Australia, working & meeting new people all the time . We are in Kununurra for the wet season & making friends via work, St Johns Ambulance etc !
    Also making friends on facebook with other travellers !

    Our view from caravan in photo.
    http://s4.hubimg.com/u/5773063_f248.jpg

    1. RVDaniels profile image78
      RVDanielsposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      That's wonderful. I have dreamed of visiting Australia and New Zealand for years. Such a lovely country and so many interesting things to see, Uluru would be my first stop.

  11. paradigmsearch profile image87
    paradigmsearchposted 5 years ago

    "Is there an age limit to making new friends?"

    I have been seeing this thread for a long time. It is harder as one gets older. But it is still possible and desired.

  12. mega1 profile image80
    mega1posted 5 years ago

    If you are a hopeless romantic, imo, no matter how crusty you get you'll make friends, even when you don't intend to.  Maybe, you'll have too many friends, even.  Hopeless romantics tend to unite extra well!  So go listen to Tony Bennett or Doris Day or even Brenda Lee  - well, maybe not Brenda Lee - listen to some of those other old crusty goat romantics and pretend you have friends.  That's what I do when I'm in a hopelessly romantic mood and nobody is around (except the one watching endless football!)  Oh, and there are also animals who will befriend you no matter what kind of music you love!  I would not advise COGs to try to befriend young rap-singers.  You'll only get your heart broken!

  13. profile image0
    GirgisAgeebposted 5 years ago

    Never !!!!!
    to know new people and you talk to each others this has nothing to do with age because you still can talk and have subjects to talk about

    Getting older give you more experience in life that you can share with alot of people who are going to be your friends because friend is the one who support and give advises to his other friends ( you )

    1. carol3san profile image60
      carol3sanposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      You are only as old as you feel.  I say as long as the mind is healthy and active.  Go for it.  Make as many friends as you can handle.

  14. Joy56 profile image60
    Joy56posted 5 years ago

    my granny went in a nursing home she was 84..... she made friends with a man 6 years her senior.  They were inseperable.

    1. GeorgiaSmith profile image58
      GeorgiaSmithposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      That is lovely. This made me smile. I hadn't come back in a bit and I find so much hope here smile

  15. vintageglamour profile image59
    vintageglamourposted 5 years ago

    not at all; sites like this where you are able to connect with people that have something in common is fabulous. Meetup groups are great as well.

    stay away from craigslist though :p

  16. litsabd profile image80
    litsabdposted 5 years ago

    Is there an age limit to live life? Of course not!

  17. ahorseback profile image46
    ahorsebackposted 5 years ago

    I think its up to the idividual who can or cannot make friends at any age , I for one find it difficult in middle age[58],  and yet perhaps I'm not really willing to make new friends...Hubpages however ,is so different , i like to think I have made many here!   Go for it !

  18. Lisa HW profile image81
    Lisa HWposted 5 years ago

    I'm 59, and I make friends the same now as I did when I was 14 or 18 (or whatever).  Needless to say, I don't do a lot of the same kinds of things with friends as I did when I was younger (for example, talking to a girlfriend on the phone for hours almost every day).  But, if I'm in a setting where there's a group of people who end up getting together in the same place on a regular basis, I pretty much make friends as the same as always.

  19. blondepoet profile image75
    blondepoetposted 5 years ago

    I have made lots friends on the net.....look at my two latest friends I made....I am so confused as to which one to date...mmmm....life is like a box of chocolates....seriously haha

    http://i439.photobucket.com/albums/qq114/astii_03/Dnoid/ugly_men.jpg

  20. Joy56 profile image60
    Joy56posted 5 years ago

    I would go for the one with the dirty shirt, he needs a woman to wash his clothes

  21. mines tal profile image60
    mines talposted 5 years ago

    Making friends doesn't have age limit, we really don't stop from meeting people everyday. I consider each day as a great avenue to be with people of different personalities and I learn from them a lot.I just hope that your desire to make friends won't last. Go!

  22. andromida profile image73
    andromidaposted 5 years ago

    I guess you have already made a lot of friends in hubpages.

 
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