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Is this Act Considered Selfish or Disrespectful

  1. SoManyPaths profile image60
    SoManyPathsposted 4 years ago

    I have a relationship with a woman who was going through some tough times since 2006.

    So during our relationship I helped her out and in August 2011 & gave her $7800 for a car. She put that down on a $20K car and got a job (low-paying) to make the payments.
    I am scheduled to come back into town (the city is 2 hours away from the airport.) as I had some business to do in another city. She said weeks before to schedule the flight for a Saturday b/c that is her day off.
    Now that I bought the ticket to leave next week, she says, I have to work on Saturdays so I cannot pick you up.  I can send a private taxi but you must give him $120. Oh and by the way, buy some perfumes , about $250 worth, so I can resell them here for double price. (Yes another country)

    More background: She has always met me at the airport to pick me up - but then she was not working full-time as I have done for her.
    I bought perfumes for her to re-sell before and never got reimbursed the full amount. It was also stressful buying this by going from store to store getting the right sizes, etc.
    She has become real short with me on any phone calls, (probably money problems again).  I am literally part of her family, having spent time with them on multiple occasions. Yes, we have a small kid together. And I want to her during Christmas.

    Seriously, you cannot pick up your intimate partner after they give you $7800 4 months prior? Am I overreacting?  I feel extremely disrespected.

    1. Stacie L profile image89
      Stacie Lposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      you can't mix business with pleasure..or money with romance,
      she may not be as infatuated with you as you are with her.

      1. SoManyPaths profile image60
        SoManyPathsposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        infatuated? my fault for not clarifying.  we live together for about 10 months of the year, except 2 months due to travel

  2. Nouveau Skeptic profile image78
    Nouveau Skepticposted 4 years ago

    If you are basically common law spouses what is yours is hers and vice versa. If not, you need to set up some boundaries.

    1. SoManyPaths profile image60
      SoManyPathsposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Thanks for replying but it is NOT about money, what is whose or who's assets. It is about respect as a significant other, as a true friend.

  3. lockgirl profile image61
    lockgirlposted 4 years ago

    This sounds like she played you. She has moved on and still wants to use you. Move on find someone that will respect you.

  4. laringo profile image83
    laringoposted 4 years ago

    This woman is a loser and appears to be using you for what she can get from you. You may not be the only one she's jammimg up.