My ex gf has been stalking me even though I broke up with her for nearly 3 yrs now. I did this because I found out she was also seeing another guy and may have been with him a little more longer before me. She chose him over me in the end because he was established in life; tall, fit, older then or her by 6 yrs, fancy life with cars and house and a degree in engineering. The problem with him though is that he is an abusive guy. She told me this after finally cornering me at unversity and even willing have sex with me. I was really infuriated and reminded of this from another person's post here as well which is nearly the same. Worst of it is I ran into her guy before and he is a neanderthal and looked like he wanted to kill me. What do I do because apparently, the word no, doesn't seem to apply to her.
First of all, I'm sorry you're going through this.
If it has been three years and she has not let go of the situation, then to be honest, that is her problem. She made her choice, and you have moved on from that situation (at least I'm guessing you are, because the issue did not seem to be that you still had feelings for her, but that she was stalking you and you wanted out of it.). She may regret her choice because the man she is with is abusive; and yes, she does need to get out of that relationship, but to stalk you and pressure you is still wrong.
(And I don't know if she's doing this, but don't let her feel like you're a bad person for not giving in and "saving" her from this abusive relationship. I may sound like I'm being harsh, but I say these things, being a woman and as someone who has been in an abusive relationship...I know how women tend to think in this type of situation. But if she's not doing that, then great.)
She needs to respect you; maybe it would take simply you telling her that you demand her respect in this situation and to leave you alone, straightforwardly, that will cause her to listen, if you haven't already. If it gets excessive, I would recommend getting a restraining order of some kind. That may sound extreme but when you're dealing with a woman who refuses to leave an abusive man but yet who is still stalking you, that puts you at more risk and in danger of an encounter with someone potentially violent.
That's just my personal opinion; I hope it helps. Either way, I wish you all the best and hope that it works out well for you.
A sexual harassment charge can go both ways. Woman can be reported just as men can. Need I say more.
Excellent. Then she needs you to take her out for a last romp.Lucky You.Go for it.I wish my x would stalk me.
Sounds like this girl has bigger problems then just an abusive neanderthal with an engineering degree. Get a restraining order. If that doesn't work, you might want to think about relocating.
So she found you once and wants to come and see you because she is afraid of her partner. Not really stalking IMHO.
If you don't want to get involved, don't answer the door--do call the campus police and tell them what you know. They might be able to help her.
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