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Follow Your Heart, Or Your Mind? Or Is The Heart/Mind Really One In The Same?

  1. miss butterfly profile image62
    miss butterflyposted 5 years ago

    People often ask the question: Should I follow my heart or my mind? Well aren't they one in the same? Or does one lead the other in making some decisions? If one leads the other, is it our heart that leads, or is it our mind? Some will say it depends on the situation--and this may be very true indeed. But, how do we truly know when it's our heart or when it's our mind that helped us make a decision? 

    1. couturepopcafe profile image61
      couturepopcafeposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      IMO heart is emotion, mind is intellect.  Does it matter which led in a decision?  We have this as a system of checks and balances, so to speak.  We are out of balance if we are totally emotional or totally without emotion (all intellect).  Weigh the decision carefully if you are referring to your decision about the inlaw.  Better to err on the side of caution.

    2. AshtonFirefly profile image81
      AshtonFireflyposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      To me, the heart is your feelings and emotions; and your mind is your logic and reasoning, apart from emotions.
      As some others here have said, I think it's a little bit of both. Balance. Allow yourself to feel. But don't let it make you do something irrational. My opinion is that people should take their time if they are making a decision about relationships. Emotions are wonderful things, but give them too much rein and they can destroy you. Let logic and so called "rationality" take over and you may never let yourself be happy.
      It's sometimes really hard to balance those out in a relationship situation, but I've learned it's good to give both of them time to speak.
      Just my two cents smile

      1. miss butterfly profile image62
        miss butterflyposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        I agree, balance is important and we certainly must be careful not to be completely led by emotions.  Thanks AshtonFirefly!!

    3. aravindb1982 profile image91
      aravindb1982posted 2 months ago in reply to this

      I know I am seeing this question very late. But coincidentally I had written a hub on this same theme about 4 years ago. I have shared my thoughts there and I hope you find it interesting.

      In short, the heart is the seat of consciousness which should be heeded to over the mind which is the seat of intelligence. Heart is selfless while the mind is not.

      http://hubpages.com/religion-philosophy … tween-them

      1. Castlepaloma profile image25
        Castlepalomaposted 2 months ago in reply to this

        I always follow my heart first on important matters. Shortly followed by the mind to confirm and structure. Your heart is source of love, kindness and good intentions needed in this world most. When ever you come across a serious problem, look to the mind where the source of the problem is.

  2. miss butterfly profile image62
    miss butterflyposted 5 years ago

    Couturepopcafe, hello!! Yes, I totally agree with your perspective. Sometimes it does matter what leads in the decision making process though, at least in my opinion. If we act on our heart alone tells us, all retionalization is thrown out of the decision making process. In all actuality it may be probable to believe our heart and mind really are one in the same, right? Also, please forgive me but I am a little lost with regards to the last part of your reply...what are you referring to when you wrote "Weigh the decision carefully if you are referring to your decision about the inlaw."? Thanks!! :-)

    1. couturepopcafe profile image61
      couturepopcafeposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Sorry.  I thought you were the one who asked about a cheating son or daughter and should you tell their spouse.

      I see where you're coming from on the heart mind thing, though.  Yes, it's possible.

      1. miss butterfly profile image62
        miss butterflyposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        :-)

  3. William Norman profile image60
    William Normanposted 5 years ago

    We almost always follow our heart, then use our mind to justify decisions...

    This balancing act is easy when our heart and mind takes us in the same direction, but sometimes the heart takes us directions that our mind knows not to go!

    1. miss butterfly profile image62
      miss butterflyposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      You are right about the heart taking us in a direction our mind knows not to go! I think we all have been down that road...at least once or twice :-)

  4. Elizabeth Espinos profile image60
    Elizabeth Espinosposted 5 years ago

    Yeah, it's true, there's always a weighing process between our mind and our heart.  It is understood however,  that our mind is on top of our heart.  And we have to analyzed our own perceptions, if what is mandated by our mind which comes from the dictations of our heart.

    1. miss butterfly profile image62
      miss butterflyposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Great perspective!

  5. Cagsil profile image60
    Cagsilposted 5 years ago

    Always use your emotions in combination with your intellect(mind). If you do either one out of balance, then you're most likely going to harm someone without seeing the consequences of your actions in advance.

    1. miss butterfly profile image62
      miss butterflyposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Very true indeed!

  6. poeticmentor profile image80
    poeticmentorposted 5 years ago

    Blessings miss butterfly, I am a firm believer that when we control our emotions, our decision making is easy and rarely conflicted. Emotions change a lot, they are unstable and can sometimes take our mind to a place of depression and anger or lies even when it may not be proven.  What I Know on the on other hand is real and cannot change, because it is fact.  Balancing heart and mind is a matter of how we react to our emotions and what we know about any situation. Thanks for the question. 1

    1. miss butterfly profile image62
      miss butterflyposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Thanks for sharing your perspective. Blessing to you too!!

 
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