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Is it right for a man or woman to stay single?

  1. taheruddin profile image60
    taheruddinposted 4 years ago

    Lot of people do not agree to involve in a relationship, the real relationship that he/she will continue. They show lots of causes like earning, establishment, adjustment etc. But human being need relation that is always true. Why society discourage to start early?

    1. gregas profile image73
      gregasposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Two people can live together and/or have a relationship and stay single, not get married. Personally, I don't see anything wrong with that. Marriege isn't really a religious thing, unless you are religious. My opinion, Greg

      1. taheruddin profile image60
        taheruddinposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        Dear Greg, it is okey when some avoid his religion. But everybody has a religious weakness as well as for a loving relationship.

        1. gregas profile image73
          gregasposted 4 years ago in reply to this

          A religious weakness has nothing to do with a desire to stay single. However, there is the religious pressures that may force someone into a marriage that they may otherwise not want to be in. Still my opinion.

          1. taheruddin profile image60
            taheruddinposted 4 years ago in reply to this

            you are right from your side and I agree for somebody it is easy but difficult for most of the people.

    2. Justjed profile image60
      Justjedposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      It is neither right nor wrong. it depends on the individual and it is all about choice.

      1. Cardisa profile image91
        Cardisaposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        My answer exactly. No right or wrong exists here. Human beings were given the wonderful gift of free will and that means they can choose to live alone or with whomever they will. The most famous biblical apostle Paul lived alone. He decided to be celibate even though advised that if you can't then get married but the point is that it's your choice.

    3. savvydating profile image88
      savvydatingposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Some people have a talent for being single and that can be a very good thing - usually these individuals have an active single life ie., lots of friends, activities, clubs, causes, etc. If you mean remaining unmarried even though you are living together - that is trickier. Statistics show that people who live together before marriage are much more likely to get divorced than people who marry without having lived together.

  2. psycheskinner profile image82
    psycheskinnerposted 4 years ago

    What's wrong with being single, at all of life long. I don't see the problem.

    1. taheruddin profile image60
      taheruddinposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      It is so difficult "being single" ...

      1. gregas profile image73
        gregasposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        That all depends on the person. Some are quite comfortable being single.

        1. HattieMattieMae profile image72
          HattieMattieMaeposted 4 years ago in reply to this

          It's difficult whether your single or with someone. Just a matter if you want to deal with another person's issues besides your own. I know that when it comes to other people never dealing with issues and abusing you it is much easier being single. Just depends on if you are lucky enough to find someone that doesn't come with all the drama. So it's not wrong to be single if you choose to be. It's not wrong to be with someone. Just depends on what you feel is best for you. What would make you happier, and if you can find someone that loves unconditionally and be happy with you.

      2. psycheskinner profile image82
        psycheskinnerposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        I can say I agree.  I guess it depends where/who you are.

    2. skyfire profile image73
      skyfireposted 4 years ago in reply to this


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    The Writers Dogposted 4 years ago

    I do not see why it is not.

  4. That Grrl profile image79
    That Grrlposted 4 years ago

    I was born single. I've been married and now I'm single again. Why rush to change that? I love having the bed to myself. I don't have to be home early, cook or clean up after someone else. In the morning I can leave the coffee pot out and when I come home it's still right where I left it! I don't have to complain about how he left crumbs, chicken parts and bacteria on the counter but put away all my appliances because clutter bugs him.

    If I met a guy he would have to be pretty special for me to want to change and compromise. If you have a relationship, sharing living space, you have to make space for someone else. I don't think having a man around the house is enough of a trade off for me to actually want a man around the house again.

    I'm not knocking men - for those who will decide to be offended and huffy. Being part of a couple isn't easy for either side. It gets harder as you get older and don't really want to change any more.

  5. Express10 profile image88
    Express10posted 4 years ago

    I think that it is okay for a person to stay single. Some people are not very good in relationships and some people have various problems that can make them unattractive to others as a mate. A lot of people are too afraid to get married and miss out on their soul mate simply because of their own fear.

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    Deb Welchposted 4 years ago

    I was a single parent and never had a good lasting relationship with snyone and lived without a mate.
    I love being single with my pet cat, now.  I learned to rely upon myself be independent in all matters, work, finance, homelife and good times.  I am not
    the easiest person I guess to live with so I am better on my own.

  7. Mary Stuart profile image86
    Mary Stuartposted 4 years ago

    I think it is fine to marry and fine to remain single. Some people do not seem to handle being single very well. They suffer severe loneliness, depression, and insecurity when they are not in a committed relationship. Other people do well taking care of themselves. They are happier making their own decisions and creating a nurturing and loving home for themselves.
    As for me? It is sometimes trying to always be the "head goose" with no relief from the strains of life but I think that being alone and being at peace is preferable to enduring a contentious relationship.
    A nurturing relationship is likely worth the bother but a bitter relationship is... well... not a good idea.

  8. tsmog profile image85
    tsmogposted 4 years ago

    Is it right for a man or woman to stay single? (I'm memory challenged so I had to post the question to see it)

    My answer, is it 'right' puzzles me as if being challenged, which is a good thing. My story is a long one = lifetime. I have been single in the sense as not married all my life. However, I did have the living 'with' experience, the roommate experience, and several close, but no cigar experiences with marriage discussions within a relationship.

    Every individual progresses through life making decisions. We each own those decisions. However, change is possible. Sometimes easy, sometimes hard. I get lost with what being single means. I am probably thinking too much on this now, so I apologize for the thought process. So, the quick of it is . . .

    I chose a life being single for a purpose - survival. At my age then I discovered a common answer in the discussions I had with my mate(s). "If it doesn't work out we can always get divorced."

    The brakes are applied, the vehicle (relationship) goes awry swerving from side to side nearly missing the huge object in the road.

    Control dashes about and well, I have a personal view of divorce that hasn't swayed from my socialized upbringing to what appears to be a fault, since I did not marry.

    Why start a relationship for life with the premise of failure. I don't have an answer to that. My life is very limited. I read a bunch. I have others to observe. My personal circumstances with both physical and mental attributes, economic status, and other stuff points toward survival at this time and in the past was/is reliant on being single. I didn't create the world, yet I create this life I live. And, I would like to be a huge success, but I am a realist too. So, I think I will focus a tad on surviving.

    So is it right, I dun'no. Disclaimer: I am speaking from my point of view living life in the United States. My region is San Diego California. My present culture is the questioning being a baby boomer being retired, maybe, since the present economy sucks. This is NOT Advice for someone of a more youthful vigor.

  9. im28beyond profile image84
    im28beyondposted 4 years ago

    it all boils down to personal choice. you can't simply force people to get married if they don't want to.