But everybody is a part of society, both believers and none believers therefore you can not say that pre marital sex is socially unacceptable, by the same token I can not say that it is socially acceptable either.
the survey is false. what i mean is people are accustomed to saying what they think they should, not how they honestly feel. i've seen surveys that say the majority of people support all kinds of things like prison time for marijuana possession and it's a lie. these surveys are done by folks who look for the answers they want to here.
Some people have religious convictions that discourage it, others don't. Personally, I wouldn't want to buy a car before taking it for a test drive first, if you know what I mean, but I don't understand people who hop into bed on the first date, either. Better to wait until you're with someone you truly love and respect, and who feels the same about you.
I can't respond to the basic question asked here, but I do know that if more people abstained from having premarital sex there would be fewer abortions, fewer unwed mothers and more federal funds for important programs such as health care.
I indulged when I was young...with my present wife....we've been married since stonehenge was built. So, I'm not really a good one to ask, except for that. I believe that true marriage is between the individuals concerned and that entity we call God, and that the concept which we, in this world call marriage has been made into an institution of man.
This reminds me of a true story. My buddy Ed was youth pastor at a church. He has sex with a certain young lady who is also a member of the congregation. One time, so he says. It just sorta happened, and they both felt guilty.
So Ed goes and tells the pastor. The pastor dismisses Ed as youth pastor. And Ed is ticked off that he is no longer youth pastor.
Being a youth pastor comes with certain responsibilities and obligations, the moral is Ed should have known better and sex doesn't "just happen". And the fact that he got "ticked off" at the consequences for his actions, only speaks to his character, or lack thereof.
Well, Dr. Disturbia, he did go from being a stuntman in Hollywood to now driving a school bus in western Pennsylvania, with about a million jobs in between, including being the maid for the stripper in Vegas. The only positive thing that girl ever said about him was that he was really good at cleaning the house (obsessive-compulsive behavior).
He definitely blurts out inappropriate comments in public and talks nonstop, telling me the same thing over and over and asking me the same questions over and over.
I don't know what this all has to do with premarital sex, other than he has told me a hundred times, at least, about his date with Sharon Stone.
I think it depends on the age and culture they are from. It depends on what your definition is of sex. Generally, having sex before age 16-17, not condoned, but hormones are hormones and if it is going to happen, it will occur regardless of what parents want. Better be safe. Is sex forbidden before marriage, well, I think for most in the Western cultures, that disappeared in the 60's. I do not see why not.
yes! this is all true. This question about premarital sex is deceptively simple and usually leads into one of those paternalistic "there should be a law" kind of discussions - where some people who reply want to inflict their own religious and otherwise beliefs on everyone else, "for our own good". It isn't a simple issue - people who have premarital sex should not be labelled bad or good or anything else. Premarital sex just is. Whoever thinks they have the right to tell people what they should do in this and so many other regards is way out of line. Of course, I personally believe that young people should not have sex until they are quite ready and reasonable and have good judgment about it, and that isn't going to be the same for everyone. This thing called "marriage" doesn't automatically make people better than others. I don't really believe in marriage any more - really! so pre-marital sex for me is a moot question.
It has more to do with who, and how, and when people have sex, but ultimately it is their choice and I would not want anyone to take that away because some uptight majority says "no".
Yep. And both are punishable by eternity in hell. That's why I'm saving myself for marriage. However, being a fifty year old virgin sucks, especially since I've never had pre-marital sex nor have I fornicated...and will probably need viagra for my first sexual experience...but after all my effort I may still go to hell for lusting in my heart.
@getitrite any how most are destined to be in hell as per religion...if u dont accept christ u r going to hell according to christians and if u dont accept that muhammad is final messenger and allah is god , u r going to hell as per muslim....it is better to go to hell without being virgin bcoz in hell anyway one would get screwed
I see nothing unacceptable about consenting adults(keyword here is ADULTS) indulging in premarital sex. How else are we going to learn about our sexuality and the sexual compatiblity of the persons we are with. Many people married while they are virgins much to either one person's or both persons regret. I believe in premarital sex and sexual experimentation because how would we learn about the other persons' sexual compatiblity otherwise.
Pre marital sex assumes you will marry that person. That phrase I think is more used in restrictive societies.
In some societies, virginity is highly valued. Usually the youth without much knowledge in protecting themselves (sexual education), they are forced to marry once they get pregnant bec. of lack of it or once their parents know that they are having sex.
For me, as long as they are doing it with their own volition and are aware of the consequences if they don't protect themselves (for pregnancy and STD) then it is ok.
I'm not sure what social circles you participate in but I don't know anyone younger than sixty who would feel that premarital sex is socially unacceptable. Besides, it is a personal choice between two consenting adults and should not need acceptance or approval from anyone else.
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