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Pre-Marital Sex is Socially Unacceptable !

  1. alisha4u profile image59
    alisha4uposted 4 years ago

    http://s4.hubimg.com/u/6295595.jpg
    Do you feel the same ? How true is that ??

    Chime In Please......

    1. John Holden profile image61
      John Holdenposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      To who?

      1. alisha4u profile image59
        alisha4uposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        ???

        1. John Holden profile image61
          John Holdenposted 4 years ago in reply to this

          Well, Pre-Marital sex is socially unacceptable to who?

          1. alisha4u profile image59
            alisha4uposted 4 years ago in reply to this

            Society !
            It's kinda obvious in the question though....

            1. John Holden profile image61
              John Holdenposted 4 years ago in reply to this

              Well, I'm society and it isn't unacceptable to me!

              1. alisha4u profile image59
                alisha4uposted 4 years ago in reply to this

                Great !!
                You are a part of society..not society !! People have their own views and I do appreciate you putting in your thoughts....

                1. John Holden profile image61
                  John Holdenposted 4 years ago in reply to this

                  But everybody is a part of society, both believers and none believers therefore you can not say that pre marital sex is socially unacceptable, by the same token I can not say that it is socially acceptable either.

                  1. alisha4u profile image59
                    alisha4uposted 4 years ago in reply to this

                    Agreed !!
                    According to a survey, majority of the people all over the world do not support sex before marriage....
                    That's where the Title came from..... :0

                2. vector7 profile image61
                  vector7posted 4 years ago in reply to this

                  lol..

            2. Uninvited Writer profile image83
              Uninvited Writerposted 4 years ago in reply to this

              Not now, maybe in the 50s

    2. kerryg profile image87
      kerrygposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Some people have religious convictions that discourage it, others don't. Personally, I wouldn't want to buy a car before taking it for a test drive first, if you know what I mean, but I don't understand people who hop into bed on the first date, either. Better to wait until you're with someone you truly love and respect, and who feels the same about you.

      1. alisha4u profile image59
        alisha4uposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        I am with you on this Kerryg !!

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      Deborah Sextonposted 4 years ago in reply to this

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      It's too acceptable and shouldn't happen at all.

    4. TIMETRAVELER2 profile image93
      TIMETRAVELER2posted 4 years ago in reply to this

      I can't respond to the basic question asked here, but I do know that if more people abstained from having premarital sex there would be fewer abortions, fewer unwed mothers and more federal funds for important programs such as health care.

    5. nightwork4 profile image59
      nightwork4posted 4 years ago in reply to this

      it is? i don't think so in the least. to me it's a good thing and people should enjoy it.

  2. Greek One profile image80
    Greek Oneposted 4 years ago

    on most days, I don't look too favorably upon post-marital sex either

    1. livelonger profile image87
      livelongerposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      http://financialsurvivalradio.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/07/Ropers.jpg

      1. Druid Dude profile image61
        Druid Dudeposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        Being judgemental is divinely unacceptable.

        1. Druid Dude profile image61
          Druid Dudeposted 4 years ago in reply to this

          kick the tires....take 'er out for a test drive!

        2. livelonger profile image87
          livelongerposted 4 years ago in reply to this

          Huh?

          1. alisha4u profile image59
            alisha4uposted 4 years ago in reply to this

            ???

      2. alisha4u profile image59
        alisha4uposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        Greek one - Gotcha !!

    2. alisha4u profile image59
      alisha4uposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Hehehe...So, why don't you put in some thoughts to the discussion Druid...??

      1. Druid Dude profile image61
        Druid Dudeposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        I indulged when I was young...with my present wife....we've been married since stonehenge was built. So, I'm not really a good one to ask, except for that. I believe that true marriage is between the individuals concerned and that entity we call God, and that the concept which we, in this world call marriage has been made into an institution of man.

  3. vector7 profile image61
    vector7posted 4 years ago

    I used to think it was fine, but now that I've been down a long road with betrayal left in hand I believe in post marital only.

    No kicking tires or test drives for me anymore, lol..

    1. alisha4u profile image59
      alisha4uposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      smile

    2. John Holden profile image61
      John Holdenposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Oh! I never knew that married people don't cheat.

      1. vector7 profile image61
        vector7posted 4 years ago in reply to this

        ?

        Married? I said that?

        Wow buddy, you jumped right off the cliff without a chute. lol

        It was eight years, and yes I know what you meant. wink

        But my point was that if I hadn't had engaged with her, I never got married and I wouldn't have been a 'used vehicle'.. [goodness that sounds bad, lol]

        Or at least not THAT used.. [maybe I should delete this post neutral ]

        I never said she wouldn't cheat. I had notions she would, which was the reason for not marrying and for doing what I did, to try to keep her. 'But she was a hoe', in some of my friend's words.. hmm

        Had I just waited to find someone that truly loved me, genuine and truthful, I would have saved myself a lot of pain and crap.

        Not too bad though, popping your foot in the open door like that..

        smile

  4. BLACKANDGOLDJACK profile image85
    BLACKANDGOLDJACKposted 4 years ago

    This reminds me of a true story. My buddy Ed was youth pastor at a church. He has sex with a certain young lady who is also a member of the congregation. One time, so he says. It just sorta happened, and they both felt guilty.

    So Ed goes and tells the pastor. The pastor dismisses Ed as youth pastor. And Ed is ticked off that he is no longer youth pastor.

    So what is the moral of the story?

    1. Disturbia profile image60
      Disturbiaposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Being a youth pastor comes with certain responsibilities and obligations, the moral is Ed should have known better and sex doesn't "just happen". And the fact that he got "ticked off" at the consequences for his actions, only speaks to his character, or lack thereof.

      1. BLACKANDGOLDJACK profile image85
        BLACKANDGOLDJACKposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        That is exactly what I wanted to tell Ed, but I was afraid to.

        Before he became a youth pastor, he married a  stripper in Vegas. She used to take off on him for days at a time on a coke binge.

        He should have know better about that too, especially the sex just doesn't happen with a stripper part.

        But he made a CD with him singing gospel songs, so that makes it all good. One day he'll be up there in heaven singing to everybody who ever had premarital sex. What's the name of that song?

        1. Disturbia profile image60
          Disturbiaposted 4 years ago in reply to this

          Ed doesn't have ADHD does he?  I'm not joking because I'm very familiar with that kind of impulsive behavior.

          1. BLACKANDGOLDJACK profile image85
            BLACKANDGOLDJACKposted 4 years ago in reply to this

            Well, Dr. Disturbia, he did go from being a stuntman in Hollywood to now driving a school bus in western Pennsylvania, with about a million jobs in between, including being the maid for the stripper in Vegas. The only positive thing that girl ever said about him was that he was really good at cleaning the house (obsessive-compulsive behavior).

            He definitely blurts out inappropriate comments in public and talks nonstop, telling me the same thing over and over and asking me the same questions over and over.

            I don't know what this all has to do with premarital sex, other than he has told me a hundred times, at least, about his date with Sharon Stone.

  5. perrya profile image82
    perryaposted 4 years ago

    I think it depends on the age and culture they are from. It depends on what your definition is of sex. Generally, having sex before age 16-17, not condoned, but hormones are hormones and if it is going to happen, it will occur regardless of what parents want. Better be safe. Is sex forbidden before marriage, well, I think for most in the Western  cultures, that disappeared in the 60's. I do not see why not.

    1. mega1 profile image80
      mega1posted 4 years ago in reply to this

      yes! this is all true.  This question about premarital sex is deceptively simple and usually leads into one of those paternalistic "there should be a law" kind of discussions - where some people who reply want to inflict their own religious and otherwise beliefs on everyone else, "for our own good".   It isn't a simple issue - people who have premarital sex should not be labelled bad or good or anything else.  Premarital sex just is.  Whoever thinks they have the right to tell people what they should do in this and so many other regards is way out of line.  Of course, I personally believe that young people should not have sex until they are quite ready and reasonable and have good judgment about it, and that isn't going to be the same for everyone.  This thing called "marriage" doesn't automatically make people better than others.  I don't really believe in marriage any more - really!  so pre-marital sex for me is a moot question. 

      It has more to do with who, and how, and when people have sex, but ultimately it is their choice and I would not want anyone to take that away because some uptight majority says "no".

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    The Writers Dogposted 4 years ago

    I cannot legally marry. Therefore all that I can have is pre-marital sex.

    1. Disturbia profile image60
      Disturbiaposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Why can't you "legally" marry?

      1. vector7 profile image61
        vector7posted 4 years ago in reply to this

        Well you see the picture..

        Don't rub it in.

        smile

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          The Writers Dogposted 4 years ago in reply to this

          lol

  7. perrya profile image82
    perryaposted 4 years ago

    actually, the question poses a dilemma-that is, all have had sex after their 1st marriage, then after a divorce, but before the 2nd marriage makes the question moot.

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    The Writers Dogposted 4 years ago

    Disturbia wrote:
    Why can't you "legally" marry?

    Disturbia... My allegedly democratic first world country denies me the human right to marry because I am transsexual. But that is for another forum.

    1. paradigmsearch profile image88
      paradigmsearchposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      As far as I know, come to America! Get married; then go back if so inclined. This is conditioned that Australian law recognizes marriages performed in other countries. I'm just thinking out loud here.smile

      edit: You'll also have to figure out which US state to go to.

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        The Writers Dogposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        And which day to go! lol

        1. Uninvited Writer profile image83
          Uninvited Writerposted 4 years ago in reply to this

          Come to Canada, they let anyone get married here smile

          1. alisha4u profile image59
            alisha4uposted 4 years ago in reply to this

            tongue

  9. Astra Nomik profile image82
    Astra Nomikposted 4 years ago

    If both people are adults and in love and romantically involved, and responsible .. and sensible ... and loving... oh wait there are so few people I know who are like this....LOL.

    I am kidding. No one can control or be the boss of you if you don't want them to be. Apart from your actual job boss.

  10. getitrite profile image80
    getitriteposted 4 years ago

    http://i224.photobucket.com/albums/dd140/tengowood/cards/sexy/NoIntentions.jpg

    1. Uninvited Writer profile image83
      Uninvited Writerposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      smile

    2. alisha4u profile image59
      alisha4uposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      big_smile

    3. aka-dj profile image78
      aka-djposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      In which case it's fornication. smile

      1. getitrite profile image80
        getitriteposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        Yep.  And both are punishable by eternity in hell.  That's why I'm saving myself for marriage.  However, being a fifty year old virgin sucks, especially since I've never had pre-marital sex nor have I fornicated...and will probably need viagra for my first sexual experience...but after all my effort I may still go to hell for lusting in my heart.

        God help me!  sad

        1. prettydarkhorse profile image66
          prettydarkhorseposted 4 years ago in reply to this

          big_smile big_smile big_smile

        2. Pearldiver profile image86
          Pearldiverposted 4 years ago in reply to this

          Nothing worse than being lost and impatience when it comes to bonking - so it's good that your Dog can help you first time up! smile

          It's kinda important that you take your time and enjoy the surroundings though... but be sure not to enjoy the surroundings too much, or you're likely to gain a reputation for being 2 Minute Terrier! big_smile

          1. getitrite profile image80
            getitriteposted 4 years ago in reply to this

            How disturbing!!!  I'm gonna have to pray for you.  lol

        3. pisean282311 profile image56
          pisean282311posted 4 years ago in reply to this

          @getitrite any how most are destined to be in hell as per religion...if u dont accept christ u r going to hell according to christians and if u dont accept that muhammad is final messenger and allah is god , u r going to hell as per muslim....it is better to go to hell without being virgin bcoz in hell anyway one would get screwed smile

          1. getitrite profile image80
            getitriteposted 4 years ago in reply to this

            You mean all that sacrifice was for naught?!!  I'll make it a point the next time to study my religious beliefs more carefully.  It could have saved me alot of time and intense frustration.

            http://i933.photobucket.com/albums/ad179/thethinkingblue/smileypain.gif

        4. alisha4u profile image59
          alisha4uposted 4 years ago in reply to this

          big_smile

  11. gmwilliams profile image85
    gmwilliamsposted 4 years ago

    I see nothing unacceptable about consenting adults(keyword here is ADULTS) indulging in premarital sex.   How else are we going to learn about our sexuality and the sexual compatiblity of the persons we are with.   Many people married while they are virgins much to either one person's or both persons regret.  I believe in premarital sex and sexual experimentation because how would we learn about the other persons' sexual compatiblity otherwise.

  12. prettydarkhorse profile image66
    prettydarkhorseposted 4 years ago

    Pre marital sex assumes you will marry that person. That phrase I think is more used in restrictive societies.

    In some societies, virginity is highly valued. Usually the youth without much knowledge in protecting themselves (sexual education), they are forced to marry once they get pregnant bec. of lack of it or once their parents know that they are having sex.

    For me, as long as they are doing it with their own volition and are aware of the consequences if they don't protect themselves (for pregnancy and STD) then it is ok.

  13. pisean282311 profile image56
    pisean282311posted 4 years ago

    depends

  14. Karanda profile image85
    Karandaposted 4 years ago

    I'm not sure what social circles you participate in but I don't know anyone younger than sixty who would feel that premarital sex is socially unacceptable. Besides, it is a personal choice between two consenting adults and should not need acceptance or approval from anyone else.

    1. pisean282311 profile image56
      pisean282311posted 4 years ago in reply to this

      lol

  15. SoManyPaths profile image59
    SoManyPathsposted 4 years ago

    my question as well. to who? it is more of an opinion or regional like a monk.

 
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