While looks are the drawing attraction, it is intelligence which kepts the relationship going. I believe in using our brains guide us, not our gonads so to speak when it comes to relationships. So many relationships and marriages are in peril because the people involved are using their gonads and not their brains.
The main components in a relationship are education, intelligence, and finance. Yes, finance is also important in a relationship because a people who are financially well off are happier and there are less stresses in the relationship than if people are financially struggling.
Definately brains. Whatever one is attracted to initially, it won't last unless there is something holding it together. Of course, birds of a feather flock together. Smart wants smart, smart and attractive wants the same usually, two airheads, well...I don't know how they'd blissfully survive but I guess they would.
How about two ugly airheads? (I tend to think they'd be together forever, just because they may know the odds of finding someone else who wants them - unless, of course, they're too dumb to realize that ).
I think the question is a bit of a false binary. Humans don't operate on an either-or scenario in this way. Neither is "enough" by itself.
Looks are important in the beginning, because seldom do we go out of our way to get to know people who repulse us. Revulsion is not conducive to sustained intimacy either.
However, spending time with a moron is unbearable, and as you get to know someone who may have seemed attractive at one point, the more idiotic you realize they are, the less attractive they become. "Looks" become subjective, and more importantly, inseparable from "brains."
To suggest there is a decision to be made between "brains or looks" is to suggest that they are mutually exclusive, in essence reducing relationships to a choice between either "that moment you look across the bar" or "that understanding of someone you've known for many years."
It depends but in a perfect world it would be both. I can be totally attracted to a mind but have no desire to be with the person, for a number of reasons. Usually because they are old, married, fictional or dead. But I also might think someone is cute but once I get to know them and they aren't that smart, forget about it.
Well, when it comes to girl - I prefer look over everything. I don't want my date to be a NASA scientist who is awfully ugly. But yes, sometimes smart girls are good. But again, most of the good-looking girls are dumb
Man, I don't know what kind of girls you meet, but I must take acception to your comment. Hang in there and you may find an intelligent woman who is beautiful to you. Unless of course, you just want a piece of eye candy that you can control.
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