Base on my experiences, it doesn't make sense to me. The only answer to these questions is sex.
From a men prospective, dealing with a younger women is a headache beside sex because they are in a different level. At times, they don't understand each other, they don't see each other eye to eyes. The men wants to relax, build a family, spend time with wife and kids, work hard, travel with wife solo and sometimes with kids too. On the other hand, it is totally different.
While the older men is at that level, the younger women are thinking about their body, fun, partying, going out often with friends, travel, just like some songs nowadays " Girl just want to have fun. "
More might come but what you guys have to say about this.
The cure for ED is YW. Young women make older men feel younger. Young women have a certain innocence about life that makes their presence refreshing. For the most part, fixing ones eyes on a young woman can be thrilling. Men are visual creatures, and there is nothing more attractive to the eye than a young woman. By "young" I mean women in their 20's.
For the young woman, an older man signifies security. Older men are typically more financially secure than younger men. Therefore, they can provide for young women in a way that young men cannot. Additionally, older men understand the value of taking time to warm up a woman. Young men, however, want to get in and drive the car without bringing it up to its optimal operating temperature.
The bigger mystery remains that you consider "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun" a song from nowadays.
I'm obviously not qualified to speak on behalf of the men. From my own female perspective, guys quit playing games at a certain older age. I have two children. I don't need a third. (Sorry, but that's what it's like sometimes with those under 30...35.) And I'm not even sayin that they all mean to play games. I think it's just the living life and having experience that makes all the difference. I've always been attracted to older men and I don't have daddy issues. I've just always been somewhat of an old soul and I don't beat around the bush on too many things or get overly dramatic. So, that's who I relate to. My mother has even tried to set me up with someone that was 50, so it's not just me that thinks that's who suits me. (38-50 usually) He was an firecracker of a 50 year old. I'm an old soul but still a goof often. I was independent before I married. I've been independent since divorce (5 years). So I don't need someone to make me feel secure. It's about a man being confident but not arrogant, patient, knowing what he likes and what he wants, and they communicate better. But since someone above said "young woman" was a woman in her 20's, I guess I dont count. lol
Good for you! I had a boyfriend when I was 17 who was ten years older than me. We went out for five years and loved each other very much. Anyways, he used to always tell me that I had to live on my own first, before I ever lived with a man. I couldn't understand it back then, but he was SO RIGHT! A woman values herself most when she knows she can take care of herself and (in your case) your kids.
and BTW - HELL NO! I'm 36 and I am still young! Who's saying anything about early 20's being a young woman!
Thank you...and I'm fixing to go find the name of who said that so we can properly harrass.
Elseductor - Mr. I assume - Quote: "Men are visual creatures, and there is nothing more attractive to the eye than a young woman. By "young" I mean women in their 20's."
I didn't know jack when I was in my 20's about myself or relationships. I do now though. Now THATS sexy. *HIGH FIVE KLARAWIECK*
Klarawieck, I can relate and currently experiencing what your ex-boyfriend mentioned to you years ago. I told my GF that she needed to move out and feel how it is to live alone. Well, she still here. I believe she wants a mature man and be wild at the same time...
@ts want boring answer....evolution....women seek stability for her offsprings and herself...older man are pretty settled , can provide....men seek women to continue species...younger women are more suited for that purpose than older ones...it is all about gene...
@ pisean, so when the " women are more mature then man " kicks in.
I prefer women who are free sprited and young at heart. Their actual age doesnt matter although my actual experiences in this regard has been with women younger than myself.
i have always dated people at least 4 years older than me but older was not a go for me and now i can gladly say that now I am 26 years old and i am dating a 46 year old and there relationship is more fulfilling than any relationship i have been in. so its really not a matter of age but a matter of understanding each other and feeling as one
The attraction is more basic and primal than just what is obvious on the surface in modern times. It's really very simple and it all goes back to prehistoric times and the survival of the species. Not just older men, but men in general are more attracted to younger women because younger women are more furtile and back when our brain was evolving to recognize those things that were necessary for survival, that information was imprinted, just as those things which were dangerous and to be avoided. Women's brains evolved with a different set of priorities, such as being able to recognize who would be the best hunter, protector and provider for themselves and their babies. In modern times this protection translates into older men because they are in general more established and financially secure. It's like the fight or flight response. Of course we are beyond the stage where just survival is important and we use reason to make choices, but the basic instincts are there in the deep recesses of our brain.
My first husband was very old, and left me very well provided for.
The only problem with your line of thinking is that during the times you are thinking people did not have a choice who they married. There was a little something called arranged marriages. No matter how attractive one was to somebody else, who you got could be a total different thing. In some cases matchmaking began as soon as the child was born.
As far as men being attracted to younger women, I can say there is no one answer to fit all men.
Some reasons that you may find for this phenomenon are:
Collection of Beauty
A desire to regain that youthful feeling
Older men = more $ and a father figure who can take care of a woman's needs yet make them feel grown up
Younger woman have breasts that don't sag to the floor, and vaginas than dont resemble the hanging sleeve of a wizard
Oh dear, now that's a visual I could live without. And not every woman's breasts sag with age.
@Greek One Hilarious response!! LOL!!! I agree absolutely. Having had the pleasure of dating young women, I must say that I have not had the misfortunate disgust of viewing the sleeve of a wizard.
Maybe older men have learned a few lessons about life and love. Younger men tend to be self-absorbed (not all). BTW, not all older women have vaginas and breasts that sag. Some take great care of themselves and look great at 50.
i have to see photographic evidence of this.
please send all such images to my hotmail
You have to go to Yahoo chatrooms for that. My ex-husband was able to score hundreds of pics on there.
@greek i second greek on this...photos are needed to believe...even i would like to look at young woman photo too to compare...seeing in believing after all
Funnily enough, I've always gone for the older woman. I remember missing a major High School exam when I was 17 because I was at the remote house of the 29 year old divorcee I was seeing at the time and the old banger of the car I had (my mother's actually) broke down.
That continued for a while. When I was 19, I was seeing a 42 year old. Even my long term ex was 7 years older than me.
These days, I have settled down as a single man. I hate the stench of nursing/retirement homes...
Well,I don't know about why men like younger women.But I like older guyz because I feel like they are more responsible and down to earth than the ones of your age and younger than you.I don't actually prefer childish guyz.I think older men are serious,decent, experienced about life ,understanding, so they can bear with us and treat us like Princesses.Even if we are naive they can understand as they are older.I also feel that if I get an older guy he will not cheat on me.lol.But I wonder why guys like younger women.That's why I'd prefer to be younger so that my future husband will not cheat on me later trying to find a younger girl.lol.I don't know why but I also feel like older guyz are more caring and they can remain strong in any situation even after marriage.
@ Jirel, I am happy to hear how you honestly feel about this topic. The reasons you came up with in why YW like OG is totally true. I felt like you was describing me. How is you relationship now? Still with an OG?
lol.I'm still single.But when I get married I'd definitely choose an older one.lol
I want to thank everyone that made their comments on this topic. Please, there will be many to come. Let's be friends, family and support each other as long as the topic is juicy, fresh and interesting.
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