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Chivalry is dead. Really?

  1. silverstararrow profile image85
    silverstararrowposted 4 years ago

    In context of large scale progress and upliftment of women, chivalry has little or no role to play. Some say that it fizzled out with time. Is that really so? Or did chauvinism overtake it?

    1. tobey100 profile image61
      tobey100posted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Chivalry isn't dead in the South I can assure you.  Come to Tennessee.  We still open doors for women.  We refer to all women as ma'am.  We give up our seats to women.  We stand when a woman enters the room or....our parents smack us in the back of the head.  Respect for women is rooted in our heritage and instilled in us by those that raised us doesn't matter how 'women' have progressed or been uplifted.

      1. silverstararrow profile image85
        silverstararrowposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        Well, you are being specific about one particular region. What of all those places around the world where such a situation may not be true? Does the drop in chivalry cause women to be less expectant and shoulder responsibilities on their own?

        What I've seen is a counter reaction to what I had initially expected. Women no longer expect a man to open doors or stand back while they (men) pull out a chair.

        Does chivalry even have any significance today? Respect is commanded, and women who've earned it have strived on their own to reach that height. Chivalry and respect are not that closely linked as one may percieve. Acting chivalrous towards other women while abusing the wife at home is hardly an act of honor; and such incidents are commonplace today.

        1. Disturbia profile image60
          Disturbiaposted 4 years ago in reply to this

          OMG, you are so right. My ex was full of all that charm and fake chivalry and made a big point of telling me how his grandma taught him that. However, he also gave me countless black eyes, 3 broken ribs, several stitches above my left eye, and a concussion before I finally held open the door for him.

  2. Dave Mathews profile image59
    Dave Mathewsposted 4 years ago

    Chivalry is not dead, but many women today could care less.

    Often I have observed, especially in the evenings many couples out for an evening stroll. I immediately give notice to the fact that the woman seems to have little or no respect for herself or her safety, as she permits the man to walk on the inside, thus expecting the woman to protect him from on coming traffic.
    This says to me that the woman has little respect for her safety, and the man has even less respect. I would never permit my wife to walk with me in this manner. I love her and as the man I am obligated to protect her with my life, not the other way around.