Sexting: The Art of Flirty Text Messaging
How to Attract Women Using Text Messages
Unless you've lived in a cave for the last few years, you should be familiar with text messaging. Texts are short, email-like messages you send to people with your cell phone. Text messaging is slowly replacing phone conversations: It is widely used because it's super useful for asking a fast question or sending a short message.
I use texting constantly to flirt and create sexual tension with women. But texting is like a test: Do it right, she'll melt like butter—do it wrong, and she'll drop you like a hot potato. Most men don't know how to write a text message that will capture a woman's interest.
Read on to learn what to (and what not to) write.
Women Love a Good Text
The cool thing is that women absolutely love texting! Just watch any girl in a social setting and see how many text messages she sends.
The secret is when you text message a chick the right way, you can quickly build up enough attraction that you won't have to work so hard when you see her to get her attracted to you.
There's just one big problem with this....
Most Men Don't Know How to Text Well
Most men completely screw up what they write in their text messages. They text the way guys usually have conversations. When men talk to each other, they like to cut to the chase and make concrete plans as fast as possible. Our texts are usually straight to the point.
Girls, on the other hand, see text messaging as a way to get to know someone. Women use it to vent their frustrations and problems and also to stay in touch with friends. You gotta remember this when texting!
Building Sexual Tension via Texts
The totally killer way to use text messaging is to amplify and build sexual tension. Before you send a text, make sure to think carefully about how it will advance the flirting and sexual tension between you and this particular girl.
You can tease her, send "comfort" messages, or make plans, but make sure your messages are specifically designed to create a strong emotion in the girl who gets them! Doing this will improve your "game" with girls a hundred percent.
The Art of Sexy Texting
It's your lucky day! Let's take a look at the basics of texting or sexting. Over the last year, I've gotten tons of emails from dudes interested in improving their "text game," and I always get these two questions:
1) What is the real purpose of text messaging?
2) Can you give real life examples of texts you've sent to girls?
So here we go:
First, the real purpose for texting is simple: Texting is totally about creating, maintaining, and amplifying sexual tension! If you have her number, she's probably already interested in you. This potential attraction is usually lost in the time between getting her number and calling her for the first time. If you text quickly, you can bridge the time gap and maintain the attraction or even make it super hella hot.
Keep this in mind though, text messaging should never totally replace a phone call. She'll think you're weird if all you do is text. But sending a few funny, teasing, playful texts is an excellent way to get a girl to think about you all day long.
So when you do actually call her, she'll immediately remember the good feelings and emotions that you've already given her through texting. This makes it hella easy to get her to answer the phone and set up a date or meeting or whatever.
Make sure your text messages stand out from those from all the other dudes that are probably flirting with this girl.
How to Make Your Texts Stand out from the Others
This is how you ensure your texts are not like the others:
1. Tease the girl in a familiar manner to give her the sense that you
already "know" her.
2. Refer to an event and or conversation that happened when you first met the girl. Go back to a specific thing that happened when you first met. This establishes familiarity.
As an example, a couple months ago I met a super hot girl from the Czech Republic. Right when she opened her mouth, I could tell she sounded exactly like that crazy dude from the Borat movies. When she admitted she'd seen the movie and "got the joke," I teased her mercilessly about sounding like the crazy Borat guy. So my first text message to her started with a me teasing her about being related to Borat. Nice!
Examples of Flirty Texts
Twelve Texts I've Personally Used
Use these after you first meet a chick, two hours to one day later, to re-establish contact:
- "I sooo know ur thinking about me. So I thought I would say hi!"
- "Stop talking about me to ur friends ;)"
- "OMG.. I think I just saw ur twin. R u stalking me?"
- "That's it! I want a divorce. What r we going to do with the effing cats?"
Use these to keep contact ever other day and show her that you are a hella fun, super cool, and interesting dude:
- "Cupcake... my dog just did the craziest thing..."
- "I just passed an army of Oompa Loompas. I think short people are breeding way too quickly."
- "80 degrees out, sunshine. Time 4 me to grab a towel and head to the beach. Too bad u have to work all day :)"
Use these bad boys after you've talked to her on the phone and set up a second date or meet or whatever:
- "Miss me yet?"
- "Tomorrow is gonna be super awesome. Please try not to embarrass me in front of my friends."
- "Can't wait to see you. Ur like the bratty little sister I've always wanted."
After the second meeting/first date (reinforces the good time she had with you):
- "Totally Had an AWESOME time with u. I owe u an Eskimo kiss!"
- "U were hella fun! I guess it's safe to introduce you to my friends!"
- "I really had a great time! Even if u r a little dorky ;)"
Remember, fellas: Sexual tension can be quickly gained but it also can be quickly lost. You absolutely gotta keep up the flirtation at all points in the relationship. Never allow the lines of communication to go slack or get boring. If you do, she'll forget about you as soon as you can say "hella cool."
You can also easily use these text messages to pick girls up on Facebook or Instagram or any other social network. Any message you send on a website is basically like a text message and sexting online works extremely well.