Are you being ignored?

To Be Ignored

How often do others ignore you in a day? See if one of theses scenarios sounds familiar:

1. You just got a new haircut and no one noticed it.

2. You bought a new outfit and your spouse never said a word.

3. You called someone and they never called you back.

4. You emailed someone and they never responded.

5. You post on Facebook and no one comments.

6. A group you are involved with doesn't acknowledge your ideas.

7. Your boss never notices when you make extra efforts at work.

8. A person walks out in front of your car and they never look at you.

9. You call your bank, credit card company, cable company, or telephone provider with a problem and are routed to fax machine.

10. You pray and feel God isn't listening.


Are you being ignored?

Feeling like you are being ignored? What can you do when someone ignores you?
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Define Ignore

Ignore means to disregard something in our surroundings. It happens when we turn away, avoid, or don't pay attention to someone. Ignoring someone can either be on purpose, or simply because we fail to be aware of someone.

Is anyone listening? Effects of being ignored

When we are ignored we feel bad, feel as if we have less control, and lose a sense of belonging according to one experiment.

Being ignored brings on these feelings and emotions-

  • Anger
  • Emptiness
  • Sadness
  • Dejection
  • Unworthy
  • Depressed
  • Slighted
  • Insignificance
  • Unimportance
  • Invisible
  • Unloved
  • Unheard


Three ways to lessen the effect of feeling ignored

1. Walk away. If you constantly feel someone isn't listening or responding to you, if possible, remove yourself from that situation. Often the problem isn't you, it's about the one who should be listening.

Just walk away, hang up, disengage, unplug, remove your name from the list, un-friend--whatever you have to do, just don't keep trying to get attention from unattended ears. It may not solve an immediate problem, but it will deflate the situation.

If you must try again, give some time and space before going back. Also, connect with someone who makes you feel heard before you tackle the situation again.

2. Choose associations wisely. If you join a group or organization where you will have little input or voice, you may be wasting your time there. Join places where you are needed and valued.

3. Courteously confront. If the one who ignores you is a person in your daily life, feeling ignored day after day by them wears on your self esteem. Confront that person with the problem. Explain to them what they do and why it bothers you.

They may be unaware of what they are doing and would make a change if they knew. Give them the benefit of the doubt and confront them with the problem. We all need a chance to change.


Worst ways to be ignored

I hate when I am ignored when...

  • Talking to my spouse or significant other and they just answer "uhhum"
  • Talking to children while their face is turned to an electronic gaget
  • I call a company for assistance and they put me on hold...forever
  • My mom or dad don't listen to a word I say
  • Driving and another driver ignores me when they make a move that endangers me
  • People walking across the street in front of me and I almost hit them
  • My friend texts while I am talking to her
  • My teacher grades papers and nods at what I am saying. I know he didn't hear me.
  • My neighbor keeps doing the same irritating thing even though we have talked about it over and over
  • My spritual advisor cuts me off when I am baring my soul
  • When I pray and I feel God doesn't answer
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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain

Brilliat hub. l often feel ignored. What a wonderful subject you picked on here???!!!!

l once walked away from a group of friends (all male)saying ´´It´s because l don´t wear a tie , isn´t it?´ A girlfriend nearby burst out laughing ,. The men didn´t ´get it´.


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Rosie2010 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada

Hiya bayareagreatthing, one of my pet peeves is being ignored during group conversations, specially when there are only three of us and the talker doesn't even look at me during the conversation, like I am not there at all. Maybe these people are not aware of doing this... I hope so. You did a great job in pointing out how people get ignored and you gave some really practical advice on how to deal with getting ignore. Good job! Voted up and definitely useful. Cheers!

Have a nice day,

Rosie


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lorenmurcia 4 years ago

But I will be grateful if the woman who always picks on me IGNORE me completely. LOL


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Sue Adams 4 years ago from Andalusia

Children always ignore you when they are engaged in something. An education expert once told me that this behaviour is not intentional, they just haven't yet developed the ability of multi-tasking. They cannot concentrate on more than one thing at a time, so you have to get their attention at the right moment.


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bayareagreatthing 4 years ago from Bay Area California Author

Lorenmuica- That would be one time I wouldn't mind being ignored either!

Sue- That is an interesting view. I have never heard that. I probably owe my kids a few apologies in that case!


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Sue Adams 4 years ago from Andalusia

I know, once I knew that, I became much more patient with my children.


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ChaplinSpeaks 4 years ago from Charleston, South Carolina

The in-your-face ignoring by close friends or family is the worst. Awesome Hub!


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jesusmyjoy 4 years ago from Bucyrus Ohio

this is amazing


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bayareagreatthing 4 years ago from Bay Area California Author

ChaplinSpeaks- Thanks for stopping by. I think the closer someone is, the more pain we feel.

JesusMyJoy- Thanks!


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one2recognize2 4 years ago from New York

Truly great hub/topic. Loved it and voted up and awesome.


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bayareagreatthing 4 years ago from Bay Area California Author

Thanks one2! I am so happy you stopped by!


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drpastorcarlotta 4 years ago from BREAKOUT MINISTRIES, INC. KC

GREAT HUB!!!! Voted-Up!


Judy 4 years ago

I would love it if my husband would say Uh-Huh or anything when I am talking. He doesn't even look at me, gesture, nothing. Then in the middle of me talking says, "I think these new pants are too long" or "I'm thinking about changing the way I cut my hair". All I want is acknowledgement, to be validated that I exist. He says he just doesn't have anything to say.


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bayareagreatthing 4 years ago from Bay Area California Author

I know what you mean Judy. I think it hurts the worst when it is someone we are close to. If you don't make eye contact, they probably aren't really listening. These days I make sure my honey looks at me and stops whatever it is he is doing. It helps a little :) Bless you!!


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bayareagreatthing 4 years ago from Bay Area California Author

DrpastorCarlotta, Dim and Rosie- I know it has been awhile since you commented, but I just wanted to thank you for taking the time to read and comment. I really appreciate it :)


Johna295 2 years ago

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Julie K Henderson 17 months ago

I've had a few friends ignore me via email lately, and I like your advice on how to handle this. Thank you for sharing.


DeDe 14 months ago

My girlfriend and I went out one night and pretty soon one of her friends joined us. I spent two hours looking at my friends back while they carried on a conversation between themselves. I finally grabbed my purse and walked out without saying anything. We didn't speak for two years and she blamed me for being rude. At a graduation party gathering, my husband and I were sitting at a long table. All night long I stared at his back as he visited with the people beside him. Once again, I picked up my purse but I didn't go home. I went across the lobby into a bar where two men insisted on buying me a drink. I enjoyed their company and then went back to the gathering. My husband later told me that he seen me in the bar but do you think he would come and get me? noooooo Even at work, if I am talking to a customer and one of my coworkers walks up and stands behind the customer and speaks. The customer will stop our conversation and turn completely around in their chair to converse with her.

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