How To Say I LOVE YOU

Those three little words...

"I Love You" is one of the most complex phrases in human communication. Or at least that's how it seems to be for many people, especially when they think they are in love.

The big issue of course is WHEN to say it. Is the time "right?" Most people worry if the other person feels the same way, and are either hoping or fearing if the other person will say it back to them or not. There are some links here to help you with those issues in case you are having a problem with that. Saying "I Love You" to a partner and having them say it back can be one of the coolest things in the world.

If you're looking to explore the universal language of love a bit more, there are tons of translations of the actual phrase in hundreds of different world languages.

And if you're already in love with someone, but you want to do something really special to let them know just how much you love and appreciate them in your life, there are tips and suggestions for different gestures and actions which express love and affection.

~XXXOOO~

When it comes to saying "I love you"...

Are you the one in the relationship who says "I love you" first?

  • No way, I never say "I love you" before my partner does
  • I'm comfortable being the first one to say "I love you" or not
  • I'm always the one who says "I love you" first
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The Languages of Love

If you're going to work on being able to say "I love you" in different world languages, you might as well start with the language that let you communicate with the most people.

Here are the ten most-widely spoken language in the world. Totals reflect a combination of primary and secondary language speakers (meaning people for whom the language is their native tongue and people who have learned the language as a second option)

  1. Mandarin Chinese (approximately 1.12 billion speakers) - wo ai ni
  2. English (approximately 480 million speakers) - I love you
  3. Spanish (approximately 320 million speakers) - The quiero
  4. Russian (approximately 285 million speakers) - Ya lublu tebya
  5. French (approximately 265 million speakers) - Je t'aime
  6. Hindi/Urdu (approximately 250 million speakers) - May thumhe pyaar kartha hoo
  7. Arabic (approximately 221 million speakers) - ana b'hebbek
  8. Portuguese (approximately 188 million speakers) - Eu amo-te
  9. Bengali (approximately 185 million speakers) - Aami tomaake bhaalo baashi
  10. Japanese (approximately 133 million speakers) - Kimi o ai shiteru


"I Love You" in American Sign Language

If you love someone, you say it, right then, out loud. Otherwise, the moment just passes you by. -- Julia Roberts
If you love someone, you say it, right then, out loud. Otherwise, the moment just passes you by. -- Julia Roberts

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A Dog That Can Actually Say "I Love You"

Words vs Actions

What is more important: saying "I love you" or demonstrating that love without words? If you want to explore one of the more interesting angles of relationships, ask people that question. How one expresses love or has it expressed to them can be one of the biggest conflicts that a couple can encounter.

For some people, the verbal affirmation and reassurance is crucial to their emotional well-being. Hearing those three words brings feelings of well-being and peace. To not hear them starts a voice in their own head, suggesting that something must be wrong or that the other person doesn't return their feelings.

However some people feel that words are just a verbal statement and not any tangible sort of proof. To them love is better expressed or demonstrated by some type of action, or actions that go along with the verbal expression. They are more reassured by something they can see instead of just something they hear.

Understanding which is more important to you, and which is more important to your love mate is often one of the keys to a healthy and long-term relationship. Someone who feels love is expressed via gifts might be very unhappy paired up with someone who feels that material items are not a good way to express love and vice versa. You don't have to exactly match your lover as long as both of you understand what each person needs and how each person prefers to communicate their feelings.


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Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.  ~ Robert A. Heinlein If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were. -- Kahlil GibranIt takes a second to say "I love you," but a lifetime to show it. - UnknownLove is a sweet tyranny, because the lover endureth his torments willingly. ~ Traditional ProverbTe Amo
Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.  ~ Robert A. Heinlein
Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. ~ Robert A. Heinlein
 If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were. -- Kahlil Gibran
If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were. -- Kahlil Gibran
It takes a second to say "I love you," but a lifetime to show it. - Unknown
It takes a second to say "I love you," but a lifetime to show it. - Unknown
Love is a sweet tyranny, because the lover endureth his torments willingly. ~ Traditional Proverb
Love is a sweet tyranny, because the lover endureth his torments willingly. ~ Traditional Proverb
Te Amo
Te Amo

What I Love About You

When we talk to our partner and are trying to say something about love, what we are most often trying to say is what we love about the other person. It's important not just to say that you love someone but to also make sure you communicate why you love that person. Making sure the other person knows why you appreciate them and want to have that person involved in your life goes a long way towards saying "I love you" in such a way that the other person feels the sentiment is genuine and heart-felt.

So, before you start to get down to the details of where and when you want to tell your lover that you love them, take some time for yourself and carefully think about why you love them. This doesn't have to be a long list but it should reflect more than just surface details of your lives. What experiences have the two of you shared? Are there activities that you do together? What are the everyday little gestures that other person does for you which you don't always notice but which really make a difference in your life?

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relache 3 years ago from Seattle, WA Author

Lisa, a "chow" is a breed of dog from China or is an English word meaning "food." Spelled as "ciao" (which sounds and is pronounced the same) it is the Italian word for "goodbye."


lisa 3 years ago

What does chow or chow chow mean wheb some one says it to you like a guy


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mayodmv 3 years ago from Philippines

Saying "I LOVE YOU" could be one of the hardest phrase to say but when it is delivered in perfect timing, it has a great impact especially when accompanied by actions :)


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old albion 4 years ago from Lancashire. England.

Hi Relache. Another first class hub. Keep them coming.

Graham.


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mottiandbander 4 years ago from Chd

i love you my lovely hub....nice one...........


shela 4 years ago

ilove youedge


chhavi 4 years ago

i love u richie sooooo much


sukhu 4 years ago

''I love her very much'' I say to everybody who are in love, If they don't say ''i love you'' to his /her beloved, then they can't do anything in whole life.,


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relache 4 years ago from Seattle, WA Author

Sasa, obviously you need to tell him or he'll never know.


sasa 4 years ago

i love a boy but he didn't now that i love him .......what should i do......help


rina ray 4 years ago

love is very pain full.so don't say i love you.


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adultsearch 4 years ago from NYC, NYC

I've been to Philippines once and the people there are so great. They say "mahal kita" on the person they love. So sweet really..


mohd hafeez 4 years ago

goood but some times love was go on the wrong side, if thy take wrong side, its pain sooooooooooooooooooooo much


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Ian Dabasori Hetr 4 years ago from Papua New Guinea

In Papua New Guinea we say "Mi laikim yu"...

Great hub


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relache 4 years ago from Seattle, WA Author

keboo, you and your boyfriend probably want to play some word games and come up with a word that really has meaning for the two of you.


keboo 4 years ago

Me n my boyfriend care very deeply for one another but him and I both agreed we aren't ready to say I love u. So we are trying to come up with a 1 syllable word that sounds romantic in replace of I love u...any suggestions?


Samurai Rishi 4 years ago

The More Deeper One Loves,

More Chances Love Hurts,

Life Is Full Of Risks,

Some Love To Take Chances!!!


sara 4 years ago

"i love you" is hard to say just when you really love that person


Shadab khan 5 years ago

Woo i love u in 100 language i like it must,


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relache 5 years ago from Seattle, WA Author

rtameaca, the issue with "crushing" on someone is that most often one person feels very emotional and the other doesn't. That is usually not a good situation for telling someone you love them, as they most likely do not feel the same back.


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